eezeribe:
It depends on what you want in a woman. Actually, girlfriends are only useful in "the other room".

And I call the "the other room MATERIAL"

Zetra:


I tell you.... you don't want people to always meet her with you because she is always falling hands(especially when you are highly rated as a mentor/smart). if she is a virgin, she will always feel good marriage / relationship is just to be virgin that's all.
Conversation is always boring, let's go out; No
Let's go to pool (indirectly meet people); No
then what do you want, her reply: I just want us alone
Me: Ok, so tell me what's in your mind(me trying to start a conversation)
she: nothing, I don't know what to say
Me: Oya say anything (trying to not feel frustrated)
She: I don't know, tell me na (I give up)

the worst are those that refuse to be trained/mentored/improve, they just want to remain the way you met them. the next line they will give you is, they don't need to change because of you if you really love them.
Oya let's end the relationship, they will refuse(they can cry for Africa ehn)

All these define my ex..I tried all my best to change and brush her but for where..e no work! I got tired and had no choice than to stop the relationship cuz I am afraid my children could take her traits and become dull too...I am glad I am no longer with her for over a month now.

First of all, have u discussed this with her?

Invite her over, be candid with her, tell her you think she's dumb and u don't like it let her know u want her to be abreast on important issues...

U can tell her to start reading news like vanguard for local news and BBC for international news, that's how we were trained, I particularly when I was young I loved 'Chackie Chan' films, but I was forced by my dad to listen to NTA network news and with time I grew to know the importance of listen to news.

So just discuss it with her, she might change.

Ehya. 2 options

dump her or teach her. Latter choice is going to be some real struggle

phlamesG:
I'm a young man in his early twenties. I've been going out with this particular girl for close to a year now.
I can tell that she loves me, and don't get me wrong I love her too, I mean she's very beautiful and well endowed in the right places, she's also a good cook and good in bed. But my worry is that she's too obtuse and uninteresting. Whenever we're having a conversation or discussion she doesn't make meaningful contributions to the topic, sometimes her contributions are not well thought out and when she says them it makes her sound dumb. My friends have even given her a nickname 'mumu'. Whenever they want to ask of her, they be like "Charlie® that your mumu girlfriend dey"?
I am kinda afraid to introduce her to my parents so she won't embarrass me. My parents are very particular about the kind of girl I bring home, and trust my dad he's going to bombard her with a barrage of questions. She's also not interested in global happenings around the world or within the country or even recent developments. What really sparked my ire was the just concluded USA elections. I remember calling her and teasing her as to who will win the elections, trump/Clinton, but I was dismayed by her response " who is trump?" I was totally dumbfounded, how can someone who isn't an illiterate not have an inkling about 'trump'. I'm not saying i know all about the elections, I wasn't even interested in the USA elections because I already knew it was all mere propaganda, but nevertheless I kept up to speed.
Her further response killed my vibe "what concern me with trump? Is he going to give me a role as a telemundo actress?"(she's obsessed with telemundo btw,which brings me to my next point)
She so much loves telemundo and zee world, the only concise narration she can give is the breakdown of an episode of zee world. It's breaks my heart because I love her and want to marry her in the nearest future, and I don't want our kids to turn out to be morons.
Conversations with her are so boring, she basically adds nothing to the topic of discussion. Our time together is mostly spent on long silences

I need only positive responses please...

How old is she?

Hmnn, sit her down and make her understand, if she no change....... come let's go into a relationship

if you are looking for a beautiful, smart and an endowed girl friend, you are on your own, all of them are only conscious of their beauty and nothing upstairs, all of them.....

4 big stout and 500naira suya every weekend for 1 month, if symptoms persist, consult your pastor..........

but you saw all this before asking her out na!! what exactly do you even love about her other than her physical attributes and culinary skills?

Hmmm. diz world will never cease to amaze me. u're jst in ya early 20's nd u already know how a woman is gud on bed. u need prayers my pikin...

I was once in such a relationship . This time it's a guy. He doesn't even know how to toast, he will just come close and spend money on u, then he will be attracted to u, my own gave me lots of money then, he is a graduate but can't read or write. Can't express himself, got a job in an oil company bc his father has a well head . And all that. So it can be so annoying, so boring . I left him and got married but then I missed his gifts splash. It happens to guys too not only girls. So manage her if u can or dump her.

Abujabir24:
Thats women for you. My wife to be graduated with a 2.1 and I a 2.2 and she told me to buy her an iPhone cuz I'm using one myself so I asked her what OS is iPhone and the difference between an iPhone and the android she's using and all she says was she doesn't know that I phone's camera is better

So? That calls for mockery? And, did you try to teach her in a caring manner or did her ignorance make you feel like Nikola Tesla?

IamLEGEND1:
[b] Trust me,you aren't alone in your struggle.
Air-headedness & docility is the norm when it comes to naija babes,anything else is the exception to the rule.
I gotta admit,I really envy your tenacity & willpower. if I dated a girl like yours,I would have shot my myself (twice,preferably) in the head a long time ago.

