Josephamstrong1:


I beg to disagree this time.
My ex had this good male friend that she convinced me of being so proud of. The guy exudes maturity when I see their chat and phone conversations. The day we had a little argument, she left and stayed with this her guy friend who f*cked her for days... Lol.
Male friends are just like parasites or this nice guy next door waiting for an opportunity to strike. Get rid of them if you're in a serious relationship.
Arrest my case.

Yeah it happens bro. I also can't condone the idea of my girlfriend passing the night at her male friend's place. But then, all guys are not like that

Nairaboi:

Ogbeni , It's all about the mindset. I have already zeroed my mind that the girls are good friends and we shouldn't be carried away with the sex shit. I even had to slap one of my female friends the day she asked to spend a night in my house as her rommie had travelled. I agreed, took her out, we cooked dinner, watched movies and went to bed, she taking the bed while I decided to lay on the floor. Only for me to notice a hand running over my shorts (boxers) around 1 am, and I cautioned her, but instead she was intensifying her effort to grab my banana. Na so I tear her one Def Jam o

Hmm l dunno what to believe anymore.

thowbie7ven:
The almighty Lord that has bestowed upon you "Wisdom, knowledge and Understanding" won't leave you for the enemies to kill...Thank you very much for this piece...Infact, I broke up with my Ex just because of this same issue...too many guys always calling them her friends...she'll always go out/hangout with them in their cars and what have you, always going to their houses to cook for them...uses them as her dps anytime they hangout etc...Initially, I was cool with it...but later, I started noticing she was getting carried away then I started calling her attention to it...Then she started saying I was Insecured, I don't trust her...blah blah...This was a girl that followed a Male friend to a hotel to spend a week with him(with another Female friend of hers)...I just had to break up with her...I cannot coman kill myself

Bro, you were not insecure. That's how this nonsense starts. Thanks for the prayers bro.

Elf912:

First you need to know what friendship really is....there's a difference between a friend and an acquaintance....and a potential or already lover
If a boy hangs around claiming friendship just so he can hit it.....he isn't better than other men out there....
Speak for yourself buddy....if that's how you are.... then you aren't trustworthy as an individual....
Some ladies make that mistake...yes I agree.....but there a difference between a friend and a lover....

My friend can never be my lover....and a lover present or ex can never be my friend....

I have learnt early in life to categorize people. aka...I can "zone" people well.

I'm a lady bro.

thowbie7ven:
The almighty Lord that has bestowed upon you "Wisdom, knowledge and Understanding" won't leave you for the enemies to kill...Thank you very much for this piece...Infact, I broke up with my Ex just because of this same issue...too many guys always calling them her friends...she'll always go out/hangout with them in their cars and what have you, always going to their houses to cook for them...uses them as her dps anytime they hangout etc...Initially, I was cool with it...but later, I started noticing she was getting carried away then I started calling her attention to it...Then she started saying I was Insecured, I don't trust her...blah blah...This was a girl that followed a Male friend to a hotel to spend a week with him(with another Female friend of hers)...I just had to break up with her...I cannot coman kill myself

Guy you dodge bullet ohhh.

If she was single, no wahala but in a relationship, that is BULLSHIT!

Nairaboi:

Ogbeni , It's all about the mindset. I have already zeroed my mind that the girls are good friends and we shouldn't be carried away with the sex shit. I even had to slap one of my female friends the day she asked to spend a night in my house as her rommie had travelled. I agreed, took her out, we cooked dinner, watched movies and went to bed, she taking the bed while I decided to lay on the floor. Only for me to notice a hand running over my shorts (boxers) around 1 am, and I cautioned her, but instead she was intensifying her effort to grab my banana. Na so I tear her one Def Jam o

lol

Prec1ous:


Guy you dodge bullet ohhh.

If she was single, no wahala but in a relationship, that is BULLSHIT!

