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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Nobody: 5:30pm On Jul 18, 2017
let him go and collect his money back na

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Romerocollins: 5:51pm On Jul 18, 2017
alexialin:
There is this neighbor of mine, hes a bachelor and lives on my street. Few houses from mine. Hes a nice man, has a reasonable job, hes responsible, and good looking in his late 30s. We greet each other, have small talks as friends. I know he likes me due to the way he gists with me, help me with my car like changing tyre if its flat in the wee hours of the morning before he heads to work. Infact hes a concerned neighbor.
But yesterday evening, as I came back from work, my phone was ringing nd I saw his number and picked. He said he would like to discuss something important and delicate. I said ok no probs. I will come over to your place, lemme freshen up first.

So fast forward, I knocked on his door he opened, and smiled nervously, I smiled back. He ushered me to his sitting room. So I was like John, whats up? Whats going on?
He sat close to me and was now going Into long story of how hes planning to move down to a serene area in ikorodu, he has gotten a three bedroom flat, all tiled amd spacious. I was like wow! So u are moving to ikorodu? Are u not scared with badoo and the killings there?

He laughed nervously he said ha! No badoo there again! Ikorodu is now safe. I said seriously? He said yes! And moreover he has already paid for the place.
I said ok o.. I wish u safe relocating then. He said thank you
Then he said but there is one more issue.

I said ok, u want to throw send off party? I was laughing

He said noooo!

Hmm mm, hmmmm, I said what nah? Why hmmm?
Then he knelt down and said alexia weve known each other for quite a while and i can say am comfortable with you around me. And u are exactly what i need in my life.
Pease will u marry me? Will u be my wife? Am ready to go see your people and do all the necessary marriage rites. And towards end of this year, we are married.

I was like wait, wait!

Marry you? Ha!
Its not that u are good as a husband but sorry I can never live in ikorodu.
Not wit the killings going on there

Am sorry I cant cry

Wow! Pls stand up abeg.. I can't

He felt so bad, I couldnt bear to see the hurt in his eyes. As I stood up, he said wait pls.. I said am coming.


Sighs


Now peeps look at this scenario

I can't jeopardize my life cos of getting married.

Ikorodu for me is a no go area.


Do u guys and ladies feel I was unreasonable sad

I know am not a spring chicken but I can't put my life in danger cry
And even apart from danger? I feel the distance from where hes moving to and where my office @is just too long. Hold up alone eveyday will make me weary and tired

Pls I need reasonable views and replies about this issue

I don't want to feel like am a bad person sad

Pls dont mind my grammatical errors!

Think twice before you miss your luck, husband is scarce, ask Nnaka and she will explain to you better, you aren't getting any younger, a word is enough for the Wise.

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Nobody: 6:26pm On Jul 18, 2017
Who propose to a neighbour on the first day he meets her? Flee from him because you don't really know him

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Nobody: 8:03pm On Jul 18, 2017
lefulefu:

great cheesy



Thanks dear cheesy

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by 7footre(m): 8:08pm On Jul 18, 2017
SlimHan:
Actually, I would like to make my thought known and air my view about your story but the truth of the matter is that as much as would love to give you a reasonable suggestion and bring you out of your dilemma, i can't but make known to you the fact that i really don't know what to say...


BTW

Why is Mr John rushing you with a proposal na, is not even like you guys were dating abi you omitted that part in your story

And I was seriously patiently reading to know what you had to say

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Nobody: 8:10pm On Jul 18, 2017
Romerocollins:


Think twice before you miss your luck, husband is scarce, ask Nnaka and she will explain to you better, you aren't getting any younger, a word is enough for the Wise.





My dear, hes not the only husband material on earth.

And yes, am fully aware am not getting younger..

But hello? I wont place myself in hell hole just because husband is scarce! cheesy

Ikorodu is no way!

And adamo as have confirmed few minutes ago is a no no for me


Thanks for your own concern.

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by johnson232: 9:01pm On Jul 18, 2017
alexialin:






My dear, hes not the only husband material on earth.

And yes, am fully aware am not getting younger..

But hello? I wont place myself in hell hole just because husband is scarce! cheesy

Ikorodu is no way!

And adamo as have confirmed few minutes ago is a no no for me


Thanks for your own concern.
But why would he propose to u when u guys aren't dating or in courtship? e get as e be oo

& Why would anyone rent in ikorodu for now, does he work in ikorodu? If u already live there, cool, but to go rent there for the time being get as e be...

This your friend sha...A man in his late 30 couldn't tell u he love u all these while, he was just saying hi, being concerned like a secondary school boy....When he should have asked u out, so u guys could plan together...but suddenly called u to propose...u are not too choosy, the man matter get as e be...

