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abimbawealth:
Hmmmm

your dp made my evening...omg I hope I did not crack my ribs..

chronique:
Bad news is that "I don't have any long time female friend that isn't married". Even my juniors from school,are married.

wow. Why not review ur standards onto this religion thing u set a barrier on?


Oops enough my long and short advice. Would u be okay with if I recommended someone for you?

DoctorAlien:
Satan is speaking...

What the vulgar call Satan is God himself. Satan by definition is knowledge and God is knowledge too.

Umberto Eco,
Name of the Rose.

livinbygrace:
My dear brother,am feeling same here.I have dated many ladies but never took any serious,Infact i never imagined myself still single at 35,sometimes feels lonely and depressed.Its not been easy at all,and I just wonder what a single lady o my age would be going through if as a man I can be feeling uncomfortable.

the truth my brother is that you don't have something doing (work) or you are idle most of the time that's why you think what you think


the best is not to be marriage. marriage is not for everyone.

just try and be developing yaself. women is nothing.

if I may ask you (the guys particularly) why do you want to marry?

most of you don't know or rather some may said to have kids while some because yansh them them want to marry.

hard truth!

you will get tired of her yansh


when you wake up at bed and saw ya wife sleeping you will think in ya mind "so this is the thin I was struggling to get marry to"

you will hate her smell with time

the thing you like about her will be the very thing you will hate later on.


you will feel like killing her


her bre ast will fall with time


you will not feel like fvcking her

you will be yielding for younger yansh


you be thinking of cheating


put all this into consideration before you even think of marriage

Sorry but I can't marry someone with a different relgious view from me. If she isn't a christian,no deal. Hmmm,I'm open to suggestions but I nor want LDR o,and the persson musnt be a student.

Cutehector:
wow. Why not review ur standards onto this religion thing u set a barrier on?


Oops enough my long and short advice. Would u be okay with if I recommended someone for you?

oglalasioux:
What the vulgar call Satan is God himself. Satan by definition is knowledge and God is knowledge too.

Umberto Eco,
Name of the Rose.

He continues speaking...

chronique:
Sorry but I can't marry someone with a different relgious view from me. If she isn't a christian,no deal. Hmmm,I'm open to suggestions but I nor want LDR o,and the persson musnt be a student.

hehe which one be LDR? Me sef despise dating female students. Bunch of liars and leeches

You really have to compromise. When I was much younger,I dated lots of pretty chicks and always swore my wife must be drop dead cute and gorgeous. But now,I'm learning to pay attention to ladies with just basic looks cos outward beauty could lead you to errors.

ndcide:
used to think like the @op, but i realized i have to compromise to choose a lady. i really ever believed i'll have to compromise.

[quote author=brossam2001 post=49589568]Op . Gerrahiamen. This post was plagiarised from a post in December 2015.

https://www.nairaland.com/2815882/travails-marrying-late.

If it is the same person with different name , what about ur age...are u still 37 years now and last year?

My Friend get out here. I know u will blame me for wrong full insertion.


God bless you, I thought I was the only one who noticed the post. I saw it sometimes last year on nairaland.

Long distant relationship(LDR)

Cutehector:
hehe which one be LDR? Me sef despise dating female students. Bunch of liars and leeches

chronique:
Long distant relationship(LDR)

OK. U base in Lagos ryt?

Where is sisioge, u will not comman find potential husband in this thread. Continue waiting on d lord

Yup

Cutehector:
OK. U base in Lagos ryt?

goingape:
the truth my brother is that you don't have something doing (work) or you are idle most of the time that's why you think what you think


the best is not to be marriage. marriage is not for everyone.

just try and be developing yaself. women is nothing.

if I may ask you (the guys particularly) why do you want to marry?

most of you don't know or rather some may said to have kids while some because yansh them them want to marry.

hard truth!