Total Bullshit Bro!...I just dey look all these guys saying"There's no P in a girl having too many Male Friends"...Let the cards turn opposite them a see if they'll be cool with their so called girlfriends/fiancees hanging out with her male friend(s), sleeping over in their house(s), cooking for them etc...all in the name of being "friends"...I bet, 90% of guys can't even make do with that..same for the Females also...

thowbie7ven:
Total Bullshit Bro!...I just dey look all these guys saying"There's no P in a girl having too many Male Friends"...Let the cards turn opposite them a see if they'll be cool with their so called girlfriends/fiancees hanging out with her male friend(s), sleeping over in their house(s), cooking for them etc...all in the name of being "friends"...I bet, 90% of guys can't even make do with that..same for the Females also...

there is nothing i hate more than hypocrisy.

Imagine having issues with your girl and she is calling a male friend to seek comfort.

I dont blame all those beta males

I have made quality friendship with over 15 ladies and even if they sometimes whisper the idea of dating to me.. I just sweep it under the carpet and tell them politely to maintain their boundaries.. One can benefit immensely from constructive and genuine friendship.. My life does not revolve around the honey pot..

fineboynl:


But I was thinking maybe because majority of girls are dull. So she cannot get a good intelligent discussion around girls. The only thing most girls know is boob, butt, and boy's. I might be wrong though.

But I was thinking you Must have lived with a lot of dull women and girls to think majority of girls are dull. Takes a dullard to know a dullard.

Hahaha something lit.....very funny

Prec1ous:


there is nothing i hate more than hypocrisy.

Imagine having issues with your girl and she is calling a male friend to seek comfort.

I dont blame all those beta males

You can imagine...These girls even feel comfortable talking to their so called "Male Besties" than their supposedly "Boyfriends/Fiances" they're into relationship(s) with...and you wonder what kinda relationship is that in the first place!...As my girlfriend, you ought to be the Number One girl in my life, someone I could run to anyday, anytime...someone I could trust my thought(s) with...Every other female friend I have should be secondary to me...and should by no means even threaten my relationship...but the reverse is the case these days...Most Guys/Females prefer that One "Opposite Sex" bestie and some don't even mind forfeiting their main relationship(s) for these so called "besties"...Chai

thowbie7ven:
Forget the "hurt" part!...You want to tell me none of your Male friends has neither hit on you nor asked you out?

I behave like a man in real life,so my male friends see me as part of then and they even tell me their gfs secrets.

Pascalville:
I have lots of beautiful female friends and I have never seen their pants before.....this thread is funny because it all depends on each persons mindset.......my female friends gift me all the time and I gift them sometimes but no intimacy....they do visit me at home self....so as a guy I have got female friends what's bad for a female to have male friends

First question is, are you currently in a serious relationship?...if Yes, can you allow your girlfriend/fiancee sleep in a "Male bestie's" house for days, cook for him, go out on dates etc...afterall, they are just "friends"...can you allow al these in a serious relationship?...be sincere please!

Prec1ous:

Lagos and i do not eat fish

why don't you eat fish

sharpwriter:

why don't you eat fish

I wish I know.

Childhood phobia or I was born that way.

If there is fish in your food I will not come close talk less of eating it.

Please give me a break...theres nothing like true friendship between a man and a a woman, .....uotehor=SofiaAmrozia post=60016791]Me, I've just been reading comments and laughing.

I have a male best friend, not my only one but the one I trust the most. The guy is like my brother, he has a girlfriend and we're friends too.

Boys are way better as friends (even tho my absolute besties are girls), no drama, no jealousy, peace of mind.

To each his own sha.....[/quote]

Prec1ous:


I wish I know.

Childhood phobia or I was born that way.

If there is fish in your food I will not come close talk less of eating it.

lol...it's well with your soul.

sunshineG:
so in essence you are saying that genuine good guys just have to live with being unfortunate victims of something they are not responsible for

After that it is life right?

Sometimes, sort of how nice girls may become victims of guys who become 'bad' because they had bad experiences, it's a cycle. Not all, but they do tend to attract certain kinds of predatory woman who take advantage of them unfortunately.

