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hibiscus76:
its a pity no one talks about Love anymore... marriage shouldn't be all about money oo OP..

hi, Hibiscus76,I have followed on some of your discussions. i am somehow attracted to your personailty and I am willing to meet/know you.

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This post is soo senseless, vain, shallow and childish. Op you Think you sound intelligent but you sound fake and dumb with soo much pride.

There is so much more to a man or anyone than money, what is even so special about rich people? They are just normal human beings like every one else who are just fortunate to make it in life. Every single human being is valuable, but it seems financial status is the most important thing for you because you have nothing else to offer.

What have you done for mankind with your intelligence and status, let me guess NOTHING! Just to buy Brazilian hair and be feeling like one goddess and posting stupid pictures up and down on social media.

I honestly admire humble people and those hustling to make it in life, God bless your hard work and determination and don't let this dumb post bring you down.

havilla:
This post is soo senseless, vain, shallow and childish. Op you Think you sound intelligent but you sound fake and dumb with soo much pride.

There is so much more to a man or anyone than money, what is even so special about rich people? They are just normal human beings like every one else who are just fortunate to make it in life. Every single human being is valuable, but it seems financial status is the most important thing for you because you have nothing else to offer.

What have you done for mankind with your intelligence and status, let me guess NOTHING! Just to buy Brazilian hair and be feeling like one goddess and posting stupid pictures up and down on social media.

I honestly admire humble people and those hustling to make it in life, God bless your hard work and determination and don't let this dumb post bring you down.

You are a Special Woman, And someone who will definitely be a priceless asset and a constant source of motivation to any man you choose to build your Life with. May God bless you with a Man who will Appreciate and treasure these values You Possess. Have a Great evening ma'am.

Where did I say I go into relationships just because of money? The category of women I am referring to, which I believe I belong to, don't go into relationships just because of money. Certainly they have other standards, but money is one of those standards. Shikena.

I never said money equates intelligence. I said being financially successful is indicative of intelligence. And yes it is. Money isn't easy to get. Only someone who is intelligent can get it. And by intelligence, I don't mean memorizing data and writing an exam. I mean being able to utilize acquired knowledge and inherent skills in solving real problems. Dino Malaye is an intelligent man. Obviously.

I didn't say a lady should leave a man she loves if he becomes broke. I said a lady can date a broke but hardworking and ambitious guy who has potential, but can choose to leave him if he isn't making progress. Abi can't you read?

you know what i learnt the hard ways...........? never be logical with females.

one of the reason creation baffles me is the existence of women expecially those that can't afford a "brain"


two categories of people............
1) intelligent people
2) those that think they are intelligent

Intelligent You....More Wisdom

greyboy5000:
again why do you keep equating finance with intellectual capacity using cheap example like mike adenuga what of people like mc oluomo
There are lot of guys who are super smart that are rich, there are not so smart rich ones too
Just say you want to marry a rich guy

You dont have to insult broke guys to justify your decision

Who are this girl's doing a Favour.?

MsRoe:
Has Arunma Oteh married her gate man? Has Rita Dominic? Rena A ? At what age do you reckon I would?

Stop assuming every woman is desperate to be married at any cost. If it is to my benefit I will, if it's not I won't. And if it doesn't happen, I should be sure I can fend for myself and be fulfilled pursuing whatever endeavor I deem worthy.

You're hyperventilating now. By the time you reach 28, your soundtrack go change

IamaNigerianGuy

You couldn't reply me when I asked you to show me where I said people should marry for money, or shouldn't marry for love and compatibility, you just jumped to conclusions to the point of telling me that the path I'm treading is not discernable from a gold digger, Please, next time, understand my statements before tagging me with your advice, and if you don't understand my statements, ask me for clarification before jumping into conclusions.

Ontarget:
The girl eventually deleted her account. You actually warned her indeed

That's sad, and suspicious

FelixFelicis:
This article is logical, but we all know that that something is logical doesn't make it right. OP you made your points and your points fully support your conclusion so you've a pass there for me.