you will get tired of her yansh


when you wake up at bed and saw ya wife sleeping you will think in ya mind "so this is the thin I was struggling to get marry to"

you will hate her smell with time

the thing you like about her will be the very thing you will hate later on.


you will feel like killing her


her bre ast will fall with time


you will not feel like fvcking her

you will bee yielding for younger yansh


you be thinking of cheating


put all this into consideration before you even think of marriage

proddey:
I am a 37 year old bachelor and I must confess that never in my wildest dreams did I ever imagine that someday I would be desperate to get married. When I was in my twenties, I used to hear of desperation amongst ladies to get married but I never clearly understood the feeling. I felt only ladies become desperate to get married; I never knew that guys also become desperate at a particular age.

Once a 35 yr old single lady in my former office was crying in the office. She refused to speak on the reason why she was crying until she eventually opened up to one of my colleagues to say that she feels like she might never get married again. Apparently she had tried all she could but no one seems to be interested in her hand in marriage. It was actually quite amusing to me because I used to think that we all have the ability to control our emotions regardless of what we are passing through.

Everything changed about me when I turned 34. One day I was on my bed in my bedroom and suddenly I felt a rush of emotions come upon me so strongly that all of a sudden I just began to realise that I was desperate to get married. I really can’t explain what happened to me that day; you need to actually experience it to know what I’m talking about. By the following year the desperate feeling became like torture and the loneliness was so depressing. I could no longer bear it when I attended weddings to see other young couples getting married. I could no longer stand it when I hear people discussing marriage or weddings around me; I would just stylishly excuse myself from their midst.

In my office they nicknamed me "the oldest bachelor". Trust me, I really don’t find that nickname funny at all. Even when people innocently ask "Hey, why are you not yet married?" or "what are u waiting for?" These are questions that I just can't take emotionally. Naija peeps could be so insensitive at times! I’ve had two ladies tell me that they cried on their 30th birthday because they never ever imagined that they’d still be single at age 30.

I must confess that when I go to church these days, I barely pay attention to what is being preached. Instead my eyes just keep roaming round the church checking out all the single ladies to see which one of them I can poach on immediately after service.

I was meant to travel to the U.S seven years ago but I decided not to because I felt my chances of marrying a Nigerian lady would be higher if I remained in Nigeria. Seven years has passed and still nothing nothing. For those of you who feel changing location, like returning back to Nigeria, would increase your chances of finding a spouse, it is not guaranteed, you had better just remained where you are. Your spouse would locate you there. Your life must continue and you shouldn’t make decisions around finding a partner.

For those of you who got married early or who are still young so you never experienced the pressure to get married, you really don’t know what matured singles are passing through. Sometimes, you find yourself thinking too much and the thoughts can really weigh you down. Matured single ladies cry a lot.

If me as a guy could be feeling like this, I can only imagine what the ladies are passing through emotionally and psychologically. I know that ladies feel the pressure much more. At least we guys don’t have our biological clocks to think about. It gets to a stage that your parents will stop disturbing you to get married, they’ll now start praying for you.

For those of you reading my post, it is my prayer that you all get married at the right time and age and particularly to the right person so that you don't have to pass through the emotions of desperation to get married.

Nice one...U sound responsible and mature & ur actually true to urself..Like one idiot dat i use to know at 39 was stil flexing about & saying hes a guy and can marry weneva.
My advice is to commit evritin to Gods hands , let ur standards be reasonable,and hang around ladies with same mind.,

VikingsOO7:
I've read this exact story before.
https://www.nairaland.com/2815882/travails-marrying-late

I just marvel at the length some people can go just to be on front page. smh

Wanting to get married is a good thing. Just don't get into a horrible marriage out of desperation.

chronique:
You really have to compromise. When I was much younger,I dated lots of pretty chicks and always swore my wife must be drop dead cute and gorgeous. But now,I'm learning to pay attention to ladies with just basic looks cos outward beauty could lead you to errors.

exactly.

livinbygrace:
My dear brother,am feeling same here.I have dated many ladies but never took any serious,Infact i never imagined myself still single at 35,sometimes feels lonely and depressed.Its not been easy at all,and I just wonder what a single lady o my age would be going through if as a man I can be feeling uncomfortable.

