hello everyone. am dating a lady who we are neigbours. but there is a big problem that i need your advice.

first, her step-brother had carnal knowledge of my 13yrs old sibling.

after some time, as if it was not enough, her younger brother also had sexx with the same 13yrs old sibling of mine. they were doing all this in retaliatiation.

my mum and my grandmothe like this lady am dating and wants me to marry her.

recently, my grandmother visited d parents of this lady am dating. she told them of her desire, nd they welcom the idea.

when my grandmother return, she sat me down, told me dat she want me 2 marry d lady. i told her am not ready for marriage, beside dat, am still dependant. she told me dat my dad is there to support, that both my mum and my dad are only waiting for my approval. all effort to get me in was negative.
my problm now is, i want to quit the relationship, i can't marry a lady whose brothers had sexx with my 13yrs old sibling just to retalite.
hw do i tell her ??

how old are the brothers? (both step and elevator )
let's start from here

Epositive:
how old are the brothers? (both step and elevator )

let's start from here

they 20+ nd 17 respectively

be honest with them.speak up tell them whot happend.

smartanthony5:
be honest with them.speak up tell them whot happend.

everxbody both in my family nd her own ar aware of everytin. they want me to forgive nd forget. bt am nt d type to forget its part of me.

Fmartin:
they 20+ nd 17 respectively

which means they can be called adults.....

how did you find out ? i mean did ur sibling tell you about it?

don't mind questions o , i just want to clarify somethings before i conclude

Retaliation for what?
For having sex with their sister too?
How old are you?
What nonsense is that sef?
Is your sibling stupid?
Was she raped?
Are the boys mad?
Are you okay yourself?
So you can't handle a 20yrs old boy yourself?
How old are you again sef?

13yrs having sex! my God when I was that age I nor even know wetin be 'S' talkless of 'EX'

that's by the way side

your gf did not commit the offense her relations did, you can't hold her guilty for something she had no control over.
I understand your need to protect your younger sister, and you feel you're responsible for her ordeal But if you wanna break up with your girlfriend FINE people break up every day for no reason at all so you wouldn't be the first.

Fmartin:
everxbody both in my family nd her own ar aware of everytin. they want me to forgive nd forget. bt am nt d type to forget its part of me.

Forget the girl and move on with your life then

Epositive:


which means they can be called adults.....


how did you find out ? i mean did ur sibling tell you about it?


don't mind questions o , i just want to clarify somethings before i conclude

u knw, our houses ar close, so we use to mingle lyk its one house. d lady am dating told me dat somebody told her abt it bt she dnt believe it to b true. i told my dad, he beat my little sister nd she confessed.

SuperSuave:
Retaliation for what?
For having sex with their sister too?
How old are you?
What nonsense is that sef?
Is your sibling stupid?
Was she raped?
Are the boys mad?
Are you okay yourself?
So you can't handle a 20yrs old boy yourself?
How old are you again sef?

bro my dad refure to take the matter far bcoz he said he wont waste his tym instead, he took my sibling back to d village to her mother.

This ur sister sef na gotv or free to air?

SuperSuave:
Forget the girl and move on with your life then

ok.

Doctorfitz:
This ur sister sef na gotv or free to air?

adolescents who ar nt under a motherly watch wil do anytin jus to ease their upcoming urge fr coitus.

Leave

Fmartin:
bro my dad refure to take the matter far bcoz he said he wont waste his tym instead, he took my sibling back to d village to her mother.

If you can't live with the memory of the sex then you better move on cos you'll still see those guys often if you marry their sister which will inconvenience you, aggreviate you and possibly sometimes make you transfer the aggression towards the girl.
Use your head bro, don't let people's opinion influence your decision. They won't bear the consequences with you.

SuperSuave:
If you can't live with the memory of the sex then you better move on cos you'll still see those guys often if you marry their sister which will inconvenience you, aggreviate you and possibly sometimes make you transfer the aggression towards the girl.
Use your head bro, don't let people's opinion influence your decision. They won't bear the consequences with you.

actually! thanks dude

Fmartin:
u knw, our houses ar close, so we use to mingle lyk its one house. d lady am dating told me dat somebody told her abt it bt she dnt believe it to b true. i told my dad, he beat my little sister nd she confessed.

everyone knows about it and no action was taken ~ that's weird

you knew ur girlfriend is their sister before you approached her, didn't you? so why the break up palava? ~ that's indecisive

there's nothing wrong in loving your sister, but not protecting her or fighting for her cause when needed is bad..Now trading your love for that sake ~ that's immaturity at its peak

a word is enough...

The world is turning upside down, what does a 13 years old girl know about sex. And for the guy who had sex with her, what retaliation are they talking about? Is it for u having sex with their sister or what? I need u op to answer the questions before knowing what to say

u never talk true . retaliate over what?How old is ur sister that spread her legs for those 2 goats to eat her cassava and runs?How do u know that they had six with ur sis?

Oma307:
The world is turning upside down, what does a 13 years old girl know about sex. And for the guy who had sex with her, what retaliation are they talking about? Is it for u having sex with their sister or what? I need u op to answer the questions before knowing what to say

dat am dating their sister

ipobarecriminals:
u never talk true . retaliate over what?How old is ur sister that spread her legs for those 2 goats to eat her cassava and runs?How do u know that they had six with ur sis?

it seems u ar nt even following th thread..

ipobarecriminals:
u never talk true . retaliate over what?How old is ur sister that spread her legs for those 2 goats to eat her cassava and runs?How do u know that they had six with ur sis?

Oboy go back and read from d beginning....u just dey make me vex

Fmartin:
everxbody both in my family nd her own ar aware of everytin. they want me to forgive nd forget. bt am nt d type to forget its part of me.

i would advice u to make ur choice ur self, dnt allow anybody to tel u who to marry. U know whot u want more than them.

smartanthony5:

i would advice u to make ur choice ur self, dnt allow anybody to tel u who to marry. U know whot u want more than them.

thanks dude.

Fmartin:
hello everyone. am dating a lady who we are neigbours. but there is a big problem that i need your advice.

first, her step-brother had carnal knowledge of my 13yrs old sibling.

after some time, as if it was not enough, her younger brother also had sexx with the same 13yrs old sibling of mine. they were doing all this in retaliatiation.

my mum and my grandmothe like this lady am dating and wants me to marry her.

recently, my grandmother visited d parents of this lady am dating. she told them of her desire, nd they welcom the idea.

when my grandmother return, she sat me down, told me dat she want me 2 marry d lady. i told her am not ready for marriage, beside dat, am still dependant. she told me dat my dad is there to support, that both my mum and my dad are only waiting for my approval. all effort to get me in was negative.
my problm now is, i want to quit the relationship, i can't marry a lady whose brothers had sexx with my 13yrs old sibling just to retalite.
hw do i tell her ??

I do not get you . Was it statutory rape? If so Was it reported to any authorities? .


Best thing about your post is that the answer is there. You are not ready , you want to be independent first before committing which makes perfect sense coz no real woman will be comfortable marrying a men who's waiting for handouts from daddy coz eventually the relationship will be ran by daddy not the two of you . Don't be selfish to her and yourself find your place in the world and invite her to it and see if she likes it not your daddy's world coz when he dies your relationship will die.

Were they aware that you are having sex with their sister because it is possible to dating and sex not involved

Fmartin:
dat am dating their sister

Oma307:
Were they aware that you are having sex with their sister because it is possible to dating and sex not involved

that i dnt knw

Fmartin:
thanks dude.

u are welcome