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shaybebaby:
Now we have a male like you talking sense. Or is there anything he has pointed out that is detrimental to you menfolk?

I am more faithful than you can ever dream but im not interested in proving a thing. I have done it for 12years when i was even far younger and so is it now that i will start?

My point is that a man should first cross the hurdle of going for a lady that pleases his sexual desire at least to curb the act and love GOD enough to remain faithful to a lady.


Nevertheless.as i alays say,the OP just wrote the norm while i choose to write about reality.kofaja

hahahaha op wat of why women must not cheat cos a lot of dem dey knack apako outside well well at least i knw one or two

If he cheats you have the option to stay or leave him.... the choice is up to the woman.

And if a man decides to cheat or decides to stay faithful... the choice is up to the man.

Life is about choices, and you stick to the consequences of your actions.

shaybebaby:
No it's not.

ok it's not but the point remains that not all guys cheat.

Toks2008:
I am more faithful than you can ever dream but im not interested in proving a thing. I have done it for 12years when i was even far younger and so is it now that i will start?

My point is that a man should first cross the hurdle of going for a lady that pleases his sexual desire at least to curb the act and love GOD enough to remain faithful to a lady.


Nevertheless.as i alays say,the OP just wrote the norm while i choose to write about reality.kofaja

How about simply setting the rules which both parties can then agree to adhere to?

Thank you OP

Trust me, no matter how pleasing she was to you in the beginning, after 2-3 yrs you'll start yearning for something new and different.

Been there done that. It's takes a special grace of God to stay faithful to one woman, you can trust me on that one.



O pari

Toks2008:
On the contrary i believe a man that has no choice of woman is a hopeless fool.

Give me a lady that is sexually pleasing to my eyes and i will remain sexually faithful to her. Quote me in France.

na who get time for cheating. wy vaseline still dy!

shaybebaby:
You sweetheart.

You will raise good sons who will be great fathers and husbands.

Now tell me, what do you want for lunch? My treat.

What I want for lunch? The true perception or the propagation of the fact that not all men cheat. I appreciate your magnanimity.

Thanks.

jericco1:
ok it's not but the point remains that not all guys cheat.

Yup, so does that don't need to show the ones that do that their behaviour isnt normal.

One we establish that not all of you cheat, then there is no excuse for those who cheat. It has been shown that it has less to do with gender, more to do with lack of self control.

Then we can further ask, why should anyone put up with a partner who lacks this quality? It implies other less desirable attributes as well

Bloom1:
What I want for lunch? The true perception or the propagation of the fact that not all men cheat. I appreciate your magnanimity.

Thanks.

And your wish will be granted. And no, THANK YOU.

shaybebaby:
Yup, so does that don't need to show the ones that do that their behaviour isnt normal.

One we establish that not all of you cheat, then there is no excuse for those who cheat. It has been shown that it has less to do with gender, more to do with lack of self control.

Then we can further ask, why should anyone put up with a partner who lacks this quality? It implies other less desirable attributes as well

lack of self control�.
but why is it that even though a lady is aware the is cheating and stuffs, she still sticks with him and when then eventually break, she blabs about all guys being a serial cheat.

Icon79:
Trust me, no matter how pleasing she was to you in the beginning, after 2-3 yrs you'll start yearning for something new and different.

Been there done that. It's takes a special grace of God to stay faithful to one woman, you can trust me on that one.



O pari

Different folks though..for me,i have the spirit of GOD dwelling in me and i practically force myself to commit fornication because if you truly have teh spirit of GOD you will struggle to sin.FACT!

so the best way i can help my ministry is to get that lady that is sexually pleasing to me and im good.Trust me on this..there are better things in life for me than chasing skirts about. I have a mission to bring millions to the kingdom of GOD and depopulate hell and that is what i dream about now and not living a crazy destructive randy life style.

As i always reiterate,what i write are aimed at restoring sanity to marital unions by focusing on the female folks in such a way that will best prepare them emotionally,psychologically and spiritually against the crazy happenings of the world we live in.

jericco1:
lack of self control�.
but why is it that even though a lady is aware the is cheating and stuffs, she still sticks with him and when then eventually break, she blabs about all guys being a serial cheat.

Because of people who propagate that myth that all men cheat. She is held mentally captive by it..that belief that he is no worse than every man out there so she might as well stay.

Hence why people like the op are speaking out. Not all men cheat so you can kick out your serial cheat and find someone who is honourable.

As if they will listen.

desreek9:
hmmmmmm i remember when i brought my situation here, instead of rebuking him for what he did, i was blamed for my reaction

I was one of the people that advised you - in fact I talked about the issue with my sister over the weekend . It’s not your fault that your husband not only cheated but cheated without protection and put you at risk ! Don’t let anybody tell you otherwise - the fault is with him and you were right to take time off to sort yourself out . If you want to resume sex both of you should run full tests and whatever treatment necessary - he should he made to understand that would be his last chance because You have to think about your children’s future . Good luck

shaybebaby:
How about simply setting the rules which both parties can then agree to adhere to?

I have tons of threads on my nairaland wall that has made front page in the past and that have been addressed. And for the records you must understand that most of my write-ups pertain to the Nigerian society so if you are looking at it from the western angle then you are so wrong.

U.K,U.S and canada as well as other countries have zero tolerance to philandering but right here in Nigeria,guys do stuffs and get away with it.

shaybebaby:
You sweetheart.

You will raise good sons who will be great fathers and husbands.

