please I really need matured advice. There is this girl am dating she is cool and ok but my greatest challenge with her is she talks to me so disrespectfully without caution when she is angry, she is hot tempered also. 95% of the misunderstanding we have had she was the cause but would never ever apologise (she has one stupid pride in her), we can stay till forever without calling each other during any misunderstanding until I be the one to call, her attitude can kill me cos I can't cope with such. This is someone I plan settling down with but as it stands am thinking to jettison that plan cos I don't think I can cope with a wife with such disgusting attitude, I have brought this severally to her attention yet she has refused to change at times she would promise she would work on herself but yet nothing has changed am just so fed up. please i need matured advice on what to do cos I don't want to make mistake in marriage.

biafraisdead:
please I really need matured advice. There is this girl am dating she is cool and ok but my greatest challenge with her is she talks to me so disrespectfully without caution when she is angry, she is hot tempered also. 95% of the misunderstanding we have had she was the cause but would never ever apologise (she has one stupid pride in her), we can stay till forever without calling each other during any misunderstanding until I be the one to call, her attitude can kill me cos I can't cope with such. This is someone I plan settling down with but as it stands am thinking to jettison that plan cos I don't think I can cope with a wife with such disgusting attitude, I have brought this severally to her attention yet she has refused to change at times she would promise she would work on herself but yet nothing has changed am just so fed up. please i need matured advice on what to do cos I don't want to make mistake in marriage.

why are you guys always in a haste to use this words.

Stop thinking marriage!

That shouldn't be the big thing! I don't blame you, just the dumb society we're in.

That's what happen when you hate Biafra for nothing. You never see anything

because ure fortunate to date her na, maybe u begged to date her self, u mean nothing to her, she wants u to vex and end it

biafraisdead:
please I really need matured advice. There is this girl am dating she is cool and ok but my greatest challenge with her is she talks to me so disrespectfully without caution when she is angry, she is hot tempered also. 95% of the misunderstanding we have had she was the cause but would never ever apologise (she has one stupid pride in her), we can stay till forever without calling each other during any misunderstanding until I be the one to call, her attitude can kill me cos I can't cope with such. This is someone I plan settling down with but as it stands am thinking to jettison that plan cos I don't think I can cope with a wife with such disgusting attitude, I have brought this severally to her attention yet she has refused to change at times she would promise she would work on herself but yet nothing has changed am just so fed up. please i need matured advice on what to do cos I don't want to make mistake in marriage.

Pictures speaks louder than words. So look at this knife very well and decide if it's the type you want in your stomach and you should be able to come to a conclusion.

Bros, you know Wetin you need to do...

Tell the bitch to get out, this is 2017. Woman plenty dey find husband, abi you be handicap?

biafraisdead:
please I really need matured advice. There is this girl am dating she is cool and ok but my greatest challenge with her is she talks to me so disrespectfully without caution when she is angry, she is hot tempered also. 95% of the misunderstanding we have had she was the cause but would never ever apologise (she has one stupid pride in her), we can stay till forever without calling each other during any misunderstanding until I be the one to call, her attitude can kill me cos I can't cope with such. This is someone I plan settling down with but as it stands am thinking to jettison that plan cos I don't think I can cope with a wife with such disgusting attitude, I have brought this severally to her attention yet she has refused to change at times she would promise she would work on herself but yet nothing has changed am just so fed up. please i need matured advice on what to do cos I don't want to make mistake in marriage.

B!tch a5s nigga!!!
Are u tryna say u don't know the right thing to do?
But can't make a firm decision, because u have allowed emotions to becloud your sense of reasoning...Dump the b!tch bro....

Dillusionist:


why are you guys always in a haste to use this words.

not in a haste, we've been dating for two years now and she is aware of the plan, as a matter of fact am supposed to meet her parents by January.

Newboss:
Stop thinking marriage!

That shouldn't be the big thing! I don't blame you, just the dumb society we're in.