Marriage is not something anyone should rush into....

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by PassionateSoul(m): 9:11pm On Jul 18, 2017
Lemme digress a bit. See eh, I'm looking for a girlfriend, if you're young beautiful smart and goal driven, holla me. Will be glad to hear from you
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Ups01(m): 10:51pm On Jul 18, 2017
Romerocollins:


Think twice before you miss your luck, husband is scarce, ask Nnaka and she will explain to you better, you aren't getting any younger, a word is enough for the Wise.

Na wa for you oo. Is it your body? The Op isn't complaining what's your fucki.ng problem?

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Ups01(m): 10:54pm On Jul 18, 2017
@alexialin you're not Choosy, i kinda agree with QueenOfNepal Don't do it.

QueenOfNepal:
Who propose to a neighbour on the first day he meets her? Flee from him because you don't really know him

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by SlimHan(f): 2:16pm On Jul 19, 2017
7footre:


And I was seriously patiently reading to know what you had to say
lol grin but i said something na
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Nobody: 2:20pm On Jul 19, 2017
alexialin:




Nope we weren't dating
We are friends
I feel maybe as hes moving down to ikorodu, he won't get to see me as much as he would love to

I guess? undecided
Ask him to collect the money back or is it non refundable
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by MissRaine69(f): 2:34pm On Jul 19, 2017
First and foremost do not venture into a relationship with someone out of desperation or out of pity it just creates resentment later.

You could have handled this better though. So playing devils advocate if he had said he was moving to a different area would you have accepted? What if this is all he could afford? So rather than be all malodramatic about how far it is and the violence etc. Give the man a chance if you are indeed compatable help him out and find a home that meets your standards as clearly his choice is beneath you.

Meet the man half way that's the logic thing to do. Stop focusing on the aesthetics so much if he is a good man by your account why are you bailing out on account of the place he has chosen to reside? It makes you look a tad bit shallow and yes choosy.

If you feel nothing for him then you should not be burdened by anything, but if you view there is a chance stop putting up barriers and think long term, that's the problem with most women. Thinking short term.

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by zyphr(m): 3:03pm On Jul 19, 2017
alexialin:






Abi?

You are right on that.

Although he wanted us to date but I told him I dont do neighbor relationship, Infact street relationship I no do

And maybe he feels, am scared he will dump me after sexxx? Which is one paranoia I have as well. U know how guys are? After sexxx? They move on.
I don't want such to happen to me on the same street. I will just die of shame! God!

So I made it clear to him, no dating.
So he came up with marriage and he said I can ask people around, he's a good man and husband material.


My problem is ikorodu. I can marry a man am not in love with, as long as hes presentable, has a good job, and he cares for me and hes good, loving and faithful, I have no problem. With time I will fall in love. Love is overrated jare

I pray he doesn't take it to heart I said no

If only he had consult me before taking such drastic steps!

It would have been a different story. I would have gladly say yes! And hang my boots on dating, just focus on making my new family work! And also understand him too.

If only he asked for my opinion!

A potential husband slipping off my hands. sad

Cos hes indeed a gentle man.

Op, it's clear you want him and you do feel something for him which you may not admit. Your refusal is hinged on his relocation. Let him know what you just typed up there. Let him know that the location won't give you peace of mind and you'll likely be unhappy. Possible refunds with slight deductions could be made for the house rent he paid and this shouldn't be much of a sacrifice for your the sake of your happiness if he really wants you as a wife.
Talk with an open mind. I wish you well.

P. S. Maybe He waited up till this ninth hour to propose because it'll be easy to get over rejection if he is no longer living in your neighborhood.

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Fkforyou(m): 3:07pm On Jul 19, 2017
Made up story. undecided
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by 7footre(m): 3:20pm On Jul 19, 2017
SlimHan:
lol grin but i said something na

angry angry and what did you say? Tell me what you said
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by wristbangle: 4:21pm On Jul 19, 2017
I don't understand you OP. Something is missing! A guy cannot just propose to u without being in a relationship with you. The story looks half baked to me

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by zolapeperenpe(f): 1:34am On Jul 26, 2017
Ohh my dearest Alexialin! I knew this day would come!

Few months ago(with your old moniker- Amelian) you posted something about meeting 'the one' and claimed you were married,unfortunately for you,you were busted by some guys here,so you had to change to this moniker and you started afresh with a story of a new guy way younger than you, yeah? grin

Now,this 'new,responsible,rich' young boy who happened to be the best any lady could wish for already introduced you to his parent(according to you):'he's already making plans about walking down the aisle with you and NOTHING/NOBODY can change that fact bla bla bla bla

He pays most of your bills,tells you 'baby you are cool just the way you are-you are not fat atall,just a lil bit chubby' and all those 'sweet nothings' bla bla

Someone even advised you take things slow and stop talking about this imaginary small fiance of yours to your friends all the time,but you replied that moniker by saying 'no need to worry,getting married to him soon sure pass death'

So if i may ask you my dear chubby Fadeyi/Onipan tailor; where is the 26 abi na 27 y/o educated,rich,responsible small boy you can't miss a day without writing about on nairaland?

