OLUWAcypris1:

God bless you

Ishilove:
Thanks dear

istoctober:


l have asked a pastor and he said l shouldn't confess but am worried cos he told me on Sunday that his uncle who is a native doctor will know if l am cheating on him.

LordOfNaira:


Let me help. I am a trained relationship counsellor (although I am out of practice for now), but I can still help.

Listen, you have no choice but to tell him. Telling him will be hard, that is fact, but it is something that must be done, at least, to give yourself peace of mind and remove the guilt.

While doing it, these are things you must consider:

1. Telling him everything and holding nothing back. Holding a little back may come to haunt you later.

2. Never get defensive when your husband gets angry. You surely cannot expect him not to be mad at you. So, don't get angry too or get defensive when he gets mad. Never make excuses like "It was because you hurt me" or "I was drunk" or "But it was the first and only time"

3. Do not defend the person you cheated on him with. Don't say stuffs like: "It wasn't really his fault" or "he was apologetic" or "he was really sorry".

Take my advice and let us see how it plays out. Another thing is whatever comes out will be your punishment. You can't expect to cheat without consequences.

istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out.

Roseey0:

I join her in saying this is childish. Shows you can't even control yourselves.
Just draw your boundaries

siloXIX:



I can see that you have changed but you are still not at peace. You know that confessing to him is what will give you peace but the devil wants you to believe that you will lose your husband.

That may be true though but to be totally free, confess to him. Don't make it longer than now.

He may throw you out when you do confess but you will get peace.

And finally, pray to God ( when you are out) and your husband will call you back

Topgainer:
This like your other posts sounds religiously correct but it is lies.
Which Hell is that? The one you are the gate keeper
or the one built by your general overseer for his followers.
Aside from confession to her husband, what other category of persons will be in this your Hell?
Weavon,
Lip gloss,
Ear ring,
A military woman for ever putting on trousers
Possession and consumption of Alcoholic beverages,
2 wives,
Not paying tithe,
Not being a member of your church,
Don't forget you will be the first to arrive in this Hell you created and have gone about pushing people to it.

istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out.

AlwaysUltraPad:
my girlfriend knows we can't get married , but insist we will be friends when we are with our respective partners. I told her NO. I can't go and continue what we do now . It can be tempting. God forbid me to touch another man's wife.
Women are easily lured. If I hear say my wife get any male friend. Na divorce.

Efewestern:


Good evening sist.

I read through all your post, can't believe we have such women in our present society, yes nobody is above mistake and you shouldn't kill your self for that, nobody is perfect. but make sure you don't confess to you husband, he might no take you back, men hate it when their wife cheats on them.

Just forget things like that happened.

LexngtonSteele:
If this story is true....

1. i can bet the OP lied, it wasn't one single round. The affair lasted more. They both enjoyed themselves.

2. Likely it was condomless entry too Devil-Used-Me type of sex doesn't make you remember where condom is

3. Your hubby would eventually hear. Better confess ASAP. Better he hears from you. Those pastors would either blackmail you and bang you or snitch...

4. I can bet even your husband has cheated. But men don't take it lightly.


I find it funny that you can confess to other pastors (plural) and you can't face your husband and tell him. I feel that's disrespectful.

OLUWAcypris1:


God bless you sir.
Not dat one dat pastor don shag him a$$hole finish de talk rubbish
Not dat guy talking dat i witnessed giving testimony on d pulpit live how God saved his over strained a$$hole from a pastor. Dat d pastor usually give him N200 to go back home.

Ishilove:

Do you have something tangible to say to the poster?

istoctober:


l have asked a pastor and he said l shouldn't confess but am worried cos he told me on Sunday that his uncle who is a native doctor will know if l am cheating on him.

istoctober:


I don't want to go into details but l have no right to cheat on my spouse no matter what... l guess l was confused and l have learnt my lesson.

famosh:

Who be this crap yarner?
The OP is a Christian & I give am advice according to her religion. If she wan become atheist, then she can do whatever she likes men! Na she get her body! If you believe there's no God or hell, good for you! Na your business!

istoctober:


l have asked a pastor and he said l shouldn't confess but am worried cos he told me on Sunday that his uncle who is a native doctor will know if l am cheating on him.

johnson232:

@bold a pastor told u not to confess?
That man is not a pastor...Do u know the meaning of Restitution in christianity?

istoctober:


it was with a pastor in one of the pentecostal churches and he is still living in the sin of adultery. l still hate myself and curse that day for the act l committed.
Thx for your words, it means alot to me now.

Chigorkizz:
You are making it look as if You ve done the worst ever. Dont let your mistakes hunt you.
Consider these-
You will lose your home.
You will lose your dignity before him,his family and your family.
.Lastly,Dnt ever tell him but dnt do it again.

istoctober:


it will shock him. Am even worried about him hating me including other women entirely..
Definitely, he will send me packing for that.