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cinoedhunter:
Understanding and Trust... Chikena

right on point, the no1 thing in marriage is understanding. When u have understanding love will develop out of it likewise trust, care and every other thng needed in marriage. just don't base ur selection on physical appearance. is well man.

Emenandez4lyf:
I noticed that if u bite ur tongue
accidentally then it hurts but if u
bite it on purpose then it wont
hurt... and u bite ur tongue didnt
u? #IwantMyLike

Bite on purpose without caution. I mean bite to cut as if you are eating beef ... Then you will know if it hurts or not.

Even if u read all d materials on marriage, it is still what it is. A RISK. you never would find all the answers. If you find 60% and above, forge on. No real risk taker has it all figured out. we make do with what we have and believing in ourselves and our ability to make it better.

so guy, believe God, believe in yourself and believe your woman. You are analyzing too much. ENOUGH!

Compromise....willingness to let your significant be right or win sometimes

GOD....Go and watch WAR ROOM

[quote author=Perspectives post=57208325]Marriage is one of the next thing in my life right now and I don't want to get it wrong.

What are those things that can convince a person to tie a knot without regretting later in the future?

Are there signs that should be looked out for?

What are those red flags that shouldn't be ignored?

Married people, about to married, people in serious relationship, please we need your input. [/rquote]


Look for the most important reasonable qualities
You desire in your spouse to be.

Try to decide what you can live with and what you can't e.g she/he always scratches their armpit in front of the tv but he/she is a good listener and not too pushy. In this case is the scratching too mucu of a bother to you as compared to the good point?

In a nutshell, find out if you can tolerate your future spouses bad side.

You are good to go if you can.

odinga1of:
One Bottle of Cold Origin for this dude/girl

seriously... Dude/girl?

Marriage is about accepting each other for what they are. Not tolerance.

Only one tin u nid to do is to pray to God to give u ur own wife and heart desire, not another man's wife, only if u understand wot I mean.... My advice though

virtual3xpert:
Hello, are you a counsellor please?

No ... But I've failed so many times at relationships so at least I can tell you what not to do .

Wish I could take my own advice .

Thanks to everyone that commented, my knowledge of marriage has obviously broadened.

bitcoinvin:
well said...u need to carry champions league back to back like marid.
I can forgive a woman in anything but i c an never forgive a woman who cheats on me...The thought of how the man she is cheating must have hanged her leg will kill me first.
I hate cheating women in my life.

Hmmm...I wish I could open a thread on cheating but people won't understand

ImaIma1:
Wow!! You have obviously attended marriage counselling...lol. But u missed out communication.

Funny enough I have never gone for counseling I just made a lot of mistakes ...

Communication is important too ...the one thing I can say is don't let social media be the key medium of communication . Call and talk to your partner .

If you guys want I could give more advice Sha just open a thread and ask me .

People do not like what I say because it's the realistic truth .

tobianthony:
No ... But I've failed so many times at relationships so at least I can tell you what not to do .

Wish I could take my own advice .

I'm sorry to hear about that. Would it be too much trouble to ask you to give a bit of counselling? Can I send you a PM please?

I do not want to open a thread so if you want just ask me anything ...trust me you will laugh ,and be entertained if I tell you my story about relationships .

Thanks for the likes ,you guys I appreciate it .

virtual3xpert:
I'm sorry to hear about that. Would it be too much trouble to ask you to give a bit of counselling? Can I send you a PM please?

Yeah just email me at blupurple80@yahoo.com

tobianthony:
Yeah just email me at blupurple80@yahoo.com

Let me know when you do... Sometimes I do not get notifications on this phone .

at OP would you mind if i take over your thread for a few minutes to just say a few things ? no vex i no get mind to start thread

all right guys here goes i will call this topic - " the freak meter theory"

Marriage is a long distance race. So it is important we all get it right. The most important human related demographic in marriage is peace. In whoever's heart you find peace that is where you should reside. When u have peace u have everything.


