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Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by blesoh(f): 8:54am On Nov 14, 2016
Once someone is addicted to that telemundo stuff he/she hardly comes out from it, I personally find it boring,.
Op get her a good phone and books to read too, though its really hard to change someone academically except the person is willing to learn, keep her updated too with things around the world, I keep my husband updated cos he's not really into social media stuff, love covers all things.

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Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by mapet: 8:55am On Nov 14, 2016
Trybes:
If you see her as somebody not up to your standard then work on her to transform her otherwise you failed too. You think everybody got interest in politics? Absolutely no.

If she minces words during a conversation with you or your friends it's your duty to correct and shield her if really you have some quantity of love for her.

It's a pity you allow your friends mock your girl in your own eyes. Bro, she is not the mumu, later you will know who is/was actually the mumu.

In addition, I hope you will not regret it when someone else picks her up and polishes her. Then she becomes one of the most successful women in the country....... You don't wanna go "that should have been the woman I should have married".

Meanwhile sure your friends are not overated as well.......

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Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by warmachine(m): 8:55am On Nov 14, 2016
mrsfavour:
I was once in such a relationship . This time it's a guy. He doesn't even know how to toast, he will just come close and spend money on u, then he will be attracted to u, my own gave me lots of money then, he is a graduate but can't read or write. Can't express himself, got a job in an oil company bc his father has a well head . And all that. So it can be so annoying, so boring . I left him and got married but then I missed his gifts splash. It happens to guys too not only girls. So manage her if u can or dump her.

Truth is you never really loved him....I it was only his gifts you loved

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Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by Beetee1(m): 8:55am On Nov 14, 2016
Bros, base on all what you've said so far, she's only having one but. But i strongly believe the problem with this your lady is simply "interest". she tends to no be interested in so many other things which you are interested in. you can groom her in your own likes. feel free to express your worries to her. Don't be surprised, a man like me doesn't even know anything about football which is even the most trending things among men. Why? because i don't like the way people argue blindly at a viewing center just because you are supporting a club, the fighting and more i believe is a waste of time. Mind u, I'm Engineer. Does that makes me a mumu? just as i have earlier said, is all about interest. if u wana really really test ur girl friend intelligent, try to bring up a topic on telemundo or Zworld to know if she's not good at what she does?
Best of luck
Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by eroski90(m): 8:55am On Nov 14, 2016
Bro!! Let me give u my opinion... Firstly, caution your friends... That's your woman.. Not a side chick... As u said.. U want to marry her, there has to be some level of respect from outside... U can not tolerate such comments *mumu* from anyone..i have been with my present babe for four years now.. And everyone respects her firstly cos I made it that way.. If you even call her name in a way I don't find OK, I quickly clear the person. You have to do it
Secondly you have to understand that there are things pple are not just interested in.. Some ladies don't concern themselves with politics or what have you... Find out what she likes and make do with it.. You clearly said she's a good cook.. Good in bed etc... Brozay good girl no dey plenty again o.. No dull am cos of opas Abeg... Just my 50 cent grin

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Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by Mustiboy(m): 8:58am On Nov 14, 2016
IamLEGEND1:
[b] Trust me,you aren't alone in your struggle.
Air-headedness & docility is the norm when it comes to naija babes,anything else is the exception to the rule.
I gotta admit,I really envy your tenacity & willpower. if I dated a girl like yours,I would have shot my myself (twice,preferably) in the head a long time ago.

I obtained some random girl's number a while ago and we got to talking. I absentmindedly asked her opinion on the Arab spring and she kept saying 'Eh?',pretending not to have heard what I said.......I decided to spell it out for her in plain terms and the best reply she could muster was 'They should just negotiate with the terrorists na'.

I nearly screamed into the phone but ultimately kept my cool. I told that ìdiot to lose my number,PRONTO.
A brother needs a girl who can have blood flowing in the two most important directions- Towards his brain & towards His dìck.

Unto you I say,brotherly: dump this intellectual liability and find yourself someone who can stimulate you sexüally and intellectually. [/b]
you're very dumb, I must say.

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Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by butanep(m): 8:58am On Nov 14, 2016
Raine80:

You just sleep with the unintelligent females? Or it does not matter? It does not take a lot of effort on a men's part to learn the depth of a woman's knowledge. I don't have to sleep with a man to know we are not on the same level. I will admit I will not date someone who will frustrate me but would very much appreciate someone who supports and challenges me.


