Donjazzy12:

May you get what you wish!

Dude dat can't be my wish
It's urz
Devil in human form
don't just vex me dis morning oo
op don almost make me vex

treasuredluv:
seriously, its annoying, like they are saint, i don't suport him leaving the lady, 10yrs of a lady's life to one man?. Buh the curses is just too much, as if they've not done worse, how many ladies here have aborted series of abortion, with one rascal, yet he left them. How many guyz here have left innocent ladies for no just cause.

You are smart and intelligent. I love decent and unbiased ladies. Where are you in Abuja? Would love to date you.

bro be human. if u truly love her y not marry her. though it depends on what u do for a living. remember, marriage comes wit blrssing... if her character is good then don't Leave her

Did you rape her or was the sex consensual.

Did both of you agree to a term in the relationship or you were making unreadeamable promisses(when e dey sweet ur body ).

whos decission was it to get rid of the preg.

#untill you clearify the above you will never get a definite advice but curse from some hypocrites who believes one sin is greater than the other(some are even having sex right now ).

Manueleee:

Sir! any meat you cant chew, don't even put it ur mouth. let him finish what he started.

Nope, both of them committed the sin, why are you attacking only the guy?

Victornezzar:

Dude dat can't be my wish
It's urz
Devil in human form
don't just vex me dis morning oo
op don almost make me vex

Yolo!

Donjazzy12:

Yes, he doesn't love her again. It is his right. Nobody should percecute the guy.

It's only a monster of a man that will engage a woman he is not sure to marry into a 10years of relationship. you should ashamed of defending such impunity

Donjazzy12:

No na your own name be DEVIL.Why do you derive Joy in trying you force a man into marriage.

...dont start a fight dat u can never finish,wht was hes mind whn he aborted unborn child even wanted to take d life of d girl,and hes considering her age...my frined receive sense,dont do tins dat will jeopardize ur life.

Donjazzy12:

Yes, he doesn't love her again. It is his right. Nobody should percecute the guy.

It's only a monster of a man that will engage a woman he is not sure to marry into 10years of relationship. you should be ashamed of defending such impunity

Donjazzy12:

Yolo!

mad man gerrahere

May thunder fall on you there, anuofia!!

expensiveguyman:
It's only a monster of a man that will engage a woman he is not sure to marry into a 10years of relationship. you should ashamed of defending such impunity

You should be ashamed of forcing a man to marry a woman he does not want to marry because they had sex before. Have you married all the girls you slept with?

Tobium1:
May thunder fall on you there, anuofia!!

No thunder will fall on him until you marry all the girls you have slept with.

8stargeneral:
...dont start a fight dat u can never finish,wht was hes mind whn he aborted unborn child even wanted to take d life of d girl,and hes considering her age...my frined receive sense,dont do tins dat will jeopardize ur life.

No harm will come to him anywhere! Did he rape her? Both of the did the sex, even her parents are against it, so what?

Victornezzar:

mad man gerrahere

Yolo!

Eberex:
I have a similar story to this one.

A guy met a girl during his Nysc post experience in a high school. When he got a job and she got admission they started to date. The girls family were average and werent doing much for her in terms of sending money for handouts and levies. He took care of most of these bills.

They see only when she comes home for break and sometimes when he travels to see her in school. She has graduated now and just 23. The dude is in his late 30's. He discovers something when he thought deeply about getting married to her. She might feel she is ready all because she wants to please him or feel she owes him because of his help for her through out her school days. Secondly her family are yet to get on their feet and most times he still send her money even now she is home. The folks are not really buoyant.

He told her he cannot Marry her because the burden from her and her family including her siblings would be too much for him. He also have responsibilities for his own folks. Getting married in their cultures means you are getting married to her family as well. He doesn't want to feel obligated to help her family if he marries her which is impossible.

Money has a role to play in marriage. But if she isn't working and her family needs help. Where does she run to? Of course it's the man.

The guy in your story is sensed. Apart from the money factor, the guy has also reasoned that the girl might also marry him out of pity and not love.

isaacsegun:
Please fellow nairalanders, Ineed your urgent advice.
We started dating as far back as year 2007, then she was 17 while i was in my early 20s. I'm her first love, in fact, I was the person that deflowered her. I got her pregnant during the course of our relationship in which we aborted, the abortion almost took her life.

Since after the abortion issues that create serious problem between her parents and mine, her parents has kicked against our relationship including mine but she's insisting we must marry even up till today.

Please guys, should i just tell her that we cannot marry because i can see that she's very desperate to marry now as age is not on her side, but I'm afraid to tell her that the relationship cannot work because she can do anything (like attempting to even take her own life)

u are not man enough . Imaging if she were to be your sis , would have have come here to tell the op to send her packing ? Remember tomorrow my brother the effect thereof is great . If u love her I will rather u work things out with her rather than putting her in an emotional turture . If she had refused ur advances from the beginning u would have called her an evil person . Use ur brain ,it happenss and her is what matters .

