Op, you've ended demonizing your inlaws on the cyberspace.
Your marriage will never remain the same again ever and I hope your wife or an in law sees this so they can leave you for good.
Look at strangers calling your second family unprintable names on the Internet. If your wife happens to be my sister I will haul her out of your grip faster than lightinng.

The dangers of a single story is really innumerable.

Don't come to naira land looking for advice because all boys giving u advice here are neither in a relationship, or are not even married. And remember there are 2 sides of a story. As you have said yours which sounds very superficial, and I don't believe you are saying the whole truth, am sure there is something you must have done for this woman to disregard you and want to leave you potentially, so be honest here.

Marriage is very important and you need to reason with your head not your ego. If you were ready for this marriage in the first place you should have been responsible enough not to impregnate a girl before marrying her, you erred in that aspect, now you are a baby daddy and a baby daddy has no respect in the eyes of any family. If you divorce her then you become a single father and it will be hard for you to raise that child alone without a woman. If you even marry another woman, you run the risk of that child being abused by the second wife, and the child will grow up hating you for life.

Listen children will always gravitate to their mother and not towards their father, he will blame you when he grows up for chasing her mother away and may even kill you one day out of anger.
You are the head of this family, you need to grow up and man up. Stop acting like a child. Just because she came back late doesn't give u any right to shout at her, hence her leaving the house and causing you public shame. She may not like you that much either. So if you value your happiness you need to act like a leader, play it down , humble yourself , apologise and have a real heart to heart discussion with her, communication is the key.
Women can be very easy to please if you tell them what they want to hear.
If you let ego come in your way, believe me she will go and marry another man soon, am sure there is someone that satisfies her that much. So put you acts together and prove to her that you are the one.

waywardpikin:
The first thing I can deduce from this story (if true) is that you married from a very wrong family. There are many families like this in obodo lagos, where there is an absence of a strong & rational male figure as the head of the home (yeah I know, he's late). Families like this have little or no regard for marriage, which explains the reason why the mum is solidly behind her. This explains why the arrangements for your traditional marriage were so shoddy. The money probably went into more important things like Aso ebi, ankara, jewelry and other n.gbati n.gbati. No be today something.

I have no advice for you; most likely you saw the signs but decided that 'true love conquers all.' Thus, I'd like to use your story as a good opportunity to advice people out there (men and women alike) to critically observe the family of the person you intend to marry before taking that crucial life-altering step. In most cases, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

Xoxo,

Wayward Pikin.

I bow to ur wisdom

imam07:
Abeg what concerning anybody with the amount he gave to them. We are talking about an attitude here. Something that is most important than money or bag of rice
Wedding will go nah marriage will remain. Is it not the wife that supposed to cover and support her husband interest before her family members.

Not in this case. He insinuated that her family ripped him off of the money he sent to them. What if that's not the case. What if this guy is accusing them wrongly? How was his reaction on the D day? How disrespectful was he to the family?
Let him state categorically how much in cash he sent to them for the decor and condiment let's know if really they ripped him off? I wouldn't blame the wife for staying back honestly because obviously there is something the op isn't telling us.
He would've opt for divorce or annulment instead of coming to nairaland if his hands are clean but rather he is looking for someone to validate his conscious.
Op, what did you do to her and if you didn't do anything to her how come she left her child who is barely two years old with you.

waywardpikin:
The first thing I can deduce from this story (if true) is that you married from a very wrong family. There are many families like this in obodo lagos, where there is an absence of a strong & rational male figure as the head of the home (yeah I know, he's late). Families like this have little or no regard for marriage, which explains the reason why the mum is solidly behind her. This explains why the arrangements for your traditional marriage were so shoddy. The money probably went into more important things like Aso ebi, ankara, jewelry and other n.gbati n.gbati. No be today something.

I have no advice for you; most likely you saw the signs but decided that 'true love conquers all.' Thus, I'd like to use your story as a good opportunity to advice people out there (men and women alike) to critically observe the family of the person you intend to marry before taking that crucial life-altering step. In most cases, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

Xoxo,

Wayward Pikin.

waywardpikin, may you reign long in the land of wisdom. I have benefitted immensely from your contribution to this thread. I keep saying that before one marries, he or she should look into the family he is marrying into. IT MATTERS A LOT!

Fifthcolumnist:
If your story is complete and true then your wife is entirely to blame. Although, I think fuming at her to save face was unnecessary and poorly managed. You know women are proud beings and hate being attacked even when they are wrong.

