The gel am dating, her parents doesn't like me buh she really loves me

Sage7:


Always heed?? Madam you are wrong.

sir they are always 80-85% right most times n that by me is a pass mark.

I don't think a parent has the right to say "no" and put a stamp on it. Just for the record.

I am dating a Yoruba lady and I'm from the down south but I do not want a case where she will stand against our union so few weeks into the relationship, I told my mum I wasn't interested in God and Christianity anymore. Then I deliberately changed for the worse in all attitudes. My mum was concerned and troubled. (She wasn't aware of the relationship)
Then I changed after a while and I told her I met this lady and she was the one who lead me to Christ and I am trying to live right.
My mum approved of her straight.

This ;Dis matures thread! So?

dabrake:
I am dating a Yoruba lady and I'm from the down south but I do not want a case where she will stand against our union so few weeks into the relationship, I told my mum I wasn't interested in God and Christianity anymore. Then I deliberately changed for the worse in all attitudes. My mum was concerned and troubled. (She wasn't aware of the relationship)
Then I changed after a while and I told her I met this lady and she was the one who lead me to Christ and I am trying to live right.
My mum approved of her straight.

419.

Moji12:
sir they are always 80-85% right most times n that by me is a pass mark.

Lol. No one can live your life you. You make mistakes, you learn from it, you move on. If you have to wait for someone to tell you what to do, girl, you are not living.

Good write deturla

Divay22:
Even with all this, some parents are till hellbent on refusing (most cases the father)
What then can one do again?

Take an unannounced vacation with Le boo for some weeks without telling anyone. Their brain will reset to default setting its all part of subtle tbreats.

dabrake:
I am dating a Yoruba lady and I'm from the down south but I do not want a case where she will stand against our union so few weeks into the relationship, I told my mum I wasn't interested in God and Christianity anymore. Then I deliberately changed for the worse in all attitudes. My mum was concerned and troubled. (She wasn't aware of the relationship)
Then I changed after a while and I told her I met this lady and she was the one who lead me to Christ and I am trying to live right.
My mum approved of her straight.

Scammer Aye. This your plan ehn....

Making such sacrifice by ignoring parental advice for a Nigerian lady/guy is risky expect if he/she not the stubborn type or doesn't sulk!!!
The day he/she will start quarrel with you, they will say stupid things that will make you regret ever making that sacrifice.
Its like helping a poor person and tomorrow he/she says you re too poor for his/her likeing..
#Nonsense & ingredients

You don’t have to be best friends with your in laws but it pays to have a respectful cordial relationship for your children’s sake. Keep your sentiments with your spouse but also be thoughtful and just understand time on earth is limited make it meaningful

Love is a risk on its own a risk not everyone takes with honesty and sometimes fear ruins the building process. The marriages that last are those who took that risk together the ones who build each other and respect family ties and the hierarchy of communication

No matter how angry you get or your parents get just understand love will out live prejudice anyday love made a president who kept slaves begin the path to freedom for all slaves.

Love brings people together in wisdom for the progress of the family and the world.

Which kind of half brain parents reject their child's choice as if they will provide another ready made spouse. When the lady becomes grand mother there eye go open

Divay22:
Even with all this, some parents are till hellbent on refusing (most cases the father)
What then can one do again?

Most cases, its the mother. You ll hear something like "Femi, my spirit does not flow pelu girl to mu wa le yen"

Kentrasso:
is it worth it? is anyone worth fighting my parents over?

yes

Number 2 is very childish. Run away now. When hunger beat you you'll come back.

My Marriage. My Blessing

Divay22:

What do i have in myself that i want to check....if you are refusing your child from marrying their preferred spouse it's good you tell them the reason why, tell them the ground on which you don't want such a man or woman for them.....

Not that ancient proverb "what a father can see, a child can't see even if he climbs the tallest tree)
Tell me something father or keep it to yourself and lemme marry the man of my choice....He's not perfect i don't expect him to be.

well said...I taya for controlling parents. Parents must learn to allow their children (now adults) to be self-governing. Even God who created ALL things have allowed us 'freewill'. I'm out of here.

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Bollinger:


Lol. No one can live your life you. You make mistakes, you learn from it, you move on. If you have to wait for someone to tell you what to do, girl, you are not living.

