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Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 5:47pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
greyboy5000: No, you misunderstand me. I said a person should leave once they're being held back by their mate because that amounts to an unhealthy relationship. In the course of this back and forth, I mentioned the attributes of a go getter: diligence, drive, discipline, intelligence and, yes, luck. All of which bring the sort of energy that a fellow go-getter craves to enhance their own vibe. A laggard, however, brings on a negativity (laziness, complacency, etc) which is undesirable; and with a late-bloomer, one would require the patience of job to watch them eventually discover their niche. I also said that failures should be disintegrated and attributed to whatever inadequacies fit: laziness, indiscipline, immaturity. A person cannot consistently have bad luck. If it seems like that's the case, he's probably not doing the things he should. So when I say that a person is being held back by his/her mate, it's not about the money in the account. It's about contributing to/ enabling or not interfering with their personal progress and also the vision they have for themselves. And it goes both ways. Some men, for instance, would reckon that their fiancée would graduate in four years (they want a wife with at least a first degree). Then she spends ten years and still has nothing to show for it. She changes schools a few times but still cannot cut it. It becomes apparent that she's dull, or lazy, or unfavored by God. But such a man must make a decision if he will adjust his dreams to accommodate his woman's inadequacies (which will still reflect on the household) or if he should cut her loose without compromise. Of course, this is when decisions are made with one's head. When the heart is involved, illogical things happen. But not everyone will find love in their prime childbearing age and so people forge ahead instead of waiting around. To your penultimate point: If someone you have already identified as a go-getter loses his money, he would not lose his character. So he's still very viable. He can become detrimental to the relationship if he is suddenly consumed by anger and depression and not responding to psychiatric treatment. He would even affect the children negatively. This is why people make the hard decision to split up. On the insults: it wasn't supposed flatter anyone either, so please forgive the fact that the fragile egos of some guys were not seriously considered before composing this. 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by yhemster(m): 5:54pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Whaooo, I'm just short of words. To each his own. I'm a not rich guy, and meeting girls with this mentality makes me differ Relationship/marriage till further notice. If you're really a successful woman as you've claimed to be, you would have gotten better understanding of money. And pls, don't call urself successful if you're still waking 5am going to some else company to work. Life isn't abt the destination, it's abt the journey. Comfortable life sometimes gets boring. Confidently I can say I'm well travelled, whenever I met a lady of any class anywhere, immediately my brain evaluates her exposure, understanding of life, Thirsty for knowledge and spirituality (not religion). If you like be Mo Abdu or Alakija, if you fail, I'm done. I believe if we can't agree on some elementary principles, we can neva have a successful marriage. NB. Ready made attire doesn't fit like Bespoke. ****Mike Adenuga was once a Taxi driver in NY. 32 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 6:06pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
RaggedyAnn:first of all no fragile ego of any guy was bruised However, some guys find the idea of ladies who find it easy to step on other people's ego to make them self look saint or better as ridiculous Now back to the topic I don't know why you keep running away from the fact that this thread talks about money. However, if you want to do that let follow you up. Now clearly your permutations are one sided how do you determine a guy is not working hard enough and holding a lady back Now let me play by your way of using analogy Now think of a guy who struggles to finish top of his class, clearly that shows drive But for some reason or the other is unable to get a job( pheraps job is hard to get for the degree he studied) However, his school gf finds work so what do you suggest for the lady, should she drop the guy after sometime and move to the next guy Like I said before there is no way you can equate hard work as hard work and drive itself doesn't equate success 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 6:11pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
this is very good...those ignoramus will come to shout olosho...and all whatnot..but never mind the truth shall always prevail 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 6:14pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
sekxy:quiet there, wen u talk like this why will they nt think like that 14 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Daeylar(f): 6:35pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
greyboy5000: I've seen the offending paragraph, well what can I say, maybe she would explain better, what I'm saying though is that she never stated that it's all about money (which is what some posters were trying to accuse her of doing) and that is what she maintained to this point, it's about the fact that everyone has standards and the ladies shouldn't be shamed for having such standards which you seem to agree with. |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 6:38pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Daeylar:I never oppose that part of her post Like I wrote previously, every has the right to a choice but don't try to insult others to justify it Rather make your point 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 6:46pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
greyboy5000: You would find that the post alludes to the fact that the financial status of a man is indicative of certain attributes: intelligence, diligence, etc. this is the issue. I'm not running away from the issue. The money is a pointer to those qualities we've mentioned over an over. That's when you said Dino Melaye's money isn't pointing to any quality and I agreed that he didn't represent my interest group. I told you: financial reward = successful enterprise which in turn depends on said attributes. Bottom line: at the root of this isn't the money. To your analogy after one of mine: if a man's fiancée gained a hundred pounds. Hits the gym after persuasions looses the weight after showing incredible drive only to gain it back. And then finds it impossible to find the discipline and consistency to keep the weight off and instead, decides to blame it on bad genes accepting her fate as an obese woman. Would you say she's driven? Just because she demonstrated it once? If the boy is unfortunate to get a job, his drive should be directed towards other worthwhile endeavors that are bound to prove rewarding eventually. He can't sit on his ass blaming fate. He should evaluate his prospects and use his time well. That would be the intelligent thing to do under the circumstances. Otherwise his lack of resourcefulness becomes apparent. Yes, hard work and drive alone isn't enough to be successful, you must posses those other qualities as well. 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Daeylar(f): 6:46pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
greyboy5000: All right then, 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 6:50pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
SO THOSE THAT DATE BROKE GUYS ARE LAZY ABII@OP |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Fadiga24(m): 6:54pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Op come make I swear for you. 7 Likes
