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Fabulocity:
Someone once said that it's big trouble when the wife is the one financing the home while the husband is idle. Ogbeni, I really don't blame her. As a man, you're the head of the home and you should act as such, so don't come here saying you were the one paying for everything when you still had a job, that's your responsibility.I'm not justifying her actions oh, it's unfortunate that you are stuck with an impatient woman that doesn't understand what having your back means. Well, you don't expect her to have your back forever. What I'll tell you to do is to find a new job or at least get busy and get back on your feet. Please forgive your wife, she doesn't know what she's doing. Don't ever try to punish or get back at her for her unreasonable actions.

You just say 'find a job', 'get back on your feet', like its something he can pull out of his pocket. Then what is the responsibility of a woman in this 21st century? A house wife that take care of the kids? Y'all forget the part that mentions help mate

Victornezzar:
Op i understand her pains...its normal with women
Dis ur case was d same case with my uncle
Don't know weda dey wer controlling him from village......He lost his job....His wife had a big shop wer she do sell all dis kitchen utensils.....she was complaining oo but my uncle kept calm....she was responsible 4 everything in deir family.....my uncle felt dat d whole world was against him....its dat period u would know hu ur real friends are.....But today it's a forgotten issue...he's living well with his family.
so don't ever regret getting married
Sh*t like dis happens
Btw u too start something doing so at least u can be supporting her
Even if it's little....God will increase u
btw Pm me
let's talk more on dis
will av 2 connect u with my uncle so u would hear more from him

God knows for someone like me when I get back on my feet, that will be the end. No human is perfect but you don't abandon someone really close when they're down. Instead convert that energy for criticism to motivation.

Fabulocity:
I agree with you a 100% but why is it that it's only when things go awry that you people remember that marriage is a partnership? But when things are good, you expect the woman to subdue herself and put herself under his authority. If marriage is truly a partnership, then he should also be able do basic house chores with his wife since she's just not there to serve him.

You are just a lazy woman trying to justify her laziness. Chikena

sekem:
Ewu awusa

Ewu Biafra!

, really? So His dead ?

CROWNWEALTH019:
And this na woman way you date and way vow to love you and would do anything for you. Na the same day devil and women were created but we no no which one was created first...


Take heart bro, when bubu burial is announced things would pick up

freshvine:
You're a bitter woman. Your husband must be suffering emotionally... don't tell me he's a rare specie drop from heaven

sekem:
I think she's more like a bitter lesbian

Don't waste your spittle on her

She ain't worth it

When they don't have anything reasonable to counter with, they go personal with family attacks and attacks on sex life.

So what? I'm a bitter lesbian. Yes
Also a bitter wife with a suffering husband.
All of those are accurate. Now that we have gotten the 'facts' out of the way, can you two geniuses focus on the topic and tell me how it's fair for the bread winner to also be the home keeper?

Miserable Fvcktards. The truth does hurt you misogynistic asses don't it? That's why you can't stand me.

Fabulocity:
You're missing the point. There's nothing wrong in a woman supporting her husband temporarily in bad times and I'm very sure that your father didn't sit down at home, waiting for food and daily pocket money from your mom. I'm very sure he kept on hustling to get back on his feet till he did. He didn't get comfortable being catered for and I can assure you that OP's wife is lashing out because she might feel he's not working hard enough to get back in his feet. That's still doesn't justify her actions though

OK I get where you are coming from though nothing in what the op wrote signifies that he is not trying to get back on his feet, OK let's look at present economic reality of Nigeria at present as long as he is trying four months is too soon for her to nag and put up attitude or did he nag when he paid her fare while she studied, which in all honesty is the responsibility of her father. Let's learn to fear GOD O

InvertedHammer:
Give me your email address.

I haven't checked my pm for years. I don't use the email address anymore.

OK..thanks
dejt4u@gmail.com

yinkeys:
God knows for someone like me when I get back on my feet, that will be the end. No human is perfect but you don't abandon someone really close when they're down. Instead convert that energy for criticism to motivation.

lol no na

CROWNWEALTH019:
And this na woman way you date and way vow to love you and would do anything for you. Na the same day devil and women were created but we no no which one was created first...


Take heart bro, when bubu burial is announced things would pick up

Your bubu's burial abi? Mumu,u no fit just hide stu!d!ty 4 one day. Miserable worm.

bayulll011:
I ain't carrying any cross I swear I will walk out of that marriage infant tolerate stupidity just because I wanna stayed married never

You be man wey sabi I swear!!!

