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lovethchioma:
The First to comment poster isn't far from the truth.
Some men now think it is natural for a man to cheat.. Someone will even tell you to prepare your mind because all men cheat. I refuse to believe that trash.... Do you think it's only the men that get tired of sleeping with one woman for the rest of their lives? Don't you know even the women get bored fu**ing one dick for the rest of their lives too? should that now be used as an excuse to cheat on your spouse? that's why I always say it all boils down to self control and commitment to making your relationship work which a lot of persons lack now adays. They prefer to take the easier way out, which is to cheat.
If men will continue sleeping around with other women, what makes you think your woman won't do the same? And if anything happens along the line.. you sure would have to train up another's man child.
How are you sure that as a man all those women you are sleeping with, you have not mistakenly put your seed in one of them and another innocent man is busy training your child too ?
Or doesn't your conscience tells you that those women you've been sleeping with outside your relationship are either somebody's girlfriend, fiancee or wife too?
The level of moral decadence is increasing by the day. Why won't there be chaos in marriages?

It's even the unfaithful once that are busy shouting go for DNA as if it's that easy sef.

The unfaithful men will be blessed with unfaithful women... and if care is not taken you will train up another's man child . Yes... una deserve each other.

If you are a good man don't worry... relax your mind, pray hard, watch carefully, and God will bless you with the right woman who won't give you heart attack.

Are you married Biko, mbok.

Xcelinteriors:
Some men deserve it my dear, they deserve to train up another man's child

Ahahaaha, i didnt see that coming.

Kondomatic:
She's here again



Not less than 50% of Nigeria families?



Oh God

Tallest leave me jor

cuvox:
Nobody deserves to raise someone's else's child without knowing. I am not here to complain about the cheating or who cheats most, na na na. most of us are cheats by the way. some do it emotionally, others physically.
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The frigging annoying thing is that a woman cheats successfully, gets pregnant and ties the baby to another guy. WTF??
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if the guy wanted to raise someone's else child shouldn't him make the decision himself? And it's getting worse. I fear most ladies of nowadays.
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The way they tell their stories in my hostel. Here one had unprotected sex with her so called "fiance" two days ago, and then had unprotected sex with "an online friend that came to visit yesterday" and guess what, today is her ovulation (according to her).
And all her friends are telling her to hold her fiance if she gets pregnant, insisting that's what they will do. wawu.
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There's Odartey Lamptey who thought the three kids he raised were his. There are so many other cases out there. You raise a child, take him /her as yours, only for the lady to come and tell you later that the child is not yours.
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And how about the girls that goes around collecting abortion money from different guys, do you think they if they killed their conscience to come claim abortion money from you for what you didn't put in there they won't kill their conscience to make you raise the child if she wisely refuses to commit murder?
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Abeg, to avoid stories that touch, start saving for DNA test. If the result shows that the baby is yours, congratulations, love your wife more, else you can decide to either take care of them or move thrash aside.
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Don't tell me about homes that will be broken, is it the home that you have already broken before?
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Since the ladies are now making sure that we can't trust them anymore, make we distrust them.

Thanks for the tips . But what if the kids resemble you a lot ? Raising someone else kids is total waste of time and money .

trustyshoess:
I agree with the fact that it is evil for a woman to deceive a man about the paternity of her children but I disagree when you say a woman's infidelity has greater consequences than a man's. What about men who go have extra marital affairs that produce children? What about men that have secret families complete with another wife and children? What about men that cheat on their wives, contract and bring back deadly STDs such as HIV home to their wives and the women, not knowing that they have such a disease ( since they're not sleeping with anyone but their unknowingly promiscuous husband) leave the HIV untreated and end up with AIDs and die in the end?
Infidelity is disgusting regardless of who is doing it

I know of one Alhaja that is HIV positive today,she wasn't aware until she became critically sick,tests showed she has Full blown AIDs,meanwhile hwe husband has been using anti retroviral drugs without her knowledge and still having unprotected sex with her.

lovethchioma:
The First to comment poster isn't far from the truth.
Some men now think it is natural for a man to cheat.. Someone will even tell you to prepare your mind because all men cheat. I refuse to believe that trash.... Do you think it's only the men that get tired of sleeping with one woman for the rest of their lives? Don't you know even the women get bored fu**ing one dick for the rest of their lives too? should that now be used as an excuse to cheat on your spouse? that's why I always say it all boils down to self control and commitment to making your relationship work which a lot of persons lack now adays. They prefer to take the easier way out, which is to cheat.
If men will continue sleeping around with other women, what makes you think your woman won't do the same? And if anything happens along the line.. you sure would have to train up another's man child.
How are you sure that as a man all those women you are sleeping with, you have not mistakenly put your seed in one of them and another innocent man is busy training your child too ?
Or doesn't your conscience tells you that those women you've been sleeping with outside your relationship are either somebody's girlfriend, fiancee or wife too?
The level of moral decadence is increasing by the day. Why won't there be chaos in marriages?

