Our ideologies really need to change

Yonce:



I don't think the topic is misogynistic. The writer mainly expresses concern on how the girl child has been programmed to take the back seat mentally and ONLY use her "talents" to get what she wants.

You are very correct. A lot of shallow mindedness on this forum, judging from the way people are attacking the Op. Her message is clear, her concern is understandable.

This write up is controversial, some people would support the writer, while some will negate him.
However, we must be careful enough to respect the opinions of others.
The fact that you're right doesn't mean the other person is wrong, you've just seen it in a different perspectives.
Kudos to the writer.

Not all girls are the same, some will still stand no matter the influence of friends.

ElsonMorali:
I fault your logic.

A child's mind is always blank at birth and gradually filled by the impressions s/he forms or is formed for them.

Garbage in, garbage out.

You've just declared yourself a failure and not worthy to raise a child, whether boy or girl.

oga even if u instill d best morals and religious teaching into her. Immediately she start bending there leg like cripple forget it. When ur daughter is in ss2 forget it. U Don lose her to dem boyys

@MrAfriclegend,i didn't bother reading the whole piece but I will heap all the blames on the male folks. You all failed,its a well known fact daughters tilt,gravitate and look up to their father's a lot,the poor training,the abandonment of the home,their mothers for over bleached side chicks outside has caused them to think being a bimbo is all there is to life. You men have failed them. And the writer should realise not all women are like that,some of them still have very strong values and when you look at those homes,u see a father who has been quite disciplined and carried out his duties diligently. Failure of the girl child is is failure of all men out there.

frubben:
oga even if u instill d best morals and religious teaching into her. Immediately she start bending there leg like cripple forget it. When ur daughter is in ss2 forget it. U Don lose her to dem boyys

I understand. You haven't met any decent girls. I assure you they exist and I've met them.

ElsonMorali:


I understand. You haven't met any decent girls. I assure you they exist and I've met them.

sure I have, but dey are only forming decent, under dere is not decent @ all.

bisiswag:
@MrAfriclegend,i didn't bother reading the whole piece but I will heap all the blames on the male folks. You all failed,its a well known fact daughters tilt,gravitate and look up to their father's a lot,the poor training,the abandonment of the home,their mothers for over bleached side chicks outside has caused them to think being a bimbo is all there is to life. You men have failed them. And the writer should realise not all women are like that,some of them still have very strong values and when you look at those homes,u see a father who has been quite disciplined and carried out his duties diligently. Failure of the girl child is is failure of all men out there.

True. But not entirely true.

frubben:
sure I have, but dey are only forming decent, under dere is not decent @ all.

Like I said, you haven't met any decent girl.

ElsonMorali:
I fault your logic.

A child's mind is always blank at birth and gradually filled by the impressions s/he forms or is formed for them.

Garbage in, garbage out.

You've just declared yourself a failure and not worthy to raise a child, whether boy or girl.

u av no idea of how bad the society is... in this part of Africa, there s a campaign against the girl child.

[quote author=awa post=61833019]The Ayeni sounds so stupid... I am proud of my girls.

Why must you insult him, he only wrote what he likes, he is not forcing you or any other person to go against his write up.. By the way, he is not the one that gives child/children, God giveth, and am sure he will probably do his best if given a female child... If he have the opportunity to choice between a male and female, he will go for male..

I don't agree with u, the poster is right

ElsonMorali:
I fault your logic.

A child's mind is always blank at birth and gradually filled by the impressions s/he forms or is formed for them.

Garbage in, garbage out.

You've just declared yourself a failure and not worthy to raise a child, whether boy or girl.

chenzen:
u av no idea of how bad the society is... in this part of Africa, there s a campaign against the girl child.

I have an idea of How bad the society is and I know that it's even worse in developed nations than in Africa.

Still it's the failure of the parents and not of the girls most often.

Instill the awe and fear of God in the minds of kids and they'll grow up righteous.

Teach them by your examples and not just by words of mouth.

Kids copy what their parents do.

massalati:
I don't agree with u, the poster is right

You are free to disagree. It's your opinion. I don't share it.

Lawlahdey:
People like we .

almost believed you ,,not until i saw that ur face looks familiar.

Lawlahdey:
Deep. You know what i think about this? The truth is the average female don't have the strength or ability required for day-to-day jobs. The average female is work-lazy. She wants things to come to her on a platter of gold and in a country like Nigeria, that's quite impossible. So, she resorts to selling her body because that's the only way to have it easy.

I thought that what a man can do,a woman can do too,even better.

