Pls mature minds only.........
My girl friend met a moslem guy from North in NYSC camp.....and from good frnds, dey become more closer that d guy propose a love to her, d guy refused to redeploy because of the love he had for this gal.....the guy want a relationship that will lead to marriage, but my friend is confuse cos of d religion, though she truely love d guy and she can't let go..,..pls ur kind advice is needed, tnx.

Tell her to follow her heart.

Qxty:
Pls mature minds only.........
My girl friend met a moslem guy from North in NYSC camp.....and from good frnds, dey become more closer that d guy propose a love to her, d guy refused to redeploy because of the love he had for this gal.....the guy want a relationship that will lead to marriage, but my friend is confuse cos of d religion, though she truely love d guy and she can't let go..,..pls ur kind advice is needed, tnx.

How this my business? Once she is happy with that weting be my own? Mind you anything call love or marriage dont put mouth if you dont want them to put blame on you in future...

I won't even advise my enemy.
The marriage will be a lot easier if she marries her fellow Christian.

Tell ur girlfriend that divorce for a muslim is very easy. But if she is a Christian once she divorces she would stay single as anything else is considered adultery in the bible.

Also let her enjoy it wen the man packs home 3 more wives because maximum a muslim can marry is 4

This NYSC programme is a very wonderful one..It has a way of bringing people together (relationship wise)

This is my opinion

I cannot advise my enemy to marry a hausa Muslim because when the reality sets in she would know that love is not blind.

She better open her eyes well
Does she understand their language
Does she understand their culture
Does she understand their religion
Can she tolerate their lifestyle
Can she accept the things they do

She would be so uncomfortable during family reunion or gatherings and i don't know if hausa muslim men are actually bold enough to stand up to interfering in laws

She's d woman here..she's going to make so many sacrifices...is she ready for it?
Marriage in Africa isn't about the couples..it's about the families involved...

Let her think deeply before making this decision
Congrats to her in advance

Please she should go ahead with the marriage...

When she is not mad

Let her be rest assured that in the next 1-2 years she will get kishiya (second wife). Let her know this

Let her learn from other people's experience. There is money to make but lessons to learn.

Here are few things to consider:

1. Is she okay with sharing him with three other women in nearest possible future?

2. Has she bought her praying mat for doing Sallah five times in a day?

3. Is she ready to indulge some fetish and magic process?

4. Is she ready to lose contact with her family, parents and siblings.

5. Would she be relevant in his life in the nearest 10 years?

If she get the answer to these questions right, then she's good to go. Else..........

Nothing bad if he is from NE
but stay away from fulanis

MhizzAJ:
This NYSC programme is a very wonderful one..It has a way of bringing people together (relationship wise)

This is my opinion

I cannot advise my enemy to marry a hausa Muslim because when the reality sets in she would know that love is not blind.

She better open her eyes well
Does she understand their language
Does she understand their culture
Does she understand their religion
Can she tolerate their lifestyle
Can she accept the things they do

She would be so uncomfortable during family reunion or gatherings and i don't know if hausa muslim men are actually bold enough to stand up to interfering in laws

She's d woman here..she's going to make so many sacrifices...is she ready for it?
Marriage in Africa isn't about the couples..it's about the families involved...

Let her think deeply before making this decision
Congrats to her in advance

u have make a point, but she said d guy told her that if she accept to marry him, that he will take oath never to marry another woman, but for culture, we all learn from others that's y inter state marriage exist

laiye....impissiblo

PatriotTemidayo:
Let her learn from other people's experience. There is money to make but lessons to learn.

Here are few things to consider:

1. Is she okay with sharing him with three other women in nearest possible future?

2. Has she bought her praying mat for doing Sallah five times in a day?

3. Is she ready to indulge some fetish and magic process?

4. Is she ready to lose contact with her family, parents and siblings.

5. Would she be relevant in his life in the nearest 10 years?

If she get the answer to these questions right, then she's good to go. Else..........

according to her, d guy want to take oath never to add another wife, and will allow her to be a Christian except she love Islam and want to join

Danielmoore:
Nothing bad if he is from NE

but stay away from fulanis

....Kastina but not Fulani

She should not even try it because she will definitely regret it

Qxty:
u have make a point, but she said d guy told her that if she accept to marry him, that he will take oath never to marry another woman, but for culture, we all learn from others that's y inter state marriage exist

Wetin be oath...Forget about that oath thing...All that one is just to give the girl hope that he won't do otherwise ...Anything can happen in d course of that marriage.

There's actually no disadvantage in marrying from another tribe as long as she can tolerate and make d necessary adjustments.

looks like she's in love and confused at d same time but she has already made up her mind to marry the hausa muslim guy

Qxty:
according to her, d guy want to take oath never to add another wife, and will allow her to be a Christian except she love Islam and want to join

My brother, I grew up in Kano. Forget the issue of allowing her to keep her faith, it is not possible.

They will threaten her into Islam. And also, oath with an hausa muslim means nothing, and also, will he take oath not to divorce her. Cuz the moment he gives her "Seki uku", the oath becomes null and void.

Tell her to ask from people who have been there, once she goes in, no coming out, except as a divorcee, And a battered woman.

No!

if shes going to be happy in it.....she should go ahead now

No

CAPITAL NO

Qxty:
Pls mature minds only.........
My girl friend met a moslem guy from North in NYSC camp.....and from good frnds, dey become more closer that d guy propose a love to her, d guy refused to redeploy because of the love he had for this gal.....the guy want a relationship that will lead to marriage, but my friend is confuse cos of d religion, though she truely love d guy and she can't let go..,..pls ur kind advice is needed, tnx.

CAPITAL NO

Until you come out to tell us you are the one, before you will get better advice

If that's what she wants, she should follow her heart.