| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by omoplaycool(m): 8:46am On Jul 23, 2017 |
Juliearth:
It largely depends on the location....a monthly income of 100k for instance might not go far in Abuja but can in states like Plateau,Kaduna....however,I belief in humble beginnings-you dont need tarty billion for the akant before you take the bold step,start out small and grow together. Gbam!! |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by mykel25(m): 8:47am On Jul 23, 2017 |
NaijaElba:
Marry now with the little you have. Don't wait to
be a millionaire, Have kids early so you can grow
with them. Grow with your kids and succeed with
your wife. You will never finish making money or
achieving your plans. You might still not succeed
at your target year. So start your life early, with
consistency you will grow.
My father said this to me: _When i was 25, i was
talking about making billions before i marry.
Many years later, billions didn't come, yet no kid
no wife... I had an opportunity to marry the most beautiful love
of my life very early, But my fear was, can i
really take care of her? But right now She's married with
Four grown up children. The guy that married her
was still schooling then, but had the courage.
They worked hard and succeeded together. I
failed, so please if you can feed yourself, you can
feed your wife. You have to believe it, marry
early, don't wait.
Don't make our mistakes, I see
my childhood friends play with their kids.. Most
of them are not doing as well as me.. But they
are happier with their families..
Trust me it isn't money only, but Rather your Maturity, your
happiness depends entirely on your wisdom and the way you Handle Life. With
a well planned life they are happier.
Trust me it
isn't money, What is our problem? Build mansion, buy the latest Car in Town, marry Sharon stone type, but still we don't have those things we dreamt of,
and of course the years we wasted, we can never have them neverrrr!!!_
Please don't be 60yrs old and your kids will still
be in their 20's..What are you supposed to be at
that age? Their grand father.
Please young men, take my advice seriously.
Marry, don't be afraid, that girl you are finding too many
fault in has many good qualities if you look well.
Don't think you will get every thing before you
settle down. God can change your life in a blink,
with a good and Focus wife by your side, you will succeed
by God grace....Amen
*Ladies, please try and pass this across to Ur boyfriend or fiancé* *Guys please have a re-think and tell other guys about it too... And consider this advice*°°°°°°°° My parent do tell me this too.... Dey married early n made wealth together.... Dey gave examples of friends that failed to marry early and how dey regretted it.... This post is d most sensible in here.... 5 Likes |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by tylesh(f): 8:50am On Jul 23, 2017 |
Addicted2Women:
When you're comfortable enough to feed your family,
pay your bills and still have some left
I blame people who dates or marry unemployed women, they're liabilities
Marry an employed woman so you wouldn't die before the age of 40 from regrets
Is that your real face? |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by BigIyanga: 9:09am On Jul 23, 2017 |
Akposb:
This generation has placed money and sex above all else in marriage. The reality can be different if we recognize our peculiarity. No money is enough especially at the beginning, two financially strong partners can get far no matter how little. Marriage built on financial credibility can still fail. Hpocritical Naija mentality meant for the poor to keep dashing poverty from generation. If sex is not important in marriage, marry ur pillow. If money is not important in marriage, become a catholic priest. |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by lincs25(m): 9:20am On Jul 23, 2017 |
chibuzorAbia:
No wonder the northern bastardds don't want to RESTRUCTURE! See generational poverty!!!!!!! No wonder the love of money by IPOB make them to take crime as a lucrative business. Bunch of armed rubbers. |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by oobinna: 9:20am On Jul 23, 2017 |
Laralag:
It is true that there are lots of mature single sisters in our society today, it is also true that there are loads of single men in our society. could it be that men not settling down is the reason most women are still single. Most of the men we dated as undergraduate migth still be single 10years afer leaving school ( I know a lot). Most men I have asked, excuse boils down to money even though they have jobs.
