Fabulocity:
Someone once said that it's big trouble when the wife is the one financing the home while the husband is idle. Ogbeni, I really don't blame her. As a man, you're the head of the home and you should act as such, so don't come here saying you were the one paying for everything, that's sort of your job. I'm not justifying her actions oh, it's unfortunate that you are stuck with such a selfish and impatient woman that doesn't understand what having your back means. What I'll tell you to do is to find a new job or at least get busy. Please forgive your wife, she doesn't know what she's doing. Don't ever try to punish or get back at her for her unreasonable actions.

sonofLuci:

mylander:
Please advise.

I was in an employment of a bank until recently when my employment was terminated.

When I had the job, I took my family welfare as my priory. My wife and our only son were faring good, I always ensure we do not lack the basic necessities. Meanwhile, my wife did not have a job then. All the house upkeep expenses including the cost of running her postgraduate program were on me and I felt comfortable bearing the costs as the breadwinner of the family.

After I lost my job in the bank some month ago, my wife got an employment with the state govt. With her little income, she has been able to assist in bearing some expenses, even she pays for fuelling our car sometimes.

The drama has now started in the house and our marriage is on the verge of breaking up.

Any little issue, my wife will turn it to quarrel, different abuses. Funny enough, she would be referring to the financial supports she has been rendering in the house. This is a woman that did not work at all for 2 years and I was bearing all the expenses with pleasure. Now she had only supported me for about 4months now and she's is misbehaving.

To my surprise, my wife maintains a record in which she records every penny she spends in the house including food items and fuel. With this, she always ask me when will I pay him back.

At the instance of a simple argument/misunderstanding, my wife would be boasting of 'I paid for this, I paid for that....' 'If not for my support since you had problem at work......'

Please advise me, I am getting fed-up with the situation, my wife had changed totally.

Victornezzar:

e be like say u neva do ponzi b4

Victornezzar:
Op i understand her pains...its normal with women
Dis ur case was d same case with my uncle
Don't know weda dey wer controlling him from village......He lost his job....His wife had a big shop wer she do sell all dis kitchen utensils.....she was complaining oo but my uncle kept calm....she was responsible 4 everything in deir family.....my uncle felt dat d whole world was against him....its dat period u would know hu ur real friends are.....But today it's a forgotten issue...he's living well with his family.
so don't ever regret getting married
Sh*t like dis happens
Btw u too start something doing so at least u can be supporting her
Even if it's little....God will increase u
btw Pm me
let's talk more on dis
will av 2 connect u with my uncle so u would hear more from him

sonofLuci:


LOL as a G boi you no fit scan me na so why I go do ponzi when na my work ni

InvertedHammer:


I said here on NL on many occasions that bankers should endeavour to have a second source of livelihood because of the volatile nature of the industry in Nigeria.

But you thought you knew better than the master. Carry your cross. He who fails to plan, plans to fail. Congratulations! Just because of feeding the family you think she is insulting you. Wait until she gets a boyfriend, you will see real insolence.

You might be one of those that run their mouth instead of heeding a simple advice like those MMM knuckleheads that were insulting just about anyone that was against their gambling addictions/affliction.

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jay2smart19:

bros it's not common. dat woman is nt a wife jor. I just learnt from a close FAM frnd dat he was jobless for almost two years and non of us knew it. the wife is a primary schl teacher. she still respected n loved d man within dat period. if not dat he kind of told us in a gist, non of us knew it. na woman wey knw God and has respect from home and does not keep crazy frnds and believe in book authors dan she believe in her husband. oluwa show me d way.

BiafraBushBoy:


Lol... oya borrow me your spare money, let me do MMM...

Any "investment" you do with spare money (Money you can afford to lose) is not an investment...

It is gambling!!