But, you can't risk loosing your marriage for the sake of pride and "saving face". Infact, if your marriage breaks down after just one week together, you'll have no face at all how much more one to save. You have to loosen up, swallow your high standards, and play the fool for the sake of your marriage before things get out of hand. Apologise to her and her family telling them, the stress of the whole event got to you and you're sorry you managed the situation poorly. Do this in the interest of peace and forget about rightness or wrong. After all, it's your marriage to keep, not theirs' or anyone else's.

I will take the opposite view from the above comment.

Any relationship built on mistrust and deceit will eventually fall apart.

There is no point forcing it, I always tell people, no matter what you do, you can't shine sh1t.

Your Inlaw and most likely conniving with your wife, stole and misappropriated funds earmarked for your wedding. Your wife, instead of standing by your side, ran to be with her mom and you think this is going to change by making peace?

You should thank your stars, that you saw their real colors this early. Agreed, it is not good to raise one's child by a single parent, but it is better than raising them in a broken home.

It is what it is, swallowed your pride and call it what it is, it is a failed marriage, you are not alone, their are other 50% company out there, so you should not be ashamed of it.

Cut her loose and let her go.

@ op, just two questions.
Haven married her, do you still firmly believe she is the woman you wanna spend the rest of your life with?
Will she be loyal, submissive, honest and humble.

Will she build your home spiritually?

And lastly, what happened between her parents that lead to the death of her father? Like someone said, an Apple fruit does not fall far from the tree.

If you don't take time, she might send you to an early grave and well I will say God forbid to that, but it's a real cold fact.

If she wasn't actually cut from the same cloth as her mum, she should be fighting her mum for spoiling her day for her and not the other way round.

Please before you make further decision, ensure you conduct DNA test for your child. She can't be gone for days and not offer cogent and compelling evidence. Abi she go do send off for one person?
I am speaking from what I have experienced as a professional in my line of business and as a married man.

Generally, women celebrate marriage more the men at least for the first few months. Some also become emotionally attached towards her family after the big day but not in this case that she lived with you for 2years before marriage.

Should you make peace move , she will never be apologetic for Any reason in future and believe me she and her mother will rule your home without you having a say. I believe you don't want that.

Now my advice. Stand your ground, inform your parents, seek their advice and demand your bride price back . Send a message to her kins men cos her mother does not have a say in this.

If she is still not remorseful, bros collect your bride price back and bounce. Never deny her access to the child and never spoil her before the child . Your son understands much more than you think.

I know you are in love and just want a whole family, I know that feeling. But stand your ground as the man of the family. Hope you do provide for your family to the best of your ability?

If she is not ready to stay and fight for her marriage , believe me bro, she will never be ready.

You can only chew for a child, but you can't swallow for the child. You can only love her enough to beg her to stay in the marriage, but for how long will you beg her to be a friend, and /or take up the responsibility of a wife.

If she runs off to her mother any time you scold her , for how long will you continue to beg her and make peace.

Give it time, let nature teach her some lessons . Never stop loving her, and don't go for an all over divorce, start by asking that your pride price be returned and see the reaction of her kins men.

Wedding is overrated

MasterRahl:
waywardpikin, may you reign long in the land of wisdom. I have benefitted immensely from your contribution to this thread. I keep saying that before one marries, he or she should look into the family he is marrying into. IT MATTERS A LOT!

As an addition, also study your partner. Cos she ladies don't take after their mother especially when they have come to realise how bad their mother treated their father.
Some ladies from broken homes where their mother was a tiger , keep their mum away from her family and she will be determined to make her family work.
They often make the best wife.
While others see their mother as the victim and takes after her . It all depends on the lady in question.

Op, did you call her when she did not return? My opinion is that you two don't communicate hence you expect A she is doing B, she expects to B, you doing A. Lack of friendship and communication destroys any union not only marriage. So, please both of you should be more open and communicate better

Don't b quick to make any decision, give urself time, maybe she might b influence by her mother.

Freiden:


You are a bastard. No doubts about that

u mean ur fada is dead or that ur moda was raped. Which 1 of those make u a bastard?

Only kids beg women into marriage.

BuariCopyPaste:



No sings really....We have actually lived for two years before officially getting married

no wonder

BuariCopyPaste:
Dear members...i am of the type that says NO to bringing marital shortcomings to the social media but I just realized why others do so.
I formerly got married on Tuesday 18th April but we are already headed for a bitter divorce.

