bigerboy200:

Awwww...That's so nice of u..Thanks..

ModestGal:
wow, its so lovely seeing ppl like me, ppl wil only attribute our introvertness to pride,i dnt knw why,they think i feel too big to greet nd respond greetings, nd its actualy cx i talk wit a very very low voice nd once i see smone is at d distanc he cant hear me, i jx keep mute,nd i respond greetings but they cant jx hear me, i dnt play with them bcx they dnt jx intrest me nd i prefer reading news than staying wit ppl,bt i do lov ppl in my heart,they cnt jx see it.I gues my introvert is truly over introvert.Imagin being the best student in my departmnt,one of d best in my faculty,like second to d best cgp in d whole faculty,ppl only atribut my introvert personalty to stingynes nd pride.They think i knw evrythg, i hv everything,once they ask me nd i tell them i dnt hav,they wl think am lieing,or they ask me to teach them,they wil thnk i must know it,i read always bt nt my departmntal course note,they wl say i dnt wana teach them,

Olarewajub:



Hehe

Psychologically it is not possible to be an introvert today and become an Extrovert tomorrow.

The question now is whether you're an introvert or Extrovert. If the latter is your personality, then you aren't suppose to be here.

Happy Weekend!

bigerboy200:
it's ok...Thanks

austine4real:
so this thread still dey?

Olarewajub:

LOL
I think I remember your moniker

Olarewajub:



From what you wrote, you're an introvert but equally shy.
Are you satisfied being perceive as prideful, and don't you want to change the mindset people have towards you?

ModestGal:
i dnt carre what others think

DEllaluv:
I've missed o....really been long

Oahray:
our personality trait doesn't have to be a tag or label with which we define our whole essence. It's all to easy to try to stay true to our labels.

An example is a person on this thread (don't ask who) trying to explain his poor communication skills by concluding he's introverted. As far as he's concerned, everything about him boils down to his introversion, and there's no need to try to improve if that's what we are. That's what a label can do.

Dking99:
A full time introvert. On a scale of 14 with 7 as the centre point for introverts and extroverts, I resonate from 2 to 8. Take the average and u will find my position.
..Being an introvert has good and and bad sides... the good aspects are fine but the negative tendencies like not initiating and sustaining a conversation, watching pornography n masturbating at the slightest privacy, suppressing feelings comfortably and being selfish are quite terrible and I am sure they are curable or are they not?

Oahray:
Hmmm... So there's a thread like this with meaningful discussion in it. Who could have guessed?

DonOms:


I guess this is part of what Oahray meant when he mentioned the potential problems with labelling terms.
The truth is no two individuals are the same. So the fact that one introvert exhibits those traits doesn't mean all would. More so, we are all differently influenced by social, psychological and cultural factors which in turn produce different effects on us.

There is no such thing as curing introversion. Fine, we may have a propensity to get depressed and also become selfish with our personal space but certainly, not all those things you mentioned there are peculiar to introverts due to their personality. We owe it to ourselves to improve the self and manage our personalities by creating balance as best as we can.

damesilver:


The questions being raised were not adequately addressed. You have succeeded in only window-dressing the thoughts of the Enquirer. If you are an introvert you will sense that there is a strong connection with introverts and tendency towards sexual perversions such as masturbation, pornography and the likes. We are not saying only introverts exhibit such but often too common among the introverts. I had wanted to ask the same thing here on this page long time ago but distracted.

Mr olarewajub, please what are your thoughts? And again, what is it like when a couple are both introverts. How has it been like?

If there is any lady here who is wiling to be a friend with a male introvert, you are welcome.

ellacute45:

This is me

Echelle:
am an introvert and its affecting my job hunt... i need help

KissChrix:
My fellow introverts

Wetin u come find here?

iykekelvins:
Wetin u come find here?

I come greet My fellow introverts ni


Wetin you dey find here? You be introvert?

DonOms:


Lol @ window-dressing.

