thickminaj:
sit her down... Talk to her about it.. .... She's probably thinking you've given up on looking for a job.. And that you've turned her to the bread winner.. Explain things to her... She's a woman she needs to be assured things will go back to the way they were

stukinherdr1222:



bro i would love to contact you as well , my case is more than this . . . i started dating my wife when she was in HND 1 and paid her school fees till she graduated,served and got married ,we dated for 4 years ,two years after we got married i lost my job . . .but before then i was able to open a boutique for her . . . for 8 months now i have been jobless ,and to worsen the situation i have been very sick ,i have GERD a sickness related to ulcer and only surgery can cure , during our court ship i was doing a bsc programme in computer science , i stopped in 300 level . my house rent i cannot pay . . i really need someone i can talk to . . i was very okay financially before i feel sick and lost my job . .i even bought a car of which has been sold long ago . . just to meet up with the expenses in the house . .

my wife changed totally , my family changed as well . ..i have no friends and i have attempted suicide twice . .the only hope i have is God and been alive . .. .my wife has turned my house to a living hell for me . . .i have never had peace since then . she is now very arrogant , no love , no respect , she has never been submissive . . .

BiafraBushBoy:


lol... well... it depends on the type of investment you are talking about.

You are an MMM addict... but I don't wanna stress the argument.

MMM is not an investment. You don't even know where the money is coming from.

rosalieene:
Op you were just so unfortunate to marry a bad wife.

but come to think of it, some men pour out their frustration on their wives when they loose their jobs, hope that's not Wat u do thereby making her angry. This can also lead to careless comments from her.

FortuneTeller:
Op, a woman cannot have respect for a man who does not work while she pays all the bills. Please hurry and get a job, so things can go back to the way they were.

FortuneTeller:


Almost every woman. Go into a marriage, lose your job and you will wake up to the truth.

FortuneTeller:


If he finds a new woman and loses his job, he will get the same results.

dominique:
Truth is, most of the women suffering from domestic violence are those without means of income. Some men that see their wives as burdens and useless, eventually they turn their wives to punching bags knowing that she has nowhere to run to cos she's dependent. So a spouse ill-treating the other because he/she has no means of income is not peculiar to a specific gender. I've seen cases where the wife carry the bulk of the financial responsibilities without any issues. Anyways, the advice I will give op mylander is the same I will give a jobless woman suffering maltreatment in her marriage. Go and get a means of income, no matter how little. May God bless your union and ease your affairs.

dominique:
Truth is, most of the women suffering from domestic violence are those without means of income. Some men that see their wives as burdens and useless, eventually they turn their wives to punching bags knowing that she has nowhere to run to cos she's dependent. So a spouse ill-treating the other because he/she has no means of income is not peculiar to a specific gender. I've seen cases where the wife carry the bulk of the financial responsibilities without any issues. Anyways, the advice I will give op mylander is the same I will give a jobless woman suffering maltreatment in her marriage. Go and get a means of income, no matter how little. May God bless your union and ease your affairs.

stukinherdr1222:



bro i would love to contact you as well , my case is more than this . . . i started dating my wife when she was in HND 1 and paid her school fees till she graduated,served and got married ,we dated for 4 years ,two years after we got married i lost my job . . .but before then i was able to open a boutique for her . . . for 8 months now i have been jobless ,and to worsen the situation i have been very sick ,i have GERD a sickness related to ulcer and only surgery can cure , during our court ship i was doing a bsc programme in computer science , i stopped in 300 level . my house rent i cannot pay . . i really need someone i can talk to . . i was very okay financially before i feel sick and lost my job . .i even bought a car of which has been sold long ago . . just to meet up with the expenses in the house . .

my wife changed totally , my family changed as well . ..i have no friends and i have attempted suicide twice . .the only hope i have is God and been alive . .. .my wife has turned my house to a living hell for me . . .i have never had peace since then . she is now very arrogant , no love , no respect , she has never been submissive . . .

jay2smart19:

bros it's not common. dat woman is nt a wife jor. I just learnt from a close FAM frnd dat he was jobless for almost two years and non of us knew it. the wife is a primary schl teacher. she still respected n loved d man within dat period. if not dat he kind of told us in a gist, non of us knew it. na woman wey knw God and has respect from home and does not keep crazy frnds and believe in book authors dan she believe in her husband. oluwa show me d way.