Hmmm

I wonder what I will say at 40 after wasting 14years with a confused woman.

Sometimes situations we never envisaged can put us in a condition we never imagined.

I'm thinking of going to IDP camp sef to go marry one super beauty cos I don't have time to decipher the so called sophisticated city babes.

mysticgal:
This post coming from a guy proves that desperation to get married is experienced by male and female....
Op I wish you all the best in your search for the person.
Good luck

you are using one story to generalize don't form and miss ur husband oo, thinking at 38yrs he will come begging on his kneels for ur hand toh...

proddey:
I am a 37 year old bachelor and I must confess that never in my wildest dreams did I ever imagine that someday I would be desperate to get married. When I was in my twenties, I used to hear of desperation amongst ladies to get married but I never clearly understood the feeling. I felt only ladies become desperate to get married; I never knew that guys also become desperate at a particular age.

Once a 35 yr old single lady in my former office was crying in the office. She refused to speak on the reason why she was crying until she eventually opened up to one of my colleagues to say that she feels like she might never get married again. Apparently she had tried all she could but no one seems to be interested in her hand in marriage. It was actually quite amusing to me because I used to think that we all have the ability to control our emotions regardless of what we are passing through.

Everything changed about me when I turned 34. One day I was on my bed in my bedroom and suddenly I felt a rush of emotions come upon me so strongly that all of a sudden I just began to realise that I was desperate to get married. I really can’t explain what happened to me that day; you need to actually experience it to know what I’m talking about. By the following year the desperate feeling became like torture and the loneliness was so depressing. I could no longer bear it when I attended weddings to see other young couples getting married. I could no longer stand it when I hear people discussing marriage or weddings around me; I would just stylishly excuse myself from their midst.

In my office they nicknamed me "the oldest bachelor". Trust me, I really don’t find that nickname funny at all. Even when people innocently ask "Hey, why are you not yet married?" or "what are u waiting for?" These are questions that I just can't take emotionally. Naija peeps could be so insensitive at times! I’ve had two ladies tell me that they cried on their 30th birthday because they never ever imagined that they’d still be single at age 30.

I must confess that when I go to church these days, I barely pay attention to what is being preached. Instead my eyes just keep roaming round the church checking out all the single ladies to see which one of them I can poach on immediately after service.

I was meant to travel to the U.S seven years ago but I decided not to because I felt my chances of marrying a Nigerian lady would be higher if I remained in Nigeria. Seven years has passed and still nothing nothing. For those of you who feel changing location, like returning back to Nigeria, would increase your chances of finding a spouse, it is not guaranteed, you had better just remained where you are. Your spouse would locate you there. Your life must continue and you shouldn’t make decisions around finding a partner.

For those of you who got married early or who are still young so you never experienced the pressure to get married, you really don’t know what matured singles are passing through. Sometimes, you find yourself thinking too much and the thoughts can really weigh you down. Matured single ladies cry a lot.

If me as a guy could be feeling like this, I can only imagine what the ladies are passing through emotionally and psychologically. I know that ladies feel the pressure much more. At least we guys don’t have our biological clocks to think about. It gets to a stage that your parents will stop disturbing you to get married, they’ll now start praying for you.

For those of you reading my post, it is my prayer that you all get married at the right time and age and particularly to the right person so that you don't have to pass through the emotions of desperation to get married.

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If you have a good and somewhat steady source of income, ladies will congregate around you hoping to form something serious with you.
Questions: How is your finance department? Do you have a comfortable place of your own?

When these two are unfulfilled, desperation and depression set in.
You cannot be desperate when 70+ and 60+ old men are getting married to pretty ladies in their 20s in Nigeria.