Unfortunately life doesn't happen like that because most genuine nice guys after being collateral damage a couple of times become bad guys and the Bleep boys we see today

It does, it just becomes a cycle of genuinely 'good' people switching up and it occurs with both genders

I reference iaj( Jude a popular nairalander) post yesterday where he stated that ladies taking advantage of him as a nice guy turned him into a bad boy. He (iaj) further claimed that his bad boy attitude gets him better chicks and better deals with ladies

Sounds plausible. I think girls are attracted to 'bad guys' because of their perceived 'power traits' i.e. confidence, alpha male energy, status, charisma, being a challenge to attain etc which they find exciting and it's usually for more short term relationships whereas they may seek out the nicer guys (who may be perceived as less exciting) for something more long term/commited. (Guys do this too, how many times have you heard a guy that's spent most of his younger years indulging in all kinds of debauchery strictly wanting to settle down with a virgin lol)

*Not saying nice guys can't be confident or give off alpha male energy but they tend to come across as a lot more submissive which may be perceived as 'weak'. The nice ones who don't give off a submissive energy as much probably fare better and they exist but aren't as common

Now that is just a testimony of one guy, I am sure you have heard similar stories

Yeah it's pretty common, in fact I think it's the main reason people turn 'bad'

Yet, many ladies always claim rude boys are stupid and undesirable

Some girls secretly lust for it but will never admit it I guess

So I go back to my first question. What do ladies really want? I don't understand you lot at all

Both genders do this tbh, a lot of us are confused lol

Not all sha, some girls aren't necesarily into all that, they make up a smaller portion but they're definitely there lol...somewhere

makydebbie:
Amen bro.

Thanks Sis. Jst Be Helping me in prayers

makydebbie:
Amen bro.

Thanks Sis. Jst Be Helping me in prayers

Lorechino:
Thanks Sis. Jst Be Helping me in prayers Thanks Sis. Jst Be Helping me in prayers

No problem, bro.

imustsaymymindo:


Lol. Who would a guy have sex with? It's obviously a girl he knows either his babe or friend. Body no be stone o.

If a "nice guy" along the line starts loving you or becomes sexually attracted to you and you sense it, it does not mean the sole purpose of the friendship and his nice deeds were for sex. That is why it is neccessary to redefine relationships because it grows.

Everybody has a tendency to want sex, even a celibate person and it is not a bad thing. Unless you are looking for impotent men as friends. Or dont you ibkayee feel in the mood sometimes even towards a friend? If not, go to the doctor for a check up o.

Yeah I get, but I'm talking about guys who intentionally masquerade as something they aren't to get it. Not the scenario you just described

makydebbie:
I'm coming back to modify.
Oya I'm done cooking.

Op firstly, I'll tell you, you're not insecure in anyway. You're even smart not to over look it and see it as something normal.

Our nowadays ladies, will say girls do backstab, gossip and other shitty things. Truth is, most guys that are 'acting' nice are not so nice. Ladies! Wake up! They just want to fvck you and move on. There's nothing like guys are more caring than ladies. Of course they want your honeypot so why will they show their real colors? From friend, to bestie, to confidant, to friends with benefits without you knowing how you guys ended up there. Guys are smart, they'll take your excesses, they'll listen to your rant, they'll comfort you. My dear, it's all for the greater good. If you don't like female friends, then be on your own. It's not every boy on the street that is your male friend. Most of them will even see your actions as green light, but then, you're just nice to your 'friend'.

At the end, they just want to fvck you. Later we'll see thread that "all guys are the same". Everything starts from friendship, they'll start from there, when they're done destroying your pussy, you'll be wondering why nigga doesn't have your time again. You gave him the opportunity on a golden platter. Guys are very patient, they'll wait, take your rubbish, fvck, move on and tell their friends. I don talk my own.
Ladies, be wise. You no fit keep yam and goat together, something must happen.

