the travails of the girl child,but we can't all stop drinking water cos fishes poop in it.. boys go through similar or worse circumstances...self esteem,poverty,naivety,societal ills, peer pressure,ignorance and many others contribute to these things you mentioned...everybody should play their part in helping to eliminate the causative factors then o.p will be interested in having a girl child,if she meant that literally

Please help me to beg the woman not to deny me of my destined wife o

Daeylar:


Programmed by who? Spirits? And instead of fixing the problem, he decides to eliminate female children. Why not find a way to build a world whereby female children don't have to "take the back seat mentally and ONLY use her "talents" to get what she wants"
Oh wait I forgot. It's easier to eliminate female children. That's true.

Can the problem be fixed?
Are our fellow women ready to add value to society? Are they ready to go into mentally stimulating jobs, politics and social works? Are they ready to stop "slaying"?

Haven't you heard that the higher you go, the fewer the women. . . .whose fault is that? The men I suppose. And whose gonna fix it? A man right?

I am even afraid right now...chai nsogbu dikwa o..my girl child..chukwu ajuuuuu

My dear, nobody has been programmed anything.

That was the 70s and 80s. Now women are achieving... And our standards have risen. We have more female achievers and role models and entrepreneurs now than back in the day when everybody thought the woman's office was the kitchen.

If and when anyone is going to defend a gender based topic, kindly defend with facts and statistics.
In this generation, any girl that chooses to take a back seat, is cos she wants to. Not society programming her. Not parents programming her, nor the FG.

In the era of female professionals, who no wan work to become something, na personal choice.
Thank u.

Yonce:



I don't think the topic is misogynistic. The writer mainly expresses concern on how the girl child has been programmed to take the back seat mentally and ONLY use her "talents" to get what she wants.

For pastors, some don't even practice what they preach, they are just sheep in wolves clothings, so they may not instill much on their children. They also spent most time for people than their family. They may be judgemental so the kids may live pretentious life.
My judgement though

Parenting is a huge task that need only God's grace. Another important things if u want good girls try and be good daughters and sons to your parents. u can't give ur parents headache and expect angelic children
The world follows due principles what goes around comes around.
Also at a young age, limit ur children to media u can do so. it may be hard. I got my ist phone from my parent in my 100level. In as much as who go spoil go spoil what part have u done as parents,

Another important part is train them with good principles like; self esteem, self confident, and not been easily influenced by peer pressure it pays in these moments. But u can't give what u don't have, u need to work on urself to be a better person for ur kids.

Pls create a good relationship with them and their creator not just going to church, help them build it.
Allow them to make their mistakes and learn from it but always encourage them to see beyond their mistakes.
Pls the most vital time for effective parenting is at their youth not when they have over grown.

Pray! Pray!Pray! don't cease praying for them cos it all boils down to God.

I rest my case.....

What a load of rubbish.

One might equally say the only future of a boy child 8s thuggery or fraud.

It's sad that the internet which was supposed to be a beacon of knowledge has become a tool for spreading the word of eejits

Even worse that Seun, a humanitarian and feminist, has allowed his forum to be run by misogynistic semi illiterates in cahoots with the army of Internet fraudsters who have made this place a home

Lawlahdey:
Deep. You know what i think about this? The truth is the average female don't have the strength or ability required for day-to-day jobs. The average female is work-lazy. She wants things to come to her on a platter of gold and in a country like Nigeria, that's quite impossible. So, she resorts to selling her body because that's the only way to have it easy.

You are gathering ant-infested firewood.
Be ready for the assault.

Daeylar:
So we now move misogynistic topics to FP, nice

please all those who don't want a girl child
remember to have you kids by a man like you, because another person's female child shouldn't carry your kids. F**k men like you, Get the egg and the womb from men like you and when you have your kids through these men, they better grow up to be homosexuals.
Peace.

Girl child this, girl child that, as if both genders are not capable of turning out badly.


