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doughziay:
I guess you were quite young then and will always think there Is enough time. That's why I like talking to ladies from 25yrs n above. They tend to know what they doing.

Exactly! You got it

piroux:
I get you, i like to think i'm older and more mature now. Such shouldnt happen again.

yeah....me too.

slayking:
You made a good point. Its all about the chemistry. That i agree with.

Yes sir, I can't imagine being with someone I have nothing in common with or bores to death just because he is nice and caring. There has to be more to the relationship, we must both feel alive in it .

Yes. Somadina in my 300level then! He tried all his best to pull me, I just keep turning him down.
Tall, chocolate and handsome.
Very matured,young and yori-yorilicious with swag!
The guy can dress! His fashion style is hot.
He got tired and ignored me, I was single then.
Weeks later, I started regretting and beginning to want the guy.
The crushing on him was getting hot day by day.
I regretted not giving him a chance.
I started to give him a breaklight but he shunned me.
I will not forget the day he shunned me when I called him in a resturant.
Come see embarrasement, many people there saw it.
Mehn that guy occupied my thought for many days.
Nwa di hot. Lolz

slayking:
How sure are you that your future husband won't treat you badly.

'cause I'll definitely end up with whom I share same values with.

Amarabae:
Yes. Somadina in my 300level then! He tried all his best to pull me, I just keep turning him down.
Tall, chocolate and handsome.
Very matured,young and yori-yorilicious with swag!
The guy can dress! His fashion style is hot.
He got tired and ignored me, I was single then.
Weeks later, I started regretting and beginning to want the guy.
The crushing on him was getting hot day by day.
I regretted not giving him a chance.
I started to give him a breaklight but he shunned me.

Don't let your husband see this.

Benita27:
Don't let your husband see this.

lol. Who didnt date in university days.. He do tell me about his Ex-gfs in the university. Though i hate to hear those stories.
The somadina guy is married now to a white lady.
Life moves on. I love my hubby the more.
Happy new month dear

Martin0:
hmmm incredible

What is ?

Amarabae:
lol. Who didnt date in university days.. He do tell me about his Ex-gfs in the university. Though i hate to hear those stories.
The somadina guy is married now to a white lady.
Life moves on. I love my hubby the more.
Happy new month dear

@embolden, that's lovely.
Same to you ma'. How is your baby?.

Benita27:
@embolden, that's lovely. Same to you ma'. How is your baby?.

he is fine dear.

ZarZar:
OK, I don't regret it per se but I've always wondered what if.

I met a "perfect stranger" once, it was when I was about 17 or 18 years old. It was the school holidays & I was going back to my hometown, to spend time with relatives. My sister dropped me off at the bus terminus & I boarded my bus, really not looking forward to the long journey ahead. I was sitting alone, the seat next to me was empty & I put a bag on it on purpose because I didn't feel like small talk with whomever was going to sit next to me. The bus moved from one city to the next, it was there that he boarded the bus. There was not that much available space inside, so I had to give up "my" other seat. I didn't even look up to see who was sitting next to me, I was feeling that much antisocial at the time

A very long moment of silence between us went, but then he broke the ice by asking if it was my 1st time going to EL. I told him no I was born there. He admitted it was his 1st time & that he was going there to meet his brother. The conversation soon moved on to other general things. We were no longer strangers. He talked a lot lol. As he spoke, I was busy "studying" him. He was attractive

