When a woman says she’s “not like that anymore,” there’s a good chance that she’s being sincere. That’s why you might be tempted to give her a chance—she’s actually being honest when she says it. At that particular moment in time, she actually believes in her own bullcrap, and that’s exactly why knowing her past is so important. All of the lip service about how she was “immature” or a “different person back then” is utter nonsense. Her past is exactly who she is, and she can easily revert right back into being herself once her goals have been accomplished—at your expense, mind you.
(marriage)

Women never really change who they are, they just change what they do, and they only change what they do just long enough to get whatever they’re after (pregnancy). The only way people really change is through deep introspection, self discovery, and a very strong desire to overhaul themselves for the better. Have you met any women that possess those three qualities? no.

“Looking out for your best interests does not make you insecure. Not settling for anything less than what you want does not make you insecure. Demanding to know the truth about someone you've been intimate with—or plan on being intimate with—does not make you insecure.”

A man should try as much as he can to know a woman's past.

No need asking for a woman's past.
It always catches up with her and becomes her future.

Okafor's Second Law.

NwaAmaikpe:



No need asking for a woman's past.
It always catches up with her and becomes her future.

Okafor's Second Law.

Not always. My uncle told me about his friend (a female), who did all sort of bad things (call girl, stripper etc) in school to get through. She's been married for 20 years, and her husband always brag about her.


My uncle told me he never believed his friend would stay more than a year in that marriage. She doesn't leave in her past anymore.

But personally, there are some pasts I just shouldn't know. It just might freak me out.

It depends on what you want to know about her past and what you want to do with it.

It is good to ask and know about her past so that nemesis will not be upon the family if they end up getting married.Some of this materialistic girls that follows aristos up and down and who may have use red handkerchief to wipe their penis for ritual purpose after having sexual intercourse with them.

to know if the lady is decent and also to know if the pussy never turn shallow waters....abi konga..someone recently tell me say pussy dey where swimming competition fit take place...I was like yeepa...that one fit swallow pesin be that...

Tattooboy:
Not always. My uncle told me about his friend (a female), who did all sort of bad things (call girl, stripper etc) in school to get through. She's been married for 20 years, and her husband always brag about her.


My uncle told me he never believed his friend would stay more than a year in that marriage. She doesn't leave in her past anymore.

But personally, there are some pasts I just shouldn't know. It just might freak me out.

Most people won't be lucky like your uncle's friend....

You wouldn't have a fake repented runsgirl as a wife... you will have to run a DNA test for all ur kids.

Tattooboy:
Not always. My uncle told me about his friend (a female), who did all sort of bad things (call girl, stripper etc) in school to get through. She's been married for 20 years, and her husband always brag about her.


My uncle told me he never believed his friend would stay more than a year in that marriage. She doesn't leave in her past anymore.

But personally, there are some pasts I just shouldn't know. It just might freak me out.

And your uncle didn't tell u how the woman used jazz to tie down the man

It's okay to know a woman's past and i see nothing bad about it but i think whatever information a man has about a woman's past shouldn't be used against her because she was honest enough to have opened up

It's just good to come out clean but there should be a limit to the kind of questions you ask her about her past...Questions like how many times have you had sex or any other question in that sort

Everyone has a past

I'll only share whatever i feel comfortable to share about my past My past is my past.
That's all.

Well, If you ask her in the right way - she'll tell you. At least I would.

AND, She also has a right to not tell you a thing about her past. You can either take your chances or walk away.

BUT, if she does choose to discuss it and lies to you, that seems like a serious problem to me.

real men ask but losers just thank God for a GF and enjoy the pvssy coz they have been starving for so long.

if you wan die Na

Em it depends sha,but honestly speaking the past is the past it not as important as the present..

It is interesting how you can absolutely fall in
love with a woman, but when you think about
her past she becomes someone uglier or
non-attractive in your eyes.

She’s still the same person, just your
perception of her has changed.

Therefore, when you are judging her, YOU
are making her into someone she is not.
You
are holding her past over her head as if she
IS her past, and you are not seeing the fact
that her past is just her past, and she is not
the woman she once was.

The biggest thing that men judge women on
is how many men they have slept with. I’ve
heard many guys talk about how they hate
their woman’s sexual past, and how much it
disgusts them. Yet, in the same breath they
talk about how they have never met anyone
so kind, gentle, loving, and beautiful.

