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zicoraads:
Why do I have a feeling this is either Naijaboiy or Tosyne2much? This feels so much like them

Seriously man, is she a Calabar girl?

On a serious note. They've all said everything. But in the end, you'll probably still do what's in your heart. I just hope and pray you make the right one. Cheers!

[color=#1980BC]Bros no be me o!

You supppose know say I no get this kyn power dey write ontop woman matter. [/color]

Kokaine:
yes! cheating is enough to end a relationship. where there is no trust, all you have left is a vast depth of dust and air

[color=#1980BC]Do not listen to all these girls typing trash. They're all the same!

Can't you see none of them except one has given a sensible advise? And that's because she's a marrried woman. The rest are young and dumb HO's like your ex.

Move on with life bro...we've all been there. [/color]

Kokaine:
Hi nairalanders. i came under this moniker because i want to be discreet.

I met this girl some months ago, we became close, and one thing led to the other, we started dating.

Of all the girls I ever dated, this one came closest to my heart. I'm ordinarily stingy to girls when I date them, especially the ones i feel don't really love me for any other reason than what they hope to benefit. In fact, my last relationship ended because of how tightfisted i was with her. But in the case of this girl in question, I was so free, i gave her easily, it got to the extent that my cousins and closed friends started suggesting that she put a hex on me. i really loved her. my whole life changed when she came in, i became very happy, always wanted to be with her, for every contract i took, i shared a small part with her and she was happy, whenever there was a misunderstanding, she apologised, she was never the type to climb a high horse. I wont lie i saw her demands for material things increase uncontrollably, i became responsible for everything she wanted and needed, her cream, her clothes, phone, laptop, subscription, even ordinary airtime! haba! airtime oh!!! but i wasn't all that disturbed because i felt i could endure the burden just because of how happy and lively she always made me feel, practically the same addiction my neighbour has for weed even if its with his last dime

The trouble started when i went to her place one day and she was not around, my phone was almost dead, i decided to charge it in the abokis place near her house. Then i saw what looked exactly like her phone charging. I mean; her phone cover is very spectacular to me, looks like rabbit ears with lights that come on whenever you touch it. i asked about it, he told me it was hers. God so did it that he allowed me to check the phone, i had known her pattern a long time ago but she didn't know.

Brothers and sisters! When I opened this phone, and saw her chat with someone whose name she saved with "miracle" she was obviously cheating! I copied the number and dialled it on my phone with truecaller, i saw the complete name, i opened facebook and checked that name, it was a guy, he was on her facebook too. she had been seeing this guy. the dates on their whatsapp chat confirmed that certain times she left my house and said she was going to her brothers house, that was where she actually went.

For the first time in my life i was broken, i had to break up with this girl. but i wanted to think about it thoroughly because i feared loneliness and the loss of happiness that breaking up with her will bring me. i did anyway.

She begged and begged promising to break up with the guy, i just don't know why i refused, i told her we could be friends, but now as i type this, she seems to Have moved on, she has never called me again nor sent any message, neither have i, but everyday that passes by, i gradually see myself going back to my old state of mind, you know one that makes you lonely even in the midst of people. i really miss her now, I'm thinking i should have forgiven her, but then i know i have to be a man, i see her posts on instagram, she is still so beautiful in my eyes, i cannot hate her however i have tried, this is very unlike me, i want anyone who has ever experienced this to tell me how he did it. Thanks so much. one love!

Kokaine:
Hi nairalanders. i came under this moniker because i want to be discreet.

I met this girl some months ago, we became close, and one thing led to the other, we started dating.

Of all the girls I ever dated, this one came closest to my heart. I'm ordinarily stingy to girls when I date them, especially the ones i feel don't really love me for any other reason than what they hope to benefit. In fact, my last relationship ended because of how tightfisted i was with her. But in the case of this girl in question, I was so free, i gave her easily, it got to the extent that my cousins and closed friends started suggesting that she put a hex on me. i really loved her. my whole life changed when she came in, i became very happy, always wanted to be with her, for every contract i took, i shared a small part with her and she was happy, whenever there was a misunderstanding, she apologised, she was never the type to climb a high horse. I wont lie i saw her demands for material things increase uncontrollably, i became responsible for everything she wanted and needed, her cream, her clothes, phone, laptop, subscription, even ordinary airtime! haba! airtime oh!!! but i wasn't all that disturbed because i felt i could endure the burden just because of how happy and lively she always made me feel, practically the same addiction my neighbour has for weed even if its with his last dime

The trouble started when i went to her place one day and she was not around, my phone was almost dead, i decided to charge it in the abokis place near her house. Then i saw what looked exactly like her phone charging. I mean; her phone cover is very spectacular to me, looks like rabbit ears with lights that come on whenever you touch it. i asked about it, he told me it was hers. God so did it that he allowed me to check the phone, i had known her pattern a long time ago but she didn't know.