I only can't help but wonder why comfortable guys don't go about searching for a lady of their class, or a financial level or a qualification level. It's just like it's a Jinx for comfortable and uncomfortable ladies to frown at "broke" guys. Whereas guys will wife any lady they want, either if she's rich, broke as a result of been visionless or been lazy, whatever her status may be.

It's a confused world out here men...

Reason why I began to adopt lofty standards for the b!tches too. Be beautiful like whatever...if you can't equal me in monetary terms, you're just a temporary lay.

But please...we niggers can go back to our hustle and stop whining. Whining is for them- the weaker sex. We all can act like we are not perturbed by their trend of madness.

Fadman4real:
What happened to love?
What happened to faithfulness?

This is nothing but poverty mentality which is most prevalent among our Nigerian ladies. The most important thing they look out for is how much is a guy worth forgetting everything else.

Let me tell you something you don't know we live in a poor country relatively. Most of us youths who finish school with a good grade find it difficult to get a good job and settle for a little job to put food on d table and keep hustling for a better job and even when you eventually find it. The pay is much smaller than what your peers receive in developed countries for doing the same thing you do. So relatively it would take a young man 10 years to achieve what his mates would achieve if he were in a developed country. Being broke here is not as a result of lack of intelligence or laziness but as a result of the type of situation he/she has found himself.

If you are lucky as a lady to get a good job and have a pretty good life that doesn't mean you shouldn't be humble enough to let love have its way and date someone who loves and treats you right. If someone that really loves you approaches you and is one of those struggling you won't even give him a chance and even if you do it would be with an ultimatum. Make it or I leave.

What happens if in d future the big boy you married loses everything and is broke. You would treat him like shit cause u are d one now paying the bills. I pray to make it big one day but my most important prayer is to avoid materialistic women like you.

Yours is by far the most befitting response to this thread.

hibiscus76:
its a pity no one talks about Love anymore... marriage shouldn't be all about money oo OP..

Same thought here....

Financial and material wealth has long being officially declared as the accepted substitute for love by the likes of OP and her advocates throughout the federation, we blame them ? NO! Na over-exposure without self-check remoulded their mentality.

At times when I come across arguments like hers on NL romance sections, I always can't help but to think what if we live in a world where no such things as money exist, where only wealth is determined and measure of how capable humans can acquire resources, I wonder where these caliber of bandidas would fall into in such a world.

When I become a trillionaire, I will tone things down just to avoid ladies like her when seeking for those who want to be involved in a true loving relationship.

Apina:
After going through your write-up, I must confess that you made some very valid points but just what if the said financially buoyant guy losses all he has, would he still fit into ur category? Are u also saying ones financial status at a point in time should be the determinant for going into a relationship? All I see from ur long epistle is money this, money that. You still do not understand the basics of life, you still cannot see beyond the end of your nose.

What valid points ? The more I read her posts the more I visualize her face as that of Andrea (Sanaa Lathan) in The Family That Preys. She kept emphasizing how intellect can result to true financial success, I say with all her highbrow tastes and qualities [url=nairaland.com/Lubyna]Lubyna[/url] would dare not date an illiterate brute in celebrity's clothing like Floyd Mayweather if he wasn't rich in his pugilist profession ? Shebi intellect equals financial success na, or would she even stoop to consider a billionaire like Al-Waleed bin Talal if he hadn't inherited all his wealth through royalty. Shebi intellect equals financial success na, for her mind. Well, like someone said - make their type kuku just tok say na multimillionaires/billionaires their standard begin from.

let me sum up the whole analogy using statistics
dating a naija girl= {Financial Standard, Prospects of Wealth}
where the endogenous variable is characterized by
a) intelligence
b) being well-informed
c) not totally ignorant

but OP forgot to add the error term where error consist of, but is not limited to;
a) love
b) patience
c) compatibility
d) faithfulness
e) being nice and caring
f) till death do us apart mentality

