samhay:
@Godiloveu,come and see this

ogagon o, a faithful n submissive husband dey get problem Na wa o, wat shall.we.not c

I am a lady but if my wife tries that with me , beating her won't be the solution but sending her back to her home for six month without our children will do the correction.
You just do what a loving husband should do, she took advantage of that

Okeyson4wisdom:
ur a wicked adviser.

And a stupid one too

2shur:
u r a disgrace to real men
u r a big fool.
woman wrapper

how dare u wash your wife dirty pants
and shit
no wonder she can threaten u
wen i af fallen for her ogunmeh.
she has trapped i4 life.

aooow
e don cast

a whole man washing.sweeping..cooking..jus to please your wife.
naso bible talk am abi.
omo my ex try dis shiit with me 2years ago.
i play mumu for 4days..on the 6th day..d kind slap wey she receive ehn.
na d type wey dem dey see florescent afta slap.
no real man..washes his stinking dirty underwear men.
u crazy woman wrapper.
house boi.

You are so funny, when u want to enter the pusi it is smelling fine but after you release ur smelling water the place becomes disgusting
Ori e ko pe rara

I used to help my wife out too especially during pregnancy. The fact is that it seems you couple have been too far from family members.

Try and speak with a wise person in your family who she respects so much or a religious leader.

Then you also get busy with more important things in life. If she needs a house help, let her tell you and if you can afford one go for it.

Women at times spring up challenges, if you take this so extreme, you will lose your marriage. Still treat her with love and respect.
This makes many wives stick to their man even when they quarrel because they reason from their heart that it would be hard to come across such a man if they lose him.

What you are going through is not peculiar to you alone, many homes are like that and couldn't share on nairaland.
Also pray for her, prayer works even when other things fail.

Hmmm, after reading through ur story I say to myself I must comment on it, and I so wish my husband will have d opportunity to read this, d reverse is d case with my issue, my husband cannot in anyway displeased himself to please myself nor our son. Sometimes maybe after coming back from my mother in-laws house which we do every Sunday, I will be d one to carry out son, carry my bag and whatever loads I have, and then my hubby will still wait for me at the door for me to come open d door, not to talk of doing any house chores. and u know what I keep telling myself , that as long as he's not abusing me physically, my faith still remains that things will change for the good, am sure someday my God will open his eyes to rewrite his wrong. Sometimes what I say to encourage myself is what if I happens not have a husband, we have people whose spouse are late and that doesn't stop them from doing what they are meant to do, God forbid that for us anyway, What am driving at is , uve both sworn to be for better for worst, sit her down, talk to her abt it and also keep praying for her for her to have a change of heart before she lost it, cos men like this are so rare to have.

ajimega:
And a stupid one too

thanks

dingbang:
Please be a man.... Dont allow a woman to be trampling on you like a doormat... Get into d kitchen, cook d food, if she steps in there to eat, give her a hot slap and remind her who d is d man of the house!

So wrong

Godiloveu:


ogagon o, a faithful n submissive husband dey get problem Na wa o, wat shall.we.not c

she will eventually turn him to a cheating husband

Flyingngel:
Pls i will make this very brief. Since when i got married to my wife i have tried to be helpful in the home front but it seem she want to capitalize on that.

She has been doing these many times and i overlook, yesterday own got me mad which i begin thinking if marrying is bad. I came back frm work and she ask me to help her with our baby which i did; but when she came she now told me that i am going to cook the soup, which i told her it has been long i did that rather she can tell what what do - like preparing the ingredients then she will cook. Pls note i wake up everyday by 5am wash d plate, sweep the house and d outside even wash her cloth anything she can't.
Yesterday she said if i don't cook which i stood my ground, then we are going to sleep empty stomach and that was what she did.
My people pls is there any wrong i have done. I am a faithful husband, i assist her in anyway i can but she alway want me to submit to everything she says.
Pls help me with ur opinion because i am weak.

Modified: to those that says am lying, well it is up to you to believe but i need ur opinion. I seldom post since 2012 i registered officially here.

If u are not married, pls pray to whatever God that u serve to give u a woman that understand and respect u no matter the circumstances.

Didn't want to reply u before but I will. Women are like children, they always want to test their men to their limits. Its left for u to give ground or not. If I were u when she did that, I would have taken my car keys and driven out to the next eatery if there is one still open. Buy food and bring it back then tell her rhw soup is ready pls come and eat.
From what u have said ur wife may try such again next time and if she does then alwaye have something u can rustle up fast like indomie around. U do it eat and go to bed. Never let her pull u into a confrontation.
Initially my wife was always seeking a fight or confrontation. I used to shock her when I don't respond. I just ignored her till she decided to be an adult again.
The one that shocked her most was onetime the nut in her head loosened again and she tried that with me again.
I took over all the household duties, I normally wake by 5 to do everything in the house plus cook and clean. I did it for two whole weeks while ignoring her while shopping for the house. It was when she csme to me later to complain that I do all chores and cook and clean and that there's nothing for her to do,that shr feels useless to me. That was when I ate her alife. I told her off, I didn't call her names or insult her. I just made it clear to her that if I didn't need her in the house anymore, then she would consider going back to her parent's house to cool off. That insident reset the loose nut in her head and I never had anymore incidents again till now. Thats 2 years ago.
U are the man of the house. U don't need to talk much or be aggressive to have ur way.