I've been tracking you for a very long time here. This is what you do: ordinary 'hesssszzz,heesszzz,aunty we are calling you' from a guy,the next thing you do is come here screaming about 'how you are the sweetest thing in the history of Fadeyi/Onipan and its environs and how a new 'toaster' can't wait to marry you'.

Kindly reply me biko; where is your 27y/o small fiance(person never give you ring sef,you don dey scream 'fiance)

Change your moniker again you hear? 'we go still track you'

Theedetective BLACKdagger you guys should come here o, our very own Miss Alexialin aka Miss Amelian is getting 'married' again oo

Sisisioge we have a wedding to plan grin

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by realtalk19: 2:56am On Jul 26, 2017
firstly dear there is no safe place on earth,we ar only surviving by God grace. badoo or no badoo. armed robbers also burst houses.they also kill,rape and steal

i live in ikorodu town proper and theres nothing to b scared about.

u can stil run ur business even if married afterall there are people who work at lekki,VI even sango otta and stil go to work evryday.

if u nid to give him a trial then date him first and see hw serious he is wit the relationship and how far hes willing to go wit u and his sincerity too.

is he God fearing too coz you dnt know people till u get close to them.

follow your instincts. dnt continue wit wat ur mind is not at peace wit.u may be lucky if he ends up as mr right.

may God guide and direct ur ways.
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by realtalk19: 3:00am On Jul 26, 2017
alexialin:






My dear, hes not the only husband material on earth.

And yes, am fully aware am not getting younger..

But hello? I wont place myself in hell hole just because husband is scarce! cheesy

Ikorodu is no way!

And adamo as have confirmed few minutes ago is a no no for me


Thanks for your own concern.

human beings live in this adamo besides no where is safe. even d heavy rain dat is falling these day is causing havoc evrywhere.


only God protect our lives from danger.we ar all living by grace
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by sisisioge: 4:19am On Jul 26, 2017
zolapeperenpe:
Ohh my dearest Alexialin! I knew this day would come!

Few months ago(with your old moniker- Amelian) you posted something about meeting 'the one' and claimed you were married,unfortunately for you,you were busted by some guys here,so you had to change to this moniker and you started afresh with a story of a new guy way younger than you, yeah? grin

Now,this 'new,responsible,rich' young boy who happened to be the best any lady could wish for already introduced you to his parent(according to you):'he's already making plans about walking down the aisle with you and NOTHING/NOBODY can change that fact bla bla bla bla

He pays most of your bills,tells you 'baby you are cool just the way you are-you are not fat atall,just a lil bit chubby' and all those 'sweet nothings' bla bla

Someone even advised you take things slow and stop talking about this imaginary small fiance of yours to your friends all the time,but you replied that moniker by saying 'no need to worry,getting married to him soon sure pass death'

So if i may ask you my dear chubby Fadeyi/Onipan tailor; where is the 26 abi na 27 y/o educated,rich,responsible small boy you can't miss a day without writing about on nairaland?

I've been tracking you for a very long time here. This is what you do: ordinary 'hesssszzz,heesszzz,aunty we are calling you' from a guy,the next thing you do is come here screaming about 'how you are the sweetest thing in the history of Fadeyi/Onipan and its environs and how a new 'toaster' can't wait to marry you'.

Kindly reply me biko; where is your 27y/o small fiance(person never give you ring sef,you don dey scream 'fiance)

Change your moniker again you hear? 'we go still track you'

Theedetective BLACKdagger you guys should come here o, our very own Miss Alexialin aka Miss Amelian is getting 'married' again oo

Sisisioge we have a wedding to plan grin





OMG! Are you serious?

Well, if this is true, then I guess she's just exercising her right as a social media user. One can be whatever one wants to be tinz. Amelian had a bobo that looked like Flavor o...I had quite a fancy about meeting the guy's brother cheesy

All will be well, stop trying to dig out her dirts biko.

@OP, you did well...the all story sounds too skenky.

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by eyinjuege: 6:02am On Jul 26, 2017
Now he's moving, you'll no longer be neighbors, and you can date yourselves.

If you both like each other romantically and things work out, you can start thinking of marriage.
Moving away from ikorodu shouldn't be a problem as its not his personal house.

