I also feel sorry for guys in this situation my advise to the yet to marry guys :Don't marry a slay queen they will eventually slay you , I thank God for my mother I almost marry one , but prayers scattered the relationship. The issue with guys like this is that they saw the problem​ in their relationship but they pretend and ignore it , any lady that loves you on condition is not your wife, guys open your eyes, if you are dating and you can't put your to be wife to a test of love then you are creating​ future problems for your self

Stop dating slay queens,

your case is different.

Uncle be a man n sort your issues out. You 're not man enough why your wife dey use do okoso. Deal with it or you will be dealt with. I can't take that poo in my relationships not to talk of marriage.

czarina:
lol...so all of una dey nairaland and una tell each other una usernames, Bad Idea! ....just sort issues with ur wife pls..

Nairalanders no go kee person.

taoheedoriloye:
Well you are confused bro.your case is like ipob that want biafra, and also lagos.
hold on or let go should one.
good luck!

Comment of the year....

She knows you love her deeply and you are not going to let her go so she is using that as a weapon so my advice for you as a woman, is to confront her. let her know the damage she has caused so far, remind her how lovely, caring patient you've been to her , and if she's using divorce as a threat then let her know you've done your best to make that marriage work so if this is how she wants it no problem. Make sure you tell her what you don't like about her and if she is ready to make that marriage work then she have to drop those character. No matter what comes out of the discussion you have to hold your emotions back.

Avsegzy:
I'll try to make this brief. I met her in 2005 got married in 2010 but everything i knew about her characters Changed after that... From nagging to making life very difficult for me to cope...

I tried to adjust and told myself "this is what it to be called a real man" then i was in the force mostly posted on night guard 6pm to 6am so when i got home i would try to relax when it's 7am my wife will tell me to leave the bed cos she wanted to rearrange the bed neatly so I'd stand but she wouldn't let me use the bed back claiming I'd rough it lol... After few minutes she'd tell me to get up from the chair in the sitting room that she wanted to sweep. Hehe i was like " i don enter one chance ohhh".

Sometimes if i got annoyed before i said one she'd already said four but one mistake i made was that i used to tell her that i can never ever beat my wife even for once. Sometimes she would even tell me that I was only scared of being beaten by a woman not that i didn't want to beat her, if I'm a man enough i should let us give it a trial lol.

I tried to do an inter state transfer just to be far away from cos after our first child things only get worse but then there was an embargo on transfer, i tried to be transferred to another local government but it wasn't successful. I took it as a shame on me to drive her out even with my little kid so i decided to travel out of the country after my visa came out i resigned but i felt guilty with the idea of leaving without informing her so I told her 2days to my departure though she was happy about it but insisted i must give her money to rent another house before i left, i pleaded with her to continue living there that later I'll send her money to rent another place but she said NO... I gave her the money, later to the market and buy foodstuffs that i knew could take them up to 2months at least, i also gave her what i could afford as "pocket money". It's not even up to 2weeks over i left that she started calling me that they were hungry and no money to buy food i was shocked "so i never escape?" I was annoyed "after you almost finished all my money back home?" hmmm "ok no problem use out of the money i gave u to rent another apartment" she said no she'd already given it to her friend to keep it.

She didn't even ask if got a job or not every time she called it'd be argument about money. I told her to go to my mum then to collect money but she refused saying my mum wasn't the one that came to marry her...

Later i stop to pick her calls and later changed my number but the more i tried to ignore her the more i missed her and my kid who i love to hear her voice always. I called her back after 2months, sent money to her(a big mistake) and that made her to demand more and more with hot pressure. I got tired of life didn't know what else to do and I've not been earning much work permit and co. Still under processing i decided to go do some casual works(labour work) the money i got 1st and 2nd day in the 3rd day luck ran against me and and i was arrested for working without permit i had the option to pay fine though but i couldn't afford the amount so i came back to Nigeria.

The most shocking things was that without informing her of what happened or my coming home she handed over a boxers " you're welcome this is what i bought for you" i asked how did she know i was coming she said she just feel like buying it. Later i told her what happened and how she was the cause but she wasn't remorseful rather she said i was lying against her and I've never seen anything this is just the beginning.

Backed in Nigeria no more work, things was hard but I'm not a lazy type but i refused to live with her but not willing to leave her. I decided to stay in another state, found something to do, got enough money years later and travelled out again but this time i didn't tell her anything up to a year now but i do send money. She sent a message through social media that she heard I'm living with a woman somewhere else so if i don't show up in 3months an end will come to our marriage.

I forgot to hard she works, has a shop. What should i do cos i can go home now and i love her and don't want to have 2nd wife in my record I've not even cheated just for once.

"I'll try to make this brief"..... God will see u through sir.

Guys stop marrying slay queens they 're not for marriage marry a level headed woman n one who has fear of God,any other thing outside that is bound to fail. Even those that fear God have issues Na they ones wey no dey fear God go come fear You??

guy,i feel u need d holy spirit in ur life to lead u right.

File for a divorce!

From your testimony, you wont live long with such woman!

Swallow your pride, accept your mistake, forget love as it does not exist in the marriage I see, and make better corrections by finding a true soul mate.

Your kid would be fine...

biblegirl:
guy,i feel u need d holy spirit in ur life to lead u right.

Blood of Wizkid!

Holy spirit in a situation of such?

