Love cannot be defined. Its foundation is trust, body tiled with respect and roof bound with happiness and togetherness. True love is always...always a two way street but so often we are heading down a one way street.... not even paying attention to the signs... and when we get to a dead end...we shout... there is no such thing as true love!... she/he never loved me in the first place. Should've paid attention. Yes...I believe in true love.

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How can you love without a reason? If I didn't need a reason to love people then I would love anybody and everybody. People have different traits and different relationships with you, which make you love them.

What am saying.. There is always a reason. I dare say if you love someone for no reason AT ALL, then its not love but madness.

Timbuktou:


I dey side-eye them like say tomorrow no dey. I let them talk their talk while i actually "listen to their actions". And I sabi form mumu. You go think say you done wash me then I dey surprise them. I learnt the hard way, it would be foolish of me to fall into the same ditch twice.

We are same but didn't learn any hard way.. Learn from people's experience.
I lik acting lik i dunno wats up bfre u know, struck n suprise them.

This is the exact question that I have been asking myself for the past three months.

rose54321:
I disagree sha o.
Yes, we are attracted to certain qualities that why we even agree to date in the first place. But that in itself doesn't invalid love, it just means that there are certain traits we fancy.

What I don't believe in is love at first sight; that to me is infatuation but love built over time from spending quality time and getting to each other, that truly exists.

I believe that you have this opinion because you haven't experienced it. It's just like child birth if you have never had a child you can not claim to know the amount of pain women experience in the process.
So it's only expected that if you have never experienced true love you would conclude it doesn't exist or it's a "facade" as you call it.

....yet people who have spent so much time with each other get divorced. Couples of over 10yrs get divorced when according to your belief the love is supposed to be higher than everest. Man is selfish. Man cannot love only God can; even God destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah...In the end we are just together because we are together....

Odunharry:

We are same but didn't learn any hard way.. Learn from people's experience.
I lik acting lik i dunno wats up bfre u know, struck n suprise them.

Good for you bro. I wish there was someone else's experience I could have learned from, but I take solace in the fact that my life is a lesson to others.

Cheers.

ogorwyne:
I just did an evaluation using myself and I concur. What we call love is an attraction. Something that might fade if that feature we got attracted to ceases to exist. There is always a reason why we love our partners, that 'reason' is why we still say those 'I love U's. That's Love with conditions. I tried to imagine my partner without some of the features that got me attracted to him. Hmmm

An elderly man once told me that 'Love' fades in almost every marriage at a particular point in time and that when couples get to that stage what keeps them together is the Friendship they built over the years, God, and the vows they exchanged.

This topic is a bit complicated though.

Did u notice my 'like'? Fifth on your list . I dedicate my LOVE for u... For a reason: your comment

[i][/[size=8pt][/size]WHO LOVE EPP

there is still true love guy, but mind you there must be something that will tied it down. I don't mean money I mean a happy feeling toward something in him/her

McBrooklyn:
Love is a scam!!



The day I came to realize love is a scam is when my long time ex girlfriend left me for a richer dude all because I don't have money then but now that I've hustled for the money, she wanna come back but I simply told her Woss Woss Wobi, Berlyn you wanna come back to my life now cos I've got money now, KOLEWERK!!! Who you Epp??

Dis is hilarious but on point!

I love Nairaland. I love the comments on the first page (i didn't read further) And lastly i love it when people think.

Laveda:

you should comment.

The topic is really controversial. Love between a man and a woman is based on an intense character or structure. It should not even be call love but infatuation.

[quote author=Toks2008 post=49036678]Can you love without a reason and unconditionally? What is the true definition of love?

I strongly believe that real and unconditional love only exist from God to man but anyone who believes in human love is a big dummy.

In my opinion i believe that ,human love is a charade, a facade and a chase after the wind which is based on a selfish condition and if the condition is no longer there, love fades and tolerance sets in with an eventual crash.

[color=#000099][b]But when this selfish condition is still present in that other person, we usually use the so called dumb words "I LOVE YOU", "PROMISE YOU WILL NEVER LEAVE ME", "I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU", "WILL YOU MARRY ME", "YES I DO TILL DEATH..."

Let's cut the chase and face facts, human relationship is basically an exchange of obligation,a pure trade by barter. We will likely hear those vague words "I love you" from someone who actually desires. I BELIEVE U MAN

Waiting for someone to blame buhari on this post







Following.....

Rick9:
Father's do have love but it can never be compared to Mother's.

don't say what you have never experienced,what do you mean by that?...a fathers love can be as intense as a mothers love..it depends on individuals!!!!...just because women show their emotions does not mean men have none!!!

Nori:


You haven't just found the right person that's why, when you do story will change.

theres nothing like 'right person'. The only thing that can makes one cry over and over again is LOVE.

LOVE IS BAD!