Problems Noted
a) the sample size is very small to accurately represent the average dating naija girl
b) the F statistics is up to no good. the overall model is statistically unfit
c) the OP needs to carry out a stationarity test on time series data collected on both the endogenous and exogenous variables in order to mk the analysis meaningful for govt policy making
Note Below
Naija has few rich women, the richest being Mrs Alakija. using OP's model, i wonder why Alakija did not take steps to win an equally successful Dangote, being the richest man in Naija, as both of dem will encourage themselves to strive harder and be successful. hmmmmm. my first comment on NAIRALAND

One thing I have realized from reading comments on this website is that a lot of men do not understand that some women have certain financial standards when it comes to dating, and nothing can make them lower those standards. So guys, when a lady says she can't date a broke guy, try to first ruminate on the information I want to pass across before deciding to label her with derogatory appellations.

When I say some ladies, this "some" constitutes a certain category of ladies. This category includes ladies who are ambitious, hardworking and goal oriented. They are aren't idle or ignorant. They are intelligent, well informed and most times are financially bouyant. These are the kind of women I am categorically referring to. If this kind of woman says she can't date a broke guy, then she is justified in making such statement, and any guy who insults her for making such statement or tries to refute her statement with the kind of pathetic comments I read here, is indeed pathetic.

How does anyone expect a woman who is working towards being financially successful and expending time and energy towards this goal, to settle for some guy who earns WAY less than she does? How can a financially ambitious woman lower her standards and spend years waiting for some guy "who has potential" to make it? Let me unpack this last statement because it's a bit radioactive. There are different gradations of potential and that's why I used quotation marks. There are men who have an education that confers a high competitive advantage in the job market, or skills that can catapult them to high rungs on the financial ladder. If a financially ambitious woman meets this kind of guy and he is working hard everyday to become financially stable and secure, then she can lower her standards a bit and grind with him, but only for a while. If after few months or years and this guy isn't making any progress and she decides to go, no one should blame her. Maybe the guy isn't smart enough or isn't just lucky enough. She has the right to leave him and find someone who is financially compatible with her. Yes.
But this only applies to men who have real potential, not some guy who just has a degree or skills and isn't taking diligent steps to improve his finances.

What most guys don't realize is that being broke or just having enough money to subsist, are indicative of certain traits women in general aren't attracted to. Traits like laziness, unintelligence, lack of ambition, bad luck, and a lack of good education. It's not the fault of a financially ambitious woman who is financially bouyant herself if she doesn't want to mingle with broke people, let alone date them.

Instead of dating a guy that has good qualities, the kind of women I am referring to would rather find financially bouyant and ambitious men like themselves, and then proceed to look for these good qualities. And YES they are justified in doing that. Abi is it only broke guys that have good qualities?

Lastly, if any guy is asking out women who don't fall into the category of women I am referring to, then such guy has low standards and deserves the rejection he is receiving from his fellow broke girl.

last last, na person like u go still settle down with one mechanic or bus conductor for ur area

Last last, na person like u go still settle down with one mechanic or bus conductor for ur area

Hahaha This One Loud Gan Ooo!!! Obviously The Op Is High On Oshogbo Weed #Useless Gurl!!!

women like you usually end up in divorce after marriage.

One thing I have realized from reading comments on this website is that a lot of men do not understand that some women have certain financial standards when it comes to dating, and nothing can make them lower those standards. So guys, when a lady says she can't date a broke guy, try to first ruminate on the information I want to pass across before deciding to label her with derogatory appellations.

When I say some ladies, this "some" constitutes a certain category of ladies. This category includes ladies who are ambitious, hardworking and goal oriented. They are aren't idle or ignorant. They are intelligent, well informed and most times are financially bouyant. These are the kind of women I am categorically referring to. If this kind of woman says she can't date a broke guy, then she is justified in making such statement, and any guy who insults her for making such statement or tries to refute her statement with the kind of pathetic comments I read here, is indeed pathetic.