Different strokes for different folkes. The same situation has happened to me with my ex- girl friend. She always feel so insecured during conversation. When I am arguing about polities or academics or places with my friends in my house, you need to see her face. She will just keep frowning without contributing anything meaningful.

What she knows very well is the hottest romance film and good porn site. She is a graduate from a good university but when I asked her things about her discipline sometimes, she often give a cold shoulder and sometimes lead to something unpleasant sometimes.


When we are together, it's just play game and have sex. Then when there is no light, its just sex and food. The relationship was getting boring. When I turned to news channels, she is never interested, talk about life activities, she is not interested but bring sex topic, ohhh it can last the whole day but I am not that kind of sex frick guy. When I challenge her to broaden her knowledge and get interested in others aspect of life, it often lead to serious quarrel for days. She will say " it is my life and you are not my father, so you can't change me". I knew I can't cope with her anymore.

The relationship later ended because it was just built mainly on sex.

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Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by Henryfour(m): 8:58am On Nov 14, 2016
Ma guy,u jst said u guys are in d relationship less than a yr now,jst knw DT she has nt got use to u well. Ma gal wz lyk DT b4 in d first 7 months she bored me eh! Buh now she even give me gud n superior advice ever.jst keep interaction wit her active.u wi soon be surprised DT she is d best companion ever.dnt mind Ur guys dey r probably jealous of u hvin a fine gal who does nt cheat. Get close to her very well she wi soon relax n become d best u wnt in her

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Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by pricipal2003(m): 8:58am On Nov 14, 2016
A good marriage trancends being well informed about politics and the likes much as it is desired. Thank God u said she possessed all the qualities that make u want to be in the other room. U can bring her to that level if u truly love her as u claimed. And pls, ur opinion abt the girl superceeds every other one irrespective of who is expressing it. The same set of people mocking u now will still be around to mock u the more if you fall into the hands of a well informed lady but a killer of ur destiny. So pls, wise up bro.

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Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by repogirl(f): 9:01am On Nov 14, 2016
OP, just introduce her to Nairaland amd the rest will be history.

She can start from romance and celebrity sections, then little by little she will graduate to politics and maybe even investment sef, lol.

She sounds like a young girl, and since you are in your early twenties, you are probably not ready for marriage yet. Cut her some slack abeg, she probably isn't done with schooling and isnt working sef. There's still enough time for her to get o where you want her to be.

Like I said, start her off in romance, celebrity and crime sections of Nairaland. Those sections are pretty interesting.

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Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by Ucheosefoh(m): 9:01am On Nov 14, 2016
Raine80:

You just sleep with the unintelligent females? Or it does not matter? It does not take a lot of effort on a men's part to learn the depth of a woman's knowledge. I don't have to sleep with a man to know we are not on the same level. I will admit I will not date someone who will frustrate me but would very much appreciate someone who supports and challenges me.
Your first question the answer is yes, your second question the answer is yes too as for the rest Bae take your time, this time slowly read what I wrote again, if you find it difficult to understand read it again and again till you understand, come back and quote me. On the part of you not dating somebody who will frustrate you, requires you have to help and challenge yourself too and not being comfortable in your dumb state, no teacher will forever teach a student if he refuses to learn, same thing is applicable in relationship as for your notice such act is frustrating to the guy too, at the end either he dump her or he demote her in order to continue enjoying the little benefits she offers. The way we present ourselves the same way people treat us and no man respect, cherish and will remain loyal to a dumb woman, that's a fact.

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Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by Nwogeh: 9:02am On Nov 14, 2016
As far as I advice that you desist from pre marital sex, I also suggest you should tell her that your next level in the relationship depends on her attitude towards self development and upgrade. If you can get her zeal to improve on self, believe you me she will do well, with that you can always carry her along. Most women are like that what they need is to activate their interest on where you want them to and make them understand that they will loose you if they don't upgrade as elites they are. Good luck.

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Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by tweeby: 9:04am On Nov 14, 2016
arma:
You are in your early twenties and u r already sleeping around with a girl that is assumably younger than you and nobody thought that could be wrong!!!Which religion or culture supports this?
God bless you. I tot I'm d only one dat noticed d rubbish.
Wasting life

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Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by goingape1: 9:04am On Nov 14, 2016
naturally women are not intelligent!

