U be sr?

She confided in yyou, yet, here yyou are, broadcastin' it all for us to hear.. Wehdone, sir..

To be honest, I reserved this space so I can something to useful.

But after reading, I realized how spiritual you are that any logical argument/advise won't mean a thing, all I can say is good luck and I hope you find the answer that aligns with your believe system.

Ok

Let her go for deliverance so the curse hovering over her can be withdrawn... But posterity will still judge her

It's not everything you say, should have kept this to her self.

Hausa marry their cousin...
So The incest phenomena is a cultural thing and only of medical signifance because of possible Genetic disorder in resulting offsprings.

I see no big deal gaan sef, most especially if you're a Christian or Muslim.

Afterall according to the claims of all fictional religious holy books, humans multiplied via incest. Cain gonked his unrecorded sister going by the Christian faith.

We are the products of Cain gbhensing his sisters....

tosyne2much & Hahn àbí I lie

Acidosis:


Bro, you deserve to be worried, pained and confused. Don't allow any hypocrite make you feel like you're imhumane.

Whether it happened 1000 years ago, it doesn't matter. If these folks found out that their ex slept with a dog some 50 years ago, they would still find a way to show their dissatisfaction to the said ex.

If I were in your shoes, I would be devastated as well.. It doesn't matter whether she confessed or I discovered myself.. the knowledge of what happened is all it takes to get one pained, so don't feel stu p!d or heartless.

Now to the real issue, I think you're worried that the said relationship with her cousin might continue even after a proper wedding with you. Whether you like it or not, you would henceforth feel insecure to have that cousin close and alone with your woman. Nobody welcomes such, except of course, the online "e-doesn't matter" e-pocrites.

The big question is: do you love your woman? Yes, right? Love is one aspect, do you trust your woman? Note, anybody can love, but trust is expensive. You have to be sure you trust her 100%.

Having said that, it's time to get your mind off the relationship with her cousin. It would be difficult but you have to try.

If you discover however at any point that moving on would be difficult, gently back out! This is marriage, not a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. You will continue to meet her cousin, he will attend your wedding and probably offer you a handshake... Can you bear it?

Other days, he will stop by at your house when you're not around to say hi. Yes, it is true you now trust your wife, but do you trust the guy enough to share the same remorse with your wife? Has he repented and moved on?

My respect goes to your woman though. That's one hell of a secret 99.9% of her fellow will take to the grave. She has done her part... Now can you do yours? If your answer is yes, go ahead and marry her.

Bro you killed it. Nice advice. Ogbeni Op, marry your wife

bro, dnt worry abt d past, the important thing is the love u av for eachother

Majikals:
You are a lucky man finding such an honest spouse... She has confessed her errors before her maker and even you. Go ahead with your marriage with her cos she's a good woman. We have all made terrible errors at some point in life. Only a scarce few are bold enough to confess his /her deepest errors the way ur fiancee just did.
About the spiritual implications u are kinda worried about, if truly you are a Christian as u rightly said, I believe the Bible says he /she that confesses and believe is redeemed..You have nothing to fear

I wish she said it earlier... . Time has a way of helping one forget ills. This is one freaking month to the wedding. I would be visibly shaken

I wouldn't bore you with the usual "she is a nice lady to tell you the truth" bla bla bla and all.
True, she is a nice person to tell you but I would tackle this issue from your aspect, 80% of men can't stand remembering being aware of someone who had sexual contact with a woman they truly have feelings for let alone a lady that would be your wife soon.

Can you live with remembering this fact? If you are strong enough to delete that from your mind its ok, but if you can't please pause things, because the person she had this illicit affair with is not just a random guy but a cousin, her family member whom you would surely have to cross paths with one time or another.

So this boils down on you, if you belong to the few percent of men who delete such from their minds easily then you can go ahead with her, if your natural temperament is not suited for such then have a rethink.

Why go to far china.

Emir Sanusi's first wife is his first cousin and it's quite common among the hausa tribe. It's really no biggie.

Richy4:
Since you are into spiritual stuffs,let's visit the Bible a bit OP shall we?

Choose the correct answer and fill in the blank spaces.