How does anyone expect a woman who is working towards being financially successful and expending time and energy towards this goal, to settle for some guy who earns WAY less than she does? How can a financially ambitious woman lower her standards and spend years waiting for some guy "who has potential" to make it? Let me unpack this last statement because it's a bit radioactive. There are different gradations of potential and that's why I used quotation marks. There are men who have an education that confers a high competitive advantage in the job market, or skills that can catapult them to high rungs on the financial ladder. If a financially ambitious woman meets this kind of guy and he is working hard everyday to become financially stable and secure, then she can lower her standards a bit and grind with him, but only for a while. If after few months or years and this guy isn't making any progress and she decides to go, no one should blame her. Maybe the guy isn't smart enough or isn't just lucky enough. She has the right to leave him and find someone who is financially compatible with her. Yes.
But this only applies to men who have real potential, not some guy who just has a degree or skills and isn't taking diligent steps to improve his finances.

What most guys don't realize is that being broke or just having enough money to subsist, are indicative of certain traits women in general aren't attracted to. Traits like laziness, unintelligence, lack of ambition, bad luck, and a lack of good education. It's not the fault of a financially ambitious woman who is financially bouyant herself if she doesn't want to mingle with broke people, let alone date them.

Instead of dating a guy that has good qualities, the kind of women I am referring to would rather find financially bouyant and ambitious men like themselves, and then proceed to look for these good qualities. And YES they are justified in doing that. Abi is it only broke guys that have good qualities?

Lastly, if any guy is asking out women who don't fall into the category of women I am referring to, then such guy has low standards and deserves the rejection he is receiving from his fellow broke girl.

Dear NL,pls introduce dislike and hate button, so as some can express their opinion without typing.

yhemster:
Whaooo, I'm just short of words. To each his own. I'm a not rich guy, and meeting girls with this mentality makes me differ Relationship/marriage till further notice. If you're really a successful woman as you've claimed to be, you would have gotten better understanding of money. And pls, don't call urself successful if you're still waking 5am going to some else company to work.
Life isn't abt the destination, it's abt the journey. Comfortable life sometimes gets boring.
Confidently I can say I'm well travelled, whenever I met a lady of any class anywhere, immediately my brain evaluates her exposure, understanding of life, Thirsty for knowledge and spirituality (not religion). If you like be Mo Abdu or Alakija, if you fail, I'm done. I believe if we can't agree on some elementary principles, we can neva have a successful marriage.


NB. Ready made attire doesn't fit like Bespoke.
****Mike Adenuga was once a Taxi driver in NY.

Isn't it funny you're the one telling another person what life is about?
A very wise man once said that only boring people get bored.

majekdom2:
it's not about Men. It is about the society we all have found ourselves. Thus the reason for the post. In an economy where the govt can provide 3 square meals for you and have everything going the way you want, won't you perhaps date someone you "love". In Nigeria, opposite is the case. Many are dating for selfish reasons just to survive. You can count the number of men on this thread that won't say yes to a woman richer/older than them. We have a social problem and Op's post is not addressing that in anyway. Everyone has right to date whoever they like nobody said no. Check deeply, we all know the point Op is making.

The Op isn't making any deep points, the truth is that you men don't like hearing women talk about how they want quality men for themselves. That is always the trend. Whether money is involved or not, even if a woman says she wants a handsome romantic man, Nairalamd men will still swoop on her and insult her and tell her she will grow old and have to settle for a shoemaker.

The other day a lady started a thread saying women should take care to not be materialistic and end up marrying men with questionable sources of wealth yet men still came to the thread to insult her. What exactly do you people want?

The lady that started this thread repeated it so many times that the women who should have high standards must also be hard working and rich and ambitious but it's like you men deliberately ignore that part and just rush into anger because she isn't saying women should lower their standardsand accept just any man. Men don't always say yes to women that are older/richer than them because they have ego issues, they don't like it when women are better/more intelligent or more experienced than them, much less the woman they call their wives. They want a woman they can dominate in all aspects of life. Ordinarily it's not a bad thing to want a partner that is equal to you in financial status, which is what Op is saying some women like
Men don't want a woman that is equal financially because they think they should be better than their wives in all ramifications including wealth.