This brings me to my question how much should a man be earning before he should start thinking of marriage all things being equal. Where there is a will, there is a way |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by Nobody: 9:33am On Jul 23, 2017 |
SnowJay92:
Was reading in awe, one was even quoting 3k daily for feeding, meaning they'd be ordering in everyday? This our generation shaa, and some will get carried away by these Internet standards. My brother the thing weak me. 3K daily for meal when you are not in a hotel!!!! Some people want others to plan their life for them, let them continue planning their life based on what ppl think as if they're renting their own brains. 5 Likes |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by Henryubani44(m): 9:35am On Jul 23, 2017 |
First of all how many people here are employed? 1 Like |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by Laralag: 9:49am On Jul 23, 2017 |
AreaFada2:
nice thread. Thank you, but wats your thought |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by AreaFada2: 9:57am On Jul 23, 2017 |
Laralag:
Thank you, but wats your thought I think home-based Nairaland family members would be in a better position to say. But I know people in Lagos on a combined family income of 150 to 200k and doing well. Yet some singleton complain that 165k is too small. Like anywhere in the world it is about how you manage your income and the number of extended family members needing your economic support. |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by chibuzorAbia: 10:22am On Jul 23, 2017 |
perryy:
I was earning 54k when I married a nurse , a contract staff in one of government health centres collecting 10k per month. Though it wasn't really easy at first , but the weight of the burden got me stronger and today, I'm a proud multi millionaire. I didn't marry 20 years ago, I got married exactly 27th of November 2010. Sometimes, love for your wife and kids can make u go extra mile and think of something positive to change your condition. If not for the increased burden brought by wife and kids, I would have still be probably where I was then , without any change of status. Very true! That burden is a life changer. |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by ogawisdom(m): 10:23am On Jul 23, 2017 |
iamrealdeji:
my guy,my married neighbour sleeps on the mat at the corridor whenever his wife's relatives are around,he vacates the one room he lives with his wife for them. I once sent this guy to fill my gas cooker for me and he stole part of my money and threw the receipt in a tyre for me not to know the actual amount just to feed his family,you should see how this guy complains bitterly whenever he wants to buy their baby's pampers. no rest of mind for him because he borrows money to take care of his family at times if there is no money,and yet,other older married men usually say he has not seen anything yet that it would get to a time he would feel like he's just fetching water into a basket and feel like running away when they have their second child and children start school and all.
A caretaker that rented my shop to me advised me not to rush into marriage. he said he rushed into marriage and now he's in his 40's,he is struggling so hard,sold his car for him to pay his children's school fees when they entered higher institution and upkeep,one child even had to wait for another . he said the reason he's so backward is because he rushed into marriage. his salary is not bad but raising family in Nigeria requires preparing well before marriage. there is nothing like favour coming after marriage o,its pure lie and African formulated fallacy. most marriages I've seen are not like that at all,only few men become successful after marriage and its because they're on the way to success even before marriage or just lucky. married men that didnt prepare well before marriage are the ones that are feeling this recession most,I do pity them. lots of married men that didn't prepare well always do soughts of illegal stuffs even after salaries just to take care of family,send them to buy you something,they would always try to steal part of your money and tell you the wrong price,many of them have done that to me It's good to prepare for marriage dt I agree with but man proposes and God disposes at times. It will be foolish to wait till 40yrs to get married BC you are preparing for marriage. D story of life is different for everyone, some ppl prepared well for marriage got married at 42 yrs on a salary of 450k but 3yrs down the line got fired n moved to square one others married at 30yrs on a salary of 70k and 5yrs down the line got a job of 250k. Life is full of ups and downs, there is time for everything n there is time to get married. |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by akinolaa76: 10:24am On Jul 23, 2017 |
No amount will ever be enough. Certain amount may be too small though.
Unless you're from a really rich home, you must consider a few things.
Where you intend to settle is important. Standard of living differs with different places. Secondly, my father advised me 'As long as you can feed yourself and your wife, plus a few other family member like when they come visiting without borrowing, you are good to go' obviously after setting up a considerable good apartment - decent apartment my father in-law will say.
As a man, your wife income MAY be negligible at the beginning ie if she's not working and above condition hold, fine or if she's working, perfect.
