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Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by FalseProphet1(m): 7:27am On Dec 22, 2021
Hello folks, as the topic implies, have you been been with someone for months, and even years and ended up going your separate ways? What went wrong?

Kindly share with us.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Kzeeboi2015(m): 7:28am On Dec 22, 2021
I sit down to read comments

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by chatinent(m): 7:30am On Dec 22, 2021
No.


All I want are good energies.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by FalseProphet1(m): 7:33am On Dec 22, 2021
chatinent:
No.


All I want are good energies.
So you've never dated before?

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by chatinent(m): 7:36am On Dec 22, 2021
FalseProphet1:

So you've never dated before?

The heading said “engaged and didn't later marry” so I said no.


Dated? Why not?
Me wey get pensioners wey I dey pay for my dating school.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by MEGA4BILLION(m): 7:42am On Dec 22, 2021
broken engagement is better than a broken marriage

larryking540:

abeg go sit down ,this is how u date without a purpose and scream broken marriage is better than broken engagement ,when u have not invested in a relationship u can easily say that shite

Oga read your comment again and listen to yourself then tell yourself "I won't post senseless comments come 2022"


NGArmyTerrorist:
consoling words 101.

Nothing like consoling words, it is an advice to people like you

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Guyman02: 7:42am On Dec 22, 2021
Yes, we dated for 4 years as students, proposed to her after my NYSC when I secured a job, met her family, discussed my intention and they felt we are not on the same level (full of themselves), later they even claimed that they went to investigate my family in our village and they were told that mental illness runs in our lineage.
They convinced her to abandon our marriage plans which she did instead of fighting for us, I asked her to refund part of the bulk money I gave to her for the marriage preparation which she later did because I wanted a proper closure to the relationship, felt really humiliated, locked myself inside and cried, washed my face and told myself it was time to move on.

Deleted her contact from my phone, never scooped around her social media handles, put aside all our pictures together under a locker and didn't worry myself about her anymore.

Started another relationship with a lady I was close to as friends who was very passionate about me but I didn't look at her because I was faithful to my ex.

Suddenly from the blues, my ex elder sister called me after some months that she has been erratic, cursing everyone for making her to abandon the love of her life and that the family has agreed to our plans for marriage.

Later she called me asking for forgiveness and that it was an Uncle of mine who told her family that mental illness runs in our family because he felt I was marrying into a prominent family and to a girl who works in a big establishment while his own children are scattered.

I simply told her I have moved on and wasn't gonna look back and had already started marriage plans with the lady I mentioned earlier and I even invited her to the superlative wedding we were planning in an exquisite location then.
I used the opportunity to tell her that I am wiser now as I go for only ladies who stand by their men because I am afraid if I show any signs of madness (as my uncle told her family) instead of taking me to a psychiatrist hospital, she will rather take me to a market square so that the madness will become permanent.

Today we are both married to different people and talk freely on general topics anytime she calls me, but I totally avoid making any reference to our 4 years failed relationship to avoid Okafors Law.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Kriss216: 7:52am On Dec 22, 2021
Littered and bittered Nairaland feminists, Oya breakfast is ready.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Kingsasian(m): 7:54am On Dec 22, 2021
Yes, I had to call off the engagement due to bad character and constant malice, she was very very domineering.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by MufasaLion(m): 7:56am On Dec 22, 2021
kiss

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Nobody: 8:01am On Dec 22, 2021
Kingsasian:
Yes, I had to call off the engagement due to bad character and constant malice, she was very very domineering.
God saved you from karashika. Be thankful

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Magnoliaa(m): 8:03am On Dec 22, 2021
I have. Plenty of times.

Reasons:
- Money
- Attitude
- Ideological differences
- Religious beliefs
- Sexual Incompatibility

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by nerdfrost(m): 8:13am On Dec 22, 2021
undecided I've never really fancied marriage so the question is not for me......meanwhile check my signature

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by BigDawsNet: 8:16am On Dec 22, 2021
Almost..
I thought I can handle a feminist...

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by helinues: 8:18am On Dec 22, 2021
Nah.

Always been careful about final choice
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Haakeem(m): 8:22am On Dec 22, 2021
I've promised nt to lie today if nt i would have blown one kind of lie that would have attracted siieun to this thread....

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by phemmyfour: 8:37am On Dec 22, 2021
FalseProphet1:
Hello folks, as the topic implies, have you been been with someone for months, and even years and ended up going your separate ways? What went wrong?

Kindly share with us.