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Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 6:55pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Lubyna: Na wa oh...yu no dey gre o..sister chioma |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by MathsChic(f): 6:55pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Lubyna:Thumbs up! 10000+ likes However, it's almost a futile exercise explaining this to Nigerian men. Most don't even recognize that humans, right from ancient times, have always been driven to seek out mates who would provide the best for them in terms of quality of life. That gibberish about blindly loving, is just gibberish. Natural selection ensures that even successful humans are driven to better partners who are not only compatible with them, but can also cater for them. Like attracts like. 8 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by ivolt: 6:57pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
hibiscus76: Because only love can't sustain marriage! That is why older marriages based on practical realities last longer than the "cinderella" ones we have these days. 4 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Rosheal(m): 6:57pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
blackberlin: I stand with you bro 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by SycophanticGoat: 6:59pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Lubyna: Fact is that many girls (not all of them though) who make such declarations are broke themselves or are rather runs girls looking for guys to leach on after releasing their bodies cheaply. The percentage of leaches who go by that rule is more than the hardworking and financially bouyant ones. 10 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by ExInferis(m): 7:00pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Everyone ignore the OP. It's her vag1na talking. 6 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by ikp120(m): 7:01pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Yeah, just the same way prostitutes have certain financial standards, such as 500 Naira for one round. We can safely call you folks prostitutes, ba? That's very good dear. No vex if we call you lot olosho or ashawo o. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by handsomenonny(m): 7:02pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Lubyna:olosho go find work Who teach u olosho na ur mama? Broke this standard that n u re broke calling a man broke, u no go follow ur mate enter italy go expand ur trade u still de package local. U go old here Ooo 12 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Tyche(m): 7:02pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Lubyna: 1 Like
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Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Gerrard59(m): 7:02pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
OP is correct. Women date/marry up not down(there are studies to prove it). Unfortunately, majority of NL males are ignorant of this fact. Funny thing is: Same men that criticise her will not want to marry a lady who is not up and running. She'll be termed as a liability. Yet it's believed this same lady should not have standards. People have standards, if it cannot be increased, it must be maintained. 4 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by SycophanticGoat: 7:03pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
blackberlin: Not any more oh!!! Rich men are becoming wise these days oh. They usually go for their class, except the undereducated rich guys who settle for broke and educated girls. The tide has turned bro.. 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 7:03pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Lubyna: Aunty, I beg to disagree with you on white women, I am saying this because I have dated ladies from all continents. If you are with a white lady, you can hardly worry about your account balance, it is ONLY in Nigeria, that you women give the guy heart attack on a first date. Anytime I buy a drink for a white chic, she buys me two. No dey bring una olosho status compare with oyibo abeg. 32 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by dingbang(m): 7:04pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Lubyna:my friend not everyone will agree with your sense of reasoning.. I understand your post and also agreed with it and then I read his comment at which you replied this and also agreed with him as well. Don't be biased. You know he is right still |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 7:04pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Kids that know nothing about life. The earlier many of you start to realise finances is only a status in life the better/easier relating with people will be. A rich man today can become lesser than he is. I do not mean Poor. His capabilities may reduce but that's not to say he will remain there forever. Pray life teaches you its lessons early, it well help you. The key thing is identifying a zealous/hard-working man and support him with prayers. A hardworking man knows his woman will be in need and will always struggle to provide even if it is not upto the lady's expectation. I don't blame many that put money before anything in their life tho. It's only the environment they have found themselves. 7 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 7:04pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
RaggedyAnn:again you bring back money to support your argument Well what I was saying is the that hard work doesn't equate money gotten at least at some stage, otherwise labouers will have been the richest in the world Now ops post clearly insult some people(broke guys) as a way to look down on them and justify her decision, otherwise why mention them at all She use derogratry words like uneducated and lack of intelligence to make them look bad Now i pointed to Dino malaye and Evans who are rich but not worthy of Parises she gave to rich guys in her post to counter her Now back to my analogy which you twisted There no evidence to suggest in life that lack of immediate success is as result of giving up. Hence, your fat guy analogy won't work So if a guy keep trying and he is ambitious as the lady but not as immediately lucky as his gf Should you suggest the lady leave for another guy or stick to him because of attributes such as the hard work, passion and drive 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Toks2008(m): 7:06pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Lubyna: Soto niyen? People like Evans,hushpuppy and dubious guys i guess.....True wealth is progressive. And what if that wealthy guy by a stroke of faith loses all the wealth? I guess she would leave him to hunt for a new wealthy guy.... Baldadash! 8 Likes 2 Shares
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Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by zainmaxwell(m): 7:07pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
op op op.....lwkmd wen i read ur post abeg no vex which category u fall in....cos ayam nt understanding 2 Likes
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Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Engrduke: 7:07pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Good effort. |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by ICEMAN(m): 7:08pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Lubyna: I like the way you think. I as a guy think exactly the same way about women. I don't date broke bitches and if I have more money than her father it's definitely out of the question. So, I agree with you. 4 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by ephi123(f): 7:09pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
I know this thread will soon explode. Watching from the sidelines with my peanut butter popcorn |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 7:09pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Enough with this broke sermon. It's becoming annoying 4 Likes 2 Shares |
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