Sigh....

It's finished!

Amenya96:
I can't seem to figure out why she is behaving like this..... No love ,at all. if she does love you, she is far from showing it. maybe you guys should see a counselor. That one when she say you never see anything so, I just tire.
First try to talk to her.
Book an appointment with a counselor if possible.
Pray
Meet your family members and maybe Pastor too.

@bolded,

Wrong move !

I believe matter of this kind can be handled by the couple if the two are willing. If that doesn't work, just take the product(marriage) back to the manufacturer(God) to fix it.

@OP, what you need now is peace to reign in your heart, I mean the peace of God. Ask Him to give you this peace & you'll see the difference.

Good luck.

Avsegzy:
leave her alone she's my wife's friend i know she's among those misleading her. Her name is Teresa

this matter Is taking another turn here

cococandy:

2) she's supposedly bad. So what is the problem with her leaving?

More to the Point. You're a terrible person. The only thing you said she did to you was dressing the bed while you're still in it or telling you to move when she wants to sweep. Not ideal but not enough to label her as a bad wife.

I hope you know you are biased?
common sense doesn't tell that waking someone from sleep to dress the sheet is outright disrespect.You faulted the man in everything and even went ahead to call someone you don't know a terrible person.I believe you could do worse to your husband thats if you have one.

Maximus85:


Why am i thinking you are not saying the whole truth? All you ve told us is what and what your wife has done. Are you saying you have no fault in all these?

not really sir no one is perfect,it'll be a very long story if i try to cover everything,most time she apologised that she didn't know what use to come over her and the only thing she did say was that i'd be sleeping why she sleep,wash plate and keep the house clean which was true but i needed rest cos i just came back from work,one thing i also know is i did complain whenever did what's wrong but instead to adjust she took it that i always complain

Are you not happy that your wife want to leave you when I have tried several tactics how my own we leave me,women of nowadsys shorten the life span of men with their problems.

lyricalz:
u love her, yet u don't wanno stay in the same place with her, Op u are lustful come to your senses, u are also lost, be found. That's all I have got to tell ya.

do you know about tolerance and limit of tolerance?

henryhemon:


Do you know him?

Yes

Coman dash me your watch. I laik it

Chae broe, sorry for u. U are in ur own bed and a woman asks u to stand up so she dress the bed? I pity u die. I know u are a confused man since u stil open ur mouth say u love such woman. Bye bye to u ex-police officer.

Dont worry manage her for now... When biafra comes all this rubbish wil automatically stop.....

This is a warning to all Romancelanders and other active members from other sections. Leave this thread now. It will soon turn bloody

These people from Family are more petty than people from other sections. You would think being married would do them some good. But believe me, its terribier (sic) here

jconsulting:
I also feel sorry for guys in this situation my advise to the yet to marry guys :Don't marry a slay queen they will eventually slay you , I thank God for my mother I almost marry one , but prayers scattered the relationship. The issue with guys like this is that they saw the problem​ in their relationship but they pretend and ignore it , any lady that loves you on condition is not your wife, guys open your eyes, if you are dating and you can't put your to be wife to a test of love then you are creating​ future problems for your self

Stop dating slay queens,

How do you know she's a slay queen? Was that indicated in the post? There are some local girls that are capable of making life miserable for you compared to these so-called slay queens. e.g. Those igando divorce court cases, are they slay queens also?

Avsegzy:
Thanks. Actually my plan is to take her as my cross,I wish to tell her where i am and give her my number cos i use to feel guilty of leaving THEM just like that without letting her know my whereabouts but I'm just scare to do that

Has anyone else noticed the word THEM used by my Op? and try to link the "I am a force man" line

Bro you are not settled at all and most of the issues you had was not handled by the man of the house.anoda problem is lack of communication. Not an effective one.what i will afvise is if you still want a family....you need come home and build ur family else your wife could be seeing someone else

henryhemon:
Guys stop marrying slay queens they 're not for marriage marry a level headed woman n one who has fear of God,any other thing outside that is bound to fail. Even those that fear God have issues Na they ones wey no dey fear God go come fear You??

she's not a slay queen and we were both untouched before getting married,she's very devoted... And a choir mistress no misunderstanding and everything seemed perfect before marriage

Wetin do u

0b100100111:


Blood of Wizkid!

Holy spirit in a situation of such?

Sigh....

It's finished!

My brother which country you dey?

I dey find country wey i go go fuckkk correct oyibo people, All these naija slay queen don tire me

I hear say oyibo toto dey sweet, shebi na true?

There are two sides to a story. Tell your wife to come and counter this thread den we can give you advice.

How can you have plans without your wife's input, abandon her, and above all not provide for her financial needs and you say she is a nag.

My major anger is that you have the guts to play the victim here, if I catch you eeh.

zicoraads:

Then man up and take control. Most of the people talking to you here won't solve your problem. You too are part of your problem.

thanks

what you need help for ? she about to give you your freedom. you need to be celebrating

keepingmum:
You don't want to live with her yet you don't want her to Leave? You have repeatedly abandoned her physically and financially.
You have repeatedly made plans without her yet you say she is the one that nags and doesn't hear?
As long as your child is under 18yrs, you are REQUIRED by law to provide financially for that child....whether you remain with the mother or not

na because say maybe u Neva marry or u Neva jam devil incarnate, after God fear woman