Please let him know.

the article was written by a lady

NA SLAYING COS AM

IForgotMyLoginD:
My dear, nobody has been programmed anything.

That was the 70s and 80s. Now women are achieving... And our standards have risen. We have more female achievers and role models and entrepreneurs now than back in the day when everybody thought the woman's office was the kitchen.

If and when anyone is going to defend a gender based topic, kindly defend with facts and statistics.
In this generation, any girl that chooses to take a back seat, is cos she wants to. Not society programming her. Not parents programming her, nor the FG.

In the era of female professionals, who no wan work to become something, na personal choice.
Thank u.

Fewer women are achieving these days. . . . Women have perfected the act of earning money in exchange for their bedroom talents.
That's why promiscuity is on the rise, that's why Baby Mamas have sudden relevance. The girl child who spent years in the university, amassed knowledge in the postgraduate level and is trying to better herself will not hit nairaland FP. Davido's Baby mama posts a racy pic and bam! She's the latest hot topic. . . . 2face wife slays in a new dress and bloggers take to their keyboards and write on it. She trends.

The teenage girl with access to the internet notices this trend and before you know it, education and goals takes the back seat. . . All she thinks about is slaying for the gram, finding a rich guy to cling to which is basically the fastest way to a better life.

Trust me ma'am, society has messed with the girl child. The writer is reluctant to have a daughter not because girls are bad but because training them to be different from the average female in this 21st century takes a lot of work, you have to constantly worry if she's hanging out with the right crowd, her social media accounts, and all the dìcks flying her way.
At least with a male, all you have to worry about is one dìck.

Sorry for the epistle.

monex:


the article was written by a lady

Thanks didn't know.,
still applies to the men who share this point of view, as for her, she should start by taking out herself so we can know she is serious. After all, she is a female child.
And if she doesn't, she better raise her sons to be homosexuals.

queenfav:
It depends on her upbringing o. Most of us would rather hustle like a man (Monday to sunday) at our diverse careers and businesses, than allow one man use money to be controlling your life .There are still a lot of ladies who value their self worth enough to hustle with all their clothes on. You just need to raise your girl child to love herself, be strong, very assertive, hardworking and independent.

The writer can't give what she doesn't have, she doesn't have any of those qualities, how do you want her to raise a child with those qualities.

My dear,we still have many good girls out there. The boy child nko? We have many of them who are robbbers,fraudsters,cultists etc but will that be a reason not ti desire to have a Son? NO! Train your child well and start early too. Make sure that you put an eagle eye on them during their formative years. Be a good example to them. Talk to them about SEX education. Try to make them comfortable around you to be able to open up to you. Constantly advise them. I dont believe that because of a few bad eggs, you throw them all out. No! Infact, anyone who doesn't have a girl child should cry cos they have been known to take care of their parents more. Be careful what you wish for or else you may not get a girl child eventually afterall it's still the boy child that spoils them.

SlimHan:
The peer pressure is really eating deep into the average girl's mind neither is the environmental effect doing her any good.

The truth is the average girl believe in "survival of the fittest, the pressure of meeting up with the world's standard" afterall everyone is doing it.

Then the thought of "Hmm, solape my junior back in secondary school now ride a Corrolla? I must ride LR3 too.

Cycle of friendship is also a major factor

@lawlahdey, hope I'm permitted to use the word "average girl?

You nailed it ,dear.

Lol @ epistle. It's fine.

I have teenage sisters, and I don't worry about them. You know why? Cos of the values we grew up with.
I'm a part of the showbiz industry ,and my parents don't worry about me. You know why? Cos they know the girl child they birthed.

It's never about society. It used to be, but not anymore. Who wan spoil, go spoil. There's been a rise also on Yahoo plus and boys drinking to death, making illegal money and joining kidnap rings....

But like I said, there's also been a rise of young people bettering themselves and breaking boundaries. That the media don't celebrate them don't mean they don't exist.