Abraham married ___ [A. Sister, B. Brother, C. Cousin, D. Step sister]

Isaac Married____ [A. Brother, B. cousin, C. half sister, D. Mother]

If the son of God sets you free, you are free ____ [A. indeed, B. a little C. Half way, D. a bit]

Behold old things has passed away, every thing is___ [A. Old, B New, C. None of the above, D. All of the Above]

If you confess your sin, he is faithful and just to cleanse you from All unrighteousness including incest... [ True or False]

NOTE: All question carries equal marks.. you are advised to spend 2mins for each question

It shall be well with you my son.



Let me add: "forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us"

MIB1:
My fiancee confided in me two days ago that she had an incest relationship with her cousin yrs back. She said she told me cos she loves me and wouldn't want to hide anything from me. I love her too and still want to marry her but I am devastated by the news

She said she has fasted and asked God for forgiveness.

I have prayed on her behalf too severally,

I am supposed to come to Nigeria for our wedding next month . pls help nairalanders. I feel so pained . I need wise counsel .

If she has really, sincere and seriously repented, then 2 Corinthians 5: start from 14 till end.

I give this on the ground that she is born again.



Thank you.

MIB1:
My fiancee confided in me two days ago that she had an incest relationship with her cousin yrs back. She said she told me cos she loves me and wouldn't want to hide anything from me. I love her too and still want to marry her but I am devastated by the news

She said she has fasted and asked God for forgiveness.

I have prayed on her behalf too severally,

I am supposed to come to Nigeria for our wedding next month . pls help nairalanders. I feel so pained . I need wise counsel .

You both can go for delivance in a delivance church coupled with fasting because def the spiritual implication still stands,an alter had been built on that regard so it has to be broken.

Joavid:
This thread is a lesson. never do things you will regret or that will jeopardise your future.

I'm wondering though, why someone would sleep with their cousin.

Good question.

MIB1:
My fiancee confided in me two days ago that she had an incest relationship with her cousin yrs back. She said she told me cos she loves me and wouldn't want to hide anything from me. I love her too and still want to marry her but I am devastated by the news

She said she has fasted and asked God for forgiveness.

I have prayed on her behalf too severally,

I am supposed to come to Nigeria for our wedding next month . pls help nairalanders. I feel so pained . I need wise counsel .

You have a woman with conscience. Don't lose her.

Her mates confide in other people not the main man.

t111:


You both can go for delivance in a delivance church coupled with fasting because def the spiritual implication still stands,an alter had been built on that regard so it has to be broken.

You people and alter. Smh!

Joavid:
This thread is a lesson. never do things you will regret or that will jeopardise your future.

I'm wondering though, why someone would sleep with their cousin.

in some part of the north cousin marry cousin . Just doesn't happen down east

let bygone be gone.We are all a sinner and still have mercy on us..That us ur true wife. Dome girls in her shoes won't dare open up..Forget that spiritual thing.Abeg,let us know una marriage date/post the pinsure here biko

So dis is even an issue.... Is dis a cultural tin or religious tin cuz m very sure we muslims marry our cousins.... And in my dictionary incest shud be ur blood sister sharing both or either parents..

Whaattt!

you mean her cousin chooked her shuku shuku

This one pass me

Evaberry:



why will I be ashamed when he gave me the best Bleep in my life

MIB1:


My worry is that , this is incest

Dude Isaac Married his cousin
Abraham his sister

Get over the fact that they just had sex and it was even before y'all met. Oga gboju and move on. You should even let her know there is no curse involved

How old was she when she had the relationship? Was it a relationship or they just do it whenever they're left alone at home ? I know many guys that slept with their cousins at adolescent ages but for adults, that sounds more serious.

Old things has been washed away with the blood of lamb ..it happen when she had not realized herself and moreover she has no way offended you.. pains for what? what about the women you have bleep before you met her? She too need to be in pains because of your past.. Go ahead do your marriage, forget all the flimsy excuses....

The brain of black men.

Shebi the relationship ended years ago? So what's the issue now?

You people, always making an issue from nothing. SMH!

Don't be worried, she loves you, you love her and God has forgiven her so who are you not to? Telling you is a sign of remorse so MOVE ON