ELShehzad:
lolz, OP birth date and time nah 31-01-2017 11:17pm

makydebbie:
My dear, I wish I could give a million likes

makydebbie:
I no fit laugh biko

ELShehzad:
De tin taya Me sef jare... Help OP wake up 4rm his slumber abeg... Ur sarcastic comments sometimes on relationship threads lyk diz always crack Me up

makydebbie:
op abeg you don chop bobo taya its time to rest

Thanks hun

'twas ma intention 2 check ur dp when I came accross ur "Diary", after readin' the first page, I was jes LOLin' 'coz the jokes U added 2 de diary are quite or really funny... I'on lyk readin', I culda read't 4rm Page 0-6. I jes jump'd after completin' page 0, to page 6 and read only the one U updated this morning.. 'ts quite interesting tho, always thought U're the "very strict" type(even tho U're) 'coz of de way U comment on threads here Straight. No smile, No frown.. buh ur Diary made Me think 'bouh U de other way round..

bukiboy:
We always judge people based on our understanding/misunderstanding. if we could stand in other people's shoe and imagine what goes on in their head we will have no choice than to approach people we've judged and apologies to them, care for them and continue to show love to them.

I have met different kind of people, with different mindset about life. Most common rational is for a girl avoid guys after a rape incident, but sometimes that's not the case. we all love sex, we all want people to desire us, we all want to be loved, we always appreciate to hear good comments about us from other people.

My point is we should not be quick to judge others. The girl need a good emotional support.

TrapQueen, TheSlyone2, makydebbie i think we should take about her state of mind rather than thinking she just want sex(we all love sex).

bukiboy:
We always judge people based on our understanding/misunderstanding. if we could stand in other people's shoe and imagine what goes on in their head we will have no choice than to approach people we've judged and apologies to them, care for them and continue to show love to them.

I have met different kind of people, with different mindset about life. Most common rational is for a girl avoid guys after a rape incident, but sometimes that's not the case. we all love sex, we all want people to desire us, we all want to be loved, we always appreciate to hear good comments about us from other people.

My point is we should not be quick to judge others. The girl need a good emotional support.

TrapQueen, TheSlyone2, makydebbie i think we should take about her state of mind rather than thinking she just want sex(we all love sex).

TheSlyone2:

Gentleman, I passed my judgment based on what he wrote. That's why I made reference to his write up.

Now to the issue. It like you didn't care to finish reading before taking a sweep at my comment. He said this lady claimed to have been raped once and have survived a series of rape incidence in recent times.

See am not after the rape. Rather, am concerned about her consenting to the act "Rape". If you have been raped once, it only normal to take precautionary measures so as to avert a recurrence of such case in the nearest future.

Her own case is exactly the opposite. She was a victim of rape, yet, she keeps paying random visit to all manners of guys... Does that speak well of her?

She may claim she's smart and can handle things. If she could, she wouldn't have fallen prey in the first place.

You know why I think your defense is superficial?

If this girl happens to be the type who learns from her past, your defense would have been justified. Like the saying goes "if you can't take the heat, get the hell out of the kitchen"

Again, you made a bizarre point that everyone love sex. How does this point relate with the recent discussion?

Does her love for sex justifies lying to her boyfriend about her sexual status?
Why can't she go about her search for sexuality with all sense of maturity? . I mean, you want sex, just don't make it seems you were rapped

Everyone love sex, yet we have people who are still virgins
Everyone love sex, yet we have people who after being rapped live a normal life without blaming all incidence of sexuality on their sexual assault.

Research have shown that 90% of rape victims end up sleeping with random guys... That's a fact.
Now, if she so much love sex, that isn't a problem in a any case. Blaming all her incidence of sexual activities on her sexual assault is lame.

TheSlyone2:



If this girl happens to be the type who learns from her past, your defense would have been justified. Like the saying goes "if you can't take the heat, get the hell out of the kitchen"



Research have shown that 90% of rape victims end up sleeping with random guys... That's a fact.
Now, if she so much love sex, that isn't a problem in a any case. Blaming all her incidence of sexual activities on her sexual assault is lame.

samstradam:


It's not by force you must give advice if you are confused and it is not a crime to not give advice.

Even your advice contradicts itself. Imagine saying a girl that was raped will not put herself in harm's way and will behave responsible yet you quote "statistics" that claim 90% of rape victims are promiscuous?

Anyway, in my own experience, those stats you pulled out echoes the truth about how some rape victims try and deal with their trauma and regain the "power" they feel they have lost.

OP, I say to you again, I do not believe she is lying to you but if you cannot live with the dangerous game she is playing, just leave her and move on.

samstradam:


It's not by force you must give advice if you are confused and it is not a crime to not give advice.

Even your advice contradicts itself. Imagine saying a girl that was raped will not put herself in harm's way and will behave responsible yet you quote "statistics" that claim 90% of rape victims are promiscuous?

Anyway, in my own experience, those stats you pulled out echoes the truth about how some rape victims try and deal with their trauma and regain the "power" they feel they have lost.