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Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by Nobody: 9:04am On Nov 14, 2016
1. You let your friends ridicule your girlfriend and even come here to tell us? You may think you're smart but you're dumb.

2. If you were that intelligent you would know you don't love her.

3. I can tell by your gf's comeback that she's not dull.

4. I do not need to tell you she doesn't have to be politically inclined to be considered interesting.

5. Since you can't identify btw love and infatuation, l can help with that. You're infatuated. Pls stop sleeping with her. Let her go. Trust me another man will love her "stupidity" and would infact be amused by it.

6. You're very silly. It's an insult to say "she's good in bed" but very dull.

7. To be honest, get lost you're not worth it.

8. If it's "fork" you want there are girls who do it for the money. You know where to find them.

9. This is my own way. I'll not pamper you with words. I mean, you don't have to like what I say.

*Ladies pls stop having premarital sex. There's no respect in letting a man bed you before marriage. It's simple like that.

EDITED: I knew from a tender age l wanted to be a chartered accountant. My dad wanted me to pursue science though cos l excelled in science subjects. Point is, my love for commercial and science subjects was unconditional. But history and government l hated with a passion. I genuinely lacked interest. I did not only HATE politics, I didn't understand it. The thought of listening to news or reading those tiny newspaper lines gave me the shivers. Until my 2nd year in the university when I met a man that would change everything.

A man that was unbelievably intelligent and interesting enough to inspire such interests in me. A man that loved me.

I do not only love politics now, l eat newspapers as they come. I'm always the first to grab my hands on them at the office. My colleagues have given me a name for this.

Believe it or not, l'm not only politically knowledgeable but also politically smart. l gave my sister an analysis of how Trump would win the elections before election day.

If someone had told me that I would be an ardent lover of football, l definitely would have shouted them down. Lol. Well, l do not only love football now, I'm a staunch follower of one of the premiership clubs. Football is part of what I eat now.

My point exactly is..with the right person, we grow.

*Ladies pls stop sleeping with men. You shortchange yourselves doing so.

phlamesG:
I'm a young man in his early twenties. I've been going out with this particular girl for close to a year now.
I can tell that she loves me, and don't get me wrong I love her too, I mean she's very beautiful and well endowed in the right places, she's also a good cook and good in bed. But my worry is that she's too obtuse and uninteresting. Whenever we're having a conversation or discussion she doesn't make meaningful contributions to the topic, sometimes her contributions are not well thought out and when she says them it makes her sound dumb. My friends have even given her a nickname 'mumu'. Whenever they want to ask of her, they be like "Charlie® that your mumu girlfriend dey"?
I am kinda afraid to introduce her to my parents so she won't embarrass me. My parents are very particular about the kind of girl I bring home, and trust my dad he's going to bombard her with a barrage of questions. She's also not interested in global happenings around the world or within the country or even recent developments. What really sparked my ire was the just concluded USA elections. I remember calling her and teasing her as to who will win the elections, trump/Clinton, but I was dismayed by her response " who is trump?" cry I was totally dumbfounded, how can someone who isn't an illiterate not have an inkling about 'trump'. I'm not saying i know all about the elections, I wasn't even interested in the USA elections because I already knew it was all mere propaganda, but nevertheless I kept up to speed.
Her further response killed my vibe "what concern me with trump? Is he going to give me a role as a telemundo actress?"(she's obsessed with telemundo btw,which brings me to my next point)
She so much loves telemundo and zee world, the only concise narration she can give is the breakdown of an episode of zee world. It's breaks my heart because I love her and want to marry her in the nearest future, and I don't want our kids to turn out to be morons.
Conversations with her are so boring, she basically adds nothing to the topic of discussion. Our time together is mostly spent on long silences

I need only positive responses please...

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Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by Nobody: 9:07am On Nov 14, 2016
Wtf?! Is Arab springs?
IamLEGEND1:
[b] Trust me,you aren't alone in your struggle.
Air-headedness & docility is the norm when it comes to naija babes,anything else is the exception to the rule.
I gotta admit,I really envy your tenacity & willpower. if I dated a girl like yours,I would have shot my myself (twice,preferably) in the head a long time ago.

I obtained some random girl's number a while ago and we got to talking. I absentmindedly asked her opinion on the Arab spring and she kept saying 'Eh?',pretending not to have heard what I said.......I decided to spell it out for her in plain terms and the best reply she could muster was 'They should just negotiate with the terrorists na'.

