askibee:



sir base on wat you are complaining of the whole issue you have is compatibility,you guys didn't set priorities right from start,I know it is not a prayer for anyone to loose a job but there should be a system built to tackle this things,of course you should expect this its not her duty to provide,you should know better and not complain

my advice sir get to improve on your values,get your self a job invest on your mental capacity and learn how to manage this kind of situation, first and foremost sir run quickly to God,I recommend a retreat you and your God

sweerychick:
Im sorry for your condition, but its obvious u have a greedy and selfish woman as a wife. Lord knows that i cant insult my husband cos of his condition. When u guys exchanged vows she forgot abt the part of good times and bad times so it is all abt her enjoying without remembering your sacrifice towards her. Keep the faith and hope alive God wil sure reward ur pains wt joy. remember the story of job.. dont loose hope. cheers

Fabulocity:
Someone once said that it's big trouble when the wife is the one financing the home while the husband is idle. Ogbeni, I really don't blame her. As a man, you're the head of the home and you should act as such, so don't come here saying you were the one paying for everything when you still had a job, that's your responsibility.I'm not justifying her actions oh, it's unfortunate that you are stuck with an impatient woman that doesn't understand what having your back means. Well, you don't expect her to have your back forever. What I'll tell you to do is to find a new job or at least get busy and get back on your feet. Please forgive your wife, she doesn't know what she's doing. Don't ever try to punish or get back at her for her unreasonable actions.

stukinherdr1222:



I GOT PANTHOCID FROM A FRIEND IN INDIA , ITS VERY EXPENSIVE NOW I USE NEXIUM ,I CANNOT AFFORD THAT ANYMORE . .

I KNOW THINGS WILL GET BETTER VERY SOON BUT HOW SOON . ..

I REALLY DON`T KNOW WHAT TO DO TO MY WIFE

sweerychick:
Im sorry for your condition, but its obvious u have a greedy and selfish woman as a wife. Lord knows that i cant insult my husband cos of his condition. When u guys exchanged vows she forgot abt the part of good times and bad times so it is all abt her enjoying without remembering your sacrifice towards her. Keep the faith and hope alive God wil sure reward ur pains wt joy. remember the story of job.. dont loose hope. cheers

BiafraBushBoy:


Who is the Idiot that did that to you na??

Don't mind bad boys... they will all suffer same things

Emanodimo:
Just a normal reaction from women. She is pushing you to get back on your feet, not to bow to defeat on job matter.

stukinherdr1222:




US and UK ? GERD, DO YOU KNOW WHAT IT MEANS ? I HAVE BEEN MANAGING THAT SICKNESS FOR TWO YEARS NOW . . . . IT GOT WORST WHEN I LOST MY JOB . . . . BECAUSE I COULD NOT AFFORD THE DRUGS VERY MUCH . . . .YOU MAY WANT TO RECOMMEND A DRUG IF YOU KNOW THE SICKNESS VERY AND HOW YOUR UK AND US PEOPLE WERE ABLE TO FIX THEIRS . . .

MAYBE YOU DON`T KNOW ``HEALTH IS WEALTH `` AND WE COME HERE FOR ADVICE NOT INSULT STOP THROWING SHIT AT PEOPLE IF YOU CANNOT HELP THEM . .. A SIMPLE ADVICE WOULD HAVE HELP THAN CALLING ME LAZY MAN .

I PRAY TO ALMIGHTY GOD ,MAY YOU NOT EXPERIENCE LITTLE OF WHAT AM GOING THROUGH . . . .

kaziblake:
Amen!

praxisnetworks:

He should divorce the twa.t of a woman.... And see about getting his groove back... He needs his peace and health. No woman is worth that.

Martinez19:
I am sure you are like the woman. Your guilty conscience won't let you judge the woman. Nothing justifies a woman insulting her husband because of his condition. Did she forget that it was through this man that she was able to complete her postgraduate degree? Your wicked and greedy nature did not make you see anything bad in what the woman did.
Guys beware of FortuneTeller, she is not a wife material. Mtewwwwwww


This is for you.

neoapocalypse:


All women are the same no matter the colour , size , shape , ethnicity , education , location or wealth , he should just make do with her he won't get a better deal.

