AreaFada2:


Imagine the conconbility!

Very sad but funny what replies are here.

How can a grown ass (same age as a married woman) BIL enter a matrimonial bedroom without knocking?

I'm sure he has his own room in the house. The SIL won't go into his anyhow.

Even the BIL should quickly left the room apologizing. Not still standing there while SIL dives for cover.

The hubby should have said sternly "please knock on the door each time", apology or no apology. The wife's body is not for whole family viewing.

Our inability to be objective with blood relatives is the cause of many marital issue, especially hubby's relatives.

For once I have to agree with you I want to believe the guys who think it's nothing are not married.

shumuel:


This is the first time i would ever disagree with any of your comments @boldeds.

Yes, we all agree he should had knock which courtesy demands but lets not forget even OP(Iyayi) pointed out the fact that he could had thought she was still at the lines, which was outside, and also in respect to the above point he was going to meet his brother, who he thought was alone; this is brother for pete's sake, someone he had know all his life even before the wife came into the famiy,, would she had been bothered about knocking if it was her own sister ? I think not.

Lets not also forget ''shock'', yes shock, that was probably what happened to the BIL, seeing someone unclad and acting action film under the bed would definitely make him froze, why ? Because it was unintentional,, if the BIL wants to see her unclad, he would had been a ''peeping tom'', and not right in front of his brother, Think!

I will like you ladies to stop basing everything on gender violations, and we men are not your enemy, so please don't let your judgement beclouded.

Sigh... I came to NL to speak on the Halo Moon over Lagos o, see me digress

cc Sukkot

Egbon sukkot what his this Moon Halo telling us, shey Bubu want to die ni ?

the moon halo means a messenger from the earth is about to return. i suspect this is the return of buhari to come and fulfill his legacy or the return of a reknowned saint to lagos. the return of some ascended being. and when one ascended being enters, another exits so its a slight possibility that bubu can kpaii but hopefully thats not the case.

Caustics:
what do you want him to do? kill his brother? What is done is done. No need making a mountain out of a mole hill. Escalating it will only make you feel more ashamed. By the way how old are you? cuz after a certain age people seeing you naked shouldnt bother you this much.

don't blame her though, at list it shows she has a level of dignity unlike some end time girls here... Some girls can so like to walka nakedly about sha

iyaayi:
My live in brother in law of whom we are agemates barged into my room unannounced this morning. I was totally naked & had to dive under the bed from the shame & shock.

He stood there apologising that he didn't know i was in the room (we had met outside by the clothes line a short while ago).
The most painful part is that my husband who was lying in d bed in the room didn't find it necessary to utter a word.
When I confronted him, he said that shebi his brother had said 'sorry'
I really don't know what to do. I feel let down by hubby's reaction & also ashamed about the whole incident.
pls good folks, what do I do to redress the situation. thank you

he should have knocked...nothing to worry about it.. Just let it go

MissIndependent:
Any man should knock when entering a ladies room locked or not.

just as every woman sould knock before entering a guy's room, locked or not.

johnson232:

Lol...Do ladies hide human head in their rooms....

This issue of knocking is somewhat subjective & depends on the relationship....often times i don't knock before entering my sisters room...the door is even always open, just with a door curtain hung on it...

What happened to Assalamu Alaikum?

Perception is the reason for the diverse responses we have got here. Woman is right getting upset, husband's reaction not so bad, broda inlaw has apologized and should not be slaughtered (I believe he's learnt his lessons). Let's move on

I don't know what he's looking for in the room , couldn't he wait till the brother comes out or call him from the other side of the door .

OP, What if you are the one on bed and your husband is unclad while your immediate sister suddenly enter without a notice, and she wait for minutes trying to be sorry.
what would be ur reaction at present and later on?

iyaayi:
My live in brother in law of whom we are agemates barged into my room unannounced this morning. I was totally naked & had to dive under the bed from the shame & shock.

