From the moment you decide that you want to have a future with that person it's not a matter of revealing all to every casual meet. Give that individual the option of making a choice as to weather they can live with your past or not. Springing surprises a few years down the line is not going to help a relationship. The relationship might survive but it might not be stable. If the spouse brings up your past as a way of trying to score points in an argument it's best to part ways. That person will never understand how your past moulded you. They have no empathy.

Raine80:
From the moment you decide that you want to have a future with that person it's not a matter of revealing all to every casual meet. Give that individual the option of making a choice as to weather they can live with your past or not. Springing surprises a few years down the line is not going to help a relationship. The relationship might survive but it might not be stable. If the spouse brings up your past as a way of trying to score points in an argument it's best to part ways. That person will never understand how your past moulded you. They have no empathy.

Nice one.

Benita27:
What will happen in a situation he never asked but heard from someone?. Don't forget some past could freak someone out.

So what if he hears but refused to ask u, then u have nothing to tell until he asks maybe he doesn't really give 2 fvcks abt d past tho..we all have a history of some sort,just try to make urs beautiful or not too ugly & even if its soo ugly then smash the head as soon as they start coming out with d undiluted truth

dairykidd:

So what if he hears but refused to ask u, then u have nothing to tell until he asks maybe he doesn't really give 2 fvcks abt d past tho...we all have a history of some sort,just try to make urs beautiful or not too ugly & even if its soo ugly then smash the head as soon as they start coming out with d undiluted truth

Humans react differently when subjected to a condition, this is just one.

Benita27:
Humans react differently when subjected to a condition, this is just one.

True that..thinking abt it now i wouldn't like being left in the dark abt my gf's past even if i don't want the gory details..but i blv no one would take it lightly having to find some really horrible things abt their spouse from a third party that's why i choose to hint anyone i am dating on things i have done that i ain't too proud of so in case she hears it from another source she would knw i told her so and so relating to wtv she heard and when she confronts me & prods further i just spill

SmellingAnus:
Let's say a year and six months into the relationship or when he has proposed... Sinaj.. I have a question for you... A girl that made a sex tape with her ex, will you advise her to tell her fiance? If you were the one in her shoes will you tell your fiance that you made some sex tapes with your ex?

CC: Sinaj (happy New year by the way

I will find a way to tell him even before he propose coz I don't av strength for drama or surprises.

BTW Happy new year to you Smelling anus

how all ur jolly go

BTW

dairykidd:

True that..thinking abt it now i wouldn't like being left in the dark abt my gf's past even if i don't want the gory details..but i blv no one would take it lightly having to find some really horrible things abt their spouse from a third party that's why i choose to hint anyone i am dating on things i have done that i ain't too proud of so in case she hears it from another source she would knw i told her so and so relating to wtv she heard and when she confronts me & prods further i just spill

Nice!.

I don't have a horrible past so there is nothing to tell

sinaj:
I will find a way to tell him even before he propose coz I don't av strength for drama or surprises.

BTW Happy new year to you Smelling anus

how all ur jolly go

BTW

I must confess, I love your reply... You are just my kind of woman in this regards.. I love openness and truthfulness no matter how bad the case is...

My Jolly no dey perfect but e dey go well ... Hopefully, I go get your contact details within the month of May then we fit probably see that month of which the last day of that month na my birthday or we see before this year end.. whichever way, whatever that is of value no need to rush am... Lol...

Don't tell. Wait till he hears it elsewhere

Castleberry:
Don't tell. Wait till he hears it elsewhere

You may not like his actions if he gets it from some other person.

Benita27:
Yeah!, people do have horrible past.

is yours that bad?

rosalieene:
I don't have a horrible past so there is nothing to tell

.....ssssshhhhhhhhhhhh

metallisc:




is yours that bad?

No!, anyone could handle mine.

Good morning!.

sinaj:
I will find a way to tell him even before he propose coz I don't av strength for drama or surprises.

BTW Happy new year to you Smelling anus

how all ur jolly go

BTW

Hi pwetie.. Hope u ain't exiling.. I think I'm missing u

Raine80:
From the moment you decide that you want to have a future with that person it's not a matter of revealing all to every casual meet. Give that individual the option of making a choice as to weather they can live with your past or not. Springing surprises a few years down the line is not going to help a relationship. The relationship might survive but it might not be stable. If the spouse brings up your past as a way of trying to score points in an argument it's best to part ways. That person will never understand how your past moulded you. They have no empathy.

You are on point

DONT DECEIVE YOURSELF,WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND,IF HE FINDS OUT HE MIGHT TERM YOU A CHEAT AND LIAR AND THAT COULD END YOUR MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP,TRUST ME

SmellingAnus:
I must confess, I love your reply... You are just my kind of woman in this regards.. I love openness and truthfulness no matter how bad the case is...