Now to be specific, after your personal monthly upkeep (recharge card, data, transport to work to and fro everyday etc), if you have 30-40k in Abeokuta, Ibadan, Osogbo, Akure, Ado minus Lagos, you will feed well with change left. Remember, 30-40k after your personal upkeep. and this is on the low side, the 30-40k. Also provided you're not the type that like to spend on alcohol and do some alaye stuffs. The amount I put up there should even afford cinema ones a month and maybe a date.
I advise the wife should work at the beginning, she will assist too. Both of you can grow together from here. you can both start the race of making a more comfy home for when the kids start coming together. Makes it easier
People can start with big salary and have financial issues early in their marriage.
They can start small and make it big.
They can start big and remain big.
They can start small and remain small.
My point is there is no prerequisite to make it big in life, it takes favour. but there are prerequisite for being happy and contented. and that is 'try your best, do not have too much expectations '
My own philosophy has been, as long as you can afford the basic things to not be considered 'poor', you should be happy. Driving very expensive car is luxury.
But all in all, you need a really good wife to understand all the thrash I've put up there. You must believe everything will be ok in the end. 6 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by idris4eva(m): 10:35am On Jul 23, 2017 |
NaijaElba:
Marry now with the little you have. Don't wait to
be a millionaire, Have kids early so you can grow
with them. Grow with your kids and succeed with
your wife. You will never finish making money or
achieving your plans. You might still not succeed
at your target year. So start your life early, with
consistency you will grow.
My father said this to me: _When i was 25, i was
talking about making billions before i marry.
Many years later, billions didn't come, yet no kid
no wife... I had an opportunity to marry the most beautiful love
of my life very early, But my fear was, can i
really take care of her? But right now She's married with
Four grown up children. The guy that married her
was still schooling then, but had the courage.
They worked hard and succeeded together. I
failed, so please if you can feed yourself, you can
feed your wife. You have to believe it, marry
early, don't wait.
Don't make our mistakes, I see
my childhood friends play with their kids.. Most
of them are not doing as well as me.. But they
are happier with their families..
Trust me it isn't money only, but Rather your Maturity, your
happiness depends entirely on your wisdom and the way you Handle Life. With
a well planned life they are happier.
Trust me it
isn't money, What is our problem? Build mansion, buy the latest Car in Town, marry Sharon stone type, but still we don't have those things we dreamt of,
and of course the years we wasted, we can never have them neverrrr!!!_
Please don't be 60yrs old and your kids will still
be in their 20's..What are you supposed to be at
that age? Their grand father.
Please young men, take my advice seriously.
Marry, don't be afraid, that girl you are finding too many
fault in has many good qualities if you look well.
Don't think you will get every thing before you
settle down. God can change your life in a blink,
with a good and Focus wife by your side, you will succeed
by God grace....Amen
*Ladies, please try and pass this across to Ur boyfriend or fiancé* *Guys please have a re-think and tell other guys about it too... And consider this advice*°°°°°°°° if you had been a lady I would have said my mum has started coming to nairaland same reason she always tell me " don't be like me that gave birth late".........best comment so far 1 Like |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by ogawisdom(m): 10:39am On Jul 23, 2017 |
Thisnut:
typical lazy Nigerian lady. Don't go and make your money to spend wisely, be looking for someone else's to. Most Nigerian women don't really contribute financially into a marriage, always having the mind set that marriage is a career.
@op, marry a working class lady who contributes Financially into the marriage and not a lady can contributes with only sex. If sex is what you want, go get some slay queen of Instagram, if marriage is what you want, go get a working class lady.
Gone at the days when wife materials were based on how homely and how good a lady can cook. These days are all about the survival instinct. Instead of marrying a woman solely because she can cook and sex, why not take that money to a restaurant and also get some slay queen who will do a lot better in their various specialty.
Woman way no fit contribute financially, that one na wife material?