Lawlahdey:
Deep. You know what i think about this? The truth is the average female don't have the strength or ability required for day-to-day jobs. The average female is work-lazy. She wants things to come to her on a platter of gold and in a country like Nigeria, that's quite impossible. So, she resorts to selling her body because that's the only way to have it easy.

I thought that what a man can do,a woman can do too,even better.

It's not about girl child but both sex. What if u gave birth to boys and two out of four suddenly turns to transgender and start claiming he is born Dis way. See bobrisky is he a boy child to be proud of? See Evans and many fraudsters in our nation.both boys and girls have their own limitations,with prayer, proper advice, upbringing,love and care they will turn up becoming the children of our dreams

Why

This is one of the FEARS I have been norturing for some time now - bringing a up a girl child without bringing shame to the family. I understand the society is so so perilous to the children mostly the girls. They are mostly victims of rape, sex trafficking, commodity exchange[bride price] etc. God help all parents in this important job.

Bros forget this things you are saying, the society expects so much from girls and your major concern is someone having sex with your daughter. Of course someone will definitely have sex with her, all you have to do is to show her love, teach her to know her worth and not dependent on anyone, educate her, be open to discuss sex and morals with her, be her best friend. As for me, I don't mind having all daughters as I believe they will never depart from me and my wife.

ericsmith:


almost believed you ,,not until i saw that ur face looks familiar.

I'm pretty sure I don't know you.

Me I want a girl child, what my mum has achieved in this life is more than ten sons, abeg God give me a female child. It's girls that take care of parents in old age, OP is it your sons that will wash your dirty clothes, cook for you and take care of you when you are old?

Both boys and girls from dysfunctional families have problems, so why are you visiting such impral clubs if you are better than those girls, OP? Na dog dey visit prostitute or na immoral man, nonsense

Lumig:
This is one of the FEARS I have been norturing for some time now - bringing a up a girl child without bringing shame to the family. I understand the society is so so perilous to the children mostly the girls. They are mostly victims of rape, sex trafficking, commodity exchange[bride price] etc. God help all parents in this important job.

And you aren't scared of a male child bringing Shame to your family? Go meet Hushpuppi and Bobrisky's papas them na. Hehehehe...

bisiswag:
@MrAfriclegend,i didn't bother reading the whole piece but I will heap all the blames on the male folks. You all failed,its a well known fact daughters tilt,gravitate and look up to their father's a lot,the poor training,the abandonment of the home,their mothers for over bleached side chicks outside has caused them to think being a bimbo is all there is to life. You men have failed them. And the writer should realise not all women are like that,some of them still have very strong values and when you look at those homes,u see a father who has been quite disciplined and carried out his duties diligently. Failure of the girl child is is failure of all men out there.

Hmmm! O Ja mi lara je!

I'm pretty sure you know Oprah Winfrey,angela merkel,marie curie(of blessed memory), chimamanda adichie, folunrosho alakija,rosalind franklin(of blessed memory)malala yousafzai,michelle Obama, Lise meitner(of blessed memory),grace hopper(of blessed memory),irène juliot curie(of blessed memory),Hillary Clinton,melinda Gates,jane yelled, Christine largade,..i could go on and on but I think you get my point already...the aforementioned should give you a reason to have a female child or even female children

Lawlahdey:
I'm pretty sure I don't know you.

ok but sorry ,,did yu take jamb classes around papa ajao area ..early this year

Lawlahdey:
Deep. You know what i think about this? The truth is the average female don't have the strength or ability required for day-to-day jobs. The average female is work-lazy. She wants things to come to her on a platter of gold and in a country like Nigeria, that's quite impossible. So, she resorts to selling her body because that's the only way to have it easy.

You are from a broken home

Pidgin2:


You are from a broken home

What? Lol.

Get out, please.

ElsonMorali:


I have an idea of How bad the society is and I know that it's even worse in developed nations than in Africa.

Still it's the failure of the parents and not of the girls most often.

Instill the awe and fear of God in the minds of kids and they'll grow up righteous.

Teach them by your examples and not just by words of mouth.

Kids copy what their parents do.

This is deeper than u think... there are so many factors to look at when u talk about the upbringing of a girl child... raising Christian kids doesn't mean they won't default... How do u control peer pressure? how do u control what they hear, see and do when they are not home? The society as well as environment plays a fundamental role in d mental growth of a child...

Lawlahdey:
What? Lol.

Get out, please.

Why are you weak na, you can't do day to day job, are u a sickler?

Pidgin2:


Why are you weak na, you can't do day to day job, are u a sickler?

I wasn't talking about myself, if you lack basic comprehension ability.