Long story short, he did some things for me during our trip, that really touched me to the core. 1) was when the bus stopped so we could all stretch some legs & buy refreshments. I've bought food before I boarded the bus but I didn't buy anything to drink. I planned to buy some juice at the place where it stopped. But it was dark & freezing cold outside, so I didn't feel like going outside the heated bus. He said he wanted to buy airtime at the convenient store & asked if I needed anything. I gave him money to bring me some juice. To my surprise, he came back with so many things, he could barely hold them. He gave me back my money & said everything he bought was for me, his "new friend". I almost cried. Honestly, I'm easily touched by random acts of kindness. I was really digging him at this point, just not in a BF/GF kind of way. Anyway, the next morning we arrived at my hometown. It was raining hard.This guy quickly bought an umbrella & we huddled under it like a couple I told him I was gonna go catch my taxi home, but he begged me to wait with him. His brother was coming to fetch him. Since he's been good to me & it was his 1st time, I decided to sit with him until his brother arrived. When his brother arrived, he offered to drop me home. Amazingly, we were going to the same part of the city, so it wasn't going to be an inconvenience on their part. His brother told me he had to 1st drop groceries at his house as some things were going to melt. I had no problem going with them because he was talking to his wife on the phone, so I knew I was safe going with them to their house. OMG, when we got there, the wife made such a huge fuss over me. She thought I was the younger brother's GF lol. I explained that we met at the bus, she said but you make such a cute couple blah blah blah She said no you can't go home now, you have to come in for breakfast etc. I spent almost 3 hours with them. They were such a lovely family & they treated me like family too. Later they dropped me off at home. I saw them again 2 or 3 times after. I was invited to a party they were throwing. The "boo" gave me his cell number, but I didn't have a phone at the time, so we kinda lost touch that way.

I will never forget those people for as long as I live. Plus I was at a dark place in life at the time, so they really made me feel like I was human, yanno.

LMFAO, bus love. I met the guy I mentioned in my post on one of those long bus trips . We were coming from the EC , he was going to kempton and me Pta . Lol, we talked the whole trip like we had known each other for years and funny thing when we arrived at parkstation he was supposed to get off but he decided to go with me to pta lol and catch a taxi there to kempton. He was so cute and could hold a conversation on any subject, I felt like I had found a husband even though I wasn't looking for one . The following day he visited and we spent the whole day together gallavanting.


Lol , I know someone who is married to her bus trip lover so those long trips of ours can really pay lol.

MissJoy29:
Exactly! You got it

I guess the secret is to define issues from early in life as soon as the opportunity to start considering those existential issues arise. We often get stumped realizing that we "played-away" viable partnership options that could've fulfilled us for long even if they didn't last forever, had we given them the chance. No gender is excused. Had one or two such good cuteys but was too crazy, broke off stuff, as in, setting them free. Hope i don't regret it later.

Society, exposure, value system etc all often go far in molding our perception of ideal mates per time while we ignore the voice of our own needs, the real weighty issues of the basics of life that will go far with us on the long term etc.

Who hasn't made such "mistakes" be4? Maybe a few! But, just don't live in the regrets of a far-gone past. Look up, look around, look far ahead, you just might spot whatcha want on a not-too-distant horizon. Yes, look for the spark but ensure all the other factors that'd fan your spark into a blazing inferno are there too. No point waiting so long as a lady just to regretfully hitch up with a stranded, sweet-tongued fuckboi!

Lionessza:
LMFAO, bus love. I met the guy I mentioned in my post on one of those long bus trips . We were coming from the EC , he was going to kempton and me Pta . Lol, we talked the whole trip like we had known each other for years and funny thing when we arrived at parks station he was supposed to get off but he decided to go with me to pta lol and catch a taxi there to kempton. He was so cute and could hold a conversation on any subject, I felt like I had found a husbands even though I wasn't looking for one . The following day he visited and we spent the whole day together gallavanting.


Lol , I know someone who is married to her business trip lover so those long trips of ours can really pay lol.

LMFAO @ you felt like you have found a husband. The one that got away I'm sure it would have turned out differently have you guys dated. Hence I don't like to dwell too much on my brief encounter with the guy. At the time I was scared to have a BF, my sister would have killed me. One of the many reasons I didn't even have a phone. Everything to her = you wanna get laid lol. Yeesh!

ZarZar:
LMFAO @ you felt like you have found a husband. The one that got away I'm sure it would have turned out differently have you guys dated. Hence I don't like to dwell too much on my brief encounter with the guy. At the time I was scared to have a BF, my sister would have killed me. One of the many reasons I didn't even have a phone. Everything to her = you wanna get laid lol. Yeesh!

