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Hmmm... So there's a thread like this with meaningful discussion in it. Who could have guessed?

Olarewajub:
Happy New Month!!


The introverts challenge program will no longer be posted because of poor response and participation.

I still feel there is a lot of misconception among introverts in the lounge between introversion and shyness. I will like for this topic to be treated ones and for all.


Currently reading "how to make friends and influence people".


Happy Weekend

Bros,where have you been?hope you good?..that people don't share their experiences when they take up the challenge doesn't mean they don't participate..introverts niyen for you ..enjoy the book,how about sharing with us lessons learnt..what say ya?

Melsan:
Bros,where have you been?hope you good?..that people don't share their experiences when they take up the challenge doesn't mean they don't participate..introverts niyen for you ..enjoy the book,how about sharing with us lessons learnt..what say ya?

I'm good, was working on a project. I appreciate your concern. Lets see how the introvert challenge goes.

I will share lessons learned from the book.

How is your weekend going?

Oahray:
Hmmm... So there's a thread like this with meaningful discussion in it. Who could have guessed?

LOL, Don't underestimate Nairaland.


Introvert?

Introversion and extroversion are ends of scale that measure
whether you find social interaction draining and recharge your
emotional battery with solitude, or whether you find solitude
taxing and social interaction invigorating. Shyness is about
your level of social anxiety or feelings of awkwardness around
others. They are closely related, but there are social
distinctions.
Because dealing with anxiety is draining, I think shyness tends
to push people further towards the introverted end of the
scale, which is why some people tend to equate the two. However, not being shy does not guarantee that one is an extrovert. There are plenty of people who are don't feel anxiety around others, but simply aren't invigorated or motivated by social interaction Pride and Prejudice's Mr. Darcy is a good example. Mr. Darcy doesn't seem to take much joy in general social interaction, but not because he has social anxiety or has difficulty with basic social skills. He tends to prefer handling situations alone, rather than gathering a team, etc. He's clearly an introvert, but I don't think anyone would describe him as shy.

While a lot of people tend to view introversion and extroversion a stable personality characteristic, I feel I've moved quite a bit on that scale. Growing up, I liked to read quite a bit and had a very small circle of friends, and generally felt recharged more by books than social outings.
There were times, especially in high school / early college
when probably 'shy extrovert' would have applied to me,
although it wouldn't not have been easily visible. I felt huge
amounts of social anxiety, and it took tremendous energy for
me for me to attend large gatherings and meet new people.
However, unlike earlier, I would be almost high on social interaction. They shyness took a lot of energy out of me, but I got more from forcing myself to be social. Eventually, I got over a lot of my awkwardness with lots and lots of practice, and become much more extroverted in college, when my anxiety was not a problem, but I found I got the same emotional rewards.



. https://www.quora.com/What-are-the-differences-between-being-introverted-reserved-and-shy

Olarewajub:
LOL, Don't underestimate Nairaland.


Introvert?

I'm just surprised. It's a rarity on NL.

Em... Somewhat introverted. I usually don't like identity tags though. It's like a box that restricts one from becoming so much more.

Olarewajub:
I'm good, was working on a project. I appreciate your concern. Lets see how the introvert challenge goes.

I will share lessons learned from the book.

How is your weekend going?

Okay..weekend is sleep,sleep and more sleeeep!

Olarewajub:
LOL, Don't underestimate Nairaland.


Introvert?

As in ehn,me sef dey surprised.

Melsan:
Okay..weekend is sleep,sleep and more sleeeep!

Same over here.

Sleep and movies.

Oahray:
I'm just surprised. It's a rarity on NL.

Em... Somewhat introverted. I usually don't like identity tags though. It's like a box that restricts one from becoming so much more.

Knowing your personality is very important and beneficial. It makes you to understand why you behave the way you do. The problem is when you allow your self to be limited because of your personality trait.

Olarewajub:
Knowing your personality is very important and beneficial. It makes you to understand why you behave the way you do. The problem is when you allow your self to be limited because of your personality trait.

our personality trait doesn't have to be a tag or label with which we define our whole essence. It's all to easy to try to stay true to our labels.

An example is a person on this thread (don't ask who) trying to explain his poor communication skills by concluding he's introverted. As far as he's concerned, everything about him boils down to his introversion, and there's no need to try to improve if that's what we are. That's what a label can do.

Olarewajub:
Same over here.

Sleep and movies.

Alright bro..enjoy!

Dear person reading this,I hope your day has been going well, if not, I hope it gets better You are an amazing person who will inspire others to do great things so keep up the hard work. I know you may feel unimportant or insecure at the moment but know that you are a beautiful human being inside and out and you are important !Just trying to be nice on the internet, sometimes we just need such a message !I hope this comment helped you a bit and if not, I‘m sorry Sincerely,me!

kevinberry:
Dear person reading this,I hope your day has been going well, if not, I hope it gets better You are an amazing person who will inspire others to do great things so keep up the hard work. I know you may feel unimportant or insecure at the moment but know that you are a beautiful human being inside and out and you are important !Just trying to be nice on the internet, sometimes we just need such a message !I hope this comment helped you a bit and if not, I‘m sorry Sincerely,me!