I don't condone and won't endure any form of bullshît from any stupid woman all in the name of keeping abi saving the marriage

The marriage ends automatically when one of us is tired of the whole thing

bayulll011:
had to check your picture before I comment not surprised no brain no beauty continue to live in your foool paradise u think all woman will be like you

You couldn't even manage to answer a simple question? No wonder you failed jamb times without number. No woman, I repeat no woman would assume the responsibility of a man for a long period of time without throwing tantrums and let that sink into your empty brain. Anuofia

My brother i was in your shoe's just last year. November to be precise my job was also terminated in the same industry. Once a woman sees you at home daily without enough cash to sustain the home it becomes a big problem. I will advise you do any of the following
1. Go into agriculture no matter how small it may be.
2.search for job aggressively but I doubt if you will see a good one in a short period.
3. Try to do your own thing , create something out of nothing..create and recreate something that will keep you busy.
4. Here is my e-mail so we could discuss further. ogedegbe07@gmail.com.

Thank you

sekem:
You be man wey sabi I swear!!!

I don't condone and won't endure any form of bullshît from any stupid woman all in the name of keeping abi saving the marriage

The marriage ends automatically when one of us is tired of the whole thing

Osheyy

most women are like that, calculating machines !, you borrow 1k from them, you gonna pay the 1k in 10 folds, that's the dig. you will keep paying the debt til Christ shows up 2nd coming !! once you allow them pay up any bill, you have indirecfly transfer power and batton to them for house be that o !, be ready to become the subordinate !

TinaAnita:
Amadioha machie gi nti.. Onye iberibe

Even this one wey never marry dey put mouth for married people talk. Na social media I blame

TinaAnita:
For how long did she support your dad without throwing tantrums like Op's wife? And your mom bore the burden without lashing out at your dad? I beg tell me another story

U think everybody is an a sshole leach like you. My prayer is that you will Mary a broke wife beater so that he will teach you some bitter lesson of life. Ezi ofia

TinaAnita:
You couldn't even manage to answer a simple question? No wonder you failed jamb times without number. No woman, I repeat no woman would assume the responsibility of a man for a long period of time without throwing tantrums and let that sink into your empty brain. Anuofia

Let me ask you a question, what about women who can't raise a finger to do house chores, who can't look after the house and kids and yet their husband's look the other way and hire helping hands? Please what should be done to them


I await your answer

cococandy:
When they don't have anything reasonable to counter with, they go personal with family attacks and attacks on sex life.

So what? I'm a bitter lesbian. Yes
Also a bitter wife with a suffering husband.
All of those are accurate. Now that we have gotten the 'facts' out of the way, can you two geniuses focus on the topic and tell me how it's fair for the bread winner to also be the home keeper?

Miserable Fvcktards. The truth does hurt you misogynistic asses don't it? That's why you can't stand me.

Who wants to stand you?

God forbid

I'm not yet that jinxed abeg

The fact that you see nothing wrong in the fact that a woman who should be very understanding and sympathetic towards a man who has been taking care of her over the years and has now suddenly become the man's major problem shows how messed up your entire life is

Fűck off please let good and sane human beings speak, okay?

FortuneTeller:
You are being very naive. She didn't marry him while he was unemployed, so why should she suffer now? I'm sorry to inform you but all things are conditional. No woman wants a broke man. It's not attractive. If he wants a peaceful marriage, he needs to find a job.

U love talking for talking sake. Sometimes u talk irrationally. Be guided pls

sekem:
Who wants to stand you?

God forbid

I'm not yet that jinxed abeg

The fact that you see nothing wrong in the fact that a woman who should be very understanding and sympathetic towards a man who has been taking care of her over the years has now suddenly become the man's major problem shows how messed up your entire life is

Fűck off please let good and sane human beings speak, okay?

@bold is your assumption based on your prejudices against me because of my 'bitter lesbian status'

I'm sure I stated clearly that I wasn't in support of any rudeness from the woman. But did you see that part? Clearly not.

Stupid ass imp who can't read to understand for lack of objectivity talking about sanity.
The irony

Op. I am in ur shoes. I got axed from the bank 6months ago and im newly married. I am applying to migtate with my wife to canada to start a new life. For now I invest in bitcoins thru some online investment sites and ponzi and during the day I registered my car on taxify.

If im too lazy i earn 40k weekly after fuelling and I get middle man jobs from companies for my friend who designs website. Baba abeg roll ur sleeves. My customers even like me cos im cute and fresh with 2008 muscle on taxify lol.

I have no paid job but my wife is not feeling it. She doesnt work too. My folks give me money once in a while to encourage me. I didnt tell dem i drive uber sha. Alaye double your hustle o. Im still job hunting and pushing for my canada immigration visa. Shalom!

FortuneTeller:
You are being very naive. She didn't marry him while he was unemployed, so why should she suffer now? I'm sorry to inform you but all things are conditional. No woman wants a broke man. It's not attractive. If he wants a peaceful marriage, he needs to find a job.

