StephDamielola:


Distance is also part of the problem. Lets tell the truth, this Partners need sex and more closeness. Sex isn't only for procreation, it helps to solve problems, to ease tensions and to renew the bond between two lovers.

I believe the SA girl from Kwazulu Natal have been giving him head and he is busy screaming Nakupenda.....

Kai madam! U no get chill at all oo

journerman:


Why don't you leave matters like this to people that are intellectually matured enough to handle it and give the right advice. What makes you think you have the right to judge and condem him.

For all we know, it could just be a case of early marriage crisis which will pass with time.

You don't have to insult people that seek advice.

Still searching for maturity and intellect in your post

journerman:


Why don't you leave matters like this to people that are intellectually matured enough to handle it and give the right advice. What makes you think you have the right to judge and condem him.

For all we know, it could just be a case of early marriage crisis which will pass with time.

You don't have to insult people that seek advice.

Mr Intellectual Matured, i see you..... So you exist truly?

What make you feel you are the only intellectual Buffon entitled with the sole responsibility of giving advice?


Whatever i say, is my opinion and i am entitled to it. If you don't like it, FLY AWAY TO GOD KNOWS WHERE

StephDamielola:


Distance is also part of the problem. Lets tell the truth, this Partners need sex and more closeness. Sex isn't only for procreation, it helps to solve problems, to ease tensions and to renew the bond between two lovers.

I believe the SA girl from Kwazulu Natal have been giving him head and he is busy screaming Nakupenda.....

you are right

So OP registered on NL today just for this post. And he made front page. I see....

ATK4Joy:
The issue here is distance! I won't advice any anyone in a distance relationship(especially out of the country) is to wed without getting his/her papers ready to meat the partner wherever he/she is to avoid stories that touch! If u say u can hold on,what of your partner! To the guy here try take a look back at what attracted her to you before you decided to marry her as your wife n make sure you rekindle the love

Distance is an issue...We've both sort of drifted apart, we hardly talk...I'm available to talk and video call her all the tym bt She only texts me during the night an so forth (mostly she wud be sending me funny videos & sermons). I neva treated her badly, never...I send her money every month. U ppl keep on sayin marriage isn't about lov & sex...but trust me those 2 are aspects of marriage...an with my wife everything its missionary, dull & boring.

U kno 9ja galz dey deprive us sexually, with the NO SEX b4 marriage terms... as men we pushed to marry an make them wives. bt tht is not the reason I married her, I married her bcz it felt real.

Anyhow, she dsnt wnt to relocate wth me...she says she dsnt wnt to be away frm hr family...an I dnt see myslf comin to reside in Nigeria at all. I am being defeated by my emotions, I'm a man and have physical needs.

note: I dnt hv any gf in SA...

VicMadich88:
I met my wife (very beautiful, humble Igbo gal) in 2012, and we've been datin since then. We both from Imo State...

On tht same year we met, I moved to south Africa to study an still residing in SA. I see her twice a year, and she visits SA as well. We got married ths past February, and few days after our wedding, I had to return.

But now I feel I made a very big mistake by marrying her, not because she's bad for me bt because I've realized I'm not in love with her anymore. I don't know wat to do, she's such a wonderful lady. God fearing, sings in the church choir, young and beautiful.

How should I let her know that i'm not in love with her anymore? I'm scared of the embarrassment my parents will bare with all of this? Our pastor at church? Her family? I don't believe in divorce, so are my parents...but what do I do in this situation?.

Bros....love is NOT a feeling you can pick up and drop like common cold. Love is a deliberate and conscious decision to seek the good of another. From ur post, I see ur wife is virtuous. Please, get rid of that foolishness in your heart and decide to stick with her....get to know her, probably ready her papers and take her with you to SA...make her into dat woman u would 'love'. All the best bro.

You need help.

Your wife does not deserve this type of treatment.

See a counselor or pastor.
The problem is in you, not your wife.

The devil is a liar.

Chai SA girls don suck this guy deek.

The Nigeria lady will be feeling like she get a husband living in SA and sending her money.

Why do girls like getting married to men staying abroad and he can't take you after he married you?
But no, they are ok with the arrangement as long as he's sending money to her.

Women palavar.

But Niggà you no try o, why you marry the Saint girl? I believe you will still come back to your senses and discover your fetish reason for choosing her.

VicMadich88:
I met my wife (very beautiful, humble Igbo gal) in 2012, and we've been datin since then. We both from Imo State...

On tht same year we met, I moved to south Africa to study an still residing in SA. I see her twice a year, and she visits SA as well. We got married ths past February, and few days after our wedding, I had to return.

But now I feel I made a very big mistake by marrying her, not because she's bad for me bt because I've realized I'm not in love with her anymore. I don't know wat to do, she's such a wonderful lady. God fearing, sings in the church choir, young and beautiful.

How should I let her know that i'm not in love with her anymore? I'm scared of the embarrassment my parents will bare with all of this? Our pastor at church? Her family? I don't believe in divorce, so are my parents...but what do I do in this situation?.

bro, i know what u mean, but u should just know it's a thought from the pit of hell. Listen,
Don't let those nasty thoughts come up ur brain, as they come in shove them p.