Flyingngel:
pweetychyka post:

OP, I must say this n trust me it won't get down well wit u...cos u probably married her cos she was beautiful

Btw, u made d whole mistake.... i.e u brought it all to urself!
1. Didn't u date ur wife before getting married to her?
2. What kinda work does she engage herself with that's making her forget that she's suppose to be an help-meet and not u!
Y on earth will u wake up very early to engage in the domestic chores when u have a wifey? My dear U have to man up!
3. Didn't u open that portion of the bible where it says 'woman be submissive to ur hubby for he is d head of the home'
4. Abeg who Masters degree don help for kitchen? She has such degree yet she doesn't work! So wats her level of productivity asides making babies?

OP, hold ur ground now.... before it gets out of hand! If she refuses to take up her responsibility, abeg package her back to her parents house

To all d single guys, please learn from this OP's mistake!
Before u get married to any woman, ensure she sleeps over at ur house over the weekend atleast twice in a month.

And if she comes, allow her meet ur apartment unkempt once in a while and see her reaction...

#maopinion



Thank you. We dated but am telling u human being can change must especially when they are married.

Boss if that's the case, then u didn't get on with ur assignment very well.... cos she must have exhibited a negative habit buh u wouldn't notice cos u were blinded by her love...! Anyways, pls take ur stand now!

pweetychyka:


Boss if that's the case, then u didn't get on with ur assignment very well.... cos she must have exhibited a negative habit buh u wouldn't notice cos u were blinded by her love...! Anyways, pls take ur stand now!

women do hide their true nature but will come out when they are very comfortable with you

babseg:


women do hide their true nature but will come out when they are very comfortable with you

Boss it's common amongst men and women! Buh one thing we should know is one can't hide his/her true nature for long! If dey had dated for like a period of say 1 or 2years, he would av observed her very well

pweetychyka:


Boss it's common amongst men and women! Buh one thing we should know is one can't hide his/her true nature for long! If dey had dated for like a period of say 1 or 2years, he would av observed her very well

Nope what about people that dated for 7 yrs . They had no problems during thier courtship but started having problems when they got married.

babseg:


Nope what about people that dated for 7 yrs . They had no problems during thier courtship but started having problems when they got married.

and he didn't see fault in her at all?
Den he probably dated a perfectionist and married d reverse of wat he thought she was! According to OP, his wifey pretended during the period of dating buh he was also carried away dat he didn't see any signals

Flyingngel:
johnson232 post:
Honestly u are a weak man.


Bros, don't judge me like that; am just following d bible that the woman is a help Meet. I do alway this so that she will b happy and not grow old quickly and i love her.

My friend, you are not serious. You are supposed to be the head of your home, that doesn't mean maltreating her, but she must be submissive. Otherwise, send her packing to her parent's house immediately

I NEED A WIFE OOOO

Darlingmua:
. The fact that you would proudly approve a man being violent towards a lady he claims he loves makes me wonder about the caliber of men we v this days.
Yes she was wrong for abandoning her wifely duties but there are a numerous ways he could v called her to order without raising his hands.
The day a man hits a woman he not only loses he's respect as a man in the eyes of a woman but is also an animal

akuko...

frugal:

Oya, go ahead and tell us your own side so we can judge. Your 'husband' has told us his.

You actually got me laughing out loud. Thanks for making my day.

dingbang:
Please be a man.... Dont allow a woman to be trampling on you like a doormat... Get into d kitchen, cook d food, if she steps in there to eat, give her a hot slap and remind her who d is d man of the house!

my brother my brother.. I sight u

dingbang:
lol today I can't sleep right now... Hence my presence...



Well thank God a lady out of millions understand that sometimes, a man gets pushed to the wall to beat his wife, not because he is a wife beater, but because she dared him..

Hehehe... I didn't say you should beat o, mbok. A reset slap is enough. And that's for when she has really passed her boundaries.

Flyingngel:
Pls i will make this very brief. Since when i got married to my wife i have tried to be helpful in the home front but it seem she want to capitalize on that.

She has been doing these many times and i overlook, yesterday own got me mad which i begin thinking if marrying is bad. I came back frm work and she ask me to help her with our baby which i did; but when she came she now told me that i am going to cook the soup, which i told her it has been long i did that rather she can tell what what do - like preparing the ingredients then she will cook. Pls note i wake up everyday by 5am wash d plate, sweep the house and d outside even wash her cloth anything she can't.
Yesterday she said if i don't cook which i stood my ground, then we are going to sleep empty stomach and that was what she did.
My people pls is there any wrong i have done. I am a faithful husband, i assist her in anyway i can but she alway want me to submit to everything she says.
Pls help me with ur opinion because i am weak.

Modified: to those that says am lying, well it is up to you to believe but i need ur opinion. I seldom post since 2012 i registered officially here.

If u are not married, pls pray to whatever God that u serve to give u a woman that understand and respect u no matter the circumstances.

sorry op abeg who pay for d head? shey na she carry people mek dem cme marry u? her papa na soldier? well i cnt say anytin here na u give her d long rope in d 1st stage.

Aderola15:

Something killed the cat oooo

Yeskeh

Babes Mk sure u come o.

Martinez19:
I smell lies

Na you marry your wife or na she marry you?

b4 nko if woman say she no go marry u..will u force her? na woman dey marry man na....bt na man dey carry him family go kidnap d woman frm her family with permision.

montezz:

Babes Mk sure u come o.

are you going to respond to my pm?

DaintyJenny:


Hehehe... I didn't say you should beat o, mbok. A reset slap is enough. And that's for when she has really passed her boundaries.

redsceptic:


are you going to respond to my pm?

Can u pls resend?

montezz:

Can u pls resend?

Sure. Done

redsceptic:


Sure. Done

Ok

Try talkn 2 ha 1 on 1 n c if she wld listen
Also pray abt it. May God touch ha heart 2 change n c u tru. AMEN!!!

montezz:

Ok

Cool. Add me on whatsapp. I pm'd my number