It's even the unfaithful once that are busy shouting go for DNA as if it's that easy sef.

The unfaithful men will be blessed with unfaithful women... and if care is not taken you will train up another's man child . Yes... una deserve each other.

If you are a good man don't worry... relax your mind, pray hard, watch carefully, and God will bless you with the right woman who won't give you heart attack.

Textbook ideas.. Sorry sis, the world doesn't work that way.. Maybe it would when ladies start marrying men and not the other way round.. I am not holding brief for cheating spouses tho

Berbierklaus:
You are blessed.

Until y'all accept that cheating is not for only men,una go continue to train children wey no be una own.
All these call for DNA will affect not less than 50% of Nigerian families, all those calling for it too will be affected and the fathers at 60-70 discover they are childless,oya start looking for young blood to impregnate and have their own child

PS: don't quote me if you are a frustrated bastard,you will be ignored.

My dear, I really hope they learn. They don't understand it's not a one sided thing.
Most of these men are busy sleeping around and spreading their seeds and might even have a child outside and another man will be training the child without them even knowing sef and they think they have the moral right to talk about DNA test.

WetSmoke:
You now see why you will raise another man's children

Tah! With DNA test available? Impossicant

Guys no be small thing ooo... It cost average of 100k (source http://paternitytestnigeria.com/pricing-table/)


Abeg na me get am...

That is the most reason am scared to get married

Berbierklaus:
What is this one saying,did you not see the ps I put there for people like you?

Please don't quote me,if you choose to continue your headache you will be ignored

U said u wee ignore but u didn't ignore. . No allow me use white oak stake on u now

ajog1:
The world has changed and ladies of this age aren't as old fashioned as our mothers, which why we should let go of this wide societal attack against a woman caught cheating because they as vulnerable as men are, so the ACT of cheating isn't an issue-no, but where you deceitfully allow a man to unknowingly bear the consequence he had no part in is so unfair. As for me, I go quietly go run DINA on top those children until they confirm say na me get ham, na the same HIV and medical test we run before marriage nah.

The act of cheating is actually the number one factor giving rise to this issue at hand.
Like someone said on the other thread,"since the hunter have learned to shoot without missing, the bird has also learned to fly without perching."

Besides stories and life experiences abound of men who nurture kids out of their marriage,some hide it till they are dead.
So its a two way thing.(men and women are involved
Happy DNA testing o,try to also test every other member of your family to be sure they belong to their fathers,that way you have fulfilled all righteousness

Xcelinteriors:
Some men deserve it my dear, they deserve to train up another man's child

Come which part of your brain is paining you?

Berbierklaus:
Tallest leave me jor

Am I holding you?

Xcelinteriors:
Some men deserve it my dear, they deserve to train up another man's child

Only God knows what you have gone through in the hands of 'men'. Smh

Spot-on!....after women, fear women!

ZarZar:
Simple.

Be careful ooo.

My sister's Oga did it two years ago, somewhere around computer village in Ikeja.

All four kids, none were his.

He willed his properties to his family and committed suicide.

JeffreyJamez:
So cheating has now turned to competition between men and women?

This is just disgusting​. No sense of principle and moral uprightness anymore. Humans now mating with each other like animals​ in the jungle. Just look at comments. I'm sick to my stomach.