To cut the story short, the whole issue started at the ground of our traditional marriage(Igba Nkwu).
On arriving her dad's compound, I was stunned to realize her mother didn't make the provisions of which I paid her for.
The DJ wasn't on ground, the canopies were just 3 and looking dirty, the chairs were not up to half of what i paid for. There was no light, no microphone, no decorations, the few food cooked were not served to guest and I was devastated.
Out of anger and dissappointment, I started lashing out at my wife and she broke down in tears begging me for forgiveness.
We managed to forge ahead till the the ceremony ended and we headed for my house.
As our tradition demands, the newly married bride sees off her Aso ebis and return in the evening same day to welcome visitors. But alas, my wife went and never came back till Friday evening.

I queried her on her whereabout only for her reply in a harsh manner saying "where do you expect me to be", don't make me angry"
God!! I couldn't believe it as it made me more mad in anger so I asked her to return to wherever she's coming from and leave our son behind(yes we already a year and 10 months old son). I actually made this decision to save face else how do I clarify the absence of my wife and son to visitors and well-wishers trooping in to see them?
She hurriedly dashed into the room and picked her phone and stormed out of the house. Now her mother is accussing me of taking her daughter's son from her and stripping her of her belongings.

Now my wife is saying she's no longer interested in the marriage likewise her people(her father is late). I am still fuming with anger that I am at loss of what to do. I am not prepared to raise my son alone neither do I want him to be raised by her mother alone.

Should I initiate a peace move and apologize to her or should I move on with life.....I am seriously confused and fuming with anger that I was shortchanged and offended and still expected to offer apologies.

Oga be a man and stop behaving like a woman. Concede to all their demands and let your family forge ahead. You will earn more respect from your wife than dragging women issue.
Pls. Mchew

BuariCopyPaste:
Dear members...i am of the type that says NO to bringing marital shortcomings to the social media but I just realized why others do so.
I formerly got married on Tuesday 18th April but we are already headed for a bitter divorce.

To cut the story short, the whole issue started at the ground of our traditional marriage(Igba Nkwu).
On arriving her dad's compound, I was stunned to realize her mother didn't make the provisions of which I paid her for.
The DJ wasn't on ground, the canopies were just 3 and looking dirty, the chairs were not up to half of what i paid for. There was no light, no microphone, no decorations, the few food cooked were not served to guest and I was devastated.
Out of anger and dissappointment, I started lashing out at my wife and she broke down in tears begging me for forgiveness.
We managed to forge ahead till the the ceremony ended and we headed for my house.
As our tradition demands, the newly married bride sees off her Aso ebis and return in the evening same day to welcome visitors. But alas, my wife went and never came back till Friday evening.

I queried her on her whereabout only for her reply in a harsh manner saying "where do you expect me to be", don't make me angry"
God!! I couldn't believe it as it made me more mad in anger so I asked her to return to wherever she's coming from and leave our son behind(yes we already a year and 10 months old son). I actually made this decision to save face else how do I clarify the absence of my wife and son to visitors and well-wishers trooping in to see them?
She hurriedly dashed into the room and picked her phone and stormed out of the house. Now her mother is accussing me of taking her daughter's son from her and stripping her of her belongings.

Now my wife is saying she's no longer interested in the marriage likewise her people(her father is late). I am still fuming with anger that I am at loss of what to do. I am not prepared to raise my son alone neither do I want him to be raised by her mother alone.

Should I initiate a peace move and apologize to her or should I move on with life.....I am seriously confused and fuming with anger that I was shortchanged and offended and still expected to offer apologies.

She sounds like a generally bad and dishonest person, dont marry her , move on

OP i can't demand that you accept/not accept my advice. Marriage issues are as important as a family. There is no one who will not be pissed by the non availabilty of resources on his day when you made payment for it. Also what custom demands custom demands. I will not say you are quick to anger but i will ask you to think and choose rightly, you might as well not want to loose your marriage for the sake of your son. I believe a Man should be firm and strong, that is why we are referred as the head of the house. Your wife actually apologised to you so as not to loose face on thr wedding day, i am very much aware that she knew that her mother never made available the required materials needed. Also i will advice that you bring your lawyer into this. Tell your lawyer that you would want to see your son anytime you hope to. You and the lady should sign an MOU after which you can give your son to the mother. I assure you that with the behaviour of the family their daughter can never apologize to you because the mother is solidly behind her. Don't loose your sanity. I don't know if you have no elders who can talk to the mother on wrong doings and correct the daughter. Stand your ground. Tell the mother to ask her daughter why she decides to brake customs as demanded by your people. To me the mother is as guilty as the daugther and they are working hand in hand. They believe you are already married and would succumb that is the way i see it. Next time run a background check on the family first. This is important.