And before anyone starts mentioning my mum or sister , yeah they are all the same

thickminaj:
sit her down... Talk to her about it.. .... She's probably thinking you've given up on looking for a job.. And that you've turned her to the bread winner.. Explain things to her... She's a woman she needs to be assured things will go back to the way they were

Emanodimo:
Just a normal reaction from women. She is pushing you to get back on your feet, not to bow to defeat on job matter.
I will suggest u need more patience till u get something doing.
Think on what u can do aside looking for job... With your banking experience u can find ursef with Microfinance bank...

kaziblake:
You think it's easy to divorce!its your type that woman will control.

FortuneTeller:


Do you know how many people in the US and UK have GERD? An employer would laugh in your face over this excuse. Only in Nigeria can such a disease stop someone from working. Get up lazy man and find a job. Support your family!!

Martinez19:
That woman is a disgrace. No matter the condition of your husband, insult is unacceptable. The wife's action is that of a wicked soul. You should not sound ingratiating at what is unacceptable.

BiafraBushBoy:


You were making sense till you mentioned MMM.

Make I no land you brain resetting SLA....p

FortuneTeller:


Yet I am a wife. My husband knows exactly how I feel on such matters.

FortuneTeller:


If he finds a new woman and loses his job, he will get the same results.

mylander:
Please advise.

I was in an employment of a bank until recently when my employment was terminated.

When I had the job, I took my family welfare as my priory. My wife and our only son were faring good, I always ensure we do not lack the basic necessities. Meanwhile, my wife did not have a job then. All the house upkeep expenses including the cost of running her postgraduate program were on me and I felt comfortable bearing the costs as the breadwinner of the family.

After I lost my job in the bank some month ago, my wife got an employment with the state govt. With her little income, she has been able to assist in bearing some expenses, even she pays for fuelling our car sometimes.

The drama has now started in the house and our marriage is on the verge of breaking up.

Any little issue, my wife will turn it to quarrel, different abuses. Funny enough, she would be referring to the financial supports she has been rendering in the house. This is a woman that did not work at all for 2 years and I was bearing all the expenses with pleasure. Now she had only supported me for about 4months now and she's is misbehaving.

To my surprise, my wife maintains a record in which she records every penny she spends in the house including food items and fuel. With this, she always ask me when will I pay him back.

At the instance of a simple argument/misunderstanding, my wife would be boasting of 'I paid for this, I paid for that....' 'If not for my support since you had problem at work......'

Please advise me, I am getting fed-up with the situation, my wife had changed totally.

HenryDion:


Hello bro.. Your problem here isn't your wife. What kind of advice are you expecting to get from this thread? Instead, you should have ask for a business you can indulge in which will no doubt regain your worth. Believe me, no matter how deep your wife loves you, she won't feel the same if she feed your as$ for a week...talk of months.

Strive more to secure another job and avert the drama that's about to play in your home. In fact, you might start losing your kids respect if they find out that it's mummy that's catering for the whole family.. It's natural. You're the man.. be the man..

FortuneTeller:


Yet I am a wife. My husband knows exactly how I feel on such matters.

Fabulocity:
You should try to understand that I'm not justifying her. What she did is not right it's even good that she's in that position of helping out so she can see the kind of pressure her husband goes through on a daily basis. But let's face the facts, she can't keep shouldering the finances forever. I mean, it's HIS duty. That's how she'll begin to lose respect for him if she keeps feeding him and giving him pocket money when it's supposed to be the other way round. You that you're talking would you allow your wife to cater for you like this?

DukeNija:


Doctor! You failed to mentioned that GERD at some point requires medical surgery which he stated.

DukeNija:


Not true. I know men who fell flat but stayed happy thanks to their wives till they bounced back. Not every woman thinks like you

DukeNija:


Not true. I know men who fell flat but stayed happy thanks to their wives till they bounced back. Not every woman thinks like you

mystery22:
shut up dere,fool.d guy just said d honest truth,get rid of d woman op