My Jolly no dey perfect but e dey go well ... Hopefully, I go get your contact details within the month of May then we fit probably see that month of which the last day of that month na my birthday or we see before this year end.. whichever way, whatever that is of value no need to rush am... Lol...

lol
No wahala!

Happy weekend

sinaj:
lol
No wahala!

Happy weekend

black beauty

sinaj:
lol
No wahala!

Happy weekend

same to you my special one... TGIF... ( it took time before you replied but i was never bothered because like i always say, whatever is of value is worth waiting for ) stay out of trouble this weekend

Some past issues are better left as secrets.

SmellingAnus:
same to you my special one... TGIF... ( it took time before you replied but i was never bothered because like i always say, whatever is of value is worth waiting for ) stay out of trouble this weekend

u too

transit4:


Hi pwetie.. Hope u ain't exiling.. I think I'm missing u

m not o!

Hope u good

Benita27:
For one to have a successful relationship i believe there shouldn't be concealment from both parties. But, some people are caught up in the right time to reveal horrible secrets and how such would be perceived and handled by their spouses. Others made the effort to be open, but ended up losing a "loved one", while before some could their spouses have deliberately become inquisitive and dug out some shocking past. Now, these have propelled me to ask...

When do you think is the right time to tell your gf/bf of your horrible past?.

The moment he ask you out and before you say yes. Let him/her knows what he/she is signing up fpr

It depends on the level. What is actually worth being deemed horrible? I guess it would be subjective.
Generally if as a man you have 6 baby mamas as a "wazzup guy" way back, you better tell her. She can decide.

If you damaged your womb doing numerous DIY abortions or using quacks, you better tell him too so that he can decide.

When you've done a lot of things in your past ...and present -

Who am I to judge my friend who shall remain nameless for being bisexual .

With all the things I do on a daily basis ...who am I to judge anyone I'm dating .

For me I have learnt not to ask about body count ... It won't put money in my account .

You don't go into marriage to change your partner's past ...you take them for what they are .

I think within the first 24 hours if you feel a tingling in your soul about someone you should let them know about the things they might not like .

I always say freaks should be with freaks .

If you can't deal do not enter the zone .

Always be honest upfront it will save you megabytes and wedding invitation money .

A woman can shock me but she can't surprise me ...

Seriously I really have a dark past nd in don't think I would tell my future hubby...it's so bad nd it would be impossible for him to find out

Benita27:
For one to have a successful relationship i believe there shouldn't be concealment from both parties. But, some people are caught up in the right time to reveal horrible secrets and how such would be perceived and handled by their spouses. Others made the effort to be open, but ended up losing a "loved one", while before some could their spouses have deliberately become inquisitive and dug out some shocking past. Now, these have propelled me to ask...

When do you think is the right time to tell your gf/bf of your horrible past?.

Timing is the most delicate thing in our existence.
Anything, actions or inactions can be deemed right, flawed or flawless depending on the timing.

Appropriate moment for anything, any issue will usually present itself. Before revealing such, events and moments will culminate in a peaceful nudge to accept whatever consequences of telling such 'horrible' pasts.

When one's spirit feels calm and one is open to the outcome of such revelation, that's very close to 'the best time'.

tobianthony:
When you've done a lot of things in your past ...and present -

Who am I to judge my friend who shall remain nameless for being bisexual .

With all the things I do on a daily basis ...who am I to judge anyone I'm dating .

For me I have learnt not to ask about body count ... It won't put money in my account .

You don't go into marriage to change your partner's past ...you take them for what they are.

I think within the first 24 hours if you feel a tingling in your soul about someone you should let them know about the things they might not like .

I always say freaks should be with freaks .

If you can't deal do not enter the zone .

Always be honest upfront it will save you megabytes and wedding invitation money .

A woman can shock me but she can't surprise me ...

@bolded Succinctly said.

mhizesther:
Seriously I really have a dark past nd in don't think I would tell my future hubby...it's so bad nd it would be impossible for him to find out

you never really can tell. The only thing that's is a secret is an acted u and u alone is a well of, once there is a second party is no longer a secret trust me.

Are you asking the question for yourself

before he propose to you

Benita27:
For one to have a successful relationship i believe there shouldn't be concealment from both parties. But, some people are caught up in the right time to reveal horrible secrets and how such would be perceived and handled by their spouses. Others made the effort to be open, but ended up losing a "loved one", while before some could their spouses have deliberately become inquisitive and dug out some shocking past. Now, these have propelled me to ask...

When do you think is the right time to tell your gf/bf of your horrible past?.

No need to stress about time
You will be asked
It wouldn't even be until our 5th conversation before everything is unearthed and that's a bye bye if can't deal no need to waste time, is there??