My live in brother in law of whom we are agemates barged into my room unannounced this morning. I was totally naked & had to dive under the bed from the shame & shock.

He stood there apologising that he didn't know i was in the room (we had met outside by the clothes line a short while ago).
The most painful part is that my husband who was lying in d bed in the room didn't find it necessary to utter a word.
When I confronted him, he said that shebi his brother had said 'sorry'
I really don't know what to do. I feel let down by hubby's reaction & also ashamed about the whole incident.
pls good folks, what do I do to redress the situation. thank you

What Rubbish? Can't he knock the door before entering

kikikikikikiki hehehehehe hohohohoho

iyaayi:

the most painful part is that my husband who was lying in d bed in the room didn't find it necessary to utter a word.
when I confronted him, he said that shebi his brother had said 'sorry'

what do you want him to do? kill his brother? What is done is done. No need making a mountain out of a mole hill. Escalating it will only make you feel more ashamed. By the way how old are you? cuz after a certain age people seeing you naked shouldnt bother you this much.

Pls talk to your brother in law directly,tell him to always knock even if it is only his brother in the room.

To me it's a deliberate act,more so he should have walked out the moment he saw u nude.

Except say him dey eye u with style

Abeg always lock your room door when your hubby is out,dis kind guy fit put him plug 4 your socket ooooo

Good that your husband was there when he entered, it would've been difficulty for your husband to believe this your story as an accidental entrance!

Aunty, no cause for alarm. There's a big difference between to SEE and to TASTE.

Stay cool with him.

You no gree wait make he see full view before you dive enter under bed, and he didn't know you were even there, so if to say ur husband na those mumu husband, na so you go say make he chase the guy komot.

donkilidon:
Pls talk to your brother in law directly,tell him to always knock even if it is only his brother in the room.

To me it's a deliberate act,more so he should have walked out the moment he saw u nude.

Except say him dey eye u with style

Abeg always lock your room door when your hubby is out,dis kind guy fit put him plug 4 your socket ooooo

Na the kyn Mumu husband I dey talk be this, this guy go say the bro don count all the hair weh dey him wife pusi, for that reason, he's a gooner.

MissIndependent:
What Rubbish? Can't he knock the door before entering

Can't she lock the door knowing she's UNCLAD

Davash222:

Can't she lock the door knowing she's UNCLAD

Every houseguest and even the house kids are supposed to knock when entering a married couples room. thats their domain for private activities so a sensible person would knock first whether door is locked or not.

nahzyla:

Every houseguest and even the house kids are supposed to knock when entering a married couples room. thats their domain for private activities so a sensible person would knock first whether door is locked or not.

You are right... But let's not forget that the Proximate Cause of everything here is her inability to lock the door. End of.

Davash222:

You are right... But let's not forget that the Proximate Cause of everything here is her inability to lock the door. End of.

The proximate cause is the brother in law's foolishness. Actual End of.
what if the lock is bad?

nahzyla:

The proximate cause is the brother in law's foolishness. Actual End of.
what if the lock is bad?

Proximate Cause.. A chain of event leading to another. The lady's inability to lock the door leads to the BIL foolishness of not knocking.

Caustics:
what do you want him to do? kill his brother? What is done is done. No need making a mounatin out of a mole hill. Escalating it will only make you feel more ashamed. By the way how old are you? cuz after a certain age people seeing you naked shouldnt bother you.

Really? Someone seeing your wife's unclothedness shouldn't bother you/her? Ezigbo onye nkuzi!!

Davash222:

Proximate Cause.. A chain of event leading to another. The lady's inability to lock the door leads to the BIL foolishness of not knocking.

Wow this makes no kind of sense whatsoever.

nahzyla:
Wow this makes no kind of sense whatsoever.

Sorry, can't condescend too low to make you understand.

iyaayi:
my live in brother in law of whom we are agemates barged into my room unannounced this morning. I was totally naked & had to dive under the bed from the shame & shock.
he stood there apologising that he didn't know i was in the room (we had met outside by the clothes line a short while ago).
the most painful part is that my husband who was lying in d bed in the room didn't find it necessary to utter a word.
when I confronted him, he said that shebi his brother had said 'sorry'
I really don't know what to do. I feel let down by hubby's reaction & also ashamed about the whole incident.
pls good folks, what do I do to redress the situation. thank you

What are u hiding from your brother in-law sef?
Do u know if he will be the one to save u in the future regardless of your dress state?
God forbid you had an accident & all your clothes are torn off....will u be talking of being unclad...

The dude has apologized & your husband has already told u that....U want your brother in-law to kill himself because he saw u unclad?
What do u want to redress again....Guess u are looking for a way to cause trouble between your husband & his brother, so he can send him packing....because since the dude has already apologized, i see no reason for creating this thread....other than to cause trouble....

cuteguy123:
So make him kill he brother Abi quarrel with am because of a wide pussy bitch?

Hell no.

Bros over bitchess.

I am sure you have shamelessly banged more than 10 guys before you got married.

So what's there to hide?

Mehn gtfo

How did people like this end up here. You referred someone's wife as a bitch. Speaks volume of your background

johnson232:

What are u hiding from your brother in-law sef?
Do u know if he will be the one to save u in the future regardless of your dress state?
God forbid you had an accident & all your clothes are torn off....will u be talking of being unclad...