When the time comes, he can always get a new place and move from ikorodu

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Nobody: 3:05pm On Jul 26, 2017
sisisioge:


OMG! Are you serious?

Well, if this is true, then I guess she's just exercising her right as a social media user. One can be whatever one wants to be tinz. Amelian had a bobo that looked like Flavor o...I had quite a fancy about meeting the guy's brother cheesy

All will be well, stop trying to dig out her dirts biko.

@OP, you did well...the all story sounds too skenky.
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Nobody: 3:57pm On Jul 26, 2017
sisisioge:


OMG! Are you serious?

Well, if this is true, then I guess she's just exercising her right as a social media user. One can be whatever one wants to be tinz. Amelian had a bobo that looked like Flavor o...I had quite a fancy about meeting the guy's brother cheesy

All will be well, stop trying to dig out her dirts biko.

@OP, you did well...the all story sounds too skenky.




Bitterness will destroy some women sha

Because no man has ever gotten to a stage of marrying u and zolapenperenpe, and begging for your hands in marraige? shouldn't be blamed on me

Am amongst the most sort after amongst guys.

And am as fresh as butter.

Pls no need hating on me, biko hate the game.

If my experience is paining both your brains, abeg dont click on any of my thread.

Its not by force to read my topics.

And anyone of u who wishes to change my moniker, Oya come and collect alexialin and change nah.

Miserable things.
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by sisisioge: 6:13pm On Jul 26, 2017
alexialin:





Bitterness will destroy some women sha

Because no man has ever gotten to a stage of marrying u and zolapenperenpe, and begging for your hands in marraige? shouldn't be blamed on me

Am amongst the most sort after amongst guys.

And am as fresh as butter.

Pls no need hating on me, biko hate the game.

If my experience is paining both your brains, abeg dont click on any of my thread.

Its not by force to read my topics.

And anyone of u who wishes to change my moniker, Oya come and collect alexialin and change nah.

Miserable things.


Lobatan grin grin grin grin grin

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by zolapeperenpe(f): 7:39pm On Jul 26, 2017
alexialin:





Bitterness will destroy some women sha

Because no man has ever gotten to a stage of marrying u and zolapenperenpe, and begging for your hands in marraige? shouldn't be blamed on me

Am amongst the most sort after amongst guys.

And am as fresh as butter.

Pls no need hating on me, biko hate the game.

If my experience is paining both your brains, abeg dont click on any of my thread.

Its not by force to read my topics.

And anyone of u who wishes to change my moniker, Oya come and collect alexialin and change nah.

Miserable things.


I think i'm more interested in why they are using and dumping you after few months cry

Oma se ooo. *singing* ayele ibosi oooooo

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by sisisioge: 7:43pm On Jul 26, 2017
zolapeperenpe:


I think i'm more interested in why they are using and dumping you after few months cry

Oma se ooo. *singing* ayele ibosi oooooo


grin grin grin grin

Alright, give it up. She didn't mean to insult us.

But if she's really Amelian then it is finished grin

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Nobody: 8:04pm On Jul 26, 2017
zolapeperenpe:


I think i'm more interested in why they are using and dumping you after few months cry

Oma se ooo. *singing* ayele ibosi oooooo



How you wish! cheesy grin grin

Keep on consoling your deluded mind grin

Dumping indeed. cheesy
Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Nobody: 8:05pm On Jul 26, 2017
sisisioge:



grin grin grin grin

Alright, give it up. She didn't mean to insult us.

But if she's really Amelian then it is finished grin




Its not even an insult!

My dear face stark reality.

Both of u are old cargos, lonely and frustrated
Kikikikikiki

My tummy o!!!!

cheesy cheesy cheesy

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by zolapeperenpe(f): 8:32pm On Jul 26, 2017
sisisioge:



grin grin grin grin

Alright, give it up. She didn't mean to insult us.

But if she's really Amelian then it is finished grin

Our very own miss Nutella is the same person as Amelian grin

Re: Am I Too Choosy? by zolapeperenpe(f): 8:41pm On Jul 26, 2017
alexialin:




How you wish! cheesy grin grin

Keep on consoling your deluded mind grin

Dumping indeed. cheesy

Yes Miss butter abi na Nutella skin you get?

Ever heard of 'gerund or present participle?
Ohh sorry! I forgot your world only revolves round your swarovski embellished butter pvssy. Mabinun

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Re: Am I Too Choosy? by Amarabae(f): 8:46pm On Jul 26, 2017
This story get K-leg.
How can a man propose to you when both of you were not dating?
And you rejected him because you don't want to live in ikorodu?
So if he is not living in ikorodu, you would have accepted the proposal? Without any dating?
K-Leg forge forge story.

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