Na wife u dey find abi na woman money? A good wife is most impt in marriage whether employed or nt. U can help her get sth doing along the line, I dnt even place emphasis on whether a woman works or nt it's for lazy dudes 1 Like |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by Nobody: 10:47am On Jul 23, 2017 |
250k from the guy 150k from the gal You guys don't have business with marriage when you're still struggling as singles. Don't mind this ppl saying little beginning, jes go and price pampers and cerilac  |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by deigocosta19(m): 10:49am On Jul 23, 2017 |
some one please give this guy a bottle of beer. well said.
Hw many bottles  ? |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by Dinmajoyjoy(f): 11:27am On Jul 23, 2017 |
it's all about understanding.
some has d money but to bring it out and start planing is what d don't know how to go about it.
some has the money but confuse on whom to settle with.
my opinion. 1 Like |
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| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by collinsfhk(m): 11:38am On Jul 23, 2017 |
Proverbs 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD
Proverbs 19:13 A foolish son is the calamity of his father: and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping.
19:14 House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the LORD. |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by thesuave10(m): 11:41am On Jul 23, 2017 |
patola080:
ur own family and ur wife own family, ur friends Say what? All of them would be rich na. So need for that shït   |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by Trottle: 12:06pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
ogawisdom:
Na wife u dey find abi na woman money?
A good wife is most impt in marriage whether employed or nt. U can help her get sth doing along the line, I dnt even place emphasis on whether a woman works or nt it's for lazy dudes You're really living up to your name sir. Keep sharing the Wisdom!!! |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by united4men: 12:34pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
Nma27:
Many peeps success are tied to marriage. Once they marry, favour starts to fall on them from left and right.
fortune teller.......... Yinmu |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by Aeoner: 12:44pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
Juliearth:
It largely depends on the location....a monthly income of 100k for instance might not go far in Abuja but can in states like Plateau,Kaduna....however,I belief in humble beginnings-you dont need tarty billion for the akant before you take the bold step,start out small and grow together. you sabi. abeg pm your number I want talk to you sharpaly� |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by Nobody: 12:54pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
Addicted2Women:
When you're comfortable enough to feed your family,
pay your bills and still have some left
I blame people who dates or marry unemployed women, they're liabilities
Marry an employed woman so you wouldn't die before the age of 40 from regrets
change your thoughts my dear My husband doesn't let me work Does it mean I'm I liability? If the money is there why will u regret, I help him save n we move on happily he has been d happiest man all these yrs Pls oh think positively some ladies might b unemployed today buh can b commissioners tomorrow na ready made u dey find? Its good for ladies to work n support d husband no doubt buh u can miss ur mrs right if that's ur criteria |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by whao: 1:13pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
humilitypays:
In present day Nigeria under president Buhari/Osinbajo, you need at least NGN200,000 monthly to live a basic life and live in a decent 2-bedroom apartment in a low income city area in Nigeria.
Mathematically:
House rent per annum = NGN350,000; NGN30,000 monthly
Monthly feeding with your wife alone = NGN3000 x 30 = NGN90,000 monthly feeding
Other daily expenditures + helping family members, etc = NGN100,000 monthly
Clothing and others monthly = NGN50,000
Total projected/estimated monthly expenditures = NGN30,000 + NGN90,000 + NGN100,000 + NGN50,000 = NGN270,000
So with an income of NGN270,000 monthly, u can start a decent home with your wife to be, good luck  Let me share my experience and I hope people will learn. I started working with a Federal government agency in 2013 earning N45k and in 2016 my salary got to 50k. I am of age to marry but I have been thinking of how to get money for the celebration, I have a super girl that has all quality a REAL wife should have, not all this girl's mentioning 150-450k which it's their choice anyway. My then girl friend now my super wife encourage me to forget money and start planning with the little I have. Note: she was just a corper and still putting pressure on me but I later reason with her and set the preparation rolling in July and fix date for December 31st 2016. A month to the wedding I have done virtually nothing, I mean nothing and had no savings and I refused to borrow. I went ahead to booked for a hall worth N450k, and N300k for food and N150k for drinks because just wanted to celebrate at least just this once in my life. A week to my wedding someone paid for the hall, a day later someone took the food and then drinks and infact my wedding was a success and the bet in my city with dignities in attendance that a governor and a senator attended which I never invited. Now, my salary is almost 60k and seriously I am proud am a husband, father sooner, living in a very comfortable house and atleast I do better than some men earning 300k, right now I don't lack food, I am mobile and So happy I am married. I advice men and women waiting for the big job and money to lay off that pride and get married and face reality of life. There is blessing in marriage and still counting. Shalom 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by patola080(m): 1:18pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
thesuave10:
Say what? All of them would be rich na. So need for that shït if dey re rich like Bill Gates dey will still come to take 4rm u u re dia brother |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by thesuave10(m): 1:20pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
patola080:
if dey re rich like Bill Gates dey will still come to take 4rm u u re dia brother They will not. I'm speaking from experience |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by Nobody: 1:39pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
united4men:
fortune teller.......... Yinmu sorry it didn't work out well for u. |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by tosyne2much(m): 1:49pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
Bigsteveg:
This your analysis is outrageous!
