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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by NaWetinDey(m): 10:21pm On Jan 26, 2017
Mr man, go and man your house. What rubbish it this? Are you 22 and she is 42?
If you have a wife who does that, then you have a deep rooted enemy in your home. Check your child's dna.

By the way, if you gave her that privilege from onset, you should blame yourself and then correct yourself.

What nonsense!

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by HARDDON: 10:27pm On Jan 26, 2017
Flyingngel:
Pls i will make this very brief. Since when i got married to my wife i have tried to be helpful in the home front but it seem she want to capitalize on that.

She has been doing these many times and i overlook

a boss that overlooks critical things from his subordinates, loses his balls

, yesterday own got me mad which i begin thinking if marrying is bad. I came back frm work and she ask me to help her with our baby which i did; but when

she came she now told me that i am going to cook the soup, which i told her it has been long i did that rather

she can tell


this is your major issue! she has been telling you what to do! you are the woman of the house!


so you came from work with hunger et all, food wasnt ready, u still helped with the kid, and she still had the temerity to order u to the kitchen? how are we sure you are the owner of that baby?

what what do - like preparing the ingredients then she will cook. Pls note i wake up everyday by 5am wash d plate, sweep the house and d outside even wash her cloth anything she can't.
Yesterday she said if i don't cook which i stood my ground, then we are going to sleep empty stomach and that was what she did.
My people pls is there any wrong i have done. I am a faithful husband, i assist her in anyway i can but she alway want me to submit to everything she says.
Pls help me with ur opinion because i am weak.

Modified: to those that says am lying, well it is up to you to believe but i need ur opinion. I seldom post since 2012 i registered officially here.

If u are not married, pls pray to whatever God that u serve to give u a woman that understand and respect u no matter the circumstances.[/quote]


angry embarassed embarassed embarassed

here is one who sold his birthright long time ago!

as a man lay his bed, so he lies on it. when u got carried away with love preaching and Jrod prodding, the enemy sowed tears with your aid ofcos embarassed

now she has been cast and u cant but live with her like that

for the single guys out there, save yourselves and check the link on ma signature

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Nobody: 10:31pm On Jan 26, 2017
The advice I am seeing here is more of division than unity. Op just carry your cross, you said you love her, so tolerate, except you want to separate from her but come on mehn, you got the dick here, use it...

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by stag: 10:39pm On Jan 26, 2017
Give an inch and an average woman will take 9. And will not even realize they are beginning to take you/things for granted.

If you are old enough to get married, you are old enough to deal with this.
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Nwogeh: 10:41pm On Jan 26, 2017
Every marriage is unique on its own and there is no advice that work wonders in all marriages. All of us has one or two things to endure in marriage and believe me many men do different things in their family just for their marriage to survive but most of them come out to say otherwise. my advice is, do everything possible to make your marriage work but don't loose your dignity as a man, don't be seen by your wife as being weak, over soft, wicked, over strict or over meek. just try and strike a balance in all. Mind ladies prefer strong men to weak ones. My wife works in a bank, I work in a private company, she wakes 5:30 and I wake 6:30, I provide, then she does the cores but I only, I repeat, I only help out when its necessary that I do so like when she is very tired, sick, heavy or when I want to surprise her, but I always make sure that she understands that I am doing her job so she should thank me for that. Abeg man up, cross your mind and make her understand that you are capable of doing anything to make her respect and reason with you. I don't believe in dominating her off course, her opinion should always count but you have the final say because we are to them what Christ is to the church....the head of the family. If you allow her continue like this, your children will follow suit to disregard your words. If snake no behave like snake, women will use it to tie firewood so act up but be kind and nice while exerting control. For now, capitalize on that thing she did and stop every help you give her in terms of house cores as a punishment for what she has done, then gradually start again with time. Make her to be the one that will be looking for peace. Define your duties in the house with her the day you will talk about it and stand on it. but don't forget that for you to achieve this, you should be able to control your sexual urge because that's one strength they have against us. if you discover their strength and smash it or counter it, they become powerless unless you begged her to marry her from onset.
Women are really difficult and unless you are married, you will never understand. Less I forget, watch this movie with her....WAR ROOM, she will change over night.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Jtmanager(m): 10:42pm On Jan 26, 2017
CIA
u like work for trump ?
pocohantas:
As at April 4, 2015, you said you guys play like babies. In your words, "we play like babies, running and throwing pillows... Finally we promise ourselves to be happy no matter what.