2. Simply reflect on the good things u saw in her that made u fall in love initially. Just think of them . simple.

3. Ensure u aren't cheating, else...you've made me waste 21 mb typing all this.

StephDamielola:


Distance is also part of the problem. Lets tell the truth, this Partners need sex and more closeness. Sex isn't only for procreation, it helps to solve problems, to ease tensions and to renew the bond between two lovers.

I believe the SA girl from Kwazulu Natal have been giving him head and he is busy screaming Nakupenda.....

Lmao

pepper dem gang, SA parish has taken over.

Dear op, those side chicks fingering your brain will always come and go. They dont love you, they love your deep pockets that is why they bring your fantasies to reality. When the tap runs dry, they move to the next atm.

biko, start thinking with your brain and not the nuzzle between your legs... Learn to love your wife.

VicMadich88:
I met my wife (very beautiful, humble Igbo gal) in 2012, and we've been datin since then. We both from Imo State...

On tht same year we met, I moved to south Africa to study an still residing in SA. I see her twice a year, and she visits SA as well. We got married ths past February, and few days after our wedding, I had to return.

But now I feel I made a very big mistake by marrying her, not because she's bad for me bt because I've realized I'm not in love with her anymore. I don't know wat to do, she's such a wonderful lady. God fearing, sings in the church choir, young and beautiful.

How should I let her know that i'm not in love with her anymore? I'm scared of the embarrassment my parents will bare with all of this? Our pastor at church? Her family? I don't believe in divorce, so are my parents...but what do I do in this situation?.

Please bro. can you be kind enough to let us know who the other woman is that you are now in love with or that stole the love you had formerly for your loving wife.
Gog bless.

VicMadich88:
I met my wife (very beautiful, humble Igbo gal) in 2012, and we've been datin since then. We both from Imo State...

On tht same year we met, I moved to south Africa to study an still residing in SA. I see her twice a year, and she visits SA as well. We got married ths past February, and few days after our wedding, I had to return.

But now I feel I made a very big mistake by marrying her, not because she's bad for me bt because I've realized I'm not in love with her anymore. I don't know wat to do, she's such a wonderful lady. God fearing, sings in the church choir, young and beautiful.

How should I let her know that i'm not in love with her anymore? I'm scared of the embarrassment my parents will bare with all of this? Our pastor at church? Her family? I don't believe in divorce, so are my parents...but what do I do in this situation?.

Looks like you have met a girl at SA, and that is not the problem. The problem is if you and the SA girl have been having sex while on a cocktale of alcohol/crack/weed, and you have never tried it with your wife. If yes, that is the cause. You can not get such flow of emotional sexual connection from normal humans. Your mind has been defragmented. Only people who have ever tried will understand my reggae.

Love is great but you can run a marriage successfully without love, if you care about your wife, then care is enough to hold the ground until love returns.

Prostitution industry is a multi-billion industry, because married men cheat more than Bachelors and on the female side, single ladies prostitutes cheat more than other women. So, you see the relationship between married men and prostitutes. What happened Why The Anwser is; Love flows in and flows out. Allow it to flow back just like the wind except you are having a 'great time' with some other.

In which case the title of the thread should be:
"I am cheating on my wife in a crazy fun way with another girl. How do I divorce my wife without breaking her heart ?"

The answer is:

Karma!

No they bring this kind of story here.....

StephDamielola:


Distance is also part of the problem. Lets tell the truth, this Partners need sex and more closeness. Sex isn't only for procreation, it helps to solve problems, to ease tensions and to renew the bond between two lovers.

I believe the SA girl from Kwazulu Natal have been giving him head and he is busy screaming Nakupenda.....

Damnnnnnnn.. You made my day. So so funny.

I'll never understand why people rush in marriage because their parents/pastor encouraged them to. Marriage na by force, or them they chop am? If you don't love her, let her know.Tell her it's not her fault you stopped loving her.

Badgers14:


My guy before you utter those words to her.. Think about your life. Did you promise anyone marriage before? How was your sex life in SA, SA women can do jazz pass 9ja people sef, Zimbabwe's and all.

I am not saying that this will be the cause oo.. Just that from Experience, story i heard before from a friend.

Since you are not in love with your wife anymore, are you falling for another person? When did this start? You chop iyabasera.

I am not trying to funny and you don't have to reply me but sometimes we need to take a little step back and reexamine our lives.

It could be also your ditched another dude and married you. Things they happen my guy.

I was deeply touched when you mentioned your wife's good character and all and women with those qualities are hard to find these days..

Cheers man!

Evry relationship hs its ups & downs..and every1 in the relationship hv their pro's & cons...she isn't a saint in tht sense, bt she's a good girl. I cnt bring her to SA bcz she dsnt wnt to relocate...Keep me in ur prayers bro's..tht she changes her mind and we try work it out.

The temptation here is too high, there's lots of beautiful, intelligent, humble & God fearing woman ths side...an the more shs nt wit me...the more I get weak.