I nearly screamed into the phone but ultimately kept my cool. I told that ìdiot to lose my number,PRONTO.
A brother needs a girl who can have blood flowing in the two most important directions- Towards his brain & towards His dìck.

Unto you I say,brotherly: dump this intellectual liability and find yourself someone who can stimulate you sexüally and intellectually. [/b]

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Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by Gemc3(f): 9:07am On Nov 14, 2016
Joe171:
Majority of these ladies don't know stuffs,
they don't read or listen to news, they don't know what's happening around them.
Let's thank God that some of them use the internet, we hope they shall get informed from there. the truth is that ladies are too complacent with that simple lifestyle they live. that doesn't mean they aren't intelligent but they just don't get informed. take for example; you will hardly find a lady who knows about cars, or who can tell you specifications of phones.
I bet you 98% of ladies don't know the capacity of their phone's battery.
Bear with them and let's continue to help them intellectually.

Guy no vex abeg calm down. Interests differ. I know the capacity of my phone battery because I love phones and I want to know. The next lady might not be interested in phones but might have some other interest. It's just like football. You can not come and ask me too much questions about it cos I'm indifferent. I don't hate it. But if a really cool movie is playing, I won't tune in to Super Sports. Still I might shock you and answer some of your questions correctly cos una no de gree Internet rest. I see all the gists and stuff (I'm guessing you are a football guy. Correct me if I'm wrong) People believe football is a guy's thing. but do you know that in my hostel that year, if you go to our cafeteria to watch a movie, you will see some babes (Esp Chelsea fans) have taken over. They know everything about football. You just wrote things you are interested in there. If you have a babe, challenge yourself and learn about something she may care about that you don't.

The thing is every one should strive to know something about everything, and everything about something.

knowledge is a journey. I can not come and be answering jamb questions for anyone to test my intellect. If I no know, you tell me. If you no know, I tell you. There. Knowledge gained. No insults. Everyone is happy.

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Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by prinzeepule(m): 9:08am On Nov 14, 2016
correctguy0900:
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Trust me i don't think u understand what the op is trying to say. the whole thing is not about knowing Trump but at least be aware of your environment. Know the Governor of your own state even if u not interested in politics. If they say there is ebola outbreak, be aware and inform yourself rather than picking it from the road side informats. I have been there myself. The only thing she knew was all the names of movies, actors and actresses. Aside those, nothing and nothing in this world is her business. Eat and fu..k. come on nah that's super boring. Tried systematically telling but was not working

Are you sure we are not dating the same babe@op Guy I understand you die.
Dating someone that loves hand bags but knows nothing about bag. Can you imagine someone that's on social media and don't know crazeclown and said Neva seen them before. Me sef don tire.

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Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by Brightgem(f): 9:09am On Nov 14, 2016
Nawa o. jus cudnt log in to Nairaland at all to place this reply. There was no log in Button. OP this is serious o, do u really want a lady without some intellect, how will she raise ur kids. Tell her she needs to change, or use style to give her some assignments and Books so u guys can discuss them. in short I dnt see much hope o, this one friends are already calling her mumu already.
Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by Nobody: 9:12am On Nov 14, 2016
MrCounselor:

I love your whole point and this part most...
She already fancied entertainment especially the romantic part of movie industry, why not start

- By buying her romance novels (novels have a way of expanding people's horizon no matter the genre)
- By tasking her to check google, wikipedia for her favorite actor/actresses
- By tasking her to check the internet for her favorite movies
- Taking her through the path of becoming an actress if possible (entertainment industry in niaja is corrupt though)
By this I believe she will have more knowledge about other matters of life
In short she's obsessed with movies to the point she's ignoring every other sensitive part of life.

Bring her to her senses by diversifying her approach to entertainment generally.

Doing all these can be hard, especially if she's unwilling to change.

Touché. The quantification metrics for intelligence nowadays are that for one to be recognized as an intellectual Titan, one must be involved in the sciences, literature, or politics. How ridiculously parochial and hide-bound!

It's a crass misconception that one is ultimately seen as a dullard because one's interest(s) lie outside society's prescribed boundaries of intelligence -- that was why I descried the OP for adjudging her to be dull.