July 19, 2015...she was pressurising you for marriage and you were confused about marrying her, after dating for 7yrs. She said she'll marry you on her own conditions, because she thinks you'll change when you make money.
What conditions?

Fast forward to few weeks later, you proposed a little before Aug 26, 2015.

You said you're a teacher and she's a part time worker in a hospital.

You got married Jan 2, 2016.
This is Jan 26,2017, a little over 1yr and it has gone this sour.
Her character is despicable, but what changed?
Has she always been like this?

I had to confirm this isn't fiction.
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by NnaNna4(m): 10:50pm On Jan 26, 2017
lilmax:
divorce is the way my brother

Which divorce. U don see where house boy dey dictate d tune?

Sorry house man are you scared of sleeping with empty stomach. Make sure you didn't cook the soup let both of you go to bed with empty stomach , tomorrow she won't try it again .
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by goshen26: 11:03pm On Jan 26, 2017
ojun50:
Were did u meet yr wife?
club
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by dingbang(m): 11:06pm On Jan 26, 2017
Darlingmua:
Yes he can stand his ground n be a man but NOT by being VIOLENT.
no he has to be violent in her case...thank you
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by BrownCookie(f): 11:09pm On Jan 26, 2017
I truly don't give 0fu.cks about what you hate undecided


nbright:
@ bolded, this is what I hate most about Nigerian female mentality.
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Nobody: 11:12pm On Jan 26, 2017
femolacqua:

Man ur talk is on point.

Why on ponit. Domestic abuse is never the way to go. There are other hundreds of methods

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by flyforall: 11:15pm On Jan 26, 2017
Other than u breaking the english i believe you. grin
Biko all women are stubborn one way or another.
wake her 02:00am and explain this to her.
Let her see what its doing to your marriage.
Pray for/with her daily for 7 days.
If she doesn't respond leave her to God and go to vacation.
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Nobody: 11:15pm On Jan 26, 2017
Flyingngel:
johnson232 post:
Honestly u are a weak man.


Bros, don't judge me like that; am just following d bible that the woman is a help Meet. I do alway this so that she will b happy and not grow old quickly and i love her.

Lol. So na ur skin dey built to always remain young abi. Love ko hate ni
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by nbright: 11:26pm On Jan 26, 2017
BrownCookie:
I truly don't give 0fu.cks about what you hate undecided



tongue
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Nobody: 11:29pm On Jan 26, 2017
Can't imagine my guy sweeping outside o shocked... Op needs to put his house in order! Maybe you guys can get a househelp.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by COURVOISier(m): 11:32pm On Jan 26, 2017
Op, you be correct guy, but the one I no understand be say she be house wife and she no cook food for you.

My people if person reset him wife brain with "correctional hot slap" shey na domestic abuse?
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Nobody: 11:34pm On Jan 26, 2017
2shur:
u r a disgrace to real men
u r a big fool.
woman wrapper

how dare u wash your wife dirty pants
and shit
no wonder she can threaten u
wen i af fallen for her ogunmeh.
she has trapped i4 life.

aooow
e don cast

a whole man washing.sweeping..cooking..jus to please your wife.
naso bible talk am abi.
omo my ex try dis shiit with me 2years ago.
i play mumu for 4days..on the 6th day..d kind slap wey she receive ehn.
na d type wey dem dey see florescent afta slap.
no real man..washes his stinking dirty underwear men.
u crazy woman wrapper.
house boi.
Do u proofread?
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by BE811APP: 11:38pm On Jan 26, 2017
God Bless you!!!