If you lived for two years peacefully, then you can still leave peacefully for the rest of your life to enable you train your son/children jointly. Your wife is emotionally attached to her mother, hence the siding. Call your wife, apologise and tell her how much you cherished the two years you have been together. Assure her that you wouldn't want traditional marriage (enemies) to rob you of what the future has in stock for both of you. This is not easy but that's the only way to make marriage work. Swallow your pride/ego. One of the couple must be like a fool in most circumstances and in the circumstance it demands your being a fool for this marriage to thrive. This is my candid advice.

Bros ,just tell her you are sorry, apologize to her family , and tell her mother you want to help her change the roof of her current house .bros remove the roof and run away !!

OP i can't demand that you accept/not accept my advice. Marriage issues are as important as a family. There is no one who will not be pissed by the non availabilty of resources on his day when you made payment for it. Also what custom demands custom demands. I will not say you are quick to anger but i will ask you to think and choose rightly, you might as well not want to loose your marriage for the sake of your son. I believe a Man should be firm and strong, that is why we are referred as the head of the house. Your wife actually apologised to you so as not to loose face on thr wedding day, i am very much aware that she knew that her mother never made available the required materials needed. Also i will advice that you bring your lawyer into this. Tell your lawyer that you would want to see your son anytime you hope to. You and the lady should sign an MOU after which you can give your son to the mother. I assure you that with the behaviour of the family their daughter can never apologize to you because the mother is solidly behind her. Don't loose your sanity. I don't know if you have no elders who can talk to the mother on wrong doings and correct the daughter. Stand your ground. Tell the mother to ask her daughter why she decides to brake customs as demanded by your people. To me the mother is as guilty as the daugther and they are working hand in hand. They believe you are already married and would succumb that is the way i see it. Next time run a background check on the family first. This is important.

BuariCopyPaste:
Dear members...i am of the type that says NO to bringing marital shortcomings to the social media but I just realized why others do so.
I formerly got married on Tuesday 18th April but we are already headed for a bitter divorce.

To cut the story short, the whole issue started at the ground of our traditional marriage(Igba Nkwu).
On arriving her dad's compound, I was stunned to realize her mother didn't make the provisions of which I paid her for.
The DJ wasn't on ground, the canopies were just 3 and looking dirty, the chairs were not up to half of what i paid for. There was no light, no microphone, no decorations, the few food cooked were not served to guest and I was devastated.
Out of anger and dissappointment, I started lashing out at my wife and she broke down in tears begging me for forgiveness.
We managed to forge ahead till the the ceremony ended and we headed for my house.
As our tradition demands, the newly married bride sees off her Aso ebis and return in the evening same day to welcome visitors. But alas, my wife went and never came back till Friday evening.

I queried her on her whereabout only for her reply in a harsh manner saying "where do you expect me to be", don't make me angry"
God!! I couldn't believe it as it made me more mad in anger so I asked her to return to wherever she's coming from and leave our son behind(yes we already a year and 10 months old son). I actually made this decision to save face else how do I clarify the absence of my wife and son to visitors and well-wishers trooping in to see them?
She hurriedly dashed into the room and picked her phone and stormed out of the house. Now her mother is accussing me of taking her daughter's son from her and stripping her of her belongings.

Now my wife is saying she's no longer interested in the marriage likewise her people(her father is late). I am still fuming with anger that I am at loss of what to do. I am not prepared to raise my son alone neither do I want him to be raised by her mother alone.

Should I initiate a peace move and apologize to her or should I move on with life.....I am seriously confused and fuming with anger that I was shortchanged and offended and still expected to offer apologies.

Pls the person in question how much do u luv dis ur wife
I need answers before further advices.

frubben:
the op is not the problem here, he just told u guys that they have being together for 2years before marrige. Meaning the girl knows about his anger issues so that's not a problem for her because she went ahead to marry him. Now the problem I why the girl dey vex yyamayama vex now after she Don marry. Dis somebody that u tay with for 2years with the anger issues and even born for am now she want to dey say she cannot cope. Another guyy Don enter matter lock up.m

It's true they are suppose to have fully familiarize themselves & adapted to each other's personal traits at this point.

