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insult all you want but the truth still remains that every one desires something no matter how vile and selfish others might view it as, it is in our nature as humans..@o.p the first question should be is the new girl willing to Marry you?,if yes I would advise u seek your wife's view on polygamy,sighting your grand father and father holds no water because more than half of Nigerians are from polygamous extended family, one of the ways you can do it is to make her very happy, make out a week just showing her love, u don't have to spend millions just do things like carrying her in your arms out of the bed, waking her up with a kiss,prepare a special dish for her etc then playfully ask her of her view of a man taking another wife, if negative,justify the case calmly,to have a successful polygamous home u have to have your first wife's back, if positive wait for some days before you quietly tell her,also u have to think of a good reason, under no condition should u tell her you need "fresh blood",that is the quickest way to lose a woman because she will feel so pained and would be eager to be desired by any man, she will become so weak and susceptible to any man who comes her way telling her she is beautiful, note :if she gets angry, shouts, kick etc don't retaliate or shout back, allow her to be angry till she gets over it, it is 100% normal to be angry,be mature about it, best of luck

sgtponzihater:
I grew in a polygamist family and my wife is aware. I am tired of straffing the same lady everyday and need a new perspective. I have been nuturing a gal since in University and she will soon round up. I luv my wife and my kid so much and would want to hurt her.

Pls I do I inform my wife that I want to begin the rites to marry a second wife without her getting angry.

Pls polygamist should advice me and critics should pls avoid me.

Thanks.

Sgt Ponzi Hater.

Simple na...just call her, bring up MMM topic, explain to her how MMM claimed she loved her partispants and still froze them and now wants new partispants. Tell her is a normal way of life, that u love her but u want a new wife. No be say will forget her, just that u will freeze her mavro for now but later u go release am if she would Provide help to your getting the new wife.

HARDDON:
Op, whatever you decide to do is your ish.

But might i techically throw a few ponder points?

1. Do you know that 2 is a company , 3 is a crowd?

2. Do u know that your life cant ever be same again if u marry a secnd? The bond btw u n ur 1st wud litrarily be shattered to acomodate another

3. Do you know that this fresh wine that is shacking u, wud soon turn stale n u wud naturally go in search of another fresh one soon?
The is like a program loop..once deployed, it neva ends.

4. Do u know that if any of them is troublesome, your life span wud be cut short drastically?

5. R u financially viable to give the best to ur kids or u just wano bring them on here to suffer?
A d1ck that is matured enuf to fvck more varieties, must be ready enuf to weep more wetness


6. Do u know that even if first wify agrees, she might become depressed , withdraw? Hate u?

If you can ansa all these Qs without breaking a pulse, then i can assure you, u already know what to tell ha

Best effin' reply.. Just sayin'

Antina:
"I am tired of straffing the same lady everyday and need a new perspective". ...reason i said he is selfish.

He is not getting a second wife cos she has bad attitudes. I repeat, some men and selfishness is 5 & 6.

this life has been complicated because people live their lives and that of others. Dude should be proud of himself for figuring out his problem and finding a way out of it and not hide the fact and let it eat him up. Some men will go out keeping girlfriends and that costs more money so it's better to bring them home and carry the cross from home. In the event he gets tired of the second let him marry the third and so on. Experience they say is the best teacher so he will realize why people marry just one wife and some not marrying at all.


You got only but one life so please enjoy it to the fullest

jmichlins:
this life has been complicated because people live their lives and that of others. Dude should be proud of himself for figuring out his problem and finding a way out of it and not hide the fact and let it eat him up. Some men will go out keeping girlfriends and that costs more money so it's better to bring them home and carry the cross from home. In the event he gets tired of the second let him marry the third and so on. Experience they say is the best teacher so he will realize why people marry just one wife and some not marrying at all.


You got only but one life so please enjoy it to the fullest

You are right bro.

I am putting on hold my plans for now. I told my wife about my plans and she destroyed my laptop and tablet. So I wouldn't want anyone to make my life miserable. Today is the first day of my new job and I left without breakfast. Women can be unnecessarily selfish and ungrateful.

sgtponzihater:
I am putting on hold my plans for now. I told my wife about my plans and she destroyed my laptop and tablet. So I wouldn't want anyone to make my life miserable. Today is the first day of my new job and I left without breakfast. Women can be unnecessarily selfish and ungrateful.