The Internet never forgets!!!

pocohantas:
As at April 4, 2015, you said you guys play like babies. In your words, "we play like babies, running and throwing pillows... Finally we promise ourselves to be happy no matter what.

July 19, 2015...she was pressurising you for marriage and you were confused about marrying her, after dating for 7yrs. She said she'll marry you on her own conditions, because she thinks you'll change when you make money.
What conditions?

Fast forward to few weeks later, you proposed a little before Aug 26, 2015.

You said you're a teacher and she's a part time worker in a hospital.

You got married Jan 2, 2016.
This is Jan 26,2017, a little over 1yr and it has gone this sour.
Her character is despicable, but what changed?
Has she always been like this?

I had to confirm this isn't fiction.
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by solidman59(m): 11:41pm On Jan 26, 2017
Flyingngel:
Pls i will make this very brief. Since when i got married to my wife i have tried to be helpful in the home front but it seem she want to capitalize on that.

She has been doing these many times and i overlook, yesterday own got me mad which i begin thinking if marrying is bad. I came back frm work and she ask me to help her with our baby which i did; but when she came she now told me that i am going to cook the soup, which i told her it has been long i did that rather she can tell what what do - like preparing the ingredients then she will cook. Pls note i wake up everyday by 5am wash d plate, sweep the house and d outside even wash her cloth anything she can't.
Yesterday she said if i don't cook which i stood my ground, then we are going to sleep empty stomach and that was what she did.
My people pls is there any wrong i have done. I am a faithful husband, i assist her in anyway i can but she alway want me to submit to everything she says.
Pls help me with ur opinion because i am weak.

Modified: to those that says am lying, well it is up to you to believe but i need ur opinion. I seldom post since 2012 i registered officially here.

If u are not married, pls pray to whatever God that u serve to give u a woman that understand and respect u no matter the circumstances.

Guy I feel your pain but I think it's time you man up. Stop doing those chores. It's obvious she doesn't appreciate you. Become a bad guy and boss her around a little bit.

Women love that iron hand treatment. She'll even love you more if you become this way. Raise your voice a little and always stand your ground, you'll see how she'll become soft like ogbono soup.

I have the impression that you are too soft for her.
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Nobody: 11:41pm On Jan 26, 2017
Flyingngel:
Catalin post:Flyingngel, you need to man up ASAP, stop doing domestic stuffs for your wife. She is not working so why should you do domestic stuffs? Instead why don't you hire a nanny or house help for her?



Thank u. Well the issue of nanny didn't cross my mind because i have a feeling that when the two of us join hand in taking care of our child, it will draw us more closer and the love will b stronger. May b i was deceiving myself.
Maybe you should try taking her somewhere fun to unwind, it ain't easy cooped up in a house with an infant day in day out. Maybe she's acting out of depression. Take a romantic getaway
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by OTEGA1: 11:41pm On Jan 26, 2017
U c why women always looking for nice and Godfearing man to marry...This is the reason.....
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by solidman59(m): 11:43pm On Jan 26, 2017
Guy I feel your pain but I think it's time you man up. Stop doing those chores. It's obvious she doesn't appreciate you. Become a bad guy and boss her around a little bit.

Women love that iron hand treatment. She'll even love you more if you become this way. Raise your voice a little and always stand your ground, you'll see how she'll become soft like ogbono soup.

I have the impression that you are too soft for her.
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by DaintyJenny(f): 11:45pm On Jan 26, 2017
dingbang:
Please be a man.... Dont allow a woman to be trampling on you like a doormat... Get into d kitchen, cook d food, if she steps in there to eat, give her a hot slap and remind her who d is d man of the house!
Well said!
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by dingbang(m): 11:46pm On Jan 26, 2017
DaintyJenny:

Well said!
hahahaha... I have a feeling u don't mean that
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by DaintyJenny(f): 11:49pm On Jan 26, 2017
dingbang:
hahahaha... I have a feeling u don't mean that
ah ah!
So fast?
Do you sleep on Nairaland?
I meant it though. I'm against such behaviour especially if the man is this humble and understanding.
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by dingbang(m): 11:52pm On Jan 26, 2017
DaintyJenny:

ah ah!
So fast?
Do you sleep on Nairaland?
I meant it though. I'm against such behaviour especially if the man is this humble and understanding.
lol today I can't sleep right now... Hence my presence...