Let God guide u.

now let me tell you what this theory is all about and how it can help and hurt you in finding a sexually compatible partner .

first of all note that it might not work for everybody but at least you will learn something .


i mean its nothing new ...let me give you a scenario - you meet someone new and exciting and attractive . You start to get to know them and ask a few questions and when you get comfortable with them ...you often ask, " hey on a scale of 1-10 ,how good are you at sex ? " .

the freak meter is just that exactly the level of your practical sexuality .

take me for instance i regard myself as a 9 ..not because i believe i am good at it but because i need it a lot and i am realistic enough to know that i need it a lot .

tobianthony:
now let me tell you what this theory is all about and how it can help and hurt you in finding a sexually compatible partner .

first of all note that it might not work for everybody but at least you will learn something .


i mean its nothing new ...let me give you a scenario - you meet someone new and exciting and attractive . You start to get to know them and ask a few questions and when you get comfortable with them ...you often ask, " hey on a scale of 1-10 ,how good are you at sex ? " .

the freak meter is just that exactly the level of your practical sexuality .

take me for instance i regard myself as a 9 ..not because i believe i am good at it but because i need it a lot and i am realistic enough to know that i need it a lot .

oga solomon go sleep abeg

2mins men always making noise online

now how does this freak meter affect your relationship ? quite obvious if you ask me but it goes deeper than that . Let me tell you why ... ladies pay attention .

men seem to be wired to be more sexual in nature ( nuance point ) so a man who has high freak meter will naturally want to be around women who are high on the freak meter except for marriage .

most men because they know the truth about sex will marry a woman who is " virgin " or who has a low freak meter say 4 or below .

why ? because most people believe that the lower a woman ranks on the freak meter the less likely she is to cheat on you .

now if you are in the upper quadrant of the freak meter and you marry some one who is in the lower quadrant ..you might just have a problem .

because you are going to be tempted to cheat .

so its either someone levels up or someone levels down .

and this is where the farce is .

pay attention.

[[s]quote author=tobianthony post=57232565]now if you are in the upper quadrant of the freak meter and you marry some one who is in the lower quadrant ..you might just have a problem .

because you are going to be tempted to cheat .

so its either someone levels up or someone levels down .

and this is where the farce is .

pay attention.[/quote][/s]

Go and sleep biko nobody is reading this

Look below

we live in a society that condemns the sexuality of women .

I mean just look at most of the comments and posts on this forum ...bitvh ,hoe , slut ,etc .

The truth of the matter is that today's woman is just as sexual as today's man .

tobianthony:
Yeah just email me at blupurple80@yahoo.com

Will do. Thanks a lot!

why most people have problems in their relationships is that they are not open from the start about certain issues . before you decide to take it a step further . there are a couple of questions you might want to ask yourself .

1. how much does this person make and how much do they owe ?
2. where does this person live and where would we live ?
3. how does this person treat the waiter who serves on a date ?
4. how does this person treat the children around them ?
5. what was it like for them growing up , whats their family history like ?
6. whats this person like sexually ?
7. how hard is it for them to say sorry and thank you ?

trust me you will save yourself a lot of money to be paid for those pre- wedding photo shoots .

one important thing is being realistic .

be will real with yourself and realize the following before you get married -

marriage is all about business , its mostly about finance ..marry some one who you can afford to love .

everybody is expendable in a relationship .

who you are in a relationship with now upon attaining the age of 30 will likely be who they are forever .

its all about what you can tolerate - the more options a woman or man has the less of they will tolerate .

your partner and your spouse is going to to do bad things to you ...just be open to this . They will also do a lot of good things too.

if you do not support your partner's goals or dreams ...its best you leave them before marriage . Marriage can kill a dream ..which in itself is not entirely a bad thing .

sisisioge:
You wey no sabi work. To find me bobo once and for all dey hard you. Na only goose chase you dey point me. If to say I pay you money, I for don sue you for inefficiency

Hehehe
You better grab him
Wetin be him username sef

do not bow to social pressure to get married when you are not ready .

do not speak ill of your partner to your family and Friends . This will come back to haunt you .

do not get her pregnant if there are no resources to take care of a baby . wait ..but if you have the grace to borrow money continue .

before you introduce your partner to your family ...give her or him the scope of how to relate to them . e.g don't just push them to survive .

not everybody in your significant other's family will like you , if they do fine ... identify the influential members of the family and relate with them ...in times of trouble they just might side you .

what you start with in courtship is what you must be prepared to do for the rest of the life of that relationship .

True,unconditional and unadulterated love is enough....

Nowadays it seems love alone is not enough because we let it wane due to the fact that it was'nt pure in the first place...it was a conditional love in the beginning.
A love based on external features of your partner during courtship may never last in marriage