On this same thread, some guy claimed he cut off connection with a girl because she did not know about Arab Spring. Are these persons not weltered in immaturity's stew?
How in tarnation's flames does being none the wiser about Arab Spring ever become a fly in a person's intellectual ointment? LOL. I'm forced to believe Nairaland is a feast of the bizarre; an aberration-palooza wherein the barmy party-troopers constantly grapple with each other on who can make the dottiest comment. grin

...

Marilyn Monroe is purportedly believed to have possessed an IQ of 168, yet she was only an actress and a model – two occupations we've been socially-engineered to believe are exclusively reserved for dumb blondes and nitwits. Such unprintable balderdash!
...

Your points were quite cogent; OP should try turning his girlfriend into closer approximations of what he wants her to be. He can only hope that she doesn't consider it to be manipulative, thus giving him the rough edge of the pineapple and putting an end to the relationship.

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Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by valicious1(m): 9:12am On Nov 14, 2016
phlamesG:
I'm a young man in his early twenties. I've been going out with this particular girl for close to a year now.
I can tell that she loves me, and don't get me wrong I love her too, I mean she's very beautiful and well endowed in the right places, she's also a good cook and good in bed. But my worry is that she's too obtuse and uninteresting. Whenever we're having a conversation or discussion she doesn't make meaningful contributions to the topic, sometimes her contributions are not well thought out and when she says them it makes her sound dumb. My friends have even given her a nickname 'mumu'. Whenever they want to ask of silences

I need only positive responses please...
I can totally relate to all you've written here bro. I this is the exact reason I broke up with an ex of mine. She was also beautiful,good cook, good at sex and well endowed as you earlier pointed out but this girl was SUPER DUMB. My friends also called her 'mumu' she contributed absolutely nothing to conversations, anytime she came to my house she would remain at one spot till going time.
She also loved me to death and I loved her too but she was just the dumbest and the most unintellectual girl I've ever met (just some steps ahead of mental retardation if I must say.) the worst part is that when I told this girl that I was gonna break up cos of her discrepancies she just said ok.

I think say na joke o. A day, 2 days, 3 days, I week, months dis girl no call me o. Uptil now

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Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by Nobody: 9:14am On Nov 14, 2016
goshen26:
That's simple bro...
1. Give her tasks that are innovational

2. Buy books read and give her to read too, discuss the content of the book

3. Convince her to spend less time with television (it has been proved that much viewing of television weakens the brain)

Funny no. 4
4. Stylishly bring her to naira land. When she see "small girls" like hat.eu2, safa.rigirl etc make logical contribution she will b challenged. And seeing latest news on naira land and other sites she will be up-to-date


Forget what ur friends are saying, it is only that ur girl's own is obvious, their own may b hidden.they may be battling inwardly with dirty habit of a girl, who knows.. ? U can't find 100% okay.

U can help her...

Issues like this is minute. Ur girl can't cook? Teach her. she can't speak eloquently give her task. And if at the end u r not married she won't forget u for helping her at the time u spent in her life...


This is personal but I will share it..


I gave my fiance topics to speak on, a times I give her topics from the bible to speak on, just yesterday I gave her the topic BACKSLIDING with text from Luke 17:32...and she performed...


Peace
welldone sir. So hatey is a small girl abi
Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by hahn(m): 9:14am On Nov 14, 2016
phlamesG:
I'm a young man in his early twenties. I've been going out with this particular girl for close to a year now.
I can tell that she loves me, and don't get me wrong I love her too, I mean she's very beautiful and well endowed in the right places, she's also a good cook and good in bed. But my worry is that she's too obtuse and uninteresting. Whenever we're having a conversation or discussion she doesn't make meaningful contributions to the topic, sometimes her contributions are not well thought out and when she says them it makes her sound dumb. My friends have even given her a nickname 'mumu'. Whenever they want to ask of her, they be like "Charlie® that your mumu girlfriend dey"?
I am kinda afraid to introduce her to my parents so she won't embarrass me. My parents are very particular about the kind of girl I bring home, and trust my dad he's going to bombard her with a barrage of questions. She's also not interested in global happenings around the world or within the country or even recent developments. What really sparked my ire was the just concluded USA elections. I remember calling her and teasing her as to who will win the elections, trump/Clinton, but I was dismayed by her response " who is trump?" cry I was totally dumbfounded, how can someone who isn't an illiterate not have an inkling about 'trump'. I'm not saying i know all about the elections, I wasn't even interested in the USA elections because I already knew it was all mere propaganda, but nevertheless I kept up to speed.
Her further response killed my vibe "what concern me with trump? Is he going to give me a role as a telemundo actress?"(she's obsessed with telemundo btw,which brings me to my next point)
She so much loves telemundo and zee world, the only concise narration she can give is the breakdown of an episode of zee world. It's breaks my heart because I love her and want to marry her in the nearest future, and I don't want our kids to turn out to be morons.
Conversations with her are so boring, she basically adds nothing to the topic of discussion. Our time together is mostly spent on long silences

I need only positive responses please...