Nice one.

K

Melsan:
Bros,where have you been?hope you good?..that people don't share their experiences when they take up the challenge doesn't mean they don't participate..introverts niyen for you ..enjoy the book,how about sharing with us lessons learnt..what say ya?

you are right sis,I am one of those,can't begin to narrate long long things save when am one on one with a counseled person just to help the person to open up,that's one of the reasons I do not narrate films I have watched.introverts do not appreciate long long talk, it is termed boring abegi !we love short talks.

While you may be partly correct sir,but one must know why he or she behaves the way the do ,else they won't know much about how to handle the matter.once you know your troubles,then solution won't be far fro you,or..What ya say about that?

Oahray:
our personality trait doesn't have to be a tag or label the ith which we define our whole essence. It's all to easy to try to stay true to our labels.

An example is a person on this thread (don't ask who) trying to explain his poor communication skills by concluding he's introverted. As far as he's concerned, everything about him boils down to his introversion, and there's no need to try to improve if that's what we are. That's what a label can do.

gidjah:
While you may be partly correct sir,but one must know why he or she behaves the way the do ,else they won't know much about how to handle the matter.once you know your troubles,then solution won't be far fro you,or..What ya say about that?

never argued against knowing our personality traits. It's a good thing, as long as we don't try to turn it into a label that makes us feel superior or inferior to others or excuse flaws we can correct if we try.

I'm saying this because of the way everyone likes to establish what an introvert is or is not, or what they would like/dislike based on their own experiences. Those who aren't exactly like that may feel the need to conform to fit the label. It's all too generic. You'd be surprised how different introverts can be from one other.

gidjah:
Hmmmm not to worry ,you will never see me safe in your dreams ,and even if you happen to come across me I won't let you know it was me you met!please try to do some research on relationship improvements and sustenance.you want to tell me say you no get BF no?abeg park well my dear!how do you relate with him?you are a graduate for His sake ,you are expected to out grow some stages of your introvercy as you progress daily in life ,those are the major evidence to show you have grown and are still fast growing in life.But wetindey worry you sef,please stop falling my hands and start telling us good testimonies as from today.try joining any nice social group around you,see if you can flow,try Rotary Club ,that club pretty exposed me, and I am living to still relish the after math of their impact upon my life .I also wasn't found wanting in religious matters,I and God are one til date so the need to really and fastly out grow this trait of ''' always to your self ' try some of these few tips an fwatch your self go through speedy transformationbut if you still choose to lie in the comfort zone you created for your self ,.....then nothing will change o[quot=Bidexluv post=50692606]
Thanks.

Read "how to win friends and influence people"
still can't say a conversation in a bus or in a gathering.

sharing a room with a family friend at home and we don't talk. I will be pressing my phone or watching movies. its like a barrier between us. she had gone back to school.
Don't like meeting people face to face except online and after meeting the person, I lose interest in the friendship.

I have left my flat mates already. Not going there again.

I am apologizing to you faa.

thanks for this. God bless you, akposb and everyone

thanks

Olarewajub:
Happy New Month!!


The introverts challenge program will no longer be posted because of poor response and participation.

I still feel there is a lot of misconception among introverts in the lounge between introversion and shyness. I will like for this topic to be treated ones and for all.


Currently reading "how to make friends and influence people".


Happy Weekend

Do you know any reliable website where i can download books on psychology , & some othrr academic fields?

RICKYMARIO:
Do you know any reliable website where i can download books on psychology , & some othrr academic fields?

Check out bookfi

RICKYMARIO:
Do you know any reliable website where i can download books on psychology , & some othrr academic fields?

I've got no particular site for downloading email books. I download email books directly from Google search.

gidjah:
you are right sis,I am one of those,can't begin to narrate long long things save when am one on one with a counseled person just to help the person to open up,that's one of the reasons I do not narrate films I have watched.introverts do not appreciate long long talk, it is termed boring abegi !we love short talks.

Uncle,coman tell us a story

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Olarewajub:
I've got no particular site for downloading email books. I download email books directly from Google search.

Akposb:
Check out bookfi

Thanks

Ayokunlei and automatix,where una two dey?

Melsan:
Ayokunlei and automatix,where una two dey?

Big Sister, I greet you. I have been around o jare, just following on a low key.
Thanks for the mention. I appreciate you.

ayokunlei:
Big Sister, I greet you. I have been around o jare, just following on a low key.
Thanks for the mention. I appreciate you.

Alright oo,i appreciate you too..happy you are doing good..nothing doeth thou

Melsan:
Ayokunlei and automatix,where una two dey?

huh? I am here ooo.

automatix:
huh? I am here ooo.

Why u dey shine eyes? ..how you dey?

Melsan:
Why u dey shine eyes? ..how you dey?

I am fine and you?

automatix:
I am fine and you?

Fine too.abeg PM me,i wan do amebo for u