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Peachess:
I'm still very young and ain't thinking of marriage anytime soon. As young as I am, I am not dumb enough to take advice from a nitwit like you. Age is not really maturity cos you reason like a baby.
I pity the lady that'll date a fool like you.

MyNewJackeT:
may you never think of marriage again.
Amen

Peachess:
Old fool, receive sense in Jesus name.
Amen

Yellowdayzee:
So when the sex was taking place I did not partake and also want it?

It's this kind of attitude that creates such pressure to marry ... So if I'm not married I should kill myself

There's more to life than just waiting around for marriage... creating companionships, traveling, building my career, spending time with my family and just self discovery

So yes if I wish to have sex before marriage... I will ...and trust me I will enjoy it...and when I am meant to marry I will but won't rush at the fear of being called a sex 'object'

MyNewJackeT:
for your information I'm not even up to 21 I'm still in my University, believe you're the old one here considering your stands against marriage, it shows you're a leftover, a used and dumped rag.

that's why you said you're aren't thinking of marriage and Iaccepted with you that may you never find marriage in your path again. five years from now you'll remember this message and you'll come to nairaland to beg me to edit this post to remove the curse but it will be too late.

have fun with your youth until Shiloh comes

MasViews:
Mst people that says this are 35-40 years old

Sirgay:
This is the bitter truth, we know you need someone to service your engine which is the responsibility of your partner, with no partner you will be an object men cheat with and Bleep boys uses. Single girls while slaying in their youth yes should know the ultimate goal is marriage, prepare yourself for a man if not you will end up a laughing stock and a lady men meet for sex. Same goes to single mothers out there, little thing they've file for divorce, thinking it's freedom, yes it is but it is to be use by men. No mature lady or single mother will stay celibate for 2years, you must sleep with someone, being just a sex object.

MyNewJackeT:
peachess and rokia2

the longer you wait the more chances of you getting barren, the more your eggs refuse to be fertilized even though you sleep with an eighteen years old boy and the more likely you won't leave any children in this world to carry on after you. Listen to what the OP says.

If you don't have money like white people to freeze your eggs until your ready to get pregnant then the time is now, it's better to give your youth to your husband than to search for a man that will take care of you when you're old. cause that's bad market.

if you're young you should know that some older women cry and beg God just to become young again so they can live a better life,

Dogs and Cats wont drive you to the hospital to go see a doctor when you're old, it's your children that can do this things.

RaggedyAnn:
Op, haven't you heard of men that get frustrated in marriage by the fact that their wives never want sex? Libidos vary; and there are some people than can carry on sexless for five years, easy. (And after 5yrs, you begin to think:what's the point). When the Good Book says some men are born eunuchs, it isn't joking. Don't assume everyone itches the same way you do. Some a little more, and some far less. So it isn't a give that women who refuse to marry will still have regular sex.

And if they do, and they do it with single and appropriately aged men/women, then that shouldn't be anyone else's bother. Aren't there enough things going on in your life, that you would worry about the sex life of a stranger or your unmarried cousin/aunt/sister/friend?

MyNewJackeT:
for your information I'm not even up to 21 I'm still in my University, believe you're the old one here considering your stands against marriage, it shows you're a leftover, a used and dumped rag.

that's why you said you're aren't thinking of marriage and Iaccepted with you that may you never find marriage in your path again. five years from now you'll remember this message and you'll come to nairaland to beg me to edit this post to remove the curse but it will be too late.


have fun with your youth until Shiloh comes

Tahra:
Are you God??Why curse someone you don't know because she has a different opinion?This is not cool.

Tahra:
You've never heard of adoption?

Tahra:
Are you God??Why curse someone you don't know because she has a different opinion?This is not cool.

MyNewJackeT:
good luck taking care of someone else's kid who doesn't look like you and good luck with your in-laws who'll be pressuring your husband to marry another woman and have a real grandchildren secondly before you can adopt you need two people to do so, not one single female and you'll be tested.

supersystemsnig:
Ann you spoke well in both comments you posted on this thread, your points can't be argued against. But let's re-visit the core, and which is many women ending up as sex objects if they stay unmarried into a period. I think it's true, heart-rendering as it maybe......It's just the truth...Notching it between 21-27 is one advice i always give to females that desire marriage cause they'll have the younger ones to compete after this age, and if they don't have exceptional qualities like intelligence and so on, the competition forces many of such ladies into this place...


Once 27 Hits to me, at least a working relationship should be in the pipelines...Wouldn't you agree ma?

RaggedyAnn:
I think that, regarding this issue, there are three kinds of people: 1) people who do things because it's the proper thing to do. 2) people who do things because it's the proper thing for them, and 3) people who coast by.

People who do things because it's the proper thing to do will marry as expected (by biology, society, parents, friends, et al): before 27/28. They'll make the situation (they're in) work because the timing is crucial. Love doesn't always come before 28, but people who want to get it right like this by all means will settle for the loveliest person from the bunch.

People who do things because it's the proper thing for them aren't so influenced by external factors. They don't cut themselves to the expectations of others. They can marry or not marry. They can marry at 18 or 30 or 45. As long as it works for them. Of course, trade-offs are necessary. A woman nearing forty, for instance, has to decide if she wants to be in a loveless marriage just so she can have a baby in wedlock; or if it's better to become a single mother; or if she would give up on having children all together.

