kaboninc:


Everybody nags.. You nag, he nags, I nag, Buhari nags and every living thing nags. We just have a degree of nagging!

Are you very much interested in the debt (probably your reason for staying in the relationship) or the relationship itself where you are committed to ensure it lasts?

Or maybe your guy is actually down and wants some time alone to think through life.. Or he wants to excuse you because he's found someone 'better' and has some cool cash he's made?
I think he is not just not happy, I'll ask him... If he is with someone he will tell me, he is quite honest...

Just assuming ohhh

kaboninc:


Lol.. You're more frustrated than your guy who is yet to make it? Abeg take it easy. Then again, are you frustrated because since he hasn't made it, you've been taking care of yourself...which means that as soon as he makes it, he should start taking care of you? Lol.

Anyway I think you may have committed - especially financial resources - substantially into that relationship and that's why you're frustrated.....

Truth is, we all don't 'blow'at the same time. He's could be now or tomorrow or years later.

If the relationship is that difficult, you guys can just take a break so you can see things from different perspectives.. .love is indeed blind.

Also, if he has shown a commitment to repay the loan, then you guys can see it through.

kaboninc:


And guys who gives money to girls are what.. .wise?

optimusmind:

Bullshit. Insist on it, tell people and dump his sorry ass. He is mad

Raine80:
Stop reminding him of the time he had to swallow his pride and ask for help. I am sure it was not just nagging you might have said things that might have made him question your suitability as a life long partner.

wer111:


How can I date a guy without money... Becoz of money....? so it's not cool to you and your guy go to the movies? It's not cool for him to buy you a present in Christmas or Sat Valentine's is not cool for him to surprise you with chicken republic food when he come back home, it's not cool when I'm broke and I want to go to saloon and buy hair products and he can help me out Well I think its made my point hahahaha, no more examples, this minor things I mean when I say take care of me, big things will come of course but not now...i tried a lot poop, becoz I know his condition...but my temper.... I don't want to be angry anymore I don't even have the strength

Raine80:
Stop reminding him of the time he had to swallow his pride and ask for help. I am sure it was not just nagging you might have said things that might have made him question your suitability as a life long partner.

wer111:


Exactly, but the things unsay when I'm angry.... I don't mean them... By the end of the day I'll still help him, he knows... I bleeped up, I was impatient, if 3 years is been impatient, I know I hurt him with my words some times.. .and knowing is tired don't want me again, it exactly what you are saying

ednut1:
paying for services rendered and magas too

kaboninc:


Did you not know that your guy no get money?

Did you not know that him never make am?

All these things you mentioned, can't you do them on your own? Can't you take yourself to the cinema, surprise yourself with chicken republic and MacDonald, fix your hair and take yourself to moon?

Girls sef ehhh.. .abi are these thing his responsibilities? Or you want to say that in making love to you, he should fulfill your wishes? (because thats your next line of defense )...

Abeg leave the poor dude and go find yourself a man that will take you to Mars. From your comments here, I strongly don't think you're ready.

After all na the money you borrow am him go don use take care of your needs.

kaboninc:


Words get to us men more than any other thing especially if coming from someone we love

kaboninc:



Lol. This funny guy haf come.

So guys don't render service to girls abi?

wer111:


Hahahaha, if I can borrow my man money of course I can do them.... I work and that's what I do, I take care of myself, in an independent woman, look at you.... I can see the type of girl you don't date, of course I knew he is broke when I date him, but he made me happy, he still does, he truly loved me, and he asked me bcoz he truly needed, I can help a friend in that condition too, so had a manic you have money... Or you're comfortable you are not ready to surprise your woman once in awhile?? Then u just stingy

austinereds:
in as much you truly love him. just give him space. to be honest it will save you a lot of trouble in the long run. make him miss you though. pls don't force yourself on him oh.

escapefromusa:


Space for other girls abi !

U think sey na yankee we dey.

Give him space she says ... OP , A lot of guys are looking for girls like you. It's just that sometimes we have so much on our minds we act cold erratic and confusing.

Now is the time to prove your worth, love is only real when it persist through hard times and uncertainty.

Men are logical and like to talk and negotiate

Just kindly ask him to spare sometime to talk about thing that you need some clarity on. And use the opportunity to tell him why your nagging, pls do it calmly and make sure you look your best in that day,show some skin if you mu

escapefromusa:


Space for other girls abi !

U think sey na yankee we dey.

Give him space she says ... OP , A lot of guys are looking for girls like you. It's just that sometimes we have so much on our minds we act cold erratic and confusing.

Now is the time to prove your worth, love is only real when it persist through hard times and uncertainty.

Men are logical and like to talk and negotiate

Just kindly ask him to spare sometime to talk about thing that you need some clarity on. And use the opportunity to tell him why your nagging, pls do it calmly and make sure you look your best in that day,show some skin if you must we like these suggestive behaviors.

wer111:


Thank you jare, upon I give him the money 2 years ago the dad still died, his mom also sick.... Has not been paid at work. . He can provide....i know he is not happy and my nagging again... And my money again... I also have problems o, but have lovely parents if I'm in a bad situation they will help me, thank god my hard work has not lead me to that. I know if he has he will give me, at times he has small and he shares, the same for me, a lot of things like we were one... So I don't know why he is saying he doesn't want me, I definitely stopped my nagging and complain

wer111:


Hahahaha, if I can borrow my man money of course I can do them.... I work and that's what I do, I take care of myself, in an independent woman, look at you.... I can see the type of girl you don't date, of course I knew he is broke when I date him, but he made me happy, he still does, he truly loved me, and he asked me bcoz he truly needed, I can help a friend in that condition too, so had a manic you have money... Or you're comfortable you are not ready to surprise your woman once in awhile?? Then u just stingy

wer111:


What about actions? Actions don't mean anything And this situation has inconvenient me slot too.... That's why i was angry most of the times

wer111:

And I never said is a responsibility, I said is nice and the truth is that when's man can make happy the woman he loves... It feels good, it even feels better for him, so what are you saying? This thunder mention are they a big deal Cinema, chiken republic, hair products.... I didn't say phone ooo laptop.....

kaboninc:


Lol.....well you don't know what am capable of doing....