Brothers and sisters! When I opened this phone, and saw her chat with someone whose name she saved with "miracle" she was obviously cheating! I copied the number and dialled it on my phone with truecaller, i saw the complete name, i opened facebook and checked that name, it was a guy, he was on her facebook too. she had been seeing this guy. the dates on their whatsapp chat confirmed that certain times she left my house and said she was going to her brothers house, that was where she actually went.

For the first time in my life i was broken, i had to break up with this girl. but i wanted to think about it thoroughly because i feared loneliness and the loss of happiness that breaking up with her will bring me. i did anyway.

She begged and begged promising to break up with the guy, i just don't know why i refused, i told her we could be friends, but now as i type this, she seems to Have moved on, she has never called me again nor sent any message, neither have i, but everyday that passes by, i gradually see myself going back to my old state of mind, you know one that makes you lonely even in the midst of people. i really miss her now, I'm thinking i should have forgiven her, but then i know i have to be a man, i see her posts on instagram, she is still so beautiful in my eyes, i cannot hate her however i have tried, this is very unlike me, i want anyone who has ever experienced this to tell me how he did it. Thanks so much. one love!

saasala:
Hear me bro, open your ears wide and listen. Listen to me because I have been in your shoes exactly. I can relate with everything thing you wrote up there. I was spending on her, the love was over the moon, I discovered she cheated after hacking her whatsapp, I broke up with her, she moved on quickly but I couldnt. I went back to her and she agreed to take me back after I mumuly begged her. 7 or 8 months later, she cheated with double dose of venom after I hacked her whatsapp again. She didnt even fvck the first guy, but this time, she bleeped a guy, fell compltely in love with another and was flirting excessively [i][/i] another. I literaly ran mad. I mean, I almost lost my sanity. Now she is gone and gone forever.

Learn from my story because ours sound the same. RUN RUN RUN. She will come backand strike your heart with Sango's thunder.

saasala:
Hear me bro, open your ears wide and listen. Listen to me because I have been in your shoes exactly. I can relate with everything thing you wrote up there. I was spending on her, the love was over the moon, I discovered she cheated after hacking her whatsapp, I broke up with her, she moved on quickly but I couldnt. I went back to her and she agreed to take me back after I mumuly begged her. 7 or 8 months later, she cheated with double dose of venom after I hacked her whatsapp again. She didnt even fvck the first guy, but this time, she bleeped a guy, fell compltely in love with another and was flirting excessively [i][/i] another. I literaly ran mad. I mean, I almost lost my sanity. Now she is gone and gone forever.

Learn from my story because ours sound the same. RUN RUN RUN. She will come backand strike your heart with Sango's thunder.

alanka:
So people of this generation are still hoping and believing that they can find faithful partners.

If 10 of every 11 girls within the age of 18 to 25 are not virgin then we can equally say the probability that a married woman or a fiancee will not be faith to her spouse is 10/11= 9.9 or99%

And will all know that even 999 of every 1001 are not virgin so where are you going to find the faithful?

With this it means there very high tendency (99%) that a wife or fiancee will not be faithful

Get yourself a baby mama if u cant commot your face

Kokaine:
i would normally have taken this option if this happened many years ago, but now, and at my age, i want to be a committed person, i want to be a responsible family man.

Kokaine:
i think of you as a sadist.

Kokaine:
i think of you as a sadist.

placeofallure:
Ha ha! 3k! Owo kini? God knows I can never date anyone like you. It's not good to be a cheating partner, it's also not good to be stingy-stingy. Wetin I wan take 3k do na? E no even do to buy recharge cards, all these chewing gum boyfriends on Nairaland, no dey teach people bad things for here abegi!

Debbime:
Does not matter dear what you think. Read what you wrote. You were hard on other girls, so this is your waterloo, darling

MissCuppy:
She was feeding your ego by continuously begging you and you were busy forming, now you are feeling lonely and missing her.