People who coast by are passive. They don't make active choices in their lives, and after a decade or so they find themselves uncommitted. Then they begin to make excuses and justifications for themselves, as if they had ended up there by design. But they, typically, won't escape the emptiness if they weren't genuinely cut out for the path.


I am definitely not a person who does something because it's the right thing to do (in this circumstance), so I cannot say I agree with you that a person ought to have sorted out their issue before 27. But I understand where you are coming from. Absolutely.

MyNewJackeT:
good luck taking care of someone else's kid who doesn't look like you [/b]and good luck with your in-laws who'll be pressuring your husband to marry another woman and have a real grandchildren[b] secondly before you can adopt you need two married couple to do so, not one single female and you'll be tested.

MyNewJackeT:
peachess and rokia2
the longer you wait the more chances of you getting barren, the more your eggs refuse to be fertilized even though you sleep with an eighteen years old boy and the more likely you won't leave any children in this world to carry on after you. Listen to what the OP says.
If you don't have money like white people to freeze your eggs until your ready to get pregnant then the time is now, it's better to give your youth to your husband than to search for a man that will take care of you when you're old. cause that's bad market.
if you're young you should know that some older women cry and beg God just to become young again so they can live a better life,
Dogs and Cats wont drive you to the hospital to go see a doctor when you're old, it's your children that can do this things.

MyNewJackeT:
good luck taking care of someone else's kid who doesn't look like you and good luck with your in-laws who'll be pressuring your husband to marry another woman and have a real grandchildren secondly before you can adopt you need two married couple to do so, not one single female and you'll be tested.

selflessmaya:
dude, do u support the right for women to abort unwanted pregnancies? i really hope u do with all this nonsense u've spewed, the main argument by nigerians against abortion is "u could give it up for adoption" yet i notice the ones who say that will NEVER ever care to adopt those kids and love them as their own. a child doesnt have to look like u for u to take care of it. u look stupid trying to shame a person for considering adoption a viable form having a child.
secondly, rules in nigeria for adoption states that an unwed lady/man with a job that sustains, in sound health & over 25 yrs old can adopt, they can only adopt their own gender, that is the only advantage married couples have, they can adopt both m/f but a single man must adopt a lil boy and a single woman must adopt a lil girl. educate yourself on topics before u talk.



and um, who told u single ppl who dont want to get married cant just get a sperm donor and have a baby and raised it as single parents, do u know how easy it is to find sperm? many ppl do it all the time, so why are u making it seem marriage is the only womb opener? the ppl that might have a hard time are guys who dont want marriage but want kids, it's hard to find/afford a surrogate but women will be just fine.

dogs and cats wont drive u to the hospital, ppl should not be having kids to pass on responsibility of old age to them, if u can afford to have kids, u should be able to afford your retirement and your kids can chip in if they want. many old ppl have kids who are all abroad, their kids dont physically take care of them, they might provide the funds but they're not there to carry them around, they live with dogs and cats too, not their kids. so, anyone can grow old without kids and be just fine with dogs and cats, as long as they have made plans for retirement.

MyNewJackeT:
first of all men are wiser now, it's not easy to find men willing to donate sperm, donating sperm is on the decline not to talk of in Nigeria, were they give you malt in place of donating blood, in short anyone in Nigeria who donated blood is stupid.

show me one SPERM BANK in Nigeria.

secondly no one can grow old without kids and be fine I know that one so I won't argue on what you and I know..

lastly tell me a place where you can adopt a kid without being married in Nigeria forget about your Laws, I don't know where you got it from if you tell me I will call someone in Lagos to go and find out. direct me and I will send someone to find out.

MyNewJackeT:
first of all men are wiser now, it's not easy to find men willing to donate sperm, donating sperm is on the decline not to talk of in Nigeria, were they give you malt in place of donating blood, in short anyone in Nigeria who donated blood is stupid.

show me one SPERM BANK in Nigeria.

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supersystemsnig:
Not me, the obvious....when we look out our windows...I feel for them...I se many of them around my area...The pain in their faces when i look at them is just too much to bear

RaggedyAnn:
. I know; sad people everywhere. If we cannot directly affect them to change their plight, let's just say a prayer on their behalf and quit basking in schadenfreude.

Humanistme:
did you really say people who donate blood to help victims are stupid? just to win an argument wow!

hope your blood group is not rare and pray not to find your self in such a situation.

They are not stupid. It is an act of charity.
if I ask you now you wil say you are a Christian.

Humanistme:
Mr man my aunt is 45 years old she is a single civil servant. she adopted her daughter when she was 2years old legally from a motherless babies home. I witnessed this. we adviced her agai nt adopting a newborn because of her physical challenges if not she would have opted for a baby.

real life story.

You can adopt as a single person as long as you are financially bouyant.

http://adopt.com/nigeria/

MyNewJackeT:
first of all men are wiser now, it's not easy to find men willing to donate sperm, donating sperm is on the decline not to talk of in Nigeria, were they give you malt in place of donating blood, in short anyone in Nigeria who donated blood is stupid.
show me one SPERM BANK in Nigeria.
secondly no one can grow old without kids and be fine I know that one so I won't argue on what you and I know..
lastly tell me a place where you can adopt a kid without being married in Nigeria forget about your Laws, I don't know where you got it from if you tell me I will call someone in Lagos to go and find out. direct me and I will send someone to find out.