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NemzySeries:
just as our mothers obey our fathers, we also xpect such frm our wives provided I'm not asking her to do a wrong or shameful stuff........ datz y OK parents should respect deir children's decisions especially wen d're married tho d're open to make suggestions on certain tinz but it doesn't mean d've got d final say on d Mata

I'm being serious with this question, I'm not joking around but is the word obey still in your wedding vows?

wizard007:
Isn't it the same Bible that says honor thy mother and father? Honestly I really don't want to reply you the moment I noticed you quoting the bible, in as much as I believe in God we can't say we've not noticed some stuffs in that book are outdated and needs to be reviewed, its just like the constitution

What works 1900 AD can never work in 2017, no matter how righteous you wanna claim to be and devoted, you will always find things that you can't apply in reality in that book.

The world is changing

outdated!!!!!! u jst blew a gasket bro, even Idol worshippers wunt say such abt deir religion, but u can sha do wat u like sha, Result makes d difference

khiaa:
I'm being serious with this question, I'm not joking around but is the word obey still in your wedding vows?

owk oooo, TankGod u're a lady which makes it practical enough, cut OBEDIENCE out of marriage and see aw far u can go wit watz left..... probably engage in a social chat with any mature woman u admire datz bin married for like 15/20yrs & den ask her d significance of OBEDIENCE especially frm d female wing in marriage

khiaa:
lmao She needs your in-put/advice/suggestions not your concent, when she married you she became your wife not your child. smh!

Keep shaking it, western mentality has beclouded your view about what you are supposed to know, this makes you think in someone else's way, though the naivety is rampant and more reason why you people can't keep a home, at least you take after someone.

I dunno buh I read my bible
Wives be submissive to your husbands in all things

khiaa:
Insanity!! No one owns another person, people are not property.

Kid let me tell you about insanity;

When you bear a child, when he/she is growing up to be monstrous, pls make sure you let him/her do as he/she pleases, make sure you let him/her have total control of their life because they are not your property, and let's see who gets culpable, you people think you know about freedom but it does not make you any better and too bad you fail to know the source of your problem, there is freedom and there is discipline, they both should work together but the only thing the western world whispers to you ear is freedom, as a usually extremist African, you fail to think by yourself, because someone else's idea has preoccupied your head, guess what, they have a better life because their heads work with their minds.

Tajbol4splend:
Kid let me tell you about insanity;

When you bear a child, when he/she is growing up to be monstrous, pls make sure you let him/her do as he/she pleases, make sure you let him/her have total control of their life because they are not your property, and let's see who gets culpable, you people think you know about freedom but it does not make you any better and too bad you fail to know the source of your problem, there is freedom and there is discipline, they both should work together but the only thing the western world whispers to you ear is freedom, as a usually extremist African, you fail to think by yourself, because someone else's idea has preoccupied your head, guess what, they have a better life because their heads work with their minds.

I'm far from a kid and I'm not African. Your rant was unnecessarily boring. The topic was about a wife not a child and you can't seem to separate the two, so I will do it for you.
A wife is a HELPMATE to her husband, a life partner, a soul mate, and a grown ADULT capable of making sound decisions.

A child is your offspring that you guide and raise to adulthood, decipline when needed but don't browbeat at every given chance, show love, understanding and patience. A child is a MINOR rhat needs your control. I hope you can now understand the differences between a wife (an ADULT who has already been raised by her parents) and a child (a MINOR who is your responsibility to raise). Don't give me this crap about the west, look in your own backyard first, and speaking of decipline and freedom, who raised your corrupt leaders in Nigeria, who raised your crooked police, who raised your ritualist, your peodophiles, your rapist, your murderers? My point is, no matter how bleeped up the west is in your eyes, there is no crime that is committed in the USA that doesn't happen in Nigeria, except for marrying childen, you guys have an monopoly on that. It's funny how you accuse me of not being able to think on my own but think that you should be able to control your wife thinking,
whatever thoughts she'll have you will give them to her. Why would a sane person even contemplate marrying someone who can't think for themselves or someone who wants to control their every thought/move? Only insecure people think like that.
I will end my rant by saying, STOP being overbearing, be more loving and understanding to your wife and kids and maybe you'll make a halfway decent husband/father.

khiaa:
I'm far from a kid and I'm not African. Your rant was unnecessarily boring. The topic was about a wife not a child and you can't seem to separate the two, so I will do it for you.
A wife is a HELPMATE to her husband, a life partner, a soul mate, and a grown ADULT capable of making sound decisions.