I obtained some random girl's number a while ago and we got to talking. I absentmindedly asked her opinion on the Arab spring and she kept saying 'Eh?',pretending not to have heard what I said.......I decided to spell it out for her in plain terms and the best reply she could muster was 'They should just negotiate with the terrorists na'.

I nearly screamed into the phone but ultimately kept my cool. I told that ìdiot to lose my number,PRONTO.
A brother needs a girl who can have blood flowing in the two most important directions- Towards his brain & towards His dìck.

Unto you I say,brotherly: dump this intellectual liability and find yourself someone who can stimulate you sexüally and intellectually. [/b]

The thing is, one may have an idea about what you are talking about but not know what "Arab Sping" is. I just Googled it. Thank you for increasing my knowledge. Anyway, what I want to say is you can't judge someone's intelligence by a single question. We learn everyday. You could have explained to her what it meant instead of running off and then yabbing her. If I were in her shoes, I would have asked you to explain it. And your stereotype about 'naija babes' is so unfair. Almost like you feel we are all stupid. Not cool men.

My dear help her!try nd bring out d best in her am talkin 4rm xperience wen I met my man hw complains of me bin 2 quiet even wen he tries 2 raise cool jist I will either sleep off or b absent minded I was supper borin even wen he wnts 2 take me I out I will decide we stay @ home I was faustratin him unknwn 2 me bt he kept pushin nd nw I can disturb a whole town trust me dere is neva a dull moment wit me he even gets tired nd my family members r wonderin wot came ova d mumu of d family lyk dey use 2 call me my siblins will say"u 2 dull go take panasharp"!!!so pls help her my huby is hapy nw because he lyks d new me

No one comes perfect. but u can build her to be if u really love her and shes willing And open to learn.
my question is this
1. is she in school?
2. hows her academic performance?
3. what kind of friends does she keep?
4. are the siblings similar?
with these questions answered you can either help her or move on.
My opinion is that u reduce ur staying indoors, take her out to places u can see new things to learn and talk about. that way she can keep the memories.

Watch movies together

Read bookd together

If she has a laptop, get her Encarter

Play board games together
and stop ur friends from mocking her. build trust in her and help her with inferiority complex.

Give her tasks and puzzles and solve them together. if this dont work after 3months....
my 2 kobo

phlamesG:

bro, I can't advice you to be patient and try to teach her on what you expect from her. Cos when you do all this , you have raise the girls level and I know that when a girl feels they are high class maintenance, their next target is to catch big fish and by that time you go like "see this babe wey no sabi anything but because say she manage to know something, she kon dey behave dis way"..
Anyway, I laugh when people say they are inlove with a girl.. Love does not exist, we act as if we are inlove.

Eibams60:
Hmmm. diz world will never cease to amaze me. u're jst in ya early 20's nd u already know how a woman is gud on bed. u need prayers my pikin...

did u see that ? God have mercy. I don't know what she needs from a girl now. And he sounds like he has been mingling with girls b4 now.

Joe171:
Majority of these ladies don't know stuffs,
they don't read or listen to news, they don't know what's happening around them.
Let's thank God that some of them use the internet, we hope they shall get informed from there. the truth is that ladies are too complacent with that simple lifestyle they live. that doesn't mean they aren't intelligent but they just don't get informed. take for example; you will hardly find a lady who knows about cars, or who can tell you specifications of phones.
I bet you 98% of ladies don't know the capacity of their phone's battery.
Bear with them and let's continue to help them intellectually.

How many men know this. I don't know myself.

op hw old r u again bt then never mind wat does age got to do with intelligent n maturity....

the fact ur frnds cn call ur babe mumu n u attest to it makes u no difference..... i cn imagine d kinda prsn u r,urself shw me ur frnd dey say,i ll tell u who u r


bros stop complaining u both fits each other

IamLEGEND1:
[b] Trust me,you aren't alone in your struggle.
Air-headedness & docility is the norm when it comes to naija babes,anything else is the exception to the rule.
I gotta admit,I really envy your tenacity & willpower. if I dated a girl like yours,I would have shot my myself (twice,preferably) in the head a long time ago.

I obtained some random girl's number a while ago and we got to talking. I absentmindedly asked her opinion on the Arab spring and she kept saying 'Eh?',pretending not to have heard what I said.......I decided to spell it out for her in plain terms and the best reply she could muster was 'They should just negotiate with the terrorists na'.

I nearly screamed into the phone but ultimately kept my cool. I told that ìdiot to lose my number,PRONTO.
A brother needs a girl who can have blood flowing in the two most important directions- Towards his brain & towards His dìck.

Unto you I say,brotherly: dump this intellectual liability and find yourself someone who can stimulate you sexüally and intellectually. [/b]

Easy bro...there are some things you don't even know yourself. that a person doesn't share a particular interest with you doesn't automatically spell dumb.