Well, which one is she? A disgusting human
being or a loving human being?
The answer, to me, is quite clear. Once you
make it clear to yourself, you can stop
judging her and start seeing her for the
person she is today.

IS IT HUMAN NATURE TO
BE JUDGMENTAL?
__________________________

Absolutely. I don’t know many people,
including myself, who are not judgmental
once in a while. However, it doesn’t really
serve a positive purpose for us, and when
the judgement enters our heads it should be
just as quickly released. It should not be held
onto and given the power to affect our
emotions and thoughts,.

Sure, it can make us feel better about
ourselves as we talk about how other
people’s morals and actions are wrong, while
ours are clearly right. But, it doesn’t make us
feel better about the people and world
around us; instead, it makes us squint our
eyes and view the world as a dumb, wrong,
and ugly place.

Being judgmental is not an attractive quality,
and it promotes unhappiness in any person
who practices it.

THE PAST IS THE PAST
_______________________
You were not in her past, so you don’t know
why she did what she did, what she was
thinking, and where she was in her life. She
did the best she could with the knowledge
she had, and if she is a good person now, that
means she learned a lot from her past about
who she is and who she wants to be.

If you understand that she didn’t do anything
in her past to hurt you or anyone in her
future, then you may have an easier time
accepting that she was living her life and it
had nothing to do with you or your
expectations.

Try looking at your own past decisions to
understand why some circumstances happen
in life and how the decisions we make are
not always the smartest ones, but they are
always the ones that teach us the most about
who we are.

Accept that she is who she is (and was who
she was). You cannot change her past, so
accept that she is the woman she is now
because of it, and be grateful that you met
her at a time in her life when she had moved
past many of the struggles she went through
earlier.


Em op I hope you can understand what I ve just typed?.

MhizzAJ:
It's okay to know a woman's past and i see nothing bad about it but i think whatever information a man has about a woman's past shouldn't be used against her because she was honest enough to have opened up

It's just good to come out clean but there should be a limit to the kind of questions you ask her about her past...Questions like how many times have you had sex or any other question in that sort

Everyone has a past

Yeah typed sence

Honestly speaking I don't think the past is as important as the present,the past should remain the past!

Well I wish say these our guy's of these day's go understand how relationship take dey work

ibkkk:
I'll only share whatever i feel comfortable to share about my past My past is my past.
That's all.

Or you meant to say

"i'll only share whatever my fish brain feel comfortable to share"

Before u even ask, I don tell u already. There is no one without a past both good and bad. So who am I to form holy holy?

ChewingStick:


Or you meant to say

"i'll only share whatever my fish brain feel comfortable to share"

No.Didn't mean to say that.

I meant what you just read.

ibkkk:

No.Didn't mean to say that.
I meant what you just read.

** Nodding my head
... Interesting
must be your witch craft then

Very necessary

The question I ask myself is - what's the use of the information? To seek information about the past is as helpful as it can be destructive coz there's tendency to be presented with distorted judgement of the present.

Curiosity kills the cat they say but I will rather choose to enjoy the moment & discover my woman. I believe there's nothing about her past that's not a common knowledge to all, we only waste our precious time making a big deal of what's not.

If you love her, let her know & demonstrate same coz there are many more places to discover. Looking back is like sieving through garbage. It might be important to you but examine if it serves a meaningful purpose.

ibkkk:
I'll only share whatever i feel comfortable to share about my past My past is my past.
That's all.

Please share it.

Sometimes it's better not to ask.

omooba969:


Please share it.

Abi I've shared it ni

Of course. You have to know what you're getting into

i will ask pls.
some dont hav womb again due to their reckless past, some come wit serious medical, psychological, social, spiritual and emotional baggage and ur ignorance of these issues can steal ur happiness from u forever.
marriage shud start on a positive note. i cannot suffer for the sins of anoda cos im not jesus christ

Angy55:
Sometimes it's better not to ask.

very very wrong. even as a banker, before we give u our money as loan, we check ur credit history and credit worthiness. my dear never marry a man u dnt knw his past so u dnt end up marrying a ghost

I will definitely ask, it's better to walk out of a relationship than marriage

makes no sense to ask, ignorance is beta