I'm speaking from experience. The girl child that is taught values will never lose those values, except she wan spoil.

Yonce:



Fewer women are achieving these days. . . . Women have perfected the act of earning money in exchange for their bedroom talents.
That's why promiscuity is on the rise, that's why Baby Mamas have sudden relevance. The girl child who spent years in the university, amassed knowledge in the postgraduate level and is trying to better herself will not hit nairaland FP. Davido's Baby mama posts a racy pic and bam! She's the latest hot topic. . . . 2face wife slays in a new dress and bloggers take to their keyboards and write on it. She trends.

The teenage girl with access to the internet notices this trend and before you know it, education and goals takes the back seat. . . All she thinks about is slaying for the gram, finding a rich guy to cling to which is basically the fastest way to a better life.

Trust me ma'am, society has messed with the girl child. The writer is reluctant to have a daughter not because girls are bad but because training them to be different from the average female in this 21st century takes a lot of work, you have to constantly worry if she's hanging out with the right crowd, her social media accounts, and all the dìcks flying her way.
At least with a male, all you have to worry about is one dìck.

Sorry for the epistle.

ElsonMorali:
I fault your logic.

A child's mind is always blank at birth and gradually filled by the impressions s/he forms or is formed for them.

Garbage in, garbage out.

You've just declared yourself a failure and not worthy to raise a child, whether boy or girl.

guy face d truth he said it right now stop defending rubbish, how many guys do u see unclad, how many guys do u see shooting nude video wit one girl, d girl child is made to go thru slot dat for dem to achieve anythin in d society dey have to give up their dignity hence d actress in nollywood are far richer Dan d average actor.

go to parties n see how d girls who come as usher are made to date those gud for nothing guys n how many touch dem anyhow n dey become pregnant n society give dm names.

face d fact n only pray for God to give u a gud girl child dat will not follow d society

IForgotMyLoginD:
Lol @ epistle. It's fine.

I have teenage sisters, and I don't worry about them. You know why? Cos of the values we grew up with.
I'm a part of the showbiz industry ,and my parents don't worry about me. You know why? Cos they know the girl child they birthed.

[bIt's never about society. It used to be, but not anymore.[/b] Who wan spoil, go spoil. There's been a rise also on Yahoo plus and boys drinking to death, making illegal money and joining kidnap rings....

But like I said, there's also been a rise of young people bettering themselves and breaking boundaries. That the media don't celebrate them don't mean they don't exist.

I'm speaking from experience. The girl child that is taught values will never lose those values, except she wan spoil.

Society is a very funny word ya know.
It's a fancy way of saying "me and you" and until we (society aka me and you) learn to appreciate and glorify hardworking ladies who legitimately work for their money and shun those who have less than glamorous ways of getting theirs, we will unknowingly keep encouraging unsuspecting young girls to abandon whatever values they were taught all for the sake of fame and easy money.

"Just find a rich maga. . . .and you're made baby girl" That is what society has reduced the girl child to.

@Bolded I know such people exist, I see them everyday. But the media needs to show them to the public, show our young girls ideal role models. . . It's gonna go a long way in integrating the girl child into the society as more than just a receptacle for the male organ and a baby machine.

IFNOTGOD:


guy face d truth he said it right now stop defending rubbish, how many guys do u see unclad, how many guys do u see shooting nude video wit one girl, d girl child is made to go thru slot dat for dem to achieve anythin in d society dey have to give up their dignity hence d actress in nollywood are far richer Dan d average actor.

go to parties n see how d girls who come as usher are made to date those gud for nothing guys n how many touch dem anyhow n dey become pregnant n society give dm names.

face d fact n only pray for God to give u a gud girl child dat will not follow d society

The guys are not going naked
...but who are the people kidnapping, robbing, killing for rituals, assassination, yahoo yahoo? Have you been on FP today/week? Did you see all the rape carried out by boys? Should we stop having sons too?

You are a guy, why don't you do any of the above things?