He stood there apologising that he didn't know i was in the room (we had met outside by the clothes line a short while ago).
The most painful part is that my husband who was lying in d bed in the room didn't find it necessary to utter a word.
When I confronted him, he said that shebi his brother had said 'sorry'
I really don't know what to do. I feel let down by hubby's reaction & also ashamed about the whole incident.
pls good folks, what do I do to redress the situation. thank you

Has your brother inlaw made sexual advances towards you in the past? If no, please Go and sleep, your unclothedness is not valuable to anyone. I'm seeing you as someone who wants to cause problems between two brothers. Desist from that!!! No one is eating your unclothedness.

mzdee01:
I don't know what he's looking for in the room , couldn't he wait till the brother comes out or call him from the other side of the door .

your view tells you an advocate for gental violation

Nonsense! Later you will come here and tell us you feel raped.

nahzyla:

Every houseguest and even the house kids are supposed to knock when entering a married couples room. thats their domain for private activities so a sensible person would knock first whether door is locked or not.

still don't forget the fact that not everyone are sensible the reason the door should have been locked...IMO

6feet



op, I presume u have been reading public advises that u want, to destruct your supposed sweet home


as a matter of fact, I think it would be more embarrassing telling your brother in law to knock before bouncing in rather learn how to close your door whenever you're dressing up. am sure his stays in your house would be counting by now.

I don't know why I can't stay with married couple, I won't be free most esp those couple that are over romantic

geronimoedeh1:



About a dozen men might have seen it even before you...

Hmmmm,

So a dozen/a few more seeing it after marriage is nothing?

Nice one

donkilidon:
Pls talk to your brother in law directly,tell him to always knock even if it is only his brother in the room.

To me it's a deliberate act,more so he should have walked out the moment he saw u nude.

Except say him dey eye u with style

Abeg always lock your room door when your hubby is out,dis kind guy fit put him plug 4 your socket ooooo

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richyblink1:


Kindly read well or get a recommended glass. I am male for your information, and married as well. My younger brother dare not enter my room without knocking, not to talk of standing after seeing my wife naked. Except he wants to explain his real intentions towards my wife

Iyaayi.....Is this the first time your brother inlaw is entering you room without knocking? This is just the first time you have been unclad. You have been allowing the disrespect before now. You cannot hold yourself like a pinch of salt and expect to be carried like a bag of rice. I understand the situation is abnormal, but i assume the brother inlaw has been living with the husband before you arrived. You are like the 3rd party and as a lady, you are expect to lay down some ground rules. Respect of privacy should be topmost on the list.

In as much as he was supposed to knock before he enters, the same thing goes for you. Keep a latch on your door when strangers are around.

Your husband isnt supposed to kill his brother for that i believe.

richyblink1:


Kai!! People dey ooo! So I should give my brother a medal for foolishly entering my room without respect. Or issue him a cheque for still standing after noticing my wife is naked.
Ony'isi, ndewoo

Abeg Oga siddon jawe and make we hear word. We 'nigerians' always take simple things out of proportion. See how you exaggerate seeing woman unclad as if it's some sort of demonic thingy. It is only a husband that is suffering from insecurity and trust issues that will make a mountain out of this mole hill of an issue.

Onuh22:
Perception is the reason for the diverse responses we have got here. Woman is right getting upset, husband's reaction not so bad, broda inlaw has apologized and should not be slaughtered (I believe he's learnt his lessons). Let's move on

Thumbs up

kaymart:

Mr lover, take it easy o......hmn

If it were to be you, perhaps u 'll send him packing or kill him.....ryt?
what's even so special about the nudity. Mtscheww
So long you could see clearly that it wasn't intentional, then just let it go. No need talking anything about it sef 'cos d young dude already 'll feel remorseful
and he won't ever make such mistake again.
Some ppl shud start applying wisdom in their dealings.
More respect to the husband of the OP for his maturity and wisdom.

There is absolutely no big deal about nudity.
You can always display your wife butt-naked on TV for the World to see to show you are mature.

I know lots of guys here have been programmed to always fault women even when it's obvious a man is at fault.

The BIL is very wrong, you just don't barge into people's room anyhow. A married couple for that matter. Courtesy demands you knock.
I guess not everyone has that home-training though.

Let's assume it was a mistake and excitement made him forget to knock, he knew she was unclad, could see her trying to dodge. and hide and he still stood there supposedly apologizing.
A right thinking husband would reprimand him, it doesn't have to involve sending packing or the rubbish some people keep spewing up there.
He should have said something, warned him never to barge into their room that way ever again.

Next time he will still barge in, probably when she is home alone and unclad or they could be busy in the act, there should be a limit to everything.
I can't even enter my parent's room without knocking and seeking permission.