Cc Seun
Lalasticlala
Mynd44
Dominique
She wanted marriage so fast and I wasn't ready

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Moeman: 8:48am On Dec 22, 2021
here to read comments

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by eddykaka(m): 8:52am On Dec 22, 2021
Guyman02:
Yes, we dated for 4 years as students, proposed to her after my NYSC when I secured a job, met her family and they felt we are not on the same level, they even claimed that they went to investigate my family in our village and they were told that mental illness runs in our lineage.
They convinced her to abandon our marriage plans which she did instead of fighting for us, I asked her to refund part of the bulk money I gave to her for the marriage preparation which she later did because I wanted a proper closure to the relationship, felt really humiliated, locked myself inside and cried, washed my face and told myself it was time to move on.

Deleted her contact from my phone, never scooped around her social media handles, put aside all our pictures together under a locker and didn't worry myself about her anymore.

Started another relationship with a lady I was close to as friends who was very passionate about me but I didn't look at her because I was faithful to my ex.

Suddenly from the blues, my ex elder sister called me after some months that she has been erratic, cursing everyone for making her to abandon the love of her life and that the family has agreed to our plans for marriage.

Later she called me asking for forgiveness and that it was an Uncle of mine who told her family that mental illness runs in our family because he felt I was marrying into a prominent family and to a girl who works in a big establishment while his own children are scattered.

I simply told her I have moved on and wasn't gonna look back and had already started marriage plans with the lady I mentioned earlier and I even invited her to the superlative wedding we were planning in an exquisite location then.
I used the opportunity to tell her that I am wiser now as I go for only ladies who stand by their men because I am afraid if I show any signs of madness (as my uncle told her family) instead of taking me to a psychiatrist hospital, she will rather take me to a market square so that the madness will become permanent.

Today we are both married to different people and talk freely on general topics anytime she calls me, but I totally avoid making any reference to our 4 years failed relationship to avoid Okafors Law.
that's really sad and at the same time sweet. I'm really happy you got your shit together and moved on. I don't think she completely did love you cuz she would have fought for you no matter what. That's true love and it's covers e every of our weakness. But I'm glad you got married to someone who fancied you.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Aguilar(m): 9:37am On Dec 22, 2021
Magnoliaa:
I have. Plenty of times.

Reasons:
- Money
- Attitude
- Ideological differences
- Religious beliefs
- Sexual Incompatibility
holy s**t. Plenty of times!!!! You are unbelievable. Define your type?

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Michelle55: 10:07am On Dec 22, 2021
Here to read comments as usual..
We no dey motivate people for this space rara!!
smiley

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by oke2018(f): 10:10am On Dec 22, 2021
Yes
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by BlaqJosh: 10:15am On Dec 22, 2021
I almost got engaged around last year July -

my babe back then - I went to see a friend as I came back babe served me beta food that evening after eating na I go dey watch TV babe just came unexpectedly begin dey profess her undying love she had for me with ring no be small thing she even knelt down to me telling me sweet things a guy surpose dey tell his babe,

Damn!! I almost fall for her proposal but local man don't want to enter marriage at the moment, she's a jealous lover she fit kii person, herself or me if she suspect I dey cheat and no be her surpose propose. Well it's over now

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Quality20(m): 10:18am On Dec 22, 2021
nerdfrost:
undecided I've never really fancied marriage so the question is not for me......meanwhile check my signature
hope that with this ur lack of fancy for marriage, you are not indulging in the opening of girl's derierre illicitly sha?

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Whazar(m): 10:25am On Dec 22, 2021
I’m only engaged to the money

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by younglleo: 10:30am On Dec 22, 2021
BigDawsNet:
Almost..
I thought I can handle a feminist...

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by BigDawsNet: 10:41am On Dec 22, 2021
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He shock you? embarassed
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Zendinho(m): 10:43am On Dec 22, 2021
YES
To all those that voted APC in 2015:
It was love at first sight.

By 2019...they were all promised next level in the relationship: ENGAGEMENTS.


Now, you want to divorce from your darling BUBU...due to bad economy, insecurities, inflation, hunger, political assassination, national debt profile, religious intolerance, political rascality from the cabal, marginalization, victimisation, nepotism, bigotry, terrorism, banditry etc...

Don't worry we all still have two good more years of this engagements.

Mention one problem that BUBU have not cause in this corntree. cheesy

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Tranquillity360: 10:44am On Dec 22, 2021
A man without girlfriend is happy.





If not for kids man no suppose put himself in trouble in the name of marrying vagina people.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by juman(m): 10:58am On Dec 22, 2021
The thread would be interesting. I guess.
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by FalseProphet1(m): 11:09am On Dec 22, 2021
chatinent:


The heading said “engaged and didn't later marry” so I said no.


Dated? Why not?
Me wey get pensioners wey I dey pay for my dating school.
Why would you date someone you can't marry?

I thought dating is the stepping stone to engagement, then marriage...No?

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