Well thank God a lady out of millions understand that sometimes, a man gets pushed to the wall to beat his wife, not because he is a wife beater, but because she dared him..
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Mom007(f): 11:53pm On Jan 26, 2017
Pele poster. You are a good guy, just be a little patient with her. Honestly she has no excuse for what she did, baby or no baby but I agree with the poster that said post partum depression. Read up on it. In any case., your over indulgence is not helping. She has to wake up to the challenges of marriage or she get out, marriage is not by force. A lot of these feminist blogs are filling jobless womens heads with alot of nonesense right now and i am sure she has fsllen into such bad gang. Draw up some boundaries starting now. Tell her the responsibility you expect from her as your wife which Include cooking the food and keeping the home while you go to work .stop washing her clothes, what's that about self? Give her a week to comply and if she doesn't, send her to her parents house until she is ready for married life. Let her go and explain to her folks where she learnt her own style from . it may sound harsh but if you don't put on your tough gloves, the problems will escalate. Most important though, pray against the number one enemy of married folks, Satan. Pray alone and again as a family. God help us all.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Bibors(m): 12:36am On Jan 27, 2017
The truth is that you may never come out of this, dont feel bad i will explain.
Though your wife is a nursing mother who needs help, she is also bossy and will never be submissive. if you cross this stage, you will enter another phase, what i mean is that if you get stewards and maids to the the chores, she will still invent ways of manipulating/ controlling you.
Never hit her- Such unsubmissive feminists will make life a living hell for you.

suggestions as to how to handle the situation.

Man up and do whatever you can in your house- after all, its your house, i mean your own house.
Never ignore her food- after all it was paid with your hard earned money.
If she wants to go hungry just fix what you can eat and if she wants to eat from it, just tell her you didn't make for two since she wasn't hungry.
Never allow her to manipulate you even with sex.

She will withdraw to herself for a while and know you have become a hard nut, if she also becomes a hard nut then its time to make a very hard decision- the spirit will guide you in what hard decision it is to make to meeting your ancestors at a young age.
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by friendl: 12:46am On Jan 27, 2017
Get a girlfriend
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by Blitz888(m): 2:56am On Jan 27, 2017
pocohantas:
As at April 4, 2015, you said you guys play like babies. In your words, "we play like babies, running and throwing pillows... Finally we promise ourselves to be happy no matter what.

July 19, 2015...she was pressurising you for marriage and you were confused about marrying her, after dating for 7yrs. She said she'll marry you on her own conditions, because she thinks you'll change when you make money.
What conditions?
You get time... CIA in the making.. Nice work!

Fast forward to few weeks later, you proposed a little before Aug 26, 2015.

You said you're a teacher and she's a part time worker in a hospital.

You got married Jan 2, 2016.
This is Jan 26,2017, a little over 1yr and it has gone this sour.
Her character is despicable, but what changed?
Has she always been like this?

I had to confirm this isn't fiction.
Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by October1960: 3:40am On Jan 27, 2017
Wow I was just like you with stubborn wife that wanted to turn me to houseboy.

I put a quick stop to that and showed her my bad side.

Seems with most women if you are too nice they want to walk all over you.

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Re: My Wife Is Stubborn. by miqos02(m): 3:59am On Jan 27, 2017
Flyingngel:
miqos02 post:bros, are you the wife or husband in this marriage? something tells me you are the wife oh.



Bros i weak for this ur question oo. I am the husband.
Then share the home chores not the other way round. The husband is the head of the house even without 1naira in his pocket

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