neoapocalypse:



Totally untrue

A man who physically beats his wife does so because it is what he has taught himself to do not because she isn't earning her own money. Most men who beat their wives started when they had girlfriends , a man who won't lay a hand on a lady before marriage will not do so after marriage , it has nothing to do with her finances/income

FortuneTeller:


You are being very naive. She didn't marry him while he was unemployed, so why should she suffer now? I'm sorry to inform you but all things are conditional. No woman wants a broke man. It's not attractive. If he wants a peaceful marriage, he needs to find a job.

Fabulocity:
Someone once said that it's big trouble when the wife is the one financing the home while the husband is idle. Ogbeni, I really don't blame her. As a man, you're the head of the home and you should act as such, so don't come here saying you were the one paying for everything when you still had a job, that's your responsibility.I'm not justifying her actions oh, it's unfortunate that you are stuck with an impatient woman that doesn't understand what having your back means. Well, you don't expect her to have your back forever. What I'll tell you to do is to find a new job or at least get busy and get back on your feet. Please forgive your wife, she doesn't know what she's doing. Don't ever try to punish or get back at her for her unreasonable actions.

thickminaj:
sit her down... Talk to her about it.. .... She's probably thinking you've given up on looking for a job.. And that you've turned her to the bread winner.. Explain things to her... She's a woman she needs to be assured things will go back to the way they were

Ifyone123:
My oga...respect sir...i am nt an addict, so for u to knw. I do MMM wen i feel I WANT or NEED somtin n it helps. and least i do is 20k.. so plz my oga..if i dont knw werr d money is coming from, do u knw werr u life is goin to in years to com? EVery tin na risk including being careful too

Victornezzar:

hmmm
Boss dis ur case is very heavy
I think u should settle ur wife down
Talk 2 her
Tell her u would pay back in double fold
Cos am believing dat God would do something in ur life very soon

sekem:
Why always women?

stukinherdr1222:


thanks Boss

kaziblake:
I'm a fellow woman like you and what you just put up there is trash!Do you know what the woman is going thru?You only heard the man part and quickly jump into conclusion.

BiafraBushBoy:


You were making sense till you mentioned MMM.

Make I no land you brain resetting SLA....p

Maski87:
My guy why don't you try kidnapping or armed robbery, she will so respect you when you buy her that range,rover

mylander:
Please advise.

I was in an employment of a bank until recently when my employment was terminated.

When I had the job, I took my family welfare as my priory. My wife and our only son were faring good, I always ensure we do not lack the basic necessities. Meanwhile, my wife did not have a job then. All the house upkeep expenses including the cost of running her postgraduate program were on me and I felt comfortable bearing the costs as the breadwinner of the family.

After I lost my job in the bank some month ago, my wife got an employment with the state govt. With her little income, she has been able to assist in bearing some expenses, even she pays for fuelling our car sometimes.

The drama has now started in the house and our marriage is on the verge of breaking up.

Any little issue, my wife will turn it to quarrel, different abuses. Funny enough, she would be referring to the financial supports she has been rendering in the house. This is a woman that did not work at all for 2 years and I was bearing all the expenses with pleasure. Now she had only supported me for about 4months now and she's is misbehaving.

To my surprise, my wife maintains a record in which she records every penny she spends in the house including food items and fuel. With this, she always ask me when will I pay him back.

At the instance of a simple argument/misunderstanding, my wife would be boasting of 'I paid for this, I paid for that....' 'If not for my support since you had problem at work......'

Please advise me, I am getting fed-up with the situation, my wife had changed totally.

Ifyone123:
If wat u mean "going through" is HUSTLE to care for her FAMILY den u must b very wicked to push me. Goosh!! d man has bin doin dis same HUSTLE and providing for her before and after marriage n she did NOTHING!! Like i said earlier.." let d man drop dead den we shall see who will care for these xpenses" plz lets nt pick a fight but lend an up lifting encouragemen to d OP

no1madman:

cos they cannot be trusted. .they r opportunist. .