However, there's still nothing bad in requesting a partner to do away with a bad trait.

They both have every right to be angry with each other's behaviour as a couple. But they need to learn how to always reach a compromise after any disagreement between them. These issues do happen in marriage a lot. What matters is how the spouses handle their misunderstandings with love & wisdom.

So @Op needs to work things out with his wife please.

BuariCopyPaste:
Dear members...i am of the type that says NO to bringing marital shortcomings to the social media but I just realized why others do so.
I formerly got married on Tuesday 18th April but we are already headed for a bitter divorce.

To cut the story short, the whole issue started at the ground of our traditional marriage(Igba Nkwu).
On arriving her dad's compound, I was stunned to realize her mother didn't make the provisions of which I paid her for.
The DJ wasn't on ground, the canopies were just 3 and looking dirty, the chairs were not up to half of what i paid for. There was no light, no microphone, no decorations, the few food cooked were not served to guest and I was devastated.
Out of anger and dissappointment, I started lashing out at my wife and she broke down in tears begging me for forgiveness.
We managed to forge ahead till the the ceremony ended and we headed for my house.
As our tradition demands, the newly married bride sees off her Aso ebis and return in the evening same day to welcome visitors. But alas, my wife went and never came back till Friday evening.

I queried her on her whereabout only for her reply in a harsh manner saying "where do you expect me to be", don't make me angry"
God!! I couldn't believe it as it made me more mad in anger so I asked her to return to wherever she's coming from and leave our son behind(yes we already a year and 10 months old son). I actually made this decision to save face else how do I clarify the absence of my wife and son to visitors and well-wishers trooping in to see them?
She hurriedly dashed into the room and picked her phone and stormed out of the house. Now her mother is accussing me of taking her daughter's son from her and stripping her of her belongings.

Now my wife is saying she's no longer interested in the marriage likewise her people(her father is late). I am still fuming with anger that I am at loss of what to do. I am not prepared to raise my son alone neither do I want him to be raised by her mother alone.

Should I initiate a peace move and apologize to her or should I move on with life.....I am seriously confused and fuming with anger that I was shortchanged and offended and still expected to offer apologies.

hmmmmmmmmm my dear I feel ur pain, am a lady just did my trad last month I'll tell u this, if u ever make d mistake of apologising now then ur finished. How can a woman who did her trad not sleep at her husbands place that same night, look its very obvious that u married mother and daughter, if u don't stand ur ground now and be a man then u will be enslaved in ur own house. If she's stupid enough to not fight for her marriage then she's noth worthy to be called a wife not to talk of mother

SirVintageCock:
Not in this case. He insinuated that her family ripped him off of the money he sent to them. What if that's not the case. What if this guy is accusing them wrongly? How was his reaction on the D day? How disrespectful was he to the family?
Let him state categorically how much in cash he sent to them for the decor and condiment let's know if really they ripped him off? I wouldn't blame the wife for staying back honestly because obviously there is something the op isn't telling us.
He would've opt for divorce or annulment instead of coming to nairaland if his hands are clean but rather he is looking for someone to validate his conscious.
Op, what did you do to her and if you didn't do anything to her how come she left her child who is barely two years old with you.

Go back and reread the post.

I asked her to leave the child behind so as not to give visitors the impression that my wife and son are nowhere to be found after marriage.
I actually knew she's in her mother's house but I needed her to explain what kept her long.

Her point actually is that I insulted her mother through the way I was reacting and questioning her on the shoddy arrangement.

BabaCommander:


You are welcome, bro.
Now that you have known the root cause of the problem, I hope you can channel your anger into a more productive and rewarding activities.

Truth's is that money makes love sweet and a relationship romantic. If her moma knows she can count on you to meet her reasonable living expenses, she would have sent your wife back to you with an apology since.poverty is a bastard bro.

bro u are just blunt and funny I swear. Kai u wicked.

Tiri gbosa for u

It is more the case that women of nowadays are in constant need of positive emotions. It is what makes them feel happy and wanted in 2017. The days of patriarchal domination where men dished out orders and ultimatums and watched the wives cower in submission is gradually being eroded by feminism and cultural renaissance.