You are very stupid. If that woman had helped you even if she picked you out of the gutter and made you the president of USA, should that justify her desire to seek fresh bigger jolojolo just because? Then when you react negatively, she calls you selfish and ungrateful?
You are verrrry stupid for making that statement.

delishpot:
You are very stupid. If that woman had helped you even if she picked you out of the gutter and made you the president of USA, should that justify her desire to seek fresh bigger jolojolo just because? Then when you react negatively, she calls you selfish and ungrateful?
You are verrrry stupid for making that statement.

Ur insult shows how guilty u guys are. Imagine funding someone thru her last stage of school and even being beneficial in securing a job for someone. All of a sudden the same person is breaking ur system and destroying ur tablet on d first day of ur new job. Ladies are heartless and ungrateful.

Lalasticlala.....

sgtponzihater:
I am putting on hold my plans for now. I told my wife about my plans and she destroyed my laptop and tablet. So I wouldn't want anyone to make my life miserable. Today is the first day of my new job and I left without breakfast. Women can be unnecessarily selfish and ungrateful.

Unnecessarily selfish and ungrateful you say! this is the height of wickedness and hypocrisy.
Were you expecting a path on the back for telling her you want to take in another wife?? Oh! You expected her to clap for you, smile and tell you it's ok bcz u saw her through school and for that she shouldn't get angry..

You must be a very stupid and wicked man for not considering the emotional pain you are putting her through.. All you care about is your self selfish and idiotic being like you..

sgtponzihater:
No one has asked me how to do this without offending my wife. Just scolding me

Dude you can't shine shit...no matter how you tell her, she is not going to be happy or offended.

All you can do is to find a way to soften it. Break the news to her in pieces.

Don't go straight and tell her that, you have found a second wife and you want to marry her. First tell her something in the line of...."I don't know what is wrong with me these days, I keep thinking of get a second wife to increase the wife, provide companion for you....." throw any none sense in there on how she might benefit. Better you say this after taking her for a romantic dinner or buying her that one in lifetime gift. Show her you still love her and that, she is not the reason you are doing this.

Allow that to sink for one or two weeks before moving to the next stage about "you finding a second wife".

Allow that stage to sink in, then move to the stage of "I have found someone and I think you are going to like her".

If all these are too much, just cut the crap and tell her straight and deal with the repercussions in once.

linearity:
Dude you can't shine shit...no matter how you tell her, she is not going to be happy or offended.

All you can do is to find a way to soften it. Break the news to her in pieces.

Don't go straight and tell her that, you have found a second wife and you want to marry her. First tell her something in the line of...."I don't know what is wrong with me these days, I keep thinking of get a second wife to increase the wife, provide companion for you....." throw any none sense in there on how she might benefit. Better you say this after taking her for a romantic dinner or buying her that one in lifetime gift. Show her you still love her and that, she is not the reason you are doing this.

Allow that to sink for one or two weeks before moving to the next stage about "you finding a second wife".

Allow that stage to sink in, then move to the stage of "I have found someone and I think you are going to like her".

If all these are too much, just cut the crap and tell her straight and deal with the repercussions in once.

Nice

AmazingElla:
Unnecessarily selfish and ungrateful you say! this is the height of wickedness and hypocrisy.
Were you expecting a path on the back for telling her you want to take in another wife?? Oh! You expected her to clap for you, smile and tell you it's ok bcz u saw her through school and for that she shouldn't get angry..

You must be a very stupid and wicked man for not considering the emotional pain you are putting her through.. All you care about is your self selfish and idiotic being like you..

Did I say I am divorcing? Why can't u reason intelligently. I just want to be of help to a younger lady without being a cheat. And u are spewing thrash.

I DONT BLAME YOU,I BLAME YOUR IGNORANT WIFE, IF YOU MARRY A MUSLIM WHO HAS A PATERNAL HISTORY OF POLYGAMY, IT MEANS YOU HAVE ACCEPTED THE.FACT THAT HE IS GOING TO TAKE ANOTHER WIFE AFTER YOU,I CANT SCOLD YOU FOR CARRYING OUT YOUR RIGHTS IN THE CONSTRAINS OF YOUR RELIGION, BUT IF ANYTHING, TAKE TO HEART THE ECONOMIC CONDITION OF NIGERIA,THE POSSIBILITY OF HATRED BETWEEN WIFE AND CHILD NEGLECT WHICH IS VERY COMMON IN YOUR RELIGION.