I don't understand. am someone that does not engage in a fruitless relationship.

biafraisdead:
please I really need matured advice. There is this girl am dating she is cool and ok but my greatest challenge with her is she talks to me so disrespectfully without caution when she is angry, she is hot tempered also. 95% of the misunderstanding we have had she was the cause but would never ever apologise (she has one stupid pride in her), we can stay till forever without calling each other during any misunderstanding until I be the one to call, her attitude can kill me cos I can't cope with such. This is someone I plan settling down with but as it stands am thinking to jettison that plan cos I don't think I can cope with a wife with such disgusting attitude, I have brought this severally to her attention yet she has refused to change at times she would promise she would work on herself but yet nothing has changed am just so fed up. please i need matured advice on what to do cos I don't want to make mistake in marriage.

Nigga you need to check yourself too. When issues crop up, the person complaining sees nothing wrong with his or her actions. I need you to make less assumptions, reduce the pleading, make sure you treat her right. When talking to her when there's issues don't start with "you", start with "I". I thought my woman was the only cause of our issues until it got to the point of slapping her. Guy I thought I was matured enough until I made that serious mistake. In other words, check yourself.

Skyfornia:
That's what happen when you hate Biafra for nothing. You never see anything

Oga pls be serious proffer solution to my predicament.

biafraisdead:

not in a haste, we've been dating for two years now and she is aware of the plan, as a matter of fact am supposed to meet her parents by January.

hmmm and she's having this attitude since then but you kept swallowing them


just watch her closely.

iamJ:
because ure fortunate to date her na, maybe u begged to date her self, u mean nothing to her, she wants u to vex and end it

no, am very sure and convinced she loves me but she is a proud person. I know she would never forgive me if I end the relationship but I wouldn't mind cos her attitude is affecting my health.

biafraisdead:
please I really need matured advice. There is this girl am dating she is cool and ok but my greatest challenge with her is she talks to me so disrespectfully without caution when she is angry, she is hot tempered also. 95% of the misunderstanding we have had she was the cause but would never ever apologise (she has one stupid pride in her), we can stay till forever without calling each other during any misunderstanding until I be the one to call, her attitude can kill me cos I can't cope with such. This is someone I plan settling down with but as it stands am thinking to jettison that plan cos I don't think I can cope with a wife with such disgusting attitude, I have brought this severally to her attention yet she has refused to change at times she would promise she would work on herself but yet nothing has changed am just so fed up. please i need matured advice on what to do cos I don't want to make mistake in marriage.

dump her after banging her to stupor.

Balistic4:


Nigga you need to check yourself too. When issues crop up, the person complaining sees nothing wrong with his or her actions. I need you to make less assumptions, reduce the pleading, make sure you treat her right. When talking to her when there's issues don't start with "you", start with "I". I thought my woman was the only cause of our issues until it got to the point of slapping her. Guy I thought I was matured enough until I made that serious mistake. In other words, check yourself.

Nonsense!!!!
This is how u folks encourage people to go into unhealthy relationship...
Increasing the rate of divorce & domestic violence...

lokobyforch:
Bros, you know Wetin you need to do...

Tell the bitch to get out, this is 2017. Woman plenty dey find husband, abi you be handicap?

exactly what am thinking, I know it won't be easy but I suspect that would be the best option for me cos am dieing inside.

Rubbiish:

B!tch a5s nigga!!!
Are u tryna say u don't know the right thing to do?
But can't make a firm decision, because u have allowed emotions to becloud your sense of reasoning...Dump the b!tch bro....

yeah u are right.

biafraisdead:

Oga pls be serious proffer solution to my predicament.

Change your handle first

well my advice is this,if she truly is Someone u want to settle down with don't give up on her your ability to sacrifice and be patient will help you....I believe she is young and Lack experience, your pain is as a result of your advance in age and experience you ve gotten. give her time she will come around.

biafraisdead:

I don't understand. am someone that does not engage in a fruitless relationship.