Hahahaha, we actually started hanging out almost every weekend and that's when I realized a lot about him and that he was too much of a good guy for me at that time lol. He tried making moves but I had to run coz I would have done big bad things to his heart at that point in my life we were at different levels of maturity and I was far behind lol. But we kept in touch for a longtime as friends until I lost my phone and thank God coz things were becoming weird and confusing between us . Lol , your sister didn't want to take care of no baby she was right lol.


Btw I meant I know someone who married her bus trip lover not business.

piroux:
Hi, i'v been in a state for the past couple of months and i am wondering if others have ever been through it.

I was a 20 year old in my final year and there was this wonderful guy who was crazy about me. He was nice, sweet, caring, selfless and Godly but.... at the time, i thought i was too young and wasnt ready for a serious relationship and he was.
He was a few years older, also in his final year and was very serious about me. I didnt want to be married too young to my first boyfriend so i lied to him about having another boyfriend which i didnt have. He was hurt but he let things be, i later confessed to him when we graduated but he didnt trust me anymore and i let things be. Years have passed and i have met cuter, richer, more intelligent guys but no one has cared about me as selflessly as he did. Now, i find myself thinking what if?
Who knows, i might not be happier or as fulfilled but a part of me wishes i had given him a chance, you know? So share your own stories....

I strongly know you wouldn't have been happier if you had married him then because you would've seen him as someone that came to steal or hijack your very bright future.
l think sometimes it is better this way for most ladies so when they finally settle,d embrace d man constantly with two hands.

MissJoy29:
Op, it has happened to me. Not just with one guy & sadly, they are married now...I attribute it to naivety, immaturity and youthful exuberance. Such costly mistake can't happen again with what I know now about the important attributes to look out for in a marriage patner.

it's well !

Benita27:
Yeah. The world isn't centred around one person.

Yes it may not be centred around one person but there's one person that must be at d centre of our life.

Lionessza:
Hahahaha, we actually started hanging out almost every weekend and that's when I realized a lot about him and that he was too much of a good guy for me at that time lol. He tried making moves but I had to run coz I would have done big bad things to his heart at that point in my life we were at different levels of maturity and I was far behind lol. But we kept in touch for a longtime as friends until I lost my phone and thank God coz things were becoming to get weird and confusing between us . Lol , your sister didn't want to take care of no baby she was right lol.


Btw I meant I know someone who married her bus trip lover not business.

LMAO. You were that bad a girl that you had to let a unicorn AKA "good guy" get away? The person was probably one of the lucky few lol. Because I refuse to believe it would have ended with "I do". Yhoo, my sister was very strict back then. If she sent you to the store, she'd stand outside to watch you. If a guy dared say something, she wanted to know what he said because apparently there were too many bachelors where we were living & she didn't like that one bit. One time she even shouted a guy for waving, saying "hello". He said sister I was only saying hello. She said do you wave & say hello to every person you see. LMAO. So embarrassing.

ZarZar:
OK, I don't regret it per se but I've always wondered what if.

I met a "perfect stranger" once, it was when I was about 17 or 18 years old. It was the school holidays & I was going back to my hometown, to spend time with relatives. My sister dropped me off at the bus terminus & I boarded my bus, really not looking forward to the long journey ahead. I was sitting alone, the seat next to me was empty & I put a bag on it on purpose because I didn't feel like small talk with whomever was going to sit next to me. The bus moved from one city to the next, it was there that he boarded the bus. There was not that much available space inside, so I had to give up "my" other seat. I didn't even look up to see who was sitting next to me, I was feeling that much antisocial at the time

A very long moment of silence between us went, but then he broke the ice by asking if it was my 1st time going to EL. I told him no I was born there. He admitted it was his 1st time & that he was going there to meet his brother. The conversation soon moved on to other general things. We were no longer strangers. He talked a lot lol. As he spoke, I was busy "studying" him. He was attractive