Sit your wife down and talk to her about it. See her response and reaction....if she's okay with it, fine, if she's not, try and convince her until she says yes. If she's still adamant, then do what you want to do without her permission, if you want it badly.

sgtponzihater:
I grew in a polygamist family and my wife is aware. I am tired of straffing the same lady everyday and need a new perspective. I have been nuturing a gal since in University and she will soon round up. I luv my wife and my kid so much and would want to hurt her.

Pls I do I inform my wife that I want to begin the rites to marry a second wife without her getting angry.

Pls polygamist should advice me and critics should pls avoid me.

Thanks.

Sgt Ponzi Hater.

fuckboys:
i don't understand you , you're a Muslim and I'm sure your father married more than one wife. What's the biggie here now, so your father too was selfish shey?

If you check the person behind this moniker very well, you will see that he is from the tribe that wakes their parents with leg.

We all know ur parents no be anything for una eye.

Oponu!

linearity:
Dude you can't shine shit...no matter how you tell her, she is not going to be happy or offended.

All you can do is to find a way to soften it. Break the news to her in pieces.

Don't go straight and tell her that, you have found a second wife and you want to marry her. First tell her something in the line of...."I don't know what is wrong with me these days, I keep thinking of get a second wife to increase the wife, provide companion for you....." throw any none sense in there on how she might benefit. Better you say this after taking her for a romantic dinner or buying her that one in lifetime gift. Show her you still love her and that, she is not the reason you are doing this.

Allow that to sink for one or two weeks before moving to the next stage about "you finding a second wife".

Allow that stage to sink in, then move to the stage of "I have found someone and I think you are going to like her".

If all these are too much, just cut the crap and tell her straight and deal with the repercussions in once.

As if the woman has fish brain, abi??.

sgtponzihater:
Nice

Only if ur wife has a miniature brain. Nice kor

jmichlins:
this life has been complicated because people live their lives and that of others. Dude should be proud of himself for figuring out his problem and finding a way out of it and not hide the fact and let it eat him up. Some men will go out keeping girlfriends and that costs more money so it's better to bring them home and carry the cross from home. In the event he gets tired of the second let him marry the third and so on. Experience they say is the best teacher so he will realize why people marry just one wife and some not marrying at all.


You got only but one life so please enjoy it to the fullest

How will he feel if the wife is caught cheating and when asked, she says because she is tired of straffing same d**k everytime.

sgtponzihater:
About 28yrs. Didn't discuss with her but she is aware my grandparents and parents were polygamous

my guy with my experience this is the best way to tell her. Come into the kitchen when she is in the kitchen cooking, first compliment her then tell her. This is how she will most likely take it, she will first look at you in shock then carry a frying pan and hit your head causing you to black out during the time which she will amputate your dick or if she is nice put a chastity padlock on the dick, when you wake up it will either be in the hospital or in that same kitchen with instructions on how to pee with your dick. She would also give you her blessings to go and marry another wife keeping in mind that you will never shine her congo because only she has the key to your dick. That my brother is way better than waiting for thunder to strike you with stroke for nursing such a thought. Mumu. 419

Edemaya:
As if the woman has fish brain, abi??.

No bi so oh, na to provide soft landing...at least if he first tell her that..."it appear something is wrong with him these days, he does know why the thought of marrying a second wife keep coming to his mind"

The wife go think say, maybe something is wrong with her husband or maybe something is not wrong, so that split will not make her take drastic actions as she would done, had she been contending with the straight fact that her husband is infact taking a new wife.

That split will also start preparing her for that possibility as she prays and wish against it...so when the final news breaks that her husband has taken a new wife, the fallout will not be that drastic as her mind has thought about that possibility and had slept over the outcome.

linearity:
No bi so oh, na to provide soft landing...at least if he first tell her that..."it appear something is wrong with him these days, he does know why the thought of marrying a second wife keep coming to his mind"

The wife go think say, maybe something is wrong with her husband or maybe something is not wrong, so that split will not make her take drastic actions as she would done, had she been contending with the straight fact that her husband is infact taking a new wife.

That split will also start preparing her for that possibility as she prays and wish against it...so when the final news breaks that her husband has taken a new wife, the fallout will not be that drastic as her mind has thought about that possibility and had slept over the outcome.