She should encourage her husband and endure now... Her approach is really bad. My husband lost his job too and I can feel what he is going through. I know how hard I work and all I do is to lift up his spirits and make him happy.
When things were cool we enjoyed it together so she should support him as well.... OP ..brace up and believe in yourself.....get something doing no matter how small.
Love in marriage is not conditional abeg.....it's not boyfriend..girlfriend love. For your bespoke turbans contact Diamond Turbans 07030277275.

afroxyz:
You just say 'find a job', 'get back on your feet', like its something he can pull out of his pocket. Then what is the responsibility of a woman in this 21st century? A house wife that take care of the kids? Y'all forget the part that mentions help mate

Abi o. The for better or worse vow comes to mind.

yungmill:
Let me ask you a question, what about women who can't raise a finger to do house chores, who can't look after the house and kids and yet their husband's look the other way and hire helping hands? Please what should be done to them


I await your answer

Didn't he know she can't raise a finger to do something during courtship before 'wifing' her? Some men actually deserves a lazy woman for some reason.

kaziblake:
I'm a fellow woman like you and what you just put up there is trash!Do you know what the woman is going thru?You only heard the man part and quickly jump into conclusion.

the bible called the woman a helper to the man. the woman is expected to help out since she has the means n not to nagg.

cococandy:
When they don't have anything reasonable to counter with, they go personal with family attacks and attacks on sex life.

So what? I'm a bitter lesbian. Yes
Also a bitter wife with a suffering husband.
All of those are accurate. Now that we have gotten the 'facts' out of the way, can you two geniuses focus on the topic and tell me how it's fair for the bread winner to also be the home keeper?

Miserable Fvcktards. The truth does hurt you misogynistic asses don't it? That's why you can't stand me.

Abeg get out of here you daughter of Jezebel. That's why I don't pity any girl that is used and dumped by guys because most ladies are just too wicked

bimchuswhat:
She should encourage her husband and endure now... Her approach is really bad. My husband lost his job too and I can feel what he is going through. I know how hard I work and all I do is to lift up his spirits and make him happy.
When things were cool we enjoyed it together so she should support him as well.... OP ..brace up and believe in yourself.....get something doing no matter how small.
Love in marriage is not conditional abeg.....it's not boyfriend..girlfriend love. For your bespoke turbans contact Diamond Turbans 07030277275.

My sister God will bless you and restore your husband to better glory, am jealous he has you cos your stock is rare please keep on supporting him and I pray when things get better he will never forget nor leave you AMEN

mylander:
Please advise.

I was in an employment of a bank until recently when my employment was terminated.

When I had the job, I took my family welfare as my priory. My wife and our only son were faring good, I always ensure we do not lack the basic necessities. Meanwhile, my wife did not have a job then. All the house upkeep expenses including the cost of running her postgraduate program were on me and I felt comfortable bearing the costs as the breadwinner of the family.

After I lost my job in the bank some month ago, my wife got an employment with the state govt. With her little income, she has been able to assist in bearing some expenses, even she pays for fuelling our car sometimes.

The drama has now started in the house and our marriage is on the verge of breaking up.

Any little issue, my wife will turn it to quarrel, different abuses. Funny enough, she would be referring to the financial supports she has been rendering in the house. This is a woman that did not work at all for 2 years and I was bearing all the expenses with pleasure. Now she had only supported me for about 4months now and she's is misbehaving.

To my surprise, my wife maintains a record in which she records every penny she spends in the house including food items and fuel. With this, she always ask me when will I pay him back.

At the instance of a simple argument/misunderstanding, my wife would be boasting of 'I paid for this, I paid for that....' 'If not for my support since you had problem at work......'

Please advise me, I am getting fed-up with the situation, my wife had changed totally.

Na there way. Thats a woman for you.

TinaAnita:
Didn't he know she can't raise a finger to do something during courtship before 'wifing' her? Some men actually deserves a lazy woman for some reason.

u are only but a half yard wife material

FortuneTeller:
Op, a woman cannot have respect for a man who does not work while she pays all the bills. Please hurry and get a job, so things can go back to the way they were.

You are joking ryt??....where is it written that a wife will not respect his husband because he is not working. I beginning to doubt d reasonings of women. So fluidic.

CapitalCee:
U think everybody is an a sshole leach like you. My prayer is that you will Mary a broke wife beater so that he will teach you some bitter lesson of life. Ezi ofia

So any woman whose opinion contradicts your silly ideas is an asshole? My prayer is that you Lose your source of income so you would become a full time housewife since you would rather be a loser. Don't forget what the bible says, a man who can't take care of his family is worse than an infidel.