The dude has apologize & your husband has already told u that....U want your brother in-law to kill himself because he saw u unclad?
What do u want to redress again....Guess u are looking for a way to cause trouble between your husband & his brother, so he can send him packing....because since the dude has already apologize, i see no reason for creating this thread....other than to cause trouble....

So you mean the brother in law standing there after noticing his elder brother's wife is naked is cool?
What happens to him walking away so she can cover up before coming to apologise.

Davash222:

Can't she lock the door knowing she's UNCLAD

Any man should knock when entering a ladies room locked or not.

richyblink1:


So you mean the brother in law standing there after noticing his elder brother's wife is naked is cool?
What happens to him walking away so she can cover up before coming to apologise.

Honestly whether he walk's away or stay to deliver his message is the same thing, the mistake has already been done. For me, it was more prudent of him to apologize & deliver his message, instead of rushing out like a kid without apologizing...

U women read unwarranted meaning to everything, it is not as bad as the way the op is putting it....

johnson232:

Honestly whether he walk's away or stay to deliver his message is the same thing, the mistake has already been done. For me, it was more prudent of him to apologize & deliver his message, instead of rushing out like a kid without apologizing...

U women read unwarranted meaning to everything, it is not as bad as the way the op is putting it....

Kindly read well or get a recommended glass. I am male for your information, and married as well. My younger brother dare not enter my room without knocking, not to talk of standing after seeing my wife naked. Except he wants to explain his real intentions towards my wife

MissIndependent:
Any man should knock when entering a ladies room locked or not.

Lol...Do ladies hide human head in their rooms....

This issue of knocking is somewhat subjective & depends on the relationship....often times i don't knock before entering my sisters room...the door is even always open, just with a door curtain hung on it...

richyblink1:


Kindly read well or get a recommended glass. I am male for your information, and married as well. My younger brother dare not enter my room without knocking, not to talk of standing after seeing my wife naked. Except he wants to explain his real intentions towards my wife

We are all wired differently bro...U acting that way doesn't make it right....
See the way u talk am sef...Na people like u they kill their brother because of woman...

Read the op with a recommended glass & see her husband's response....that is how any sensible man should act & not threatening thunder....guess your brother is not trustworthy...

johnson232:

We are all wired differently bro...U acting that way doesn't make it right....
See the way u talk am sef...Na people like u they kill their brother because of woman...

Read the op with a recommended glass & see her husband's response....that is how any sensible man should act & not threatening thunder....guess your brother is not trustworthy...

Kai!! People dey ooo! So I should give my brother a medal for foolishly entering my room without respect. Or issue him a cheque for still standing after noticing my wife is naked.
Ony'isi, ndewoo

It seems your brother in law & husband doesn't accord you much respect.

BIL should have knocked before entering your matrimonial room and hubby should have scolded him.

Anyways, throw it off your mind.... the more you dwell on it, the more you analyze the situation and become more ashamed, embrassed, angry etc.

Just tell your BIL to always knock before entering your room.

cuteguy123:
So make him kill he brother Abi quarrel with am because of a wide pussy bitch?

Hell no.

Bros over bitchess.

I am sure you have shamelessly banged more than 10 guys before you got married.

So what's there to hide?

Mehn gtfo

Na wa

Young lady @iyaayi, you don't need to worry cos 'nothing spoil'. I can bet or vouch that your brother-IL did not see anything. I know, to you, he saw you unclad but for me, due to the momentariness/swiftness of the action he wouldn't comprehend what he saw. That is the situation of things. He stood there for some time because he was stupefied. Let me give you two examples; if you've gone to the mortuary, you see dead bodies in their unclad state but true to fact your brain wouldn't comprehend/amuse at their unclad state due to the queerness of the mortuary situation. Secondly, someone involved in an accident may suddenly run amok and people will hold him in place. At that point in time, the victim doesn't know/comprehend what he does. @iyaayi, these illustrations are to let you know that your BIL didn't enjoy your unclad state. Also, he stood there for awhile apologizing because he lost control of any other voluntary action to execute rather did what (apologies) his brain thought best at that time. Your hubby who was there understood the situation at it's best and hence he dished out the best judgmental action. So, cool your temper madam, you're still intact.

richyblink1:


Kai!! People dey ooo! So I should give my brother a medal for foolishly entering my room without respect. Or issue him a cheque for still standing after noticing my wife is naked.
Ony'isi, ndewoo

@bold u don't need to resort to insult bro....
U sound as if u are infallible...We all make mistakes & this is a mistake anyone can make probably as a result of over familiarity in the house. Such a mistake does not necessary bespeaks disrespect, but oneness & a well united home...

But from the way u talk i will advise u to give your siblings some respect, u should ask yourself why the op husband acted the way he did...Spirit of Oneness bro...

I would have thought secondary schools are on mid term break, going by some juvenile comments here.

OP, you reserve the right to feel the way you feel. I will feel the same way. It's worrying that he comes into your matrimonial room without knocking, you didn't set the boundaries before now. He even stood there apologising, apologising while staring at your unclothedness and your husband didn't react? Nawa!!

It should hurt that your husband dismissed it like that. He isn't expected to kill his brother, but I expected him to show more seriousness. They both don't have any much respect for you.

Call the brother and warn him sternly never to enter your room, with/without knocking. He shouldn't even come close to your room. Try to forget about it, I can imagine how you feel _it's normal, but you'll be fine.