I don create thread on it sef.
https://www.nairaland.com/4025368/friendship-opposite-sex#down

trash ! Trash!! Trashcan!!!

I have read through the comments, I was expecting a question from those comments but it never emerged.
A Girl can have many male friends but that doesn't mean something is going on under the skirt. Also, I contacted 10 girls for a short survey on this topic and also on my question. 7 of the girls claimed to have more male friends while the rest said they have more female friends. The outcome of my question's survey also showed that 8 of the girls (2 married) started their relationship with friendship while the remaining 2 claimed it was just a 'woo and come back for reply thing' and it was sealed till today.

My Question

Pls if we don't start an intending relationship with friendship, how better should it start?
I'll be expecting answers to this question. Thanks.
Cc : fineboynl
Prec1ous
Makydebbie
Kondomatic
Tosyne2much

makydebbie:
No problem, bro.

thanks am realy happy God Bless U.

Acidosis:


lmao


Many women here are blatantly ignorant. No woman in a serious relationship (I mean one that's leading to marriage in a year or less) can entertain that idea.


Majority of those clamouring for serious friendship (not co-worker or acquaintance) with males are really not in any serious relationship.

Exactly...

Zceesneh:
trash ! Trash!! Trashcan!!!

Don't forget to keep this comment in the trashcan as well.

wolextayo:
I have read through the comments, I was expecting a question from those comments but it never emerged.
A Girl can have many male friends but that doesn't mean something is going on under the skirt. Also, I contacted 10 girls for a short survey on this topic and also on my question. 7 of the girls claimed to have more male friends while the rest said they have more female friends. The outcome of my question's survey also showed that 8 of the girls (2 married) started their relationship with friendship while the remaining 2 claimed it was just a 'woo and come back for reply thing' and it was sealed till today.

My Question

Pls if we don't start an intending relationship with friendship, how better should it start?
I'll be expecting answers to this question. Thanks.
Cc : fineboynl
Prec1ous
Makydebbie
Kondomatic
Tosyne2much

My dear, you can start it with friendship, but then the friendship should be defined. If you want a relationship tell her, and for ladies that are not interested in relationships too should be straight forward with the guy and not lead him in only to "best friendzone" him against his wish. And you really have to be disciplined and have self control.

wolextayo:
I have read through the comments, I was expecting a question from those comments but it never emerged.
A Girl can have many male friends but that doesn't mean something is going on under the skirt. Also, I contacted 10 girls for a short survey on this topic and also on my question. 7 of the girls claimed to have more male friends while the rest said they have more female friends. The outcome of my question's survey also showed that 8 of the girls (2 married) started their relationship with friendship while the remaining 2 claimed it was just a 'woo and come back for reply thing' and it was sealed till today.

My Question

Pls if we don't start an intending relationship with friendship, how better should it start?
I'll be expecting answers to this question. Thanks.
Cc : fineboynl
Prec1ous
Makydebbie
Kondomatic
Tosyne2much

I was also going to do a survey too, so I might know if the trend has changed, so I appreciate your effort.

Did you notice something in your comment, two started with friendship and now are married, that is the catch.

We are not against having opposite sex as friend, what I am championing is that, it will always become more than friendship.

I am not talking the basic good morning and good night friendship, I am talking of a fully invested friendship between opposite sex where secrets are shared, moments are enjoyed together, emotion must grow.

All those girls saying they prefer guys are just parasite and my gross is in this fact, why will you be in a relationship and your bestie is off the opposite sex.

Your friends in the survey are single, I am cool with that because they may find love, but if you are engaged the other friend is a threat.

makydebbie:
Don't forget to keep this comment in the trashcan as well.

You have actually turned a lady after my heart here because you have been able to separate emotions from reality.

You should venture into business, you will excel.

Zceesneh:
trash ! Trash!! Trashcan!!!

Will you shut the Bleep up

Prec1ous:


You have actually turned a lady after my heart here because you have been able to separate emotions from reality.

You should venture into business, you will excel.

lol