OP, I say to you again, I do not believe she is lying to you but if you cannot live with the dangerous game she is playing, just leave her and move on.

bukiboy:


bro i no dey fight you oooooo, my point is you don't know what she's going through

ELShehzad:
'twas ma intention 2 check ur dp when I came accross ur "Diary", after readin' the first page, I was jes LOLin' 'coz the jokes U added 2 de diary are quite or really funny... I'on lyk readin', I culda read't 4rm Page 0-6. I jes jump'd after completin' page 0, to page 6 and read only the one U updated this morning.. 'ts quite interesting tho, always thought U're the "very strict" type(even tho U're) 'coz of de way U comment on threads here Straight. No smile, No frown.. buh ur Diary made Me think 'bouh U de other way round..

TheSlyone2:

Gentleman, I passed my judgment based on what he wrote. That's why I made reference to his write up.

Now to the issue. It like you didn't care to finish reading before taking a sweep at my comment. He said this lady claimed to have been raped once and have survived a series of rape incidence in recent times.

See am not after the rape. Rather, am concerned about her consenting to the act "Rape". If you have been raped once, it only normal to take precautionary measures so as to avert a recurrence of such case in the nearest future.

Her own case is exactly the opposite. She was a victim of rape, yet, she keeps paying random visit to all manners of guys... Does that speak well of her?

She may claim she's smart and can handle things. If she could, she wouldn't have fallen prey in the first place.

You know why I think your defense is superficial?

If this girl happens to be the type who learns from her past, your defense would have been justified. Like the saying goes "if you can't take the heat, get the hell out of the kitchen"

Again, you made a bizarre point that everyone love sex. How does this point relate with the recent discussion?

Does her love for sex justifies lying to her boyfriend about her sexual status?
Why can't she go about her search for sexuality with all sense of maturity? . I mean, you want sex, just don't make it seems you were rapped

Everyone love sex, yet we have people who are still virgins
Everyone love sex, yet we have people who after being rapped live a normal life without blaming all incidence of sexuality on their sexual assault.

Research have shown that 90% of rape victims end up sleeping with random guys... That's a fact.
Now, if she so much love sex, that isn't a problem in a any case. Blaming all her incidence of sexual activities on her sexual assault is lame.

TheSlyone2:

You obviously are not getting the point dude.

Incase you find it difficult to understand what I put t up there, I'll summarize for clarity.

Regarding the statistics, regardless of how promiscuous rape victims could be after the said act, am totally not after her sex life. Rather, am after the intent behind the rape.

Before you call sexual assault a rape, you must first ask whether it was a consented act or not. It possible she wanted the sex and the only way to get it is to put herself in a position where guys will make irresistible attempts at her.

How she responds afterwards will tell much if she's a hypocrite or just a victim.

I hope this helps to broaden your understanding

makydebbie:
Bukiboy, I get your point and honestly, you have a point. Like my friend said here, you can't be raped once and almost raped twice and still be comfortable visiting guys. I'm talking from experience here. You'll be wary of visiting guys.


And all this "she was almost raped twice", I don't believe sha cos no be only her waka come

samstradam:


Bro, you cannot broaden my understanding of the matter; like I said I have been in the shoes of the OP more than once and these include ladies of different races and classes, yet they all exhibited this dangerous streak the OP's girl is showing.

My issue with the stuff you are writing is you keep insuating the girl is lying and in general you keep equating rape with sex when both are actually quite distinct.

Straight to the point the OPs girl reminds me too much of my own experiences- and one in particular that went as far as not only putting herself in dangerous situations repeatedly but actually engaging in consensual sex with her rapist !! (explaining this will involve another thread). Anyway, she and most other girls that were raped early, tend to be quite truthful and do not lie about these matters to the guy they have chosen to unburden themselves to.

So yeah I feel sympathy, but to the OP because I have been where he's been.

Anyway, I do agree with you that a lady who behaves like this does seem hypocritical, but aren't all ladies hypocrites to a certain extent

makydebbie:
Lol, thanks for the compliments. If you wanna know me, my dairy is the way. I'm not really strict tho'. Just some threads annoys me. It will shock you to know I'm a shy personality offline. Stop being a lazy ass and read from page 0-6 its a dare.

0-6 Kilode?? Okay, I'ld try when I feel lyk readin' sum'n.... Debbie's Diary

makydebbie:
My two cents.

Either she wasn't raped in the first place and she's boboing you, or she wants the rape.

TheSlyone2:

Love that line "no be only her waka come"

I need to read your diary, Dee

Apina:

Sleeping with random guys doesn't amount to being raped by random guys or d number of random guys....... Not in defense of the other fellow though, just saying

TheSlyone2:

In order not for this discussion to degenerate further, I want to quickly point out to you that there is nothing like consensual rape.

When it involves assault and abuse of fundamental human rights, it rape.

When it consensual, it planned and hence both parties are in agreement to that.

So directly or indirectly, your ex was enjoying consensual sex behind your back. Same goes with the OP.

makydebbie:
Feel free
You should have one too.

makydebbie:
Lol, thanks for the compliments. If you wanna know me, my dairy is the way. I'm not really strict tho'. Just some threads annoys me. It will shock you to know I'm a shy personality offline . Stop being a lazy ass and read from page 0-6 its a dare.

makydebbie:
A person who has been raped or was close to it, will never behave like that.

samstradam:

I think the OP was looking for people to give him true life advice and not to be telling him he has been decieved.

AyamConfidence:
I read your diary today too and I must confess I was entralled cos it was quite humorous...I was just laughing all through... Only Smellymouth and MrCork has had that effect on me here

About the bolded...ain't we all...NL is just the place to throw that shyness away and express ourselves as we see fit

I love your diary..keep it up