More so, as parents continue to reinforce in their their children that they are special and deserve special treatments, society also validates them by placing them on a pedestal especially for their good looks and not necessarily hard work or achievements, which is responsible for the huge sense of entitlement we see among the young generation. They even get confused when you don't treat them nicely because they have been made to believe they deserve it as the barest minimum not something that should be earned through hard work or good conduct.

So you cannot now go against the norm and expect an unconditioned response. You cannot scream at your woman in anger and expect her to recoil at a corner in silence. That was in the past. It's all gone now. You have to manage and not try to boss her around. If she is young and hot enough, you must know there is someone out there waiting on the wings to take your rightful place as her husband should you decide to walk and there is no guarantee the next one will be after your heart.

The world we live in now entails that you must pander to her whims and work together as partners in progress even when it goes against your manliness. Except you want to go the way of MGTOW or you marry someone far below your class and hope that she would be willing to abdicate a measure of her strength. Na from experience I de talk o.

well..be slow to anger man and take your time,allow God to lead you .no human is perfect only by his grace..just because of the innocent boy.

mizlovette:
hmmmmmmmmm my dear I feel ur pain, am a lady just did my trad last month I'll tell u this, if u ever make d mistake of apologising now then ur finished. How can a woman who did her trad not sleep at her husbands place that same night, look its very obvious that u married mother and daughter, if u don't stand ur ground now and be a man then u will be enslaved in ur own house. If she's stupid enough to not fight for her marriage then she's noth worthy to be called a wife not to talk of mother

She actually slept in my house but left in the morning.

Sorry o.I'm a Yoruba man and as the saying goes"oro ti omo ba ti wo di okuta" meaning any relationship that has child in it becomes foreclosed.
I'll urge you to go and make peace with your in-law considering your last statement.After that sit your wife down and let her see reason why its not everything she should be relating to her mother. Encourage her that now she's married and her going to her house shouldn't be regular.Also permit her to ask you ,politely though, whenever you go wrong.
I pray Allah will keep your house for you and many good things will come your way.You too don't be too domineering. We only hear your side of issue what about hers?Anyway stay blessed.

if this your story is real.

You are a fool and not a real man to lay the sword to accomplish whatever is right.

Even, if she is Dangote or Adenuga or Otedola's daughter, you have every right to know her whereabout even for 3 minutes in the house.

Any woman can have a short or quicky within 2 minutes with anyone anywhere.

You dont marry a lady out of pity her father or mother is dead.

You marry a lady because she has Godly character and pray towards it at the best of your little faith before advancing to her and God who is rich in mercy for every living soul will direct you.

We can discuss more, find a solution or straight. I dont fancy divorce or failure of marriage. There are some issues in marrige with no solution.

I rest my pen here.

manmidtexy@gmail.com

BuariCopyPaste:
Dear members...i am of the type that says NO to bringing marital shortcomings to the social media but I just realized why others do so.
I formerly got married on Tuesday 18th April but we are already headed for a bitter divorce.

To cut the story short, the whole issue started at the ground of our traditional marriage(Igba Nkwu).
On arriving her dad's compound, I was stunned to realize her mother didn't make the provisions of which I paid her for.
The DJ wasn't on ground, the canopies were just 3 and looking dirty, the chairs were not up to half of what i paid for. There was no light, no microphone, no decorations, the few food cooked were not served to guest and I was devastated.
Out of anger and dissappointment, I started lashing out at my wife and she broke down in tears begging me for forgiveness.
We managed to forge ahead till the the ceremony ended and we headed for my house.
As our tradition demands, the newly married bride sees off her Aso ebis and return in the evening same day to welcome visitors. But alas, my wife went and never came back till Friday evening.

I queried her on her whereabout only for her reply in a harsh manner saying "where do you expect me to be", don't make me angry"
God!! I couldn't believe it as it made me more mad in anger so I asked her to return to wherever she's coming from and leave our son behind(yes we already a year and 10 months old son). I actually made this decision to save face else how do I clarify the absence of my wife and son to visitors and well-wishers trooping in to see them?
She hurriedly dashed into the room and picked her phone and stormed out of the house. Now her mother is accussing me of taking her daughter's son from her and stripping her of her belongings.

Now my wife is saying she's no longer interested in the marriage likewise her people(her father is late). I am still fuming with anger that I am at loss of what to do. I am not prepared to raise my son alone neither do I want him to be raised by her mother alone.

Should I initiate a peace move and apologize to her or should I move on with life.....I am seriously confused and fuming with anger that I was shortchanged and offended and still expected to offer apologies.