Perhaps, my avoidance of a lengthy discourse on the said matter made my response so concise that you easily concluded I didn't address his question though I subtly did.

Now, if you carefully read the post by Dking99 which I replied, you'd notice two main points from the bolded section:
1) he opined that there were 'negative tendencies' with being introverted.
2) He queried that those 'negative tendencies' should be curable but asked if they really are curable.

So, firstly, he asked only one question and not questions. From my previous reply, I answered that question in the last paragraph of my post.

Secondly, I believe Dking99 and you are somewhat right that we (introverts) have the propensity to exhibit characters associated with reclusive people. The neurotransmitter dopamine (controls reward and pleasure) is reacted to differently by introverts and extroverts and this (over-stimulation) may be partly responsible for our tendency to become addicted to reclusive-inclined acts. That is to say, it's possible we get 'high' easily on things like pornography and thus may get easily addicted. HOWEVER, there is no thorough scientific proof just yet to make that a fact.

Now to my stand: the fact that we MAY be inclined DOESN'T mean we will choose to perpetrate such sexual perversions. So we can't conclude introversion directly relates to sexual perversions.

Consider this:
I, for example, was chronically depressed for a period of 5 years without any cause. It took me a period of 6 months to figure out a mind-conditioning/spiritual approach to get out of the senseless depression. Did I choose to be depressed? NO. Does it mean many introverts would turn out that way? NO. So it may be an inclination, but I didn't have to choose it or not.

But consider your point on pornography and masturbation; as far as I see it, they are simply lifestyle choices at best. Some introverts have a well-balanced lifestyle so much so that they will spend 7 days in their own company and not be bored at all. If their spiritual and lifestyle choices won't favour an addiction to sexual perversions, they simply won't indulge in it.

Finally, like we all know, an idle mind is the devil's workshop. That's completely true. Therefore, for example, someone who stays indoors all day and doesn't get so engrossed in any serious activity probabilistically has more time on his hands to venture into pornography than another, if his beliefs and lifestyle (amongst other influencing factors) permits. NEVERTHELESS, it is still mostly a matter of choice when you compare it with depression or selfishness with space.

With the hope that this epistle is not another attempt to 'window-dress,' I believe I have made it clear that while some inclinations are innate, some are nothing but results of lifestyle choices and influencing factors...whether or not easily controllable.

ModestGal:

i dnt carre what others think

ModestGal:
Hi evryone,jx found this group nd think i may fit in.my personalty is a very different one,diffrent frm any other person i hv met,nd i think its givng me pro.I dnt hv friends nd i dont lik having friends,bt i hv ppl i chat wit,i dnt lik people visiting me and i dnt visit anyone either,i lov staying indoor,and doing things the way i like,am a knowledge freaked person,i cn read from morning till night,i cn as well think from morning till night,i hate people knocking on my door,or calling my name,i am a mean nd focused person,that i dnt give up on things,you wont believ it,i dont even know how to give up,i hv nvr given up on anythg in my entire life, i cnt do anythg meaniful whn ppl are wit me not evn washing my own cloth,nd i hate time wasting very much that i cry whenevr i see i hv wasted time.I feel stressd whn ppl are around me,bt am a loving person, i cn actualy gist only whn i plan gisting,i hv a time schedul for evrythg,nw i need do alot of things,bt cnt jx bcx somone is staying wit me nd it giving me a migrain headache,,pls tell me,am i an introvert

misterh:

The bolded part aptly describes me, especially when they're are staying for an indefinite number of days. If someone wants to come visit me for a week, I can endure that but not stating the number of days puts me off.

Olarewajub:



At one point in time you'll have to cohabit with an individual for a very long time e.g Marriage. How do you hope to cope?

DonOms:


Hey... I knew your moniker was familiar when I saw it but I assumed I may have come across it briefly in a post long ago. But I was so certain it was more than that so I thought hard and figured it out: Nairaland Poet Competition Season 2 (2013). We were both contestants . I hope you still write 'cos I can't exactly say same for myself.