If you can borrow your man and still come here to NAG about it, why don't you spend it on yourself? You work, he doesn't...but still tomorrow is pregnant. He makes you happy but you make him SAD by reminding him of his situation, the debt he has, the orisirisi you expect from him, and on top of all these things, you NAG about it! Hiaaaannnnnnnnn!!!!!!!

Babe, the problem here, from your responses so far, is YOU! Not him, but YOU.

You know he doesn't have money yet you NAG about it to his face...he has not even married you ohhh...yet you are NAGGING and no mention of you being PRODUCTIVE to your GUY! Haba na...... I don't mean your kind of support ohhh

I like independent women but I like more, a PRODUCTIVE and ENTERPRISING woman. Not because I would not hustle to make ends meet but as a SUPPORT to whatever I bring, and support does not necessarily mean MONEY but KNOWLEDGE and WISDOM! Do you bring this to him? Do you bring or suggest INNOVATIVE IDEAS to him? He loves you, you love him...but maybe you both love yourselves. I see...

You can give him a billion dollars but if you continually keep NAGGING about the billions you give to him, he'd have no option than to leave you (he just did). So yeah, you caused it and sadly, you no wan see your mistake but still justifying your actions.

If I were him, I'll goan borrow money to repay you oh....I value and cherish my PEACE. A NAGGING woman is worse than an ATOMIC BOMB. Just imagine he was a PILOT....

wer111:


I have always admit it's my fault and I'm willing to change, I learn my lesson, but you are saying things I didn't say, I didn't say is his reponsability to take care of me I just said is nice when your guy can surprise you once in a while, I didn't say I was with him because of what he can give me....if that's the case I will not be dating him, I don't regret what I did, I regret my behavior, you where the one judging me and asking if I can take of myself, and I told you I can , that's why I borrowed him the money.... I know I have flaws but I have good things too, I can change in fact I changed so please don't get offended and try to make me feel bad when you are saying things I didn't say, and no woman can help out a stingy man... Like you... My guy has done things for me non materialistic that means alot. And if he breaks up no problem I'm not gonna die there's a reason for everything God knows best, you wish a woman could fight for you like this

wer111:

This situation has also affected me, he knows and he feels bad about it, but is fine my nagging is becoz this is been difficult for me too, so the only thing I can do at times is complain,i can go and still I just take it like that

wer111:


I know I bleeped up... And probably he will enjoy up breaking up when he gives me back.... It's just not easy... Bcoz I have always had is back... And he truly loved me... But now he is just no longer interested in me... So, I don't know.... I'm confused this morning ooooo

kaboninc:


Actions from a woman, don't get to us men as words do.

With words, with a NAGGING habit, you just destroy the man.

And he reacts by taking action.

That's why you hear of stories like....He killed his wife

escapefromusa:
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Like I said OP, many guys are searching for strong and supportive women like you.

And, if your absolutely sure this is the man for you and you feel this way not justdeep down inside but ...deep down inside from a bright place, I am absolutely confident you can steer this ship through these hazardous times into calm waters.... I assure you, this relationship will be better for it.

Sometimes the woman has to be the strong for the couple.

kaboninc:


You meant it is a responsibility naaa.....

Are you trying to say that all the 3 years you guys were together, he did not take you to Silverbird, or Tastee Fried or bought you one pata like that or ice cream or surprised you?

If he surprises you, he loves you and its one way of showing his affection and love towards you.

But in one breath, you said he truly loves you and makes you happy...

In another, you said he doesn't surprise you or takes you to Mars...and according to you, it is what a man should do it to make his woman happy...

So now, what are those things that he does that made you say he loves and makes you happy?

Today na today ohh...

wer111:


He makes me happy because he loves me, he toast me for 7 good month before I agreed, he was dating a girl... That leavening view park and has car for me, meanwhile I leave in the mainland and i don't have as much to offer, I just felt the love, I felt that he is ready with me, he is faithfullnhe is nice, he not outing person so we are always together, he always says I changed him, and he's thanks me for that.... That why I love him,

wer111:


He makes me happy because he loves me, he toast me for 7 good month before I agreed, he was dating a girl... That leavening view park and has car for me, meanwhile I leave in the mainland and i don't have as much to offer, I just felt the love, I felt that he is ready with me, he is faithfullnhe is nice, he not outing person so we are always together, he always says I changed him, and he's thanks me for that.... That why I love him,

wer111:

And stop saying what I didn't say, I don't need him to take me to mars.... I think you are very stingy... Lol

kaboninc:


Only that you want to keeeee my broder with ya mouth.

Lol. Now you've learnt your lesson. Ayam coming to respond to the earlier post oo