StephDamielola:


Distance is also part of the problem. Lets tell the truth, this Partners need sex and more closeness. Sex isn't only for procreation, it helps to solve problems, to ease tensions and to renew the bond between two lovers.

I believe the SA girl from Kwazulu Natal have been giving him head and he is busy screaming Nakupenda.....

Ds babe u jus dey finish us with laugh for all dis your posts. just as if you were with him there. Lol!!

You are a Big FO.OL

its because u dont work on ur emotion wen u ar in fair distance and u dont make her take an actiive activity in ur life dats u dnt fell love for her or feel like u still need her, they ar downs and up in marriage. if u cant find a way to work on both of u dat means the next lady u will find after leaving her wont stay for long also except u ar already cheating on her.

Billyonaire:


Looks like you have met a girl at SA, and that is not the problem. The problem is if you and the SA girl have been having sex while on a cocktale of alcohol/crack/weed, and you have never tried it with your wife. If yes, that is the cause. You can not get such flow of emotional sexual connection from normal humans. Your mind has been defragmented. Only people who have ever tried will understand my reggae.

Love is great but you can run a marriage successfully without love, if you care about your wife, then care is enough to hold the ground until love returns.

Prostitution industry is a multi-billion industry, because married men cheat more than Bachelors and on the female side, single ladies prostitutes cheat more than other women. So, you see the relationship between married men and prostitutes. What happened Why The Anwser is; Love flows in and flows out. Allow it to flow back just like the wind except you are having a 'great time' with some other.

In which case the title of the thread should be:
"I am cheating on my wife in a crazy fun way with another girl. How do I divorce my wife without breaking her heart ?"

The answer is:

Karma!

I dnt drink nor smoke, my dear!

VicMadich88:
I dnt drink nor smoke, my dear!

But you have a girlfriend there in SA ?

StephDamielola:
I just pity for that Virtious Woman.... Truly you don't deserve her type.

You deserve those SA girls with big hips that drinks mungwongoti


Truth be told, you are seeing another Woman. YOu are just looking for excuses to justify your crazy thoughts

walai orie wambe. Go to the fridge and take one bottle of sprite for yourself.

StephDamielola:


Yes!

though i might not have spelt it correctly but i lived there for some years....


When it comes to Hips, Bro they got it... But when they get older, they suffer rheumatism due to the heavy butt load..

So to the OP, think about the pains she will put you through when she gets older and stick to your Naija Wife ok

dey got hips?? i don die no wonder dis boy no gree come back again ah dey run go south Africa na na forget d old age

LoveJesus87:
walai orie wambe. Go to the fridge and take one bottle of sprite for yourself.

Ese Sir......

On my way to your fridge

StephDamielola:
I just pity for that Virtious Woman.... Truly you don't deserve her type.

You deserve those SA girls with big hips that drinks mungwongoti

Truth be told, you are seeing another Woman. YOu are just looking for excuses to justify your crazy thoughts

You left something out, HIV.

VicMadich88:
I met my wife (very beautiful, humble Igbo gal) in 2012, and we've been datin since then. We both from Imo State...

On tht same year we met, I moved to south Africa to study an still residing in SA. I see her twice a year, and she visits SA as well. We got married ths past February, and few days after our wedding, I had to return.

But now I feel I made a very big mistake by marrying her, not because she's bad for me bt because I've realized I'm not in love with her anymore. I don't know wat to do, she's such a wonderful lady. God fearing, sings in the church choir, young and beautiful.

How should I let her know that i'm not in love with her anymore? I'm scared of the embarrassment my parents will bare with all of this? Our pastor at church? Her family? I don't believe in divorce, so are my parents...but what do I do in this situation?.

It's either na Juju dey worry u or u don get anoda babe. Get a second wife, u will still get the 3rd, 4th and still counting.

VicMadich88:
I met my wife (very beautiful, humble Igbo gal) in 2012, and we've been datin since then. We both from Imo State...

On tht same year we met, I moved to south Africa to study an still residing in SA. I see her twice a year, and she visits SA as well. We got married ths past February, and few days after our wedding, I had to return.

But now I feel I made a very big mistake by marrying her, not because she's bad for me bt because I've realized I'm not in love with her anymore. I don't know wat to do, she's such a wonderful lady. God fearing, sings in the church choir, young and beautiful.

How should I let her know that i'm not in love with her anymore? I'm scared of the embarrassment my parents will bare with all of this? Our pastor at church? Her family? I don't believe in divorce, so are my parents...but what do I do in this situation?.

I smell a cheating husband here.......................Guy talk true make devil pick race nah

StephDamielola:


Distance is also part of the problem. Lets tell the truth, this Partners need sex and more closeness. Sex isn't only for procreation, it helps to solve problems, to ease tensions and to renew the bond between two lovers.

I believe the SA girl from Kwazulu Natal have been giving him head and he is busy screaming Nakupenda.....

Chai!!!

Billyonaire:
But you have a girlfriend there in SA ?

Nope