I can't even go ahead now. My wife is too aggressive and is now keeping malice with me despite the fact that my system was broken into pieces and I just saved d hard disk. She could even tell me welcome or how my new work place is or even give me anything to eat. I want to tell her I was joking and wanted to see her reaction so as to make peace. It's is obvious she'll kill my baby gal if I marry her.

linearity:
No bi so oh, na to provide soft landing...at least if he first tell her that..."it appear something is wrong with him these days, he does know why the thought of marrying a second wife keep coming to his mind"

The wife go think say, maybe something is wrong with her husband or maybe something is not wrong, so that split will not make her take drastic actions as she would done, had she been contending with the straight fact that her husband is infact taking a new wife.

That split will also start preparing her for that possibility as she prays and wish against it...so when the final news breaks that her husband has taken a new wife, the fallout will not be that drastic as her mind has thought about that possibility and had slept over the outcome.

All in all, either soft landing or hard landing, his decision may resort to hatred, deceit, unfaithfulness, lies and so on in his household, it can never be same again. Hope he is ready for troubles without beginning!! Only because of his selfishness.

Instead of him to be thinking how to take care of his children very well, he is thinking about straffing, we know their types. I'm sure if you are opportuned to see the wife herself, she will have enough to say, God knows, he may be the type that doesn't satisfy the wife (financially) at home.

Mind you, don't go too far because you are also going to advice him for another "soft landing" when he is tired of her "same straffing" finding another fresh blood again.

There are many of them like that, at the end, they give birth to nuisance because they can't cater for the many children they have.

Your advice is good, but u didn't ask him how he has been catering for the one at home, make sure u ask for his account number too "u know what I mean"

delishpot:
You are very stupid. If that woman had helped you even if she picked you out of the gutter and made you the president of USA, should that justify her desire to seek fresh bigger jolojolo just because? Then when you react negatively, she calls you selfish and ungrateful?
You are verrrry stupid for making that statement.

The man is not serious, I think he is just trolling!!

sgtponzihater:
I can't even go ahead now. My wife is too aggressive and is now keeping malice with me despite the fact that my system was broken into pieces and I just saved d hard disk. She could even tell me welcome or how my new work place is or even give me anything to eat. I want to tell her I was joking and wanted to see her reaction so as to make peace. It's is obvious she'll kill my baby gal if I marry her.

Idiot, if it was her who saw you through school and then decides to straff new d.ck would you welcome her with champaign when she returns home? She now knows you are unfaithful so why should she feed you fat knowing full well that you are tired of her?

Edemaya:
If you check the person behind this moniker very well, you will see that he is from the tribe that wakes their parents with leg.

We all know ur parents no be anything for una eye.

Oponu!

That is the exact reason I didn't quote him again!!!

Delphi:
If I may guess well, you are a sergeant in the Nigerian Army/Police. Postulating further, you are in the rank&file cadre not officers' cadre! Even if you are none of these, you are not far from that level. Again, from your write-up, because you are from a polygamous family, you must go polygamous irrespective of the prevailing situations and circumstances around you. This is so disappointing! Mr sgt, your interest is just to get another wife (wives) to satisfy your orgies without contemplating whether you can adequately cater for them and the children that will follow - giving them the best education and training. Actually, considering the economic situation of the country now, I doubt if this can be possible. Did it not occur to you that the large (polygamous) family you came from deprived you and your siblings of certain standard of living - training/exposure/wherewithal? Why do you want to delve into such again and thus recycle poverty/low-life in your generation. You supposed to have been wiser by now. You have to discipline your self and sacrifice certain privileges/pleasures as to ensure a better future for your (unborn) children and generation. Truly, that's the way a wise and determined father goes. Changing sex partners is just vanity, an ephemeral ecstasy with subsequent self-reproach. Good luck!

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Edemaya:
All in all, either soft landing or hard landing, his decision may resort to hatred, deceit, unfaithfulness, lies and so on in his household, it can never be same again. Hope he is ready for troubles without beginning!! Only because of his selfishness.

Instead of him to be thinking how to take care of his children very well, he is thinking about straffing, we know their types. I'm sure if you are opportuned to see the wife herself, she will have enough to say, God knows, he may be the type that doesn't satisfy the wife (financially) at home.

Mind you, don't go too far because you are also going to advice him for another "soft landing" when he is tired of her "same straffing" finding another fresh blood again.

There are many of them like that, at the end, they give birth to nuisance because they can't cater for the many children they have.

Your advice is good, but u didn't ask him how he has been catering for the one at home, make sure u ask for his account number too "u know what I mean"

You think a mere Sgt can be as articulate as I am?