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Amarabae:
A LETTER TO THE BROKE GUYS.
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Greetings all!
I will like to briefly to thank all who wished me a Happy Birthday yesterday.
Thank you my Darlings. *kisses*
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Back to my main subject, THE BROKE GUYS.
I have noticed that one of the most frustrating moments in a man's life is when he is broke!
This era of financial scarcity always leave many men with feeling of emptiness,
No wonder the sighting of that word "BROKE" always touches the nerve in many guys, no wonder the insults, bullying and aggressiveness they exhibit as a response to any thread that is dedicated to such a dreaded word.
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NOW Broke Guys listen, let me give you a bit of advice..
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Every woman dream of a comfortable future, a future where even if she is not been treated like a queen, atleast she will not be a slave.
Most ladies grew up and saw the financial difficuly and suffering their mothers went through in the name of marriage and thereby took a resolution not to be part of that fate.
So before you blame them for rejecting you as a broke guy, remember this.
1. Being broken is NOT a permanent situation, work hard to change the status.
2. Even if you are an unemployed graduate, you can raise a capital and move into business.
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FINANCIAL STABILITY AND SECURITY is an Important Requirement many women look at including me.
How can you expect a girl to reject a rich guy for you that live in a public yard and earn below #30,000 monthly?
The girl may really love you but she need a partner who is Financially stable,
Many ladies are not looking for a Dangote kind of guy but a Hardworking Financially Stable Guy.
and I see nothing wrong in that.
He may not have his own house, atleast let him afford a 1 or 2-bedroom flat.
He may not have a murano or quest, atleast let him afford a mercedes even if it is old model.
Women just want to be comfortable.
So Mr Broke guy,
Why not focus on improving your financial status instead?
From #30,000, aim to be getting atleast up to #70,000 and above, monthly.
From Public yard, aim at living in a comfortable apartment.
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No woman want to suffer, YES the woman may have a good job or business, but she need an equal or higher earner than her as a partner.
You get the drift?.
ALSO.
Some Broke Guys are LAZY in nature!
Women do appreciate hardworking guys, we do.
But the lazy type! Hush.
There are many unemployed graduate who love staying indoors, sleeping and always online looking for a girl to bully.
Why are such guys suprised at being broke?
They are proud and lazy to humble themselves and learn an income earning skill.
Tomorrow, these are guys who will be calling girls "GOLD DIGGERS" for rejecting their lazy azz.
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Dear broke guy, Wake up,
Work hard to improve your financial status,
Go and learn an income earning Skill,they are many out there to learn from.
My Final point is that a guy should be financial stable first before thinking of a serious relationship or marriage.
OK. Broke is not permanent to a hard working guy.
LOVE YOU ALL.
Thank you.

cindybaby22:
Everytime i visit this section, all i see is broke guys this, broke guys that & yet u want people to respect women
Why NL ladies are bent on degrading women & teaching them how to become liability is what i don't get?
I went to the same university with my brothers, i even studied a more tedious course, my dad even spent more on my education than he did for them. Why on earth would i expect them to do the extra ordinary & become super rich?
Most of u ladies calling guys broke, have nothing, i wonder how a blind man will gladly be calling another man blind?
The word brokeness wasn't designed for only guys, it also apply to female, I sorry for the ladies supporting op. Only a whoore would support this write up.
Op if truly u are indeed a married woman, then u are a disgrace to married women & shame on u.

thesuave10:
The statistics is very correct and I mean Nigeria. Support is a prerequisite? Now that is exactly why you are broke. Hard work is prerequisite. It has and will always be. ... Sha you won't understand success if you've not been there. Your talk doesn't surprise me.

Fkforyou:
Are you saying broke boys should struggle to get money so that they can be able to get the girl?

What if they just want to be rich for themselves, like be so fvcking rich that they can travel to any country of their choice and do whatever they like?

What makes you think it's all about the girl?

So if he gets the girl, now what? Should he also stick with her and her alone? that's not fair if you ask me.

jaksmillioniar:
if u are not a caword blog to me direct

R3B3L:
but wait o.. why must u b condescending. Who said I'm broke.?? Or are u just high on sumtin ds evening. Anyway, I'm equally not surprised by ur statements.. people who are used to it hush.. if it's new to dem den dey go like u..

thesuave10:
Lol e pain am. Trust me you haven't seen shît. Unless you'd never say hard work. Anyways have fun. I'm out

R3B3L:
get out.

rosalieene:
Lmaooooo

Amarabae:
which guy re u talking about pls?

Benita27:
The message is clear enough. Being broke isn't permanent but while you're at it: work and don't be lazy.

I don't see why he should vex.

cindybaby22:
Everytime i visit this section, all i see is broke guys this, broke guys that & yet u want people to respect women
Why NL ladies are bent on degrading women & teaching them how to become liability is what i don't get?
I went to the same university with my brothers, i even studied a more tedious course, my dad even spent more on my education than he did for them. Why on earth would i expect them to do the extra ordinary & become super rich?
Most of u ladies calling guys broke, have nothing, i wonder how a blind man will gladly be calling another man blind?
The word brokeness wasn't designed for only guys, it also apply to female, I sorry for the ladies supporting op. Only a whoore would support this write up.
Op if truly u are indeed a married woman, then u are a disgrace to married women & shame on u.

Amarabae:
what a dry and empty bullying tactics. I am not moved by it, dear. Nuisance? Is that the only word you can decode from my writeup? Horrible. Also, I have a federal job and financially stable even before marriage. And last, I have the legal right to be in any section that I want. Ok?