It is an illusion.

They claim to be big girls but will not stop begging for airplane tickets to exotic vacation spots. You hear stories like "the automatic gear box of my car is N400k, I need assistance". The financial assistance they need is never less than N100k and they act/talk like it is nothing. Yeah. Money they don't have. Any man that falls for their crap deserves it. Some of them have businesses you think are doing well. But when you get closer, they need financial support.

Get a young undergraduate as a girlfriend and live a happier life. You get the same love and attention for a lot less. What will the phantom big girl do that an average girl cannot do? Now you are thinking. Most of the so-called big girls are corporate beggars. But Nigerians fall for packaging.
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CrescentMoon:
What a very deep analysis! That Lubyna should see this.

The troll has deleted her account. But she has the audacity to say that someone can't handle the truth.

havilla:
This post is soo senseless, vain, shallow and childish. Op you Think you sound intelligent but you sound fake and dumb with soo much pride.

There is so much more to a man or anyone than money, what is even so special about rich people? They are just normal human beings like every one else who are just fortunate to make it in life. Every single human being is valuable, but it seems financial status is the most important thing for you because you have nothing else to offer.

What have you done for mankind with your intelligence and status, let me guess NOTHING! Just to buy Brazilian hair and be feeling like one goddess and posting stupid pictures up and down on social media.

I honestly admire humble people and those hustling to make it in life, God bless your hard work and determination and don't let this dumb post bring you down.

Baby how I fit take reach you now? I need to give you one cold orijin in person.

1Rebel:
You're hyperventilating now. By the time you reach 28, your soundtrack go change

do not make assumptions, you don't know me. 28?

Smh.



And for those trying to cause distractions saying marriage isn't just about money.........of course, it's not! There are many things to consider before tying the knot. Religious compatibility, genotype, etc. etc. And love?

But people who have let love decide their fate, ignoring intricacies like incompatible genotype, for instance, have lived to regret. Let's not, for the sake of convenience now, pretend that love is the only factor, and conquers all challenges in marriage. We are not children. Hopefully.

This post is about one specific factor: financial compatibility. Finances affect marriage whether you accept it or not. (You'll find out soon enough). Stop rubbishing it's validity on account that money isn't everything. That's not the claim here. It's so dense to assume that after reading the topic.

Parading a willful lack of intelligence and understanding in a bid to try to counter the points in the original post is a very juvenile thing to do. And if the lack of intelligence and understanding is authentic, then there's really something to worry about. Either way, there's no substance in these arguments; everything has been said in the OP and clarified in the earlier pages. It can be heeded or ignored at individual discretions.

Where did I say I go into relationships just because of money? The category of women I am referring to, which I believe I belong to, don't go into relationships just because of money. Certainly they have other standards, but money is one of those standards. Shikena.

I never said money equates intelligence. I said being financially successful is indicative of intelligence. And yes it is. Money isn't easy to get. Only someone who is intelligent can get it. And by intelligence, I don't mean memorizing data and writing an exam. I mean being able to utilize acquired knowledge and inherent skills in solving real problems. Dino Malaye is an intelligent man. Obviously.

I didn't say a lady should leave a man she loves if he becomes broke. I said a lady can date a broke but hardworking and ambitious guy who has potential, but can choose to leave him if he isn't making progress. Abi can't you read?

And obviously, Evan is very intelligent.

Owo ni koko. It doesn't matter how you get it.

MsRoe:
Has Arunma Oteh married her gate man? Has Rita Dominic? Rena A ? At what age do you reckon I would?