Long story short, he did some things for me during our trip, that really touched me to the core. 1) was when the bus stopped so we could all stretch some legs & buy refreshments. I've bought food before I boarded the bus but I didn't buy anything to drink. I planned to buy some juice at the place where it stopped. But it was dark & freezing cold outside, so I didn't feel like going outside the heated bus. He said he wanted to buy airtime at the convenient store & asked if I needed anything. I gave him money to bring me some juice. To my surprise, he came back with so many things, he could barely hold them. He gave me back my money & said everything he bought was for me, his "new friend". I almost cried. Honestly, I'm easily touched by random acts of kindness. I was really digging him at this point, just not in a BF/GF kind of way. Anyway, the next morning we arrived at my hometown. It was raining hard.This guy quickly bought an umbrella & we huddled under it like a couple I told him I was gonna go catch my taxi home, but he begged me to wait with him. His brother was coming to fetch him. Since he's been good to me & it was his 1st time, I decided to sit with him until his brother arrived. When his brother arrived, he offered to drop me home. Amazingly, we were going to the same part of the city, so it wasn't going to be an inconvenience on their part. His brother told me he had to 1st drop groceries at his house as some things were going to melt. I had no problem going with them because he was talking to his wife on the phone, so I knew I was safe going with them to their house. OMG, when we got there, the wife made such a huge fuss over me. She thought I was the younger brother's GF lol. I explained that we met at the bus, she said but you make such a cute couple blah blah blah She said no you can't go home now, you have to come in for breakfast etc. I spent almost 3 hours with them. They were such a lovely family & they treated me like family too. Later they dropped me off at home. I saw them again 2 or 3 times after. I was invited to a party they were throwing. The "boo" gave me his cell number, but I didn't have a phone at the time, so we kinda lost touch that way.

I will never forget those people for as long as I live. Plus I was at a dark place in life at the time, so they really made me feel like I was human, yanno.

And we have met again in Nairaland.

Amarabae:
Yes. Somadina in my 300level then! He tried all his best to pull me, I just keep turning him down.
Tall, chocolate and handsome.
Very matured,young and yori-yorilicious with swag!
The guy can dress! His fashion style is hot.
He got tired and ignored me, I was single then.
Weeks later, I started regretting and beginning to want the guy.
The crushing on him was getting hot day by day.
I regretted not giving him a chance.
I started to give him a breaklight but he shunned me.
I will not forget the day he shunned me when I called him in a resturant.
Come see embarrasement, many people there saw it.
Mehn that guy occupied my thought for many days.
Nwa di hot. Lolz

l hope hubby is not reading this to avoid seeking for help because ds platform already has a lot at hand

Op.I might nt fully understand Aw u feel but the greastest mistake u can make is comparing what could have been to ur current relationship.Ure only comparing an imaginary, ethereal,ephemeral nd an unreal feeling to Ur current relationship..U didn't date the guy,so I can be permitted to say u might av dodged a bullet.ure only dwelling on Aw things cld av gone if u had dated him,wc az u might agree might not even be that charming..Comparisms like dis cld ruin Ur relationship with the new guy nd possibly other guys.just let it be,nd glide the tide.

Arigato gozaimas

ZarZar:
LMAO. You were that bad a girl that you had to let a unicorn AKA "good guy" get away? The person was probably one of the lucky few lol. Because I refuse to believe it would have ended with "I do". Yhoo, my sister was very strict back then. If she sent you to the store, she'd stand outside to watch you. If a guy dared say something, she wanted to know what he said because apparently there were too many bachelors where we were living & she didn't like that one bit. One time she even shouted a guy for waving, saying "hello". He said sister I was only saying hello. She said do you wave & say hello to every person you see. LMAO. So embarrassing.

LMFAO, I was a devil with no care in the world and him being the sensitive nice type I think by the time we would have broken up he would have hated every girl in the world . He was really lucky I was nice enough to let him go even though he didn't understand it, he dodged a major storm .

Hahaha, yho your sister was a psycho . What did you do to deserve that sort of treatment?

Benita27:
'cause I'll definitely end up with whom I share same values with.

It's one thing for one to know what he/she wants, and also another thing (the most important) to know how to get it. Having or lacking these two vital knowledge determines either your successes or failures in life.

Fortunately, you know these things. You're simply unstoppable! Now Go! Go!! Go!!!