Now tell me, what do you want for lunch? My treat.

Chai! won ti get e

shaybebaby:
Now we have a male like you talking sense. Or is there anything he has pointed out that is detrimental to you menfolk?

Chaii, you can't see the painment in his post? He's using jokes to cover it up, LMAO his bs thread has been disgraced by a guy.
Let me laugh

yeyerolling:
lame excuse of an article. this is supposed to stop cheating

Just like how the ones that lambast women all day have not stopped women cheating !

Pataricatering:
I was one of the people that advised you - in fact I talked about the issue with my sister over the weekend . It’s not your fault that your husband not only cheated but cheated without protection and put you at risk ! Don’t let anybody tell you otherwise - the fault is with him and you were right to take time off to sort yourself out . If you want to resume sex both of you should run full tests and whatever treatment necessary - he should he made to understand that would be his last chance because You have to think about your children’s future . Good luck

thank you ma we are in counselling, God bless

shaybebaby:
Because of people who propagate that myth that all men cheat. She is held mentally captive by it..that belief that he is no worse than every man out there so she might as well stay.

Hence why people like the op are speaking out. Not all men cheat so you can kick out your serial cheat and find someone who is honourable.

if that's the case, those that are "mentally captive" will have problem disabusing themselves of such negative notion

how then do they reconcile with reality?
secondly, it's not the other guys fault that guys cheat.
cheating is a mindset,some guys are hellbent on cheating while others aren't.
but the world will propagate the idea that suits them.

Daeylar:
Chaii, you can't see the painment in his post? He's using jokes to cover it up, LMAO his bs thread has been disgraced by a guy.
Let me laugh

Your comment made me laugh.

But Mark my words, these thread will go to the dogs once the usual rabid nl males finish begging for their daily bread. They'll start attacking the op's manhood, calling him asslicker and all sorts. Because truth hurts.

iamJ:
see why its good to not be uneducated and ill informed

Every sensible person is aware that i was trolled, the girl you're talking abt is still following me still with me, even came online to insult the liars

I dont betray friends like u did poca, have u checked ur follower ship? They ran

The moment they heard u were supersystem, how many girls have complained abt ur pm's?

And begging for love on whatsapp?


can u hear such abt me?


all u do on this forum is to run after girls and wen they reject u, u troll them, such a coward, stiil looking for ann?

Look well u will see her

Begging for love, indeed, it's not a biggie for a guy to ask a lady out and if she turns it down, not a biggie. Last time i checked, she was the only one i asked out. I've ever asked any lady beside her out, bring them out as testifiers.

Complained about my pms, please who and who do i send pm. She is the only lady i sent pm since 2009 and maintained a flow, no other one. So take your lies to hades !

The only ladies on my whatsapp are married, and we chat till now.


Nah, I rarely follow the ladies here, not many ar eon the maturity of the one i interacted with, and it was pure friendship!

Lol @ looking for Ann, I've reiterated that i'll keep away from her !

Btw 2009 till date, i repeat i've never ever met a lady through social media or desire to. So take your pettiness off my handle

Stop prying into people's private matters. My nose aint in yours !

desreek9:
hmmmmmm i remember when i brought my situation here, instead of rebuking him for what he did, i was blamed for my reaction

we did dear he was wrong, a lot of us supported you and your action, I supported your actions, you did what was best for you and that's all that mattered your actions were right. You were the one wronged, so your action was completely right.
Ignore all those people who attacked you, that's how they act whenever they see a thread where the man cheats.

This is super story

jericco1:
if that's the case, those that are "mentally captive" will have problem disabusing themselves of such negative notion

how then do then do they reconcile with reality?
secondly, it's not the other guys fault that guys cheat.
cheating is a mindset,some guys are hellbent on cheating while others aren't.
but the world will propagate the idea that suits them.

Yeah but if you lot start to shun the male cheats amongst you, they would be less brazen about it.

Not only will they suffer marital strife, they will be shunned by their peers. The whole cheating thing needs to be disincentified. Then they'll start having thoughts.

Toks2008:
I have tons of threads on my nairaland wall that has made front page in the past and that have been addressed. And for the records you must understand that most of my write-ups pertain to the Nigerian society so if you are looking at it from the western angle then you are so wrong.

U.K,U.S and canada as well as other countries have zero tolerance to philandering but right here in Nigeria,guys do stuffs and get away with it.

And how well is it working for us?

I

concupiscent:
"Fellow men please do not be pressurized by society or the opposite gender to give up what you were naturally designed to do, if you don't want to do it, don't. If you do, do it unapologetically and with regal,charm and pride. You are a man!"

-concupiscent

If there are countless men who don't cheat on their wives and are happily married, it simply means that men were NEVER naturally programmed to cheat. It also means that those who cheat are just irresponsible fo0ls.

So what are going to do with money if we are not allowed to cheat

shaybebaby:
Yeah but if you lot start to shun the male cheats amongst you, they would be less brazen about it.

Not only will they suffer marital strife, they will be shunned by their peers. The whole cheating thing needs to be disincentified. Then they'll start having thoughts.

you've tried. but I'm still not convinced
follow up,
shunning the male cheats is never a problem because they'll still do what they do.

shaybebaby:
Your comment made me laugh.

But Mark my words, these thread will go to the dogs once the usual rabid nl males finish begging for their daily bread. They'll start attacking the op's manhood, calling him asslicker and all sorts. Because truth hurts.

It has already started, I can see them every where but I know how they behave already