Dump her.

Look for someone else who you are comfortable with and who shares the same interests you do.

Don't date out of pity undecided

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Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by sunshine46(f): 9:16am On Nov 14, 2016
U shouldn't subject her to ridicule with ur friends,it could kill her self-confidence,one thing u should knw is that one of them may evn envy d fact that u have her...correct her in love,help her to be what u want in a woman,take a step at a time...it would go a long way,nd I'm sure she'll change wt time
Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by Nobody: 9:17am On Nov 14, 2016
ceny6:



You sound very educated and obviously very exposed. But have you for a second come to think if everyone was as blessed as you? Different people come from different backgrounds and have different level of exposure. One may not have heard of the word Arab spring but will be be very much aware of the uprising happening without knowing it has a word referring to it. The little I have learnt about this life is not to be hasty in making decisions (that's the part I want to talk about)

Back to the topic, OP knew from day one the kind of lady he wants and also knew this lady in question fell short of what he wanted but the lady's endowed body didn't allow him do the honourable thing to walk away. Now he is complaining. U will end up hurting a nice simple gal and guess what? Some men may desire her despite her flaws. It's just about knowing exactly who u are and what you want in a partner!
I feel like buying u dinner for this excellent comment.
Well done

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Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by femooshad(m): 9:18am On Nov 14, 2016
phlamesG:
I'm a young man in his early twenties. I've been going out with this particular girl for close to a year now.
I can tell that she loves me, and don't get me wrong I love her too, I mean she's very beautiful and well endowed in the right places, she's also a good cook and good in bed. But my worry is that she's too obtuse and uninteresting. Whenever we're having a conversation or discussion she doesn't make meaningful contributions to the topic, sometimes her contributions are not well thought out and when she says them it makes her sound dumb. My friends have even given her a nickname 'mumu'. Whenever they want to ask of her, they be like "Charlie® that your mumu girlfriend dey"?
I am kinda afraid to introduce her to my parents so she won't embarrass me. My parents are very particular about the kind of girl I bring home, and trust my dad he's going to bombard her with a barrage of questions. She's also not interested in global happenings around the world or within the country or even recent developments. What really sparked my ire was the just concluded USA elections. I remember calling her and teasing her as to who will win the elections, trump/Clinton, but I was dismayed by her response " who is trump?" cry I was totally dumbfounded, how can someone who isn't an illiterate not have an inkling about 'trump'. I'm not saying i know all about the elections, I wasn't even interested in the USA elections because I already knew it was all mere propaganda, but nevertheless I kept up to speed.
Her further response killed my vibe "what concern me with trump? Is he going to give me a role as a telemundo actress?"(she's obsessed with telemundo btw,which brings me to my next point)
She so much loves telemundo and zee world, the only concise narration she can give is the breakdown of an episode of zee world. It's breaks my heart because I love her and want to marry her in the nearest future, and I don't want our kids to turn out to be morons.
Conversations with her are so boring, she basically adds nothing to the topic of discussion. Our time together is mostly spent on long silences

I need only positive responses please...

Why ask for +ve responses only...

I for one feel that you're worried about the wrong things. My one cent is... I believe you're worried about the wrong things. Love truly conquers all.
Don't marry her if you think her level of reasoning is way below par. You don't need to live the rest of your life thinking you made a mistake.

You should see this movie though. "Me before You" staring Emilia Clarke ( she's khaleesi in GoT). I believe your girl has some other attributes that would make you claim you love her.

But again I'm not married so what do I know?
Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by ladyverere(f): 9:18am On Nov 14, 2016
IamLEGEND1:
[b] Trust me,you aren't alone in your struggle.
Air-headedness & docility is the norm when it comes to naija babes,anything else is the exception to the rule.
I gotta admit,I really envy your tenacity & willpower. if I dated a girl like yours,I would have shot my myself (twice,preferably) in the head a long time ago.