ZarZar:
LMAO. You were that bad a girl that you had to let a unicorn AKA "good guy" get away? The person was probably one of the lucky few lol. Because I refuse to believe it would have ended with "I do". Yhoo, my sister was very strict back then. If she sent you to the store, she'd stand outside to watch you. If a guy dared say something, she wanted to know what he said because apparently there were too many bachelors where we were living & she didn't like that one bit. One time she even shouted a guy for waving, saying "hello". He said sister I was only saying hello. She said do you wave & say hello to every person you see. LMAO. So embarrassing.

Your sister problem was a problem lol....and I'm sure she'd be doing her own thing o. Human sha...isn't it weird just this morning I was pondering on why parents act to their kids like they were absolute saints when they were younger, I strongly think it's one of the major reasons why there's so much moral decadence amongst the younger generation today. Pure truth is, things changed....kids today know way more than their folks knew at that same stage in their lives so it's just so easy for them to play the cards undetected. Someone once said "if only parents knew how much sex their kids are having in college"......I don't even want to think about it.


***As for me......I don't think there's any, it's been said already, young girls just want to explore and there's nothing one can do about it....it's only natural.

ZarZar:
OK, I don't regret it per se but I've always wondered what if.

I met a "perfect stranger" once, it was when I was about 17 or 18 years old. It was the school holidays & I was going back to my hometown, to spend time with relatives. My sister dropped me off at the bus terminus & I boarded my bus, really not looking forward to the long journey ahead. I was sitting alone, the seat next to me was empty & I put a bag on it on purpose because I didn't feel like small talk with whomever was going to sit next to me. The bus moved from one city to the next, it was there that he boarded the bus. There was not that much available space inside, so I had to give up "my" other seat. I didn't even look up to see who was sitting next to me, I was feeling that much antisocial at the time

A very long moment of silence between us went, but then he broke the ice by asking if it was my 1st time going to EL. I told him no I was born there. He admitted it was his 1st time & that he was going there to meet his brother. The conversation soon moved on to other general things. We were no longer strangers. He talked a lot lol. As he spoke, I was busy "studying" him. He was attractive

Long story short, he did some things for me during our trip, that really touched me to the core. 1) was when the bus stopped so we could all stretch some legs & buy refreshments. I've bought food before I boarded the bus but I didn't buy anything to drink. I planned to buy some juice at the place where it stopped. But it was dark & freezing cold outside, so I didn't feel like going outside the heated bus. He said he wanted to buy airtime at the convenient store & asked if I needed anything. I gave him money to bring me some juice. To my surprise, he came back with so many things, he could barely hold them. He gave me back my money & said everything he bought was for me, his "new friend". I almost cried. Honestly, I'm easily touched by random acts of kindness. I was really digging him at this point, just not in a BF/GF kind of way. Anyway, the next morning we arrived at my hometown. It was raining hard.This guy quickly bought an umbrella & we huddled under it like a couple I told him I was gonna go catch my taxi home, but he begged me to wait with him. His brother was coming to fetch him. Since he's been good to me & it was his 1st time, I decided to sit with him until his brother arrived. When his brother arrived, he offered to drop me home. Amazingly, we were going to the same part of the city, so it wasn't going to be an inconvenience on their part. His brother told me he had to 1st drop groceries at his house as some things were going to melt. I had no problem going with them because he was talking to his wife on the phone, so I knew I was safe going with them to their house. OMG, when we got there, the wife made such a huge fuss over me. She thought I was the younger brother's GF lol. I explained that we met at the bus, she said but you make such a cute couple blah blah blah She said no you can't go home now, you have to come in for breakfast etc. I spent almost 3 hours with them. They were such a lovely family & they treated me like family too. Later they dropped me off at home. I saw them again 2 or 3 times after. I was invited to a party they were throwing. The "boo" gave me his cell number, but I didn't have a phone at the time, so we kinda lost touch that way.

I will never forget those people for as long as I live. Plus I was at a dark place in life at the time, so they really made me
feel like I was human, yanno.

that was an amazing encounter, sometimes I am tempted to think we men are the same.
I could b wrong, arguably.

piroux:
Hi, i'v been in a state for the past couple of months and i am wondering if others have ever been through it.