Not every woman will beg you, if she manage to do so, try and forgive her, she put her self esteem on the line by begging you at the first place.

lefulefu:
ok lemme reply to ur post.there are certain reasons a man might cheat.if he"s inborn womaniser there is nothing u would do to stop him from cheating.also if he has no attraction for his wife he would go for the lady he"s attracted to behind his wife"s back.hope u do know some men get forced into marriage with ladies they dont like.if u have a wife that u love,u sexually compactibale with...whats the need to cheat?

luswitz:
still doesnt justify their actions...those ur reasons are also reason dat can make a woman cheat, but 80% of women forced into marriage stay faithful. So what are we saying here?. most guys who are in a relationship cheat or flirt outside and their gfriends forgive them... dis same guys find it difficult to forgive. So bro we all in d sin together, so we have to be in the forgiving together.

lefulefu:
well as for me sure i will forgive her frm the depths of my heart but i will move on

luswitz:
everyone has the right to their decision....

Kokaine:
Hi nairalanders. i came under this moniker because i want to be discreet.

I met this girl some months ago, we became close, and one thing led to the other, we started dating.

Of all the girls I ever dated, this one came closest to my heart. I'm ordinarily stingy to girls when I date them, especially the ones i feel don't really love me for any other reason than what they hope to benefit. In fact, my last relationship ended because of how tightfisted i was with her. But in the case of this girl in question, I was so free, i gave her easily, it got to the extent that my cousins and closed friends started suggesting that she put a hex on me. i really loved her. my whole life changed when she came in, i became very happy, always wanted to be with her, for every contract i took, i shared a small part with her and she was happy, whenever there was a misunderstanding, she apologised, she was never the type to climb a high horse. I wont lie i saw her demands for material things increase uncontrollably, i became responsible for everything she wanted and needed, her cream, her clothes, phone, laptop, subscription, even ordinary airtime! haba! airtime oh!!! but i wasn't all that disturbed because i felt i could endure the burden just because of how happy and lively she always made me feel, practically the same addiction my neighbour has for weed even if its with his last dime

The trouble started when i went to her place one day and she was not around, my phone was almost dead, i decided to charge it in the abokis place near her house. Then i saw what looked exactly like her phone charging. I mean; her phone cover is very spectacular to me, looks like rabbit ears with lights that come on whenever you touch it. i asked about it, he told me it was hers. God so did it that he allowed me to check the phone, i had known her pattern a long time ago but she didn't know.

Brothers and sisters! When I opened this phone, and saw her chat with someone whose name she saved with "miracle" she was obviously cheating! I copied the number and dialled it on my phone with truecaller, i saw the complete name, i opened facebook and checked that name, it was a guy, he was on her facebook too. she had been seeing this guy. the dates on their whatsapp chat confirmed that certain times she left my house and said she was going to her brothers house, that was where she actually went.

For the first time in my life i was broken, i had to break up with this girl. but i wanted to think about it thoroughly because i feared loneliness and the loss of happiness that breaking up with her will bring me. i did anyway.

She begged and begged promising to break up with the guy, i just don't know why i refused, i told her we could be friends, but now as i type this, she seems to Have moved on, she has never called me again nor sent any message, neither have i, but everyday that passes by, i gradually see myself going back to my old state of mind, you know one that makes you lonely even in the midst of people. i really miss her now, I'm thinking i should have forgiven her, but then i know i have to be a man, i see her posts on instagram, she is still so beautiful in my eyes, i cannot hate her however i have tried, this is very unlike me, i want anyone who has ever experienced this to tell me how he did it. Thanks so much. one love!

LePrezident:
Been there done that.

1. Cut every form of contact. Social media and all. Delete her number

2. Get very busy with work and set work/career goals to achieve.

3. Go on a punna chase and score as many as you can. Some people will advise against this but tell you what, this is the most effective of all the steps.

4. Stop stalking her on social media. Get a life!

5. Do more fun stuff. Like learn a hobby (learn a new dance, learn to swim, pick up an interest in foreign languages; preferably French)

6. Go on a holiday.

7. Avoid romantic music and stop visiting places you both used to go together.

MissCuppy:
She was feeding your ego by continuously begging you and you were busy forming, now you are feeling lonely and missing her.


Not every woman will beg you, if she manage to do so, try and forgive her, she put her self esteem on the line by begging you at the first place.

alanka:
So people of this generation are still hoping and believing that they can find faithful partners.

If 10 of every 11 girls within the age of 18 to 25 are not virgin then we can equally say the probability that a married woman or a fiancee will not be faith to her spouse is 10/11= 9.9 or99%

And will all know that even 999 of every 1001 are not virgin so where are you going to find the faithful?