Augustap:
If guys are broke, then work and be independent. Same old story everyday.
Lefulefu
Victornezzar
Dacovajnr, you pple shud come and see ooo

Amarabae:
Thank you for responding maturely.
A girl sticking with a guy in poverty does not guaranty her a wedding ring when the guy blow.
Ok?
My point is that a guy should be financial stable first before a serious relationship or marriage.

vizkiz:
Like I said. Her points hold no weight.

Do you even live in Nigeria? Read your previous comment about 90% of broke guys being lazy. Who gave you the ability to take out such mobo-jombo research?

My first comment stated "A guy who does not have at least 200k in his account is broke" how many Nigerian men (even the married) can boast of such amount of money?

You talked about shying away from the truth? What truth exactly? That an Average Nigerian will see means of making money and say no?

That broke men rather sit at home instead of working?

Guy your level of Asslicking in this matter is distasteful.

TrapHedges:
So if u'r broke.. As stated u don't deserve a good relationship? Really... Wat do u all understand about love..i might #ot be into love so much but i know a thing or two.....Love is team work.. Care.. Affection etc.. While u'r broke.. U can be in a relationship wit someone that will assist u reach ur goal...

Fam if u can't love me when am broke.. Don't love me when am rich cus ion want #o fake love



Thank you breh for that.. And lefulefu was also shouting and also making fun of the no money, no erection nonsense. Nigga is an asslicker and a shame to manhood...

TrapHedges:
So if u'r broke.. As stated u don't deserve a good relationship? Really... Wat do u all understand about love..i might #ot be into love so much but i know a thing or two.....Love is team work.. Care.. Affection etc.. While u'r broke.. U can be in a relationship wit someone that will assist u reach ur goal...

Fam if u can't love me when am broke.. Don't love me when am rich cus ion want #o fake love

itsJude:
na lil kesh mumu u dey quote, u fall my hand

dacovajnr:
Another Diary of a "Broke Nigga" When exactly is this "Brokenness" Taunts going to end. Is as much as she's right with with her constructive criticism, I still think putting it to their faces isn't necessary as most broke guys are easily broken by such.

Her motive generally is to reach out and encourage to guys to grab the bull by the horn and work very hard for the sake of their wives and kids if not for anything. You Really don't have to make millions every month,but make sure you can meet up your Children and wife's need above all your family, most especially if you're the first child.

Spot on Amarabae.

Neimar:
True points amarabae I just gat to work hard Dts all is can say

SINZ:
What stops women from getting their own money?

jaksmillioniar:
use a cocumber

Victornezzar:
lol
some people just wan talk sha my dear
if u check now....dey no get shishi 4 deir bank account

Prevho:
First, dating a broke guy is your own perogative but at least, date one with potentials and big dreams.
“If you want to eat frog, eat the one with eggs”.

Second, if you cannot stay, do not stay. Some broke guys are very analytical, they know when you are not for real and when chips are down, they drop you like a bag of potatoes.

Now this is coming on the back of Kondomatic comment on this thread: https://www.nairaland.com/3944387/staying-him-when-he-broke
I feel it is imperative we trash this once and for all. I keep hearing ladies talking about how a guy they stood with when he was broke ditched them when he made it.

No logical and smart man will ever leave a lady who stood with him in this life, especially during his trying period.
The problem we have here though is in how you interpret the word “STAND”.

Most girls think standing with a broke guy means not asking him for money, giving him sex as he wants, cooking for me perpetually, not nagging and generally docile.

Most girls are actually STANDING without any verbal and active efort and they watch the guy do all the heavy lifiting, now when it is time to reap they say they were with you, REAAAAALLLLYYY!

The real idea here is the value of your worth in his eyes and how he rates you, there is a way you place yourself and you just become a time machine to him and he rides till he can get a better one.

You don’t pamper such guy or what other challenge is there for him to see (when in the real sense, you should be the challenge), instead you need to change your role.

So what does STANDING” with a broke guy means…

Most of the girls who claim guys leave them are mostly docile and when they act, they make it seem like they are doing you a great favor, broke guys can smell that from afar.

It simply refers to the level of influence you had in his life to achieving or actualizing his future ambition or getting better in life.
Are you the cornerstone or the pavement stone?


How much of your imprint and name will be mentioned when he tells that story?

ASK YOURSELF: If that guy was a company, what percentage will be your own share?

In this context, things like food, sex and even little financial push does not really count, there is a lot that matters more
The following are some of what you should aim to be and he also has to see you in the same light:

You have to become his -
Motivator everyday
Catalyst for success
A reason to be a success etc.

You may not help him financially, but once he can tie you in with his grass to grace story, my sister, you are going nowhere!
Some guys can be ruled out though, but it is only a negligible percentage.

Disclaimer: This is my own opinion

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Augustap:
Kikikiki....everytime they will come here and make noise abt broke guys, meanwhile na them dey finish the little wey guys get

Victornezzar:
u dey mind dem
like someone said 1 tym like dah
dah most of dem are maids
once deir madam goes out.,., dey will carry deir phone nd start typing gibberish

Victornezzar:
u dey mind dem
like someone said 1 tym like dah
dah most of dem are maids
once deir madam goes out.,., dey will carry deir phone nd start typing gibberish

Augustap:
Hehehehehe...jobless fellows everywhere