Do you even know what u are saying?
Cloths every month 50k?
family 100k?...are u their lord and saviour
food 3k every day? una no dey cook
Na wah o No mind am.. Who wan dey spend 3k per day on food when no be say person no buy food stuff keep for house 2 Likes |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by Johnpsite: 2:18pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
NaijaElba:
Marry now with the little you have. Don't wait to
be a millionaire, Have kids early so you can grow
with them. Grow with your kids and succeed with
your wife. You will never finish making money or
achieving your plans. You might still not succeed
at your target year. So start your life early, with
consistency you will grow.
My father said this to me: _When i was 25, i was
talking about making billions before i marry.
Many years later, billions didn't come, yet no kid
no wife... I had an opportunity to marry the most beautiful love
of my life very early, But my fear was, can i
really take care of her? But right now She's married with
Four grown up children. The guy that married her
was still schooling then, but had the courage.
They worked hard and succeeded together. I
failed, so please if you can feed yourself, you can
feed your wife. You have to believe it, marry
early, don't wait.
Don't make our mistakes, I see
my childhood friends play with their kids.. Most
of them are not doing as well as me.. But they
are happier with their families..
Trust me it isn't money only, but Rather your Maturity, your
happiness depends entirely on your wisdom and the way you Handle Life. With
a well planned life they are happier.
Trust me it
isn't money, What is our problem? Build mansion, buy the latest Car in Town, marry Sharon stone type, but still we don't have those things we dreamt of,
and of course the years we wasted, we can never have them neverrrr!!!_
Please don't be 60yrs old and your kids will still
be in their 20's..What are you supposed to be at
that age? Their grand father.
Please young men, take my advice seriously.
Marry, don't be afraid, that girl you are finding too many
fault in has many good qualities if you look well.
Don't think you will get every thing before you
settle down. God can change your life in a blink,
with a good and Focus wife by your side, you will succeed
by God grace....Amen
*Ladies, please try and pass this across to Ur boyfriend or fiancé* *Guys please have a re-think and tell other guys about it too... And consider this advice*°°°°°°°° nice one |
| Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by dannlukas(m): 2:31pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
humilitypays:
In present day Nigeria under president Buhari/Osinbajo, you need at least NGN200,000 monthly to live a basic life and live in a decent 2-bedroom apartment in a low income city area in Nigeria.
But if your wife to be is working and earning at least NGNG100,000 monthly, that is very okay to start a family with her...if not, it won't be that easy with the current inflation.
Mathematically:
House rent per annum = NGN350,000; NGN30,000 monthly
Monthly feeding with your wife alone = NGN3000 x 30 = NGN90,000 monthly feeding
Other daily expenditures + helping family members, etc = NGN100,000 monthly
Clothing and others monthly = NGN50,000
Total projected/estimated monthly expenditures = NGN30,000 + NGN90,000 + NGN100,000 + NGN50,000 = NGN270,000
So with an income of NGN270,000 monthly, u can start a decent home with your wife to be, good luck And what happens to monthly savings? 1 Like |