Whatever holds you back from doing so many evil things, guys are doing...should be encouraged. That way, kids can be brought up right, both male and female.

ElsonMorali:
I fault your logic.

A child's mind is always blank at birth and gradually filled by the impressions s/he forms or is formed for them.

Garbage in, garbage out.

You've just declared yourself a failure and not worthy to raise a child, whether boy or girl.

Please, be sincere. What about peer pressure as she grows up?

ElsonMorali:
I fault your logic.

A child's mind is always blank at birth and gradually filled by the impressions s/he forms or is formed for them.

Garbage in, garbage out.

You've just declared yourself a failure and not worthy to raise a child, whether boy or girl.

I swear this is the most stupidest and senseless piss of write up I have ever read,



in the nearest future what we will be seeing is a man, v woman.

The reasons he gave are not genuine enough not to have a girl child. A girl child has every right just as a male child. Besides, no human, when coming into the world,has the power to chose his/her gender. We all come into the world to find ourselves as males and females. A girl child is a human created in the image of God. She is not a lesser being. She deserves quality life and every good in life. The issues the writers raised are based on individual interest and can never be generalised. A girl child remains one of the beautiful things God bless humanity with.

The writer's postulations lack merit,as they're only based on emotional thoughts and not logic.

Daeylar:


Programmed by who? Spirits? And instead of fixing the problem, he decides to eliminate female children. Why not find a way to build a world whereby female children don't have to "take the back seat mentally and ONLY use her "talents" to get what she wants"
Oh wait I forgot. It's easier to eliminate female children. That's true.

You're just blowing the thing out of proportion

Feminist?

Reminds me of the other thread where a woman was seeking for an advice as to how she can handle her 7yrs old daughter who likes to play a Rough play with other children

Daeylar:
So we now move misogynistic topics to FP, nice



Girl child this, girl child that, as if both genders are not capable of turning out badly.


Please let him know.

the hole thing is surprising me Now self, all the time is all about the girl child, like as if the rest are not important too.

Shocking truth.

The girl child is a time bomb waiting to explode in the most undesirable ways one can ever imagine.

It's a pity.

stilldoingokay:



the hole thing is surprising me Now self, all the time is all about the girl child, like as if the rest are not important too.

So much pressure on the girl child, so much stress,
It's pathetic really, this shouldn't be on FP.

Show us your daughters let's confirm that you're not spouting theories

ElsonMorali:
I fault your logic.

A child's mind is always blank at birth and gradually filled by the impressions s/he forms or is formed for them.

Garbage in, garbage out.

You've just declared yourself a failure and not worthy to raise a child, whether boy or girl.

God bless you for telling the truth.

I have always wondered why there are not more than 3 female Nigerian musicians (amongst all the popular ones) who can play an instrument.

Its because its so time consuming and requires so much discipline so they would rather just sing.

Try and compare it with the West, there you find young girls of 21 who have been practicing guitar for hours everyday for 10yrs

Lawlahdey:
Deep. You know what i think about this? The truth is the average female don't have the strength or ability required for day-to-day jobs. The average female is work-lazy. She wants things to come to her on a platter of gold and in a country like Nigeria, that's quite impossible. So, she resorts to selling her body because that's the only way to have it easy.

Daeylar:


So much pressure on the girl child, so much stress,
It's pathetic really, this shouldn't be on FP.

if am to advocate for anything in this world, it will be, don't claim victim, don't let people thought bring down,


pressure or not, is when you allow them.

Daeylar:


Programmed by who? Spirits? And instead of fixing the problem, he decides to eliminate female children. Why not find a way to build a world whereby female children don't have to "take the back seat mentally and ONLY use her "talents" to get what she wants"
Oh wait I forgot. It's easier to eliminate female children. That's true.

Essentially he is building one already, we are in a thought provoking session, and everybody contributing in one way or another is bringing a solution to this societal menace.
Raising a girl child in this Facebook days requires 200% devotion.