A child is your offspring that you guide and raise to adulthood, decipline when needed but don't browbeat at every given chance, show love, understanding and patience. A child is a MINOR rhat needs your control. I hope you can now understand the differences between a wife (an ADULT who has already been raised by her parents) and a child (a MINOR who is your responsibility to raise). Don't give me this crap about the west, look in your own backyard first, and speaking of decipline and freedom, who raised your corrupt leaders in Nigeria, who raised your crooked police, who raised your ritualist, your peodophiles, your rapist, your murderers? My point is, no mater how bleeped up the west is in your eyes, there is no crime that is committed in the USA that doesn't happen in Nigeria, except for marrying childen, you guys have an monopoly on that. It's funny how you accuse me of not being able to think on my own but think that you should be able to control your wife thinking,
whatever thoughts she'll have you will give them to her. Why would a sane person even contemplate marrying someone who can't think for themselves or someone who wants to control their every thought/move? Only insecure people think like that.
I will end my rant by saying, STOP being overbearing, be more loving and understanding to your wife and kids and maybe you'll make a halfway decent husband/father.

Since you ain't an African, I wanna say good night but if you happen to be in daylight, good day

NemzySeries:
owk oooo, TankGod u're a lady which makes it practical enough, cut OBEDIENCE out of marriage and see aw far u can go wit watz left..... probably engage in a social chat with any mature woman u admire datz bin married for like 15/20yrs & den ask her d significance of OBEDIENCE especially frm d female wing in marriage

I know people who have been married since the 1960's and they said that they really love God unlike alot of people who are religious but dont even understand the concept of love (fake christians), love and respect for each other and truly being best friends is the key to their success, and the word obey was taken out of their vows.

Tajbol4splend:
Since you ain't an African, I wanna say good night but if you happen to be in daylight, good day

No hard feelings, Good Day.

Husband.

Emzyme:
I dunno buh I read my bible
Wives be submissive to your husbands in all things

How can people expect someone to submit to them when they themselves don't submit to God? Showing up in a church is not submitting to God.

khiaa:
I know people who have been married since the 1960's and they said that they really love God unlike alot of people who are religious but dont even understand the concept of love (fake christians), love and respect for each other and truly being best friends is the key to their success, and the word obey was taken out of their vows.

time will tell

NemzySeries:
time will tell

What are you saying, they have been married for 49 years come January 17, 2017.

khiaa:
What are you saying, they have been married for 49 years come January 17, 2017.

and u av bin married for aw long? if u like obey ur hubby or not, itz ur marriage not mine. Every man has his own standards xcept u wanna take over their marriage wen it gets to 50

NemzySeries:
and u av bin married for aw long? if u like obey ur hubby or not, itz ur marriage not mine. Every man has his own standards xcept u wanna take over their marriage wen it gets to 50

You are right, it's my marriage not yours, this is 2017 and you still want to treat an adult like a child by throwing out orders and demands, obey indeed.

Na to walk out on both of them sure pass. When they settle the matter, both of them will start looking for me and I won't forgive them unless they swear never to pull that stunt on me again. It is not easy to choose between two people you love because you will hurt two people: the person u didn't choose and yourself.

khiaa:
You are right, it's my marriage not yours, this is 2017 and you still want to treat an adult like a child by throwing out orders and demands, obey indeed.

pride will not allow u but fortunately nairaland is always here to sympathize wit u wen it gets sour

NemzySeries:
pride will not allow u but fortunately nairaland is always here to sympathize wit u wen it gets sour

No, it's your women who live in misery with you overbearing, controlling men. It's better for them to suffer than to be unmarried, and that's heartbreaking.

khiaa:
No, it's your women who live in misery with you overbearing, controlling men. It's better for them to suffer than to be unmarried, and that's heartbreaking.

Hahahahaha..... e pain am oooo