LOVE IS WICKED!!

LOVE IS SCAM!!!

(scoffs like Sam Loco) This Syllogism is hazy and fady.


Hastiness is Shortsightesness

firstking01:
My brother, dnt be self delusional...love vanish between couples because they fell inlove for a "reason"...if you love with no reasons, then that love will last .

i believe this is actually what the question is about. Can you actually love with no reason?

Before I open the thread Aswear I don guess the O.P and am nt mistaking....



Back to the topic... I don't believe in Love
I used to b4, bt Last month I don't believe in Love again

Toks2008:


I can not love unconditionally. Kojo

You must be sexually pleasing to my eyes

You must know how to cook or go learn it.

You must be well mannered


Anything short of these na seresere and if I marry you with these qualities and while I am ready to cope with diminishing sexual features you must uphold the last two or you are on your own.

Love ko love ni.

The truth is that love has to be built around some things in both couples. Love can't be built on thin air. And when love is built around or on some things, does that mean that such love doesn't really there.
My wife was not that beautiful and I didn't know Jack about her before the day I met her, in fact, I have never met or heard anything about her existence until the day I met her.
But my love for her was simply built on the words of her close friend who vouched for her as far as her mannerism was concerned. What she saw in me for saying yes after three months of pursuing is still unknown to me.

Lmao
Love? Nah its stupid people that believes love exists

Funkybabee:
there is still true love guy, but mind you there must be something that will tied it down. I don't mean money I mean a happy feeling toward something in him/her

who love epp?

Love is the true essence of our existence
While romance is the spice of life.

But whoever does not respect you does not love you.
Whoever wants to kill your dreams of the best does not love you.
For whoever loves you will celebrate the the best in you and will do the best to support you to succeed in life.

Those who do no not know how to forgive
Will never know how to love.

There is no nectar in sour grapes of wrath
So there is no love in a heart full of bitterness.
For it is in the joy of true love we find true happiness in life.
~ Ekenyerengozi Michael Chima
https://www.amazon.com/author/ekenyerengozimichaelchima

babyfaceafrica:
don't say what you have never experienced,what do you mean by that?...a fathers love can be as intense as a mothers love..it depends on individuals!!!!...just because women show their emotions does not mean men have none!!!

Uncle read my post, I said Father do love not like mother's, u should be attacking the poster that quoted me.

Orikinla:
Love is the true essence of our existence
While romance is the spice of life.

But whoever does not respect you does not love you.
Whoever wants to kill your dreams of the best does not love you.
For whoever loves you will celebrate the the best in you and will do the best to support you to succeed in life.

Those who do no not know how to forgive
Will never know how to love.

There is no nectar in sour grapes of wrath
So there is no love in a heart full of bitterness.
For it is in the joy of true love we find true happiness in life.
~ Ekenyerengozi Michael Chima
https://www.amazon.com/author/ekenyerengozimichaelchima

Baba has spoken

Omo i don love for this life oh no be small but finally finally i can categorically tell you that love is a myth, IT DOESNT EXIST.

Love, what is love? Love is the mental and sometimes physical sensation that accompanies the belief that our most primal needs are about to be met. For love to take roots, there must exist the possibility of a person having one or more of their needs met. So when a lady who desires to be doted on meets a man who is quite literally the most caring man on earth, because the lady's pressing need at that moment is care and affection, she will make concessions in order to please the man and thus fall in love.

Love like Toks2008 said is trade by barter. I trade my time, you trade your caresses, your loving words, something goes off in our brains (chemicals, hormones etc) and because we are both seeking to have our needs met, we become inseparable.

There's nothing like true love. When you look at it, our ancestors practised arranged marriages. Did that stop them from loving themselves? Evidence suggests that love was even stronger then. The ancients knew that love could be cultivated in any two individuals with time and meeting of each others needs. Sadly, today -- thanks to all the work the western world has done selling us the romanticized ideals of love and relationships.

I read page 1 and what I found out is you guys dont have a clue about what love is or what love does, to understand love evil is required and neccesary...If I was to explain love, I would be revealing a whole lot of mysteries hidden from man, and the mysteries of the kingdom is only for a select few

ogorwyne:
I just did an evaluation using myself and I concur. What we call love is an attraction. Something that might fade if that feature we got attracted to ceases to exist. There is always a reason why we love our partners, that 'reason' is why we still say those 'I love U's. That's Love with conditions. I tried to imagine my partner without some of the features that got me attracted to him. Hmmm

An elderly man once told me that 'Love' fades in almost every marriage at a particular point in time and that when couples get to that stage what keeps them together is the Friendship they built over the years, God, and the vows they exchanged.

This topic is a bit complicated though.

what fades away is actually infatuation. real love which is based on knowledge continues. that's why u see good friends remain so for a long time. It is advisable to marry your friend or better still make friends with the person u marry.