Take note sweety!!

sweerychick:
Im sorry for your condition, but its obvious u have a greedy and selfish woman as a wife. Lord knows that i cant insult my husband cos of his condition. When u guys exchanged vows she forgot abt the part of good times and bad times so it is all abt her enjoying without remembering your sacrifice towards her. Keep the faith and hope alive God wil sure reward ur pains wt joy. remember the story of job.. dont loose hope. cheers

wristbangle:
I would advice you put in more energy to searching for another job even if the pay is below what you were earning at your previous job or probably start up a business by getting a loan hence moving your feet back on strong financial ground to cater for your family upkeeps (I mean your children majorly).

I won't say you should ignore your wife when your riches have return but be very prudent with the way you spend on her.

This is the only way you can manage the situation. Just try envelope the insult thrown from your wife ( a gold digger) at the moment.

dingbang:
na so.. Wait until the moment comes... Pray that the devil don't take hold of u

mylander:
Please advise.

I was in an employment of a bank until recently when my employment was terminated.

When I had the job, I took my family welfare as my priory. My wife and our only son were faring good, I always ensure we do not lack the basic necessities. Meanwhile, my wife did not have a job then. All the house upkeep expenses including the cost of running her postgraduate program were on me and I felt comfortable bearing the costs as the breadwinner of the family.

After I lost my job in the bank some month ago, my wife got an employment with the state govt. With her little income, she has been able to assist in bearing some expenses, even she pays for fuelling our car sometimes.

The drama has now started in the house and our marriage is on the verge of breaking up.

Any little issue, my wife will turn it to quarrel, different abuses. Funny enough, she would be referring to the financial supports she has been rendering in the house. This is a woman that did not work at all for 2 years and I was bearing all the expenses with pleasure. Now she had only supported me for about 4months now and she's is misbehaving.

To my surprise, my wife maintains a record in which she records every penny she spends in the house including food items and fuel. With this, she always ask me when will I pay him back.

At the instance of a simple argument/misunderstanding, my wife would be boasting of 'I paid for this, I paid for that....' 'If not for my support since you had problem at work......'

Please advise me, I am getting fed-up with the situation, my wife had changed totally.

Victornezzar:

But ponzi scheme still dey function ni

mylander:
Please advise.

I was in an employment of a bank until recently when anged totally.

Fabulocity:
No mind them. Na so dem go dey run their mouth. The woman is wrong in her actions but I really can't blame her. It takes great grace not to react in the same way the woman did.

FortuneTeller:
Op, a woman cannot have respect for a man who does not work while she pays all the bills. Please hurry and get a job, so things can go back to the way they were.

Fabulocity:
No mind them. Na so dem go dey run their mouth. The woman is wrong in her actions but I really can't blame her. It takes great grace not to react in the same way the woman did.

mylander:
Please advise.

I was in an employment of a bank until recently when my employment was terminated.

When I had the job, I took my family welfare as my priory. My wife and our only son were faring good, I always ensure we do not lack the basic necessities. Meanwhile, my wife did not have a job then. All the house upkeep expenses including the cost of running her postgraduate program were on me and I felt comfortable bearing the costs as the breadwinner of the family.

After I lost my job in the bank some month ago, my wife got an employment with the state govt. With her little income, she has been able to assist in bearing some expenses, even she pays for fuelling our car sometimes.

The drama has now started in the house and our marriage is on the verge of breaking up.

Any little issue, my wife will turn it to quarrel, different abuses. Funny enough, she would be referring to the financial supports she has been rendering in the house. This is a woman that did not work at all for 2 years and I was bearing all the expenses with pleasure. Now she had only supported me for about 4months now and she's is misbehaving.

To my surprise, my wife maintains a record in which she records every penny she spends in the house including food items and fuel. With this, she always ask me when will I pay him back.

At the instance of a simple argument/misunderstanding, my wife would be boasting of 'I paid for this, I paid for that....' 'If not for my support since you had problem at work......'

Please advise me, I am getting fed-up with the situation, my wife had changed totally.

Emanodimo:
Just a normal reaction from women. She is pushing you to get back on your feet, not to bow to defeat on job matter.
I will suggest u need more patience till u get something doing.
Think on what u can do aside looking for job... With your banking experience u can find ursef with Microfinance bank...