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tosyne2much:
Nairalanders, today is my birthday.. Please show me some love

Tosin this your write-up is sha. How can someone be that desperate? Marriage isn't a do or die affair. The question isn't about getting married, but it's actually about staying happily married. I don't want to believe someone will open her eyes and go into marriage with any of the guys you've listed knowing what awaits her in the marriage. This is called desperation at its peak.
This is not to say that it's not happening though, e dey happen.

Happy Belated Birthday.... why you nor tell me say you dey do your birthday? it's been long I heard from you.

Humility017:
Lol. .I don't think there is any man with a small joystick it all depends on his perception of himself and how he makes use of it...(in marriage)
the truth is no matter the size of a man's manhood there is always a woman for him..perfectly destined by God to be his match.

I like you for being sincere though.. I even like you more because we reside in same city..
hope you're doing great?

Wow! How come I can't access email messages on nairaland? I have loads of them I can't read.

cruchenuti:
There is no such thing as Love my sister. The only love is the one that Christ has for us.

Our own Love is always based on something, if that isn't there anymore. It won't work.

This is regarding both Men and Women. Especially men who start looking outside ones the wife start getting fat after one child. Or the wife that starts regretting when the husband loses his multi million naira monthly job.

No love anywhere.

Only interests

ijayebonyi:
Sorry my fellow ladies, see what society is turning women into. May we be guided to know our vocation on earth as women

Leave society out of it.

It's human nature.

woman matter no dey tire you?
shuuuu.

If i may ask, whats wrong with guys with small joysticks? na them create themselves? please stop judging n blaming God

Cleopatra4:
Wow! How come I can't access email messages on nairaland? I have loads of them I can't read.

really
just send me a mail
on edeosamede7@gmail.com
or send me yr contacts

thanks

Cleopatra4:
Men with small joysticks No be by force to marry na

U like big joystick.
So out of all the earthshaking criteria na joystick na him serious pass for u.



Shildren of nowadays

TheLordIsGr8:
family, society... family, society. haba!!!!!

Why does everyone think that the pressure is ALWAYS external?

Couldn't it be that the ladies themselves genuinely desire to get married of their own accord? Isn't it possible that they get jealous of their peers becoming mothers and thus wants to be as well?


Everyone always wants to blame the other

these external pressures can cloud their judgements or reasonings and can influence a wrong decision that's the point am trying to make here at the end I suggested they shouldn't succumbed to it, am not ruling out a personal desire to marry who am I to fight nature? Without that humanity will not be sustainable, that personal drive, urge, desire will always be there else humanity is doomed I know where you are coming from we are talking about a particular age where funny enough the society wants to help out when a lady is not taking decisions on time as expected I hope you got my points?

lovethchioma:
The question isn't about getting married, but it's actually about staying happily married.

Many ladies don't ask this question early on. But they begin to settle for it much later.

lovethchioma:
I don't want to believe ...

That, there, is the problem.

Your not wanting to believe it doesn't change anything.

1234onyekwe:
my dear u have said it all,they 'll always think that they have ,all the time in the world when those men they took for granted came calling, but in their small mind they 'll always think someone better 'll always come for them ,before they know it they are stranded with no one coming at all.

it is well
I think it will be good if we as guys take time to advice our younger sisters...
many make mistakes without knowing

pweeryambre:
...Nigerians have too much hate in them that is just uncalled for.

happens the world over. Don't single out Nigerians cos you're incriminating yourself.

Also its not about hate. Its human nature.

AK481:
U like big joystick.
So out of all the earthshaking criteria na joystick na him serious pass for u.



Shildren of nowadays

don't believe a word from her. cos where the carcass is, there the vultures will gather. as far as women are concerned, money is the carcass.

Bumbae1:
Its true

As females lol we want more but sometimes end up marrying someone we would never pick
Anyway not me .. will rather die single than marry what i dont like .. no be by force and trust me mama will understand ..
when ur parents are educated to a level, travel and seen how the rest of the world opperate the pressure not that great ...

u disappointed me it seem u are not matured u talk like a kid

AK481:
U like big joystick.
So out of all the earthshaking criteria na joystick na him serious pass for u.



Shildren of nowadays

I guess you went through my profile that is why you have the guts to call me a child. God why you give me baby face na. Anyways you know better. If I prefer big joystick is it your business? I guess you are one of them with small joystick. Please don't spoil my morning for me ooo!

TheLordIsGr8:
happens the world over. Don't single out Nigerians cos you're incriminating yourself.

Also its not about hate. Its human nature.

yes but Nigeria own is too much and please unnecessary hatred is not human nature abeg. its lack of acceptance and enlightenment.

TheLordIsGr8:
It is not about family or societal pressure. It is human nature. Perpetuation of the species is a primal instinct and is considered the greatest achievement of any man/woman. To what end will be all this human achievement if there are no ones to enjoy them?

Also note that even though women bring lots of problems with them into a man's life (could go either way though) yet the sexual desire ensures that a man must seek out a woman, and whether he likes it or not, there is likely going to be an issue whenever he satisfies his urge. If men could have their way (sex without consequence ala condom), then we would all die off quickly.