(Spits on thread)

Unfortunately, this one no be spitting matter, it has always been like that. Society simply plays on the male ego to divert attention from the indiscretion of their female counterparts. A typical man will simply suffer in silence than share his shame.
Pragmatism will spare us the heartache in future.

cuvox:
Nobody deserves to raise someone's else's child without knowing. I am not here to complain about the cheating or who cheats most, na na na. most of us are cheats by the way. some do it emotionally, others physically.
.
The frigging annoying thing is that a woman cheats successfully, gets pregnant and ties the baby to another guy. WTF??
.
if the guy wanted to raise someone's else child shouldn't him make the decision himself? And it's getting worse. I fear most ladies of nowadays.
.
The way they tell their stories in my hostel. Here one had unprotected sex with her so called "fiance" two days ago, and then had unprotected sex with "an online friend that came to visit yesterday" and guess what, today is her ovulation (according to her).
And all her friends are telling her to hold her fiance if she gets pregnant, insisting that's what they will do. wawu.
.
There's Odartey Lamptey who thought the three kids he raised were his. There are so many other cases out there. You raise a child, take him /her as yours, only for the lady to come and tell you later that the child is not yours.
.
And how about the girls that goes around collecting abortion money from different guys, do you think they if they killed their conscience to come claim abortion money from you for what you didn't put in there they won't kill their conscience to make you raise the child if she wisely refuses to commit murder?
.
Abeg, to avoid stories that touch, start saving for DNA test. If the result shows that the baby is yours, congratulations, love your wife more, else you can decide to either take care of them or move thrash aside.
.
Don't tell me about homes that will be broken, is it the home that you have already broken before?
.
Since the ladies are now making sure that we can't trust them anymore, make we distrust them.

Be careful ooo.

My sister's Oga did it two years ago, somewhere around computer village in Ikeja.

All four kids, none were his.

He willed his properties to his family and committed suicide.

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lovethchioma:
My dear, I really hope they learn. They don't understand it's not a one sided thing.
Most of these men are busy sleeping around and spreading their seeds and might even have a child outside and another man will be training the child without them even knowing sef and they think they have the moral right to talk about DNA test.

Moral right or not,I support this DNA thing o 100% but even the fathers of the men clamouring for it need to carry out their own test,so we can know all the childless old men and all the bastards roaming around everywhere

Funny enough the average Nigerian can't afford this test,so its funny to see them shouting about it.

greenpasture:
Discovering the true parentage of a child is only one reason for doing a DNA test.

A DNA test and the full report should be in the locker of any family seeking to build a multigenerational family or a family dynasty. A DNA test produces rare and unique insights when you are looking for more than paternity or otherwise.

Dont limit the purview of the test to matters of faithfulness alone else many people will lose the great benefits of this test based on stigma.

We do good stigmatization in the good ol FRN. Sadly enough.

Be careful ooo.

My sister's Oga did it two years ago, somewhere around computer village in Ikeja.

All four kids, none were his.

He willed his properties to his family and committed suicide.

NubiLove:
It costs less than N50k... it is usually not up to N100k. Search on google, there are over 3 test centres I know of in Lagos alone.

thank you very much, sir

Kondomatic:
Am I holding you?

Yes naw.
You are making it look like my figures are wrong.
Let's accept that they are not proven but common and repeated occurrence can bear me witness.

Xcelinteriors:
Some men deserve it my dear, they deserve to train up another man's child

If I slap you.

From all the females comments I can see they are already experiencing broken marriage and those that are single are already preparing to break there marriage in the future.
Olosho full this country. It no dey show face.

That is why you do it 1 - 3 days after the child is born when you can still get your name removed from the birth certificate or in some cases the birth certificate would have not been issued.

obikirinoni:
Be careful ooo.

My sister's Oga did it two years ago, somewhere around computer village in Ikeja.

All four kids, none were his.

He willed his properties to his family and committed suicide.

Marry a DEEPER LIFE girl and you won't need any DNA test

You can see why men are actually the weaker sex

LePrezident:
What does this even mean? What sort of warped thought is this?

Warped thought? This is the way an average naija girl thinks. I have said this several times," Nigeria isn't a good place to raise the female​ child" . The girls in Nigeria are already contaminated. Unless if you don't mind raising a wh0re. ( Forgive me for using this word but I'm being real here).

Avalon316:
Warped thought? This is the way an average naija girl thinks. I have said this several times," Nigeria isn't a good place to raise the female​ child" . The girls in Nigeria are already contaminated. Unless if you don't raising a white. ( Forgive me for using this word but I'm being real here).

Her thought process shocks me. Imagine not feeling any remorse for giving another guy's child to another guy. But I won't want to generalise cos there are some really good Nigerian girls out there and I've encountered a couple same way I have encountered others with even more twisted logic than this lady.

As you're testing your children also test yourself with your dad to be sure you're a true Son of father