Haba...don't jilt her because shes ignorant....shes brilliant...evrybody is his/her own special way...something is wrong...just talk to her,teach her...make her see life outside zee world and telemundo...its difficult but try...especially when you are sure she loves you...this kind off lady can do anything for you...and the type you want might out wit you to a fault...so make her the woman u want...the ignorant today may be the informed tomoro...dont miss out on someone who loves because of knowledge when it is something that can be imparted

Many women are like that, not knowing who is Trump is very normal to most women. If she is loyal and love you as you said, that is most important thing. I am talking from experience.
Many women do not know a lot of world politics, they are more interested on mundane things like watching zee world and Telemundo.

My girlfriend also use to be very boring, but i will try all my best to groom her up cos i really love. If you love your girl, help her, build her to the level of what you want from a lady and stop the banging, else ur relationship is up for a mess.

Luckygurl:
I think the ball is now in your court, to transform her into someone you'd like her to be.

Get her books as gifts, coerce her into channelling those time spent watching telemundo and zee world to some other educative channel, engage her in intellectual discussion. Do not give up even if her replies ain't encouraging. Let her know why you're doing such and also how you expect her to flow along.
Do all these in love and don't go about insulting her cos that will make her detest you. Those your so called friends should be mindful if what they say too.

Whichever way, it's a gradual process and if she actually loves you the way you claim, she'll make an attempt to step up her games.

I support u 100 percent

FIRSTLY- YOU HAVE TO SCOLD YOUR FRIENDS TO STOP CALLING HER MUMU

SECONDLY - IF U TRULY LOVE HER, SIT HER DOWN AND LET HER KNW WHAT SHE'S LACKING.

THIRDLY- SHE MIGHT BE FUN TO BE WITH ,BUT YOU AIN'T SATISFIED WITH WHAT SHE BRINGS

FOURTHLY- NURTURE HER TO YOUR TASTE

phlamesG:
Thanks this is actually very insightful

. very good

But what you did was wrong tho, fornicating with her even when you knew she's not compatible.....well I had or have a lady like that, she's dull,shallow,vain, she's not interested in current affairs, the only she gat going for her is that she has never fornicated, she's just passionate about music and taking pictures of herself, and some education(indoctrination).
I know I can mold her but if she's not showing interest,its not even worth it, because after the sex or kids, what happens next, where is the bond, you spend more time talking than fvcking. But the good book did say he/she that loves pleasure shall not be rich(poor) intellectually and spiritually. I think they choose to be consciously ignorant, but Paul did say he that wants to be ignorant let them be ignorant.

With all your stories above

The topic is when two children's falling in love

That's simple bro...
1. Give her tasks that are innovational

2. Buy books read and give her to read too, discuss the content of the book

3. Convince her to spend less time with television (it has been proved that much viewing of television weakens the brain)

Funny no. 4
4. Stylishly bring her to naira land. When she see "small girls" like hateu2, safarigirl etc make logical contribution she will b challenged. And seeing latest news on naira land and other sites she will be up-to-date


Forget what ur friends are saying, it is only that ur girl's own is obvious, their own may b hidden.they may be battling inwardly with dirty habit of a girl, who knows.. ? U can't find 100% okay.

U can help her...

Issues like this is minute. Ur girl can't cook? Teach her. she can't speak eloquently give her task. And if at the end u r not married she won't forget u for helping her at the time u spent in her life...


This is personal but I will share it..


I gave my fiance topics to speak on, a times I give her topics from the bible to speak on, just yesterday I gave her the topic BACKSLIDING with text from Luke 17:32...and she performed...


Peace

My paternal uncle needs to see this, he also has the same problem.

His wife first heard about Brexit from my 12years old cousin whilst busy with a project. She watches AfricaMagic day in, day out. Any disagreement between them is uploaded on facebook the minute she sees her phone. They have a housekeeper who is the wife's cousin, who unfortunately has the same dumbness. With a housekeeper and the madam of the house both present you'd expect the house to be well kept, NO.


The flies have the same stamina as those Afghanistan bullets, if you've seen their war zone. The conversation with her has to be about who stole whose husband and witchcraft, if she shows a little intelligence then she'll talk about how much a litter of diesel is currently, compared to whatever year.


You'll think I'm exaggerating when I say she looked very puzzled when we were talking about Oprah and Queen Elizabeth, so much that we didn't bother asking if she knows them. We never even talked amongst ourselves about that "incident". She hates magazines and anything like a reality show. See her watsapp statuses, AMEN

Please do call me when you win with her

Gemc3:

If I were in her shoes, I would have asked you to explain it. And your stereotype about 'naija babes' is so unfair. Almost like you feel we are all stupid. Not cool men.

trust me, that guy you quoted is right.. I am sorry, some of you girls don't deserve to be treated very well especially when they act dumb..I have seen girls who believes that with their front and back is "brain enough" for them to possess but it does not act that.. Girls, when you teach them to be high class maintenance babes, they will see themselves as high class and start going out with big fish.. To me, it is good you insult them directly and make them understand that to learn is in their hands. And they should not expect me to spoon feed them...