Did u jus miss the part that I mentioned "parental advice" ofcos no one can live my life for me but I will always give room too their advice that is why they are there to guide in the first place. In ur context I realized u would rather make a mistake than avoiding it. As for making mistakes n learning from it, shows u go with the saying experience is the best teacher. But I would rather by example is the best teacher. Let me give an example using animals. sheep move in flock so if the leader falls in a pit others must follow suit cos they want to experience it instead of learning from their leader's mistake. If parents advice against something, it means they have their genuine reasons and our interests at heart not because they want to see us miserable becos most of the time we r blind by emotions so we would need someone with rational thought n not irrational. Anyways sir that is my opinion u must not buy it.

acceptance or rejection of marriage proposal is of two ways, this is very common to female parent. some mother want their daughter to get married to a guy which they can have control over. so that they can gain more access over their daughter marital affair.
secondly they may look at the spiritual implications of the relationship. most of these marriage proposal rejection always come from mother few from father

Lionbite:
Pls dont attempt No. 2 with yoruba parents. Wa fi enu fera bi abebe.

Lionbite:
Pls dont attempt No. 2 with yoruba parents. Wa fi enu fera bi abebe.

yoruba parents will greet u wit two slap for that threat

First tell them that you are not sure if you will at all get married. Try and show it in character. After some times, then surface with your Bae telling them that this is the only woman that made you to change your stance on your earlier decision.

An interesting topic. Ultimately it is your life, and your happiness in the cross hairs. If because of respect for parents, you leave the one who makes you happy and end up having a terrible married life, you are to blame. Yet, is anything worth becoming estranged from your parents who practically made you? such a conundrum, we have to find the balance.


for me now, she's almost 2 years older than me. Yet to face the 'rents.

dabrake:
I am dating a Yoruba lady and I'm from the down south but I do not want a case where she will stand against our union so few weeks into the relationship, I told my mum I wasn't interested in God and Christianity anymore. Then I deliberately changed for the worse in all attitudes. My mum was concerned and troubled. (She wasn't aware of the relationship)
Then I changed after a while and I told her I met this lady and she was the one who lead me to Christ and I am trying to live right.
My mum approved of her straight.

hmmmm Baddo......lolzzz

Moji12:


Did u jus miss the part that I mentioned "parental advice" ofcos no one can live my life for me but I will always give room too their advice that is why they are there to guide in the first place. In ur context I realized u would rather make a mistake than avoiding it. As for making mistakes n learning from it, shows u go with the saying experience is the best teacher. But I would rather by example is the best teacher. Let me give an example using animals. sheep move in flock so if the leader falls in a pit others must follow suit cos they want to experience it instead of learning from their leader's mistake. If parents advice against something, it means they have their genuine reasons and our interests at heart not because they want to see us miserable becos most of the time we r blind by emotions so we would need someone with rational thought n not irrational. Anyways sir that is my opinion u must not buy it.

You said parents are 85% correct in whatever advice they give which is not true which is why i said what i said. Their advice is even worse when it comes to relationships because what they like will not be what you like. Well, like you said, it's you opinion.

Moji12:


Did u jus miss the part that I mentioned "parental advice" ofcos no one can live my life for me but I will always give room too their advice that is why they are there to guide in the first place. In ur context I realized u would rather make a mistake than avoiding it. As for making mistakes n learning from it, shows u go with the saying experience is the best teacher. But I would rather by example is the best teacher. Let me give an example using animals. sheep move in flock so if the leader falls in a pit others must follow suit cos they want to experience it instead of learning from their leader's mistake. If parents advice against something, it means they have their genuine reasons and our interests at heart not because they want to see us miserable becos most of the time we r blind by emotions so we would need someone with rational thought n not irrational. Anyways sir that is my opinion u must not buy it.

Moji, omo yoruba jo ni wa, some parents do that cos of their selfishness, my parents are telling me I must marry from my hometown, why? Cos that'll make me visit them at intervals, most homes in my home town ain't balanced and the balanced ones I can point to are intertribal marriages

Lionbite:
Pls dont attempt No. 2 with yoruba parents. Wa fi enu fera bi abebe.

yes o

dingbang:
yes

you'll have to convince me otherwise cos anything can happen in future and if you cut your parents off the man can misbehave, and you have nowhere to go

Kentrasso:


you'll have to convince me otherwise cos anything can happen in future and if you cut your parents off the man can misbehave, and you have nowhere to go

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