With this it means there very high tendency (99%) that a wife or fiancee will not be faithful

Get yourself a baby mama if u cant commot your face

Kokaine:
yes! cheating is enough to end a relationship. where there is no trust, all you have left is a vast depth of dust and air

Kokaine:
Hi nairalanders. i came under this moniker because i want to be discreet.

I met this girl some months ago, we became close, and one thing led to the other, we started dating.

Of all the girls I ever dated, this one came closest to my heart. I'm ordinarily stingy to girls when I date them, especially the ones i feel don't really love me for any other reason than what they hope to benefit. In fact, my last relationship ended because of how tightfisted i was with her. But in the case of this girl in question, I was so free, i gave her easily, it got to the extent that my cousins and closed friends started suggesting that she put a hex on me. i really loved her. my whole life changed when she came in, i became very happy, always wanted to be with her, for every contract i took, i shared a small part with her and she was happy, whenever there was a misunderstanding, she apologised, she was never the type to climb a high horse. I wont lie i saw her demands for material things increase uncontrollably, i became responsible for everything she wanted and needed, her cream, her clothes, phone, laptop, subscription, even ordinary airtime! haba! airtime oh!!! but i wasn't all that disturbed because i felt i could endure the burden just because of how happy and lively she always made me feel, practically the same addiction my neighbour has for weed even if its with his last dime

The trouble started when i went to her place one day and she was not around, my phone was almost dead, i decided to charge it in the abokis place near her house. Then i saw what looked exactly like her phone charging. I mean; her phone cover is very spectacular to me, looks like rabbit ears with lights that come on whenever you touch it. i asked about it, he told me it was hers. God so did it that he allowed me to check the phone, i had known her pattern a long time ago but she didn't know.

Brothers and sisters! When I opened this phone, and saw her chat with someone whose name she saved with "miracle" she was obviously cheating! I copied the number and dialled it on my phone with truecaller, i saw the complete name, i opened facebook and checked that name, it was a guy, he was on her facebook too. she had been seeing this guy. the dates on their whatsapp chat confirmed that certain times she left my house and said she was going to her brothers house, that was where she actually went.

For the first time in my life i was broken, i had to break up with this girl. but i wanted to think about it thoroughly because i feared loneliness and the loss of happiness that breaking up with her will bring me. i did anyway.

She begged and begged promising to break up with the guy, i just don't know why i refused, i told her we could be friends, but now as i type this, she seems to Have moved on, she has never called me again nor sent any message, neither have i, but everyday that passes by, i gradually see myself going back to my old state of mind, you know one that makes you lonely even in the midst of people. i really miss her now, I'm thinking i should have forgiven her, but then i know i have to be a man, i see her posts on instagram, she is still so beautiful in my eyes, i cannot hate her however i have tried, this is very unlike me, i want anyone who has ever experienced this to tell me how he did it. Thanks so much. one love!

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Do not listen to all these girls typing trash. They're all the same!

Can't you see none of them except one has given a sensible advise? And that's because she's a marrried woman. The rest are young and dumb HO's like your ex.

Move on with life bro...we've all been there. [/color]

mapist:
You are INCREDIBLE.

Kokaine:
okay i get what you mean. I'm sorry for my choice of words.

but just to clear the air, what i meant by being stingy to girls is just the ability to decipher what to give from what is unnecessary. it is a known fact that some guys cannot maintain their financial discipline when it comes to meeting the demands of beautiful women. i wasnt born with a silver spoon. i started out with a job where my monthly take home was 30k and my daily transport was 1200naira. from egbeda to lekki phase 1.

so even when i gained experience in electrical installation and decided to stand on my own, i still recognised the value of money. i wouldnt spend on things i feel are not needed, and because of that, certain girls saw me as too principled or tightfisted. money is not mearnt to be wasted. rather than spend 100k in a club for example, id give it to someone who just needs as little as 50k to start his life up.

Kokaine:
thats right. my only question is how she is able to keep away from me now. i dont even feel she is hurt. she didnt beg for long at all in my own reckoning. i dont want to see people in the light i am seeing this girl because it may not be healthy for me in all my relationships.

Kokaine:
no be lie bro. thanks

Chelseafan1:
Hehehehe, this bros is still a learner, someone that prefers the other guy to you for some reasons only her can tell.

She just begged casually to make it look real, I am sure she was hoping and praying you shouldn't take her back sef

Women are crazier than you think o