I was a 20 year old in my final year and there was this wonderful guy who was crazy about me. He was nice, sweet, caring, selfless and Godly but.... at the time, i thought i was too young and wasnt ready for a serious relationship and he was.
He was a few years older, also in his final year and was very serious about me. I didnt want to be married too young to my first boyfriend so i lied to him about having another boyfriend which i didnt have. He was hurt but he let things be, i later confessed to him when we graduated but he didnt trust me anymore and i let things be. Years have passed and i have met cuter, richer, more intelligent guys but no one has cared about me as selflessly as he did. Now, i find myself thinking what if?
Who knows, i might not be happier or as fulfilled but a part of me wishes i had given him a chance, you know? So share your own stories....

remember piroux, u don't have d futures of a god. u can't foresee or foreknow. u only acted human.

your reasons where understandable and logical but again it was a wrong one in antecedent.

take care

Lionessza:
LMFAO, I was a devil with no care in the world and him being the sensitive nice type I think by the time we would have broken up he would have hated every girl in the world . He was really lucky I was nice enough to let him go even though he didn't understand it, he dodged a major storm .

Hahaha, yho your sister was a psycho . What did you do to deserve that sort of treatment?

Hahaha. Kuguge inja ibiluma mos Young & restless. But shame I applaud you for sparing him the heartbreak, that was big of you.

My sister was very afraid of i-"stage", so she did everything to make sure I didn't get up to no good. Her friend's younger sister was impregnated by one of the army guys & had to drop out from TUT, so I guess that was a wake up call to my sister. She didn't want me to get involved with military men or any man for that matter. But eventually I did get a BF. It didn't last very long though because I was always under the watchful eye, so there was really no time for doing bad things like he wanted That was the end of that. I've never really had a reckless phase because I was always told how useless & canine-like guys were, as a result I became very wary. Not that, that prevented me from future intlungu engummangaliso later on LMAO

piroux:
I get you, i like to think i'm older and more mature now. Such shouldnt happen again.

Exactly wat you said bck then n what u wud b saying 5 yrs frm now


Neva a right time to heart rightly .... go figure

kumulus:
Your sister problem was a problem lol....and I'm sure she'd be doing her own thing o. Human sha...isn't it weird just this morning I was pondering on why parents act to their kids like they were absolute saints when they were younger, I strongly think it's one of the major reasons why there's so much moral decadence amongst the younger generation today. Pure truth is, things changed....kids today know way more than their folks knew at that same stage in their lives so it's just so easy for them to play the cards undetected. Someone once said "if only parents knew how much sex their kids are having in college"......I don't even want to think about it.


***As for me......I don't think there's any, it's been said already, young girls just want to explore and there's nothing one can do about it....it's only natural.

I agree with you but I believe the super vigilance from some parents & guardians, is as the result of knowing the harsh realities of life. They're older. They've lived. So they don't want or wish us to repeat the same mistakes.

keenn:
that was an amazing encounter, sometimes I am tempted to think we men are the same.
I could b wrong, arguably.

That's an interesting statement. What do you mean all men are the same?

Op I don't regret what happened in the past
I just learn from it and make better and informed decisions.
So that I don't regret again in the future

ZarZar:
I agree with you but I believe the super vigilance from some parents & guardians, is as the result of knowing the harsh realities of life. They're older. They've lived. So they don't want or wish us to repeat the same mistakes.

True that!, sadly it's inevitable it's a process, the child has to learn and they have to do it the right way. Wether they monitor or not...kids would do stuffs, even right in front of them and they won't know.
Sadly in this part of the world we frown at such things as sexual education, not that it will solve the problems but it would expose them to the pros and cons. Its really terrible the things one see on a daily, one thing most people also fail to realize is that the whatever character(s) a child exhibits are traits he/she picked from both parents via the genes. It would always manifest.....sooner or later. Abi you wee come and tell us you don't have some characters identifiable in mom and some in dad? I bet your answer would be a negative...that's the secret behind the subconscious selection of partners, gals b looking out for an Alpha while the guy b checking for the best chick with Queenly traits....with the subconscious hope of having better offsprings, this can be related to why inbreeding is considered a taboo ( elimination of the bad stuffs)