But nature is smarter than us. It put the means of our perpetuation right where we think we find our greatest fulfillment.

If nature had not made it so, we would have died out already. You may not have been on NL.

pls refer to my previous quote and rxns

TheLordIsGr8:
That, there, is the problem.
Your not wanting to believe it doesn't change anything.

I hear you

TheLordIsGr8:
don't believe a word from her. cos where the carcass is, there the vultures will gather. as far as women are concerned, money is the carcass.

Chai I like this guy.

Xaos:
[color=#008080] So?

How does this fùcking article helps humanity?

What's the importance of knowing these categories of men? The fact you've made women the pinnacle of your research shows how misplaced your priorities are...[/color]

over aged and broke.

Cleopatra4:
I guess you went through my profile that is why you have the guts to call me a child. God why you give me baby face na. Anyways you know better. If I prefer big joystick is it your business? I guess you are one of them with small joystick. Please don't spoil my morning for me ooo!

Me small joystick?

Smh. There is a reason why I m called "caterpillar "

You go bow!

AK481:
Me small joystick?

Smh. There is a reason why I m called "caterpillar "

You go bow!

Caterpillar attack Baddest.

I have dated a Well to do guy have also dated a hardworking guy honestly your topics are a little biased nothing like frustrated choice it marriage nowadays people conceal a lot

And you get what you give in life

I see nothing wrong with people going for people who have had failed relationships or children don't be immature who says that single guy wont hurt you as well.

Take your time some of us are in no rush the decision is for the rest of your life plan to live long by Gods Grace once someone admits they resent you....whether na argument leave that union.

Tear rubber tire fit burst before used one

Our experience teaches wisdom don't let your experience cloud your ability to be fair

TheLordIsGr8:
Leave society out of it.

It's human nature.

Lol. Who then is the society?

HBD tosyne2much ! More blessings bro

Bumbae1:
Its true

As females lol we want more but sometimes end up marrying someone we would never pick
Anyway not me .. will rather die single than marry what i dont like .. no be by force and trust me mama will understand ..
when ur parents are educated to a level, travel and seen how the rest of the world opperate the pressure not that great ...

Exactly mum. I really don't know why we (especially Africans) sees marriage as such a big deal. I ll rather be single than to marry someone I don't like all because in the name of marriage. By the way is it by force to get married. As if marriage is a lifetime achievement

lovethchioma:
Tosin this your write-up is sha. How can someone be that desperate? Marriage isn't a do or die affair. The question isn't about getting married, but it's actually about staying happily married. I don't want to believe someone will open her eyes and go into marriage with any of the guys you've listed knowing what awaits her in the marriage. This is called desperation at its peak.
This is not to say that it's not happening though, e dey happen.

Happy Belated Birthday.... why you nor tell me say you dey do your birthday? it's been long I heard from you.

Although, marriage isn't a do or die affair, but in this part if the world, it's one the greatest achievement of a lady. The pressure usually mounted on ladies towards marriage is very much compared to the male folks

Anyway thanks for the wishes

Imstrong:
these external pressures can cloud their judgements or reasonings and can influence a wrong decision that's the point am trying to make here at the end I suggested they shouldn't succumbed to it, am not ruling out a personal desire to marry who am I to fight nature? Without that humanity will not be sustainable, that personal drive, urge, desire will always be there else humanity is doomed I know where you are coming from we are talking about a particular age where funny enough the society wants to help out when a lady is not taking decisions on time as expected I hope you got my points?

I see your headlight wella

shinarlaura:
Exactly mum. I really don't know why we (especially Africans) sees marriage as such a big deal. I ll rather be single than to marry someone I don't like all because in the name of marriage. By the way is it by force to get married. As if marriage is a lifetime achievement

I believe you're only talking from your own perception but the society don't see it they way you do.. And yes, marriage is the greatest achievement of a lady in this part of the world

solasoulmusic:
I have dated a Well to do guy have also dated a hardworking guy honestly your topics are a little biased nothing like frustrated choice it marriage nowadays people conceal a lot

And you get what you give in life

I see nothing wrong with people going for people who have had failed relationships or children don't be immature who says that single guy wont hurt you as well.

Take your time some of us are in no rush the decision is for the rest of your life plan to live long by Gods Grace once someone admits they resent you....whether na argument leave that union.

Tear rubber tire fit burst before used one

Our experience teaches wisdom don't let your experience cloud your ability to be fair

I don't think the topic is based because, I know you won't dispute the fact that, even if a lady is not in a rush to get married, there would be a time when society and family pressure will begin to mount pressure on her. . My dear, that's just the society we find ourselves

tosyne2much:
Although, marriage isn't a do or die affair, but in this part if the world, it's one the greatest achievement of a lady. The pressure usually mounted on ladies towards marriage is very much compared to the male folks

Anyway thanks for the wishes

Tosin Marriage is not an achievement. I disagree.
How can you say marriage is an achievement for the ladies? oh gosh...
OK what Is an achievement for the men?