I obtained some random girl's number a while ago and we got to talking. I absentmindedly asked her opinion on the Arab spring and she kept saying 'Eh?',pretending not to have heard what I said.......I decided to spell it out for her in plain terms and the best reply she could muster was 'They should just negotiate with the terrorists na'.

I nearly screamed into the phone but ultimately kept my cool. I told that ìdiot to lose my number,PRONTO.
A brother needs a girl who can have blood flowing in the two most important directions- Towards his brain & towards His dìck.

Unto you I say,brotherly: dump this intellectual liability and find yourself someone who can stimulate you sexüally and intellectually. [/b]

And you think you are the sharpest knife in the drawer? Smh. Your dumbness speaks for itself the minute you believe a girl is for your s*xual satisfaction.

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Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by sekem: 9:18am On Nov 14, 2016
delishpot:
Bla Bla bla, if a woman meets a man that is termed boring and asks him to change, men would cry foul and say did you not meet him that way?.
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Bikonu onye bukwa onye nkea?

Who is this one?

In this information age, you are defending a dumb girl?

You should be ashamed of yourself, seriously.

I guess you don't know how terrible it can really get being in a relationship with a dumb person.

Who knows, maybe you are very dumb yourself which is why you cannot understand what the OP is trying to say.

There's a saying in Igbo land that the mad man feels no shame but it is his family members who does.

A dumb girl in a relationship probably will think everything is okay but just for one moment think about her man who will have to deal with the public disgrace or embarassment she may cause him at any given time without any warning!

My point is simple. Encourage your fellow girls to become more aware. Read novels. Become conversant with current affairs. Have ambitions. Become a problem solver, and stuff like that.

Don't just limit yourself to the point where a man will look at you and say that you are only good for cooking and fückïng.

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Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by uzoexcel(m): 9:18am On Nov 14, 2016
Lol

IamLEGEND1:
[b] Trust me,you aren't alone in your struggle.
Air-headedness & docility is the norm when it comes to naija babes,anything else is the exception to the rule.
I gotta admit,I really envy your tenacity & willpower. if I dated a girl like yours,I would have shot my myself (twice,preferably) in the head a long time ago.

I obtained some random girl's number a while ago and we got to talking. I absentmindedly asked her opinion on the Arab spring and she kept saying 'Eh?',pretending not to have heard what I said.......I decided to spell it out for her in plain terms and the best reply she could muster was 'They should just negotiate with the terrorists na'.

I nearly screamed into the phone but ultimately kept my cool. I told that ìdiot to lose my number,PRONTO.
A brother needs a girl who can have blood flowing in the two most important directions- Towards his brain & towards His dìck.

Unto you I say,brotherly: dump this intellectual liability and find yourself someone who can stimulate you sexüally and intellectually. [/b]
Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by phlamesG: 9:20am On Nov 14, 2016
smark61:




How old is she?
21
Re: Help!!! My Girlfriend Is Very Dull And Uninteresting... by Nobody: 9:21am On Nov 14, 2016
Luckygurl:
I think the ball is now in your court, to transform her into someone you'd like her to be.

Get her books as gifts, coerce her into channelling those time spent watching telemundo and zee world to some other educative channel, engage her in intellectual discussion. Do not give up even if her replies ain't encouraging. Let her know why you're doing such and also how you expect her to flow along.
Do all these in love and don't go about insulting her cos that will make her detest you. Those your so called friends should be mindful if what they say too.

Whichever way, it's a gradual process and if she actually loves you the way you claim, she'll make an attempt to step up her games.
I agree with everything here but, ma'am you've obviously never been or experienced situations of this nature.

When my uncle tries to engage his wife in more meaningful or rather intelligent conversations, she accuses him of belittling her. They have to discuss AfricaMagic throughout as opposed to any reality show. It got to a point where she even bought herself a new television set just so she is not "bothered about these useless animal channels, international news, cooking channels, movies in general. When all I want is to laugh (AfricaMagic)"

My uncle didn't go to the first end year function where spouses where invited because spouse cant really relate. It has gotten so bad they are both thin, literally.

Don't ask me how they got married in the first place, I don't have an answer to that.

My point is, unless she want to know more, then she'll gain interest when being introduced to these things. Otherwise......

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