Donjazzy12:

You should be ashamed of forcing a man to marry a woman he does not want to marry because they had sex before. Have you married all the girls you slept with?

I don't have to marry all the ladies I had slept with because I haven't been with any of them for more than one year. But giving a lady hope for 10 good years and later disappoint her shows that you are capable of taking a human life no matter how you try to defend it.

Even if you marry the girl, it's set to fail before starting.

The mistake has been made. We are all human, we change our minds. Love is an emotion, it can wane, die and turn around.

Don't marry her!!!

and don't bother about curses, you had no idea you won't marry her when you broke her cherry, buh now things have changed. she has to undestand that and move on.

If she kills herself, good for you. Build something later in her remembrance.

If she tries to kill you, kill her first. Be swift about it and feel no guilt. We all are selfish, and you should want what is best for your self.

you cannot afford to stick with an emotionally wounded animal for the rest of your life, having someone remind you at every window how she aborted a baby for you bla bla bla. The abortion was the best thing to do for both of you at the time and none of you should regret doing it.

This is from me, a selfish, cold and insensitive bastard. if you have another adjective to describe me, you are welcome.

Buh, at the end it is your happiness that matters more.

Think about this if she was your sister how will you feel am very sure the reason both parents are against this is because her womb has been compromised and am so sure the abortion was not a one time event suddenly you cannot marry her again.You destroyed her innocence ten years? No about of advice on NL will make you marry her if you don't want too at the end of the day it all falls on the ladies so ladies watch your back and stop aborting and wasting your precious time and life with time wasters

egopersonified:
nairalanders don vex. your relationship is even longer than some marriages. but if she stayed committed to you all those years without any major issue, it's actually your loss. please break up with her before the end of this month, I won't be surprised if she gets married by December, some men are actually destiny delayers. I bet if you drop her number on this thread, at least a hundred men will want to pick up from where you left. if only this was one of those threads that one moniker replies "hello, this is issacsegun's girlfriend and I will like to clarify something.... "

For ur mind now oooo..
If na you be the girl and you dey see this your comment hope say u go accept am oo

Donjazzy12:
Yolo!

David uzoko sorry to say this you are a shameless he goat

Its people who support evil who are cursed. You are cursed my dear.

Donjazzy12:

Your entire generation is cursed! As for the Op no curse shall come to him. He shall be blessed in the morning and in the evening!

expensiveguyman:
I don't have to marry all the ladies I have slept with because I haven't been with any of them for more than one year. But giving a lady hope for 10 good years and later disappoint her shows that you are capable of taking a human life no matter how you try to defend it.

It is very simple. Marriage is about love and being comfortable with a person. It is not supposed to be a burden. No matter what. Have you asked yourself why her parents who knew about the abortion are against the marriage? Let's be rational here. He does not OWE her a wedding. If he marries her as things stand now, they will likely divorce in the near future because he is doing it out of sympathy not out of love. Look I am not a saint and I will not come in a public forum to defend the indefensible. He should ONLY marry her if he still loves her and want to go on with it. Not because she is desperate.

Imagine!
Just listen to yourself honestly, then do the needful.
your advice-seeking is too annoying.

zolajpower:

u are not man enough . Imaging if she were to be your sis , would have have come here to tell the op to send her packing ? Remember tomorrow my brother the effect thereof is great . If u love her I will rather u work things out with her rather than putting her in an emotional turture . If she had refused ur advances from the beginning u would have called her an evil person . Use ur brain ,it happenss and her is what matters .

You are wrong!

of but please reply me why are you so heartless.......your daughters,sister,you,generations will surely reap what you have sown....i don't comment on this forum but this hurt me to the cor

Donjazzy12:

No harm will come to him anywhere! Did he rape her? Both of the did the sex, even her parents are against it, so what?

but why not let d girl go for d 10 years in relationship,guy ur sayn dis because ur not a woman am not sayn dat he committed d greatest crime,dey are sumtins u gaa to cut early whn u notice u drive joy from it.

viceldo:


David uzoko sorry to say this you are a shameless he goat

Yolo!

But guy u wicked oo after 10 years

Its better you marry the babe,because you deflowered her and even aborted her pregnancy. If you no marry her,if the babe bewitch you or curse you it will surely work. Those two points are legal ground,you may not amount to anything in life.

greggng:




Marry her but if you fail to marry her u will suffer what I am going through now. Don't make my mistake. I don't know u from Adam but am telling u what God said I should tell u

Bro, what are you suffering in relation to this story