Stop assuming every woman is desperate to be married at any cost. If it is to my benefit I will, if it's not I won't. And if it doesn't happen, I should be sure I can fend for myself and be fulfilled pursuing whatever endeavor I deem worthy.

we are nothing but humans my dear, you don't have a single idea of what they are passing through and wishing for personally. Deep within them there is a viod I tell you, just pray everything work for you. "The rich also cry" why? I ask

jintex:
we are nothing but humans my dear, you don't have a single idea of what they are passing through and wishing for personally. Deep within them there is a viod I tell you, just pray everything work for you. "The rich also cry" why? I ask

Yes. Everybody cries. He claimed there was a natural path that led to a marriage with the gateman after a certain age; and I refuted this with those examples - Ladies of 'a certain age' who had not gone down that road. Some of them, way past their child bearing age.

They've chosen their lot in life. Married women also chose theirs. Tears, laughter and all.

I will chose my path too. I'm only saying that no one has the right to define it for me.

MsRoe:
do not make assumptions, you don't know me. 28?

Smh.



And for those trying to cause distractions saying marriage isn't just about money.........of course, it's not! There are many things to consider before tying the knot. Religious compatibility, genotype, etc. etc. And love?

But people who have let love decide their fate, ignoring intricacies like incompatible genotype, for instance, have lived to regret. Let's not, for the sake of convenience now, pretend that love is the only factor, and conquers all challenges in marriage. We are not children. Hopefully.

This post is about one specific factor: financial compatibility. Finances affect marriage whether you accept it or not. (You'll find out soon enough). Stop rubbishing it's validity on account that money isn't everything. That's not the claim here. It's so dense to assume that after reading the topic.

Parading a willful lack of intelligence and understanding in a bid to try to counter the points in the original post is a very juvenile thing to do. And if the lack of intelligence and understanding is authentic, then there's really something to worry about. Either way, there's no substance in these arguments; everything has been said in the OP and clarified in the earlier pages. It can be heeded or ignored at individual discretions.

They know that finances affect marriage, they know that the topic is about financial compatibility, they just don't want to accept it because op is a girl, she is not supposed to have standards, LMAO

Awho:
sister please can you learn to come to terms with reality and stop this tales about love?

you should understand that a mans level of growth is grossly affected by the type of woman he chooses as a spouse and vis versa.. so?

do you know that even the prayers of a broke/humble woman can skyrocket a man to what he wasn't even expecting... I've seen couples grow from nothing to everything in case you haven't seen...marriage is also for better /worse

So if a woman has financial standards, she should now lower it for some guy because of what? What does the guy have to offer that more financially bouyant and ambitious men don't have? Is it by force to date somebori? It's not like she sees men as lower status, it's just that she can't date them. Shikena. Is it your life? Is it not her life?
Most wealthy men are ambitious, intelligent, well informed and successful, and when they marry, they marry equally intelligent, ambitious, well informed and successful women. Stop watching Nollywood movies and engage with reality.

Oh please. It's not only the women who marry rich men that suffer domestic abuse. Women who are married to broke men also suffer domestic abuse. Domestic violence occurs across all boards.

Lolzzz. Sorry to say this but you are so ignorant about reality. Who told you white women aren't concerned about financial status? How many white women do you know? There are women of different races who have financial standards, and so can't settle for less. And they have the right to. Instead of complaining and abusing them, why don't you strive to be financially successful so you can meet the standards of most women?

I know many white women,it has never been about finance for them. However you deserve the right to date whomever you want to date. I have seen the table turned round eventually like I said it's an African thing cuz of the level of poverty and the way things are runned in this part of the world.

hibiscus76:
its a pity no one talks about Love anymore... marriage shouldn't be all about money oo OP..

May God bless you 100 folds.

hibiscus76:
do you know that even the prayers of a broke/humble woman can skyrocket a man to what he wasn't even expecting... I've seen couples grow from nothing to everything in case you haven't seen...marriage is also for better /worse

with all due respect I don't debate with any thing that has to do with God because I know what he's capable of.

now aside that, we must learn to accept the fact that the height a man attends in his life depends highly on the type of woman he has beside him do you agree with this point?

secondly does it mean all broke women know how to pray their men to success?

I tell you most of these broke ladies bring more trouble to their husband's than you can ever imagine.