Op that is called reality. You don't need to despair. If you can do it technically withdraw from spending her money cut back on your expenses.

Let her take care of herself and the kid. Since she has income from the government job

It is a lesson for all young men. Who lavish all their income on wiife in the name of love.

There is nothing called love all is infantuation when the going is good you are a good hubby. When the wind is contrary. Then you know the other party.