That's where your problem is! Your motive is fundamentally wrong!

The "fruit" to you is 'marriage'. That's very wrong! Fix that, and you will be just fine.

Guy. If u talk to her about her attitude and her refuse to change.
My guy. Let her go.
I knw it will not easy like dat. Let her gooooooooo.

The truth is that you do not command her respect and only your ability to decipher what it takes to command her respect and doing so well will earn you her meekness if not loyalty - if what it takes to command her respect is an immaterial thing count yourself lucky and embrace whatever it maybe and improve on it. However, if it's a material thing the choice is solely yours to make on whether to continue with her or to discard her with alacrity.

Imbibe the virtue of going to places where you are celebrated and avoid the places where you're tolerated or not wanted.

biafraisdead:

not in a haste, we've been dating for two years now and she is aware of the plan, as a matter of fact am supposed to meet her parents by January.

This is exactly what I was talking about!

You're tolling the wrong path! Just look again.

iamJ:
because ure fortunate to date her na, maybe u begged to date her self, u mean nothing to her, she wants u to vex and end it

This got me thinking hard... :-

The venom of a hot tempered woman can be more poisonous than that of a cobra. Flee now that you still have time.

Your moniker is that of a tribalist but, anyway...

biafraisdead:
please I really need matured advice. There is this girl am dating she is cool and ok but my greatest challenge with her is she talks to me so disrespectfully without caution when she is angry, she is hot tempered also. 95% of the misunderstanding we have had she was the cause but would never ever apologise (she has one stupid pride in her), we can stay till forever without calling each other during any misunderstanding until I be the one to call, her attitude can kill me cos I can't cope with such. This is someone I plan settling down with but as it stands am thinking to jettison that plan cos I don't think I can cope with a wife with such disgusting attitude, I have brought this severally to her attention yet she has refused to change at times she would promise she would work on herself but yet nothing has changed am just so fed up. please i need matured advice on what to do cos I don't want to make mistake in marriage.

Look no further, does she have positive attributes you can look at to say you'll endure her weaknesses? If she positive sides and will add great value to your life, don't make a hasty decision.

But then, can you bear such a weakness for life if she doesn't change at all? Think about it carefully, is this what you can tolerate for a lifetime? You seem to be in an unhealthy relationship, cause its' more than the curse words. She witholds affection from you, and you give more, can you bear this weight for a lifetime? Think about it carefully. Is there something she has to give that you can get out there with additional benefits?

Think carefully bro, think !

Can u advice ur elder bro marry such lady? Stop asking questions that have obvious answers...a responsible girlfriend should fear her boyfriend

Balistic4:


Nigga you need to check yourself too. When issues crop up, the person complaining sees nothing wrong with his or her actions. I need you to make less assumptions, reduce the pleading, make sure you treat her right. When talking to her when there's issues don't start with "you", start with "I". I thought my woman was the only cause of our issues until it got to the point of slapping her. Guy I thought I was matured enough until I made that serious mistake. In other words, check yourself.

I know am not perfect but in this case I know what am talking about, she is too hard-hearted. could u believe that she is not in talking terms for a year and half now with her best friend(also a good friend of mine) because of me? and funny enough it was this her best friend that introduced her to me cos I didn't know her before, I have tried to make peace between them but she said she would never make up with her friend, though the friend is married but she thought I had anything with the friend so to her the best was to create problem, it equally affected my relationship with her friend till date cos we use to be very good friends.

Dillusionist:
hmmm and she's having this attitude since then but you kept swallowing them

just watch her closely.

thank u

askibee:
well my advice is this,if she truly is Someone u want to settle down with don't give up on her your ability to sacrifice and be patient will help you....I believe she is young and Lack experience, your pain is as a result of your advance in age and experience you ve gotten. give her time she will come around.

thank u, but I don't think that's really the problem cos not that she is too young not to know right from wrong, besides our age margin is just 4years.