Something is wrong somewhere.

einsteino:
Are you sure you are not a guy? cos you really hit the nail on the head. This is just the summary of us.

who be us? which school u attend? can the two of u meet 000000000000000000000.00000000000000000.000001 quarter of all the guys in the world? plz compare ur love life amongst u both don't generalize ur hypothesis... m biko

Man Bleep a marriage baby mama for life

chronique:
You really have to compromise. When I was much younger,I dated lots of pretty chicks and always swore my wife must be drop dead cute and gorgeous. But now,I'm learning to pay attention to ladies with just basic looks cos outward beauty could lead you to errors.

Talking about compromise I really tried to but I just can't compromise some things.

There are some sexual features I just can't imagine my wife not having cos if I marry her then I may cheat on her when I see a lady that has those features.

I am a one lady man and as long as I have a lady who is sexually pleasing to my eyes, an excellent cook and faithful to me then she will beg me to cheat on her.

cindybaby22:
Surprised this is coming from a guy
thought it apply to we ladies alone
my elder bro is going to be 41 this month & he doesn't feel the need to get married at all.
him matter tire me

Maybe he has experienced terrible heartbreak in the past hereby guarding his emotion from 2nd strike lightening.

mysticgal:
This post coming from a guy proves that desperation to get married is experienced by male and female....
Op I wish you all the best in your search for the person.
Good luck

When you're there you're wishing him... Just submit your cv to him, no time. Lol. It's a joke o!

mysticgal:
This post coming from a guy proves that desperation to get married is experienced by male and female....
Op I wish you all the best in your search for the person.
Good luck

Is it the same mysticgal that contested in just concluded NL competition is d same person on your dp? A lot has change about u. Looking more beautiful. Long time

marcopollo:
When you're there you're wishing him... Just submit your cv to him, no time. Lol. It's a joke o!

umu nwanyi will always form..

I understand. I used to hunt for very pretty chicks and even my elder sister at that time would be like,"guy,u dey try". Old gee once came back from work and met me with one pretty chck at home and all he could do,was to smile and walk away,and he kept referencing her... I used to yab my friends for dating "local and ugly chicks" and they knew if the girl isn't cute,I won't go near her. I went as far as puncng above my weight but now that I'm a lot more matured and have had experiences,I now know that I musn't chase miss world. Just go with someone with good characters,intellect,fear of God,honest and loyal,and who doesn't look bad facially and bodily. Now I know why some cute men don't have very pretty wives. If you want a peaceful home and near perfect marriage,be ready to compromise certain things.

Toks2008:
Talking about compromise I really tried to but I just can't compromise some things.

There are some sexual features I just can't imagine my wife not having cos if I marry her then I may cheat on her when I see a lady that has those features.

I am a one lady man and as long as I have a lady who is sexually pleasing to my eyes, an excellent cook and faithful to me then she will beg me to cheat on her.

mysticgal:
What's an mm brain?
Besides, desperation do not just happen to a particular gender but to all genders and this conclusion is irrespective of the fact the Ops article was genuine or not. Mmmmm
Have a nice day

Now you are changing the subject...your previous post was a deduction that was based on the article. How do you conclude desperation exist in both gender since you had already discredited the article by saying your conclusion is irrespective of the article (same article that was your Base in the previous post). Let me assume you had an inkling that desperation exist in both gender are you implying that this article is a confirmation? Yes! Let me answer that for you...it still goes back to what I was trying to point out earlier "hasty conclusion...

"A mm brain" simply means 1 millimetre brain"...sorry I made that statement, it was uncalled for...

cindybaby22:
Surprised this is coming from a guy
thought it apply to we ladies alone
my elder bro is going to be 41 this month & he doesn't feel the need to get married at all.
him matter tire me

Gay don't feel that way.. check well..

proddey:
It's a continuation from where I stopped in that post.

But you said same thing, why are you cutting what isn't that long to share at once?