It's plain disrespect, but boys who don't respect women on a normal day would still defend it

HaneefahRN:



There is absolutely no big deal about nudity.
You can always display your wife butt-naked on TV for the World to see to show you are mature.

I know lots of guys here have been programmed to always fault women even when it's obvious a man is at fault.

The BIL is very wrong, you just don't barge into people's room anyhow. A married couple for that matter. Courtesy demands you knock.
I guess not everyone has that home-training though.

Let's assume it was a mistake and excitement made him forget to knock, he knew she was unclad, could see her trying to dodge. and hide and he still stood there supposedly apologizing.
A right thinking husband would reprimand him, it doesn't have to involve sending packing or the rubbish some people keep spewing up there.
He should have said something, warned him never to barge into their room that way ever again.

Next time he will still barge in, probably when she is home alone and unclad or they could be busy in the act, there should be a limit to everything.
I can't even enter my parent's room without knocking and seeking permission.


It's plain disrespect, but boys who don't respect women on a normal day would still defend it

Heavens bless you.
See how they are trivialising a married woman's body. They won't want their wives to wear skimpy wears, yet there is no problem with this issue. I even had to ask my husband to be sure I am not overreacting, his face just changed..."what's he doing in our room to start with?"

Maybe she should have just carried on like the BIL wasn't there, the husband would have been the one opening this thread and the comments would definitely be different.

This post has exposed the nature of some men. I was of the opinion that women are jealous and protective over their husbands, l never knew men could be more jealous and over protective of their wives. The "mumu" button of some guys got activated within a second to beserk mode to unleash the animalistic territorial defense synonymous to wild life because a younger brother accidentally entered the room . Some are so irrational with their comments and i see adrenallin flowing through them to the climax. I have come to conclusion not to blame wives monitoring their husbands. Men are of higher dimension of jealousy.

Op, stop living in family house and get urs... Rent or build your own house, this kind of things happen in family house.

Caustics:
what do you want him to do? kill his brother? What is done is done. No need making a mountain out of a mole hill. Escalating it will only make you feel more ashamed. By the way how old are you? cuz after a certain age people seeing you naked shouldnt bother you this much.

you didn't make any sense at all

Islamic etiquette for entering others houses/rooms:

{O you who have believed, do not enter houses other than your own houses until you ascertain welcome and greet their inhabitants. That is best for you; perhaps you will be reminded}.
{And if you do not find anyone therein, do not enter them until permission has been given you. And if it is said to you, "Go back," then go back; it is purer for you. And Allah is Knowing of what you do}
{There is no blame upon you for entering houses not inhabited in which there is convenience for you. And Allah knows what you reveal and what you conceal} AL QUR'AN 24:27-29

nahzyla:

Every houseguest and even the house kids are supposed to knock when entering a married couples room. thats their domain for private activities so a sensible person would knock first whether door is locked or not.

this is not always the case, I have young kids my self and I always scream the hell out every time because they just keep barging into my room.

I think the guy should have asked the brother to always knock and wait for a response before turning the door knob always.

richyblink1:


Really? Someone seeing your wife's unclothedness shouldn't bother you/her? Ezigbo onye nkuzi!!

It will not bother me for sure. I'll only be bothered if and only if I am an Aboki. But fortunately, I don't have that kind of their primitive brain.

PaperLace:
I would have thought secondary schools are on mid term break, going by some juvenile comments here.

OP, you reserve the right to feel the way you feel. I will feel the same way. It's worrying that he comes into your matrimonial room without knocking, you didn't set the boundaries before now. He even stood there apologising, apologising while staring at your unclothedness and your husband didn't react? Nawa!!

It should hurt that your husband dismissed it like that. He isn't expected to kill his brother, but I expected him to show more seriousness. They both don't have any much respect for you.

Call the brother and warn him sternly never to enter your room, with/without knocking. He shouldn't even come close to your room. Try to forget about it, I can imagine how you feel _it's normal, but you'll be fine.

to my own observation, the so called juvenile comments are more sensible compared to yours. maturity is never all about age.

richyblink1:


Really? Someone seeing your wife's unclothedness shouldn't bother you/her? Ezigbo onye nkuzi!!

what will you do if the guy bang your wife afterwards, you will praise him for assisting you abi. preventing evils is better than allowing such to happen and Moreso the respect your younger brother will have for her will reduce.