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purples25:
Hello


I know there are good men, I have only been elaborating on the characteristics of the bad ones which are far more numerous than their good counterparts. Thank you for that dear apology, I am however not talking based on experience, it's totally neutral .

alright
so have you found the answer to this " How long is the pointless journey of this world and what is its purpose? "

Jupxter:
This is healthy @ I want partnership,companionship and egalitarianism

Abi o tha is what my parents are practicing I wonder who is heading who sometimes daddy would take a major decision sometimes it is mommy and they have been married for years.To them it is a partnership us against the world,I have never seen my dad try to control my mom although they quarrel but they are best friends once they quarrel today tha have settled today.My mom was the one who told me about such kind of relationship so I pray I meet someone who doesn't see me as his competitor but his best friend partner and confidant it would not be rosy or easy but I believe together we can surpass every storm.

Mhissgaga:
I tell you most men can't stand independent ladies especially single ladies that are buoyant financially

Why should they
If you see a hard obstacle and an easy one which would you choose?

In their mind they'll be saying"This one go old for him papa house"

Is he lying. No be old age make una de rant hia

Do you think it's easy for a woman to go to work morning till night,keep the house clean,cook for a man and have sex with him?She's not some machine...The moment the woman stops doing some basic things they tag as 'feminine duties' or whenever she talks intelligently they quickly say she has bad characters. To crown it all Most men aren't helpful

Skirting your duties is not intelligence.
If you're so successful why can't you employ somebody to do these domestic duties. You still want man to pay for that yet wonder why he decides to Kuma marry d househelp
What are you using your money for.
He Pays rent
He buys food
School fees
Just to wash plate and cloth de hard una
Mtscheeeeeeeeew

Nigerian men if not all can't stand women that are more experienced than them and that's the truth...They need the 'Yes-Yes' kinda woman...

You do you like no no kind of men?

The one that will not argue with them..

So arguing is a good thing for you?

The one that will agree completely to whatever they say whether right or wrong...Those ones that will be nodding their heads to all of their conversation

Yet you want man to do same, hypocrite

They keep saying Nigerian ladies are shallow minded...They beg for favours and all that, one moment she's quickly tagged a gold digger...Give them a smart woman the talk will change...

Having well paying job doesn't make you smart just lucky

They will say she has bad characters...She's proud...Isn't that hypocrisy

No it's the truth

ERORR404:
Op you sound like you fall into the "financially dependant women" group.

ladies lik her ar hypocrites.nd they full d media preaching unrealist thing.op dnt knw boys 4 street na rich gal dem dey find bleep mak she begin give dem cash.op hav nt ask y men fear independent ladies me i lik independent ladies but nt d one dt too rich lik linda ikeji or geneive u knw y wen u marry such lady wer get mansion exotic cars she becum ur madam anythin small quarrel u start 2 hear i pick u up 4rm d gutter.get out of my house.because lady luv a man they cant control.na if she independent but as rich as linda ikeji allakija.

Jupxter:
This is healthy @ I want partnership,companionship and egalitarianism

Abi o that is what my parents are practicing I wonder who is heading who sometimes daddy would take a major decision sometimes it is mommy and they have been married for years.To them it is a partnership us against the world,I have never seen my dad try to control my mom although they quarrel but they are best friends once they quarrel today tha have settled today.My mom was the one who told me about such kind of relationship so I pray I meet someone who doesn't see me as his competitor but his best friend partner and confidant it would not be rosy or easy but I believe together we can surpass every storm.

Martin0:
Hmmmm na wa ooo!

Well honestly speaking you can't know about a woman true character untill she drops down a child for you..

Women can do anything I mean anything to present themselve to look appreciated .

Women are secretive human beings u know!and it not easy to really know the true them so we are only by chance or lucky to know their character or know the true them!

they are very easy to know. Na konji de deceive you

Ladyhippolyta88:
No,not me.

I was just making pun but the joke was lost in the explanation.

Mhissgaga:
Money??

It's the 'Mumu men' that i blame for always rewarding women with money for the possible possibility of having sex with them

I see a lot of poor guys roaming the street everyday...Guys that can't even brush and floss their teeth properly These are the same set of guys that will come online and say we can't live without them and their money...Which money??

Wake up!! This is 21st Century,women have so conditioned their mind to be financially independent....Any woman that waits for a man's money go hear am especially the broke ones screaming up and down on nairaland

so financially independent yet need man's money to pay bills

kazyhm:
okay.......the problem really is women cannot handle being superior maturely.......

just pay attention to when a woman is a leader in any place, they tend to be very unreasonable and very sentimental to some very minor issues. they cant withstand real pressure and they can never look the other way when intimidated/bully when they are in control.

in summary women dont have locus of control when she is superior

i dnt agree wit u fully.it true wat u said but hav notice dt women who hav dis motherly approach nd knw hw 2 communicate wit men lik brothas or papa if he older but is bold nd dnt tak nonsense wen a persn is misbehaving.mak very gud leader.must of dis ones u talking about ar d ferminist minded ones who dnt knw hw 2 relate wit males very wel.they ar very overzealous.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Abi o that is what my parents are practicing I wonder who is heading who sometimes daddy would take a major decision sometimes it is mommy and they have been married for years.To them it is a partnership us against the world,I have never seen my dad try to control my mom although they quarrel but they are best friends once they quarrel today tha have settled today.My mom was the one who told me about such kind of relationship so I pray I meet someone who doesn't see me as his competitor but his best friend partner and confidant it would not be rosy or easy but I believe together we can surpass every storm.

This what my parents had. This is what many of us want. If a woman doesn't glow in a marriage, i always say she's been enslaved. We're offering equality, but many of the catch wants more than equality. Hence, why you see many guys/men unhappy about the situation

MissWrite:
It's not your (most men's) imagination, no. I agree with you, some girls don't have humility (that's their character flaw) and it begins to show when they are independent. But! Most guys are already so used to manipulating/disrespecting women with their money that they don't have an objective position on this. It won't take much for a woman to appear "arrogant" from their perspective, she only needs to refuse to be manipulated and she's seen as obstinate and disrespectful. I saw you quote Beyonce earlier, that's what that line was about: not attacking, but having your own so that you don't have to take the disrespect from guys.

why did you follow disrespectful guy in first place

Ogaonos:
i dnt agree wit u fully.it true wat u said but hav notice dt women who hav dis motherly approach nd knw hw 2 communicate wit men lik brothas or papa if he older but is bold nd dnt tak nonsense wen a persn is misbehaving.mak very gud leader.must of dis ones u talking about ar d ferminist minded ones who dnt knw hw 2 relate wit males very wel.they ar very overzealous.

ex arsenal player that his
news was on fp recently is a very good example to this discussion. if you want to experience how cold the down can be.......dare to put your life in care of a WOMAN

Pataricatering:
The reason why women seem unreasonable is because men will never give them their due respect in the workplace ! Whenever you have a man working for you he brings his stupid ego along with him to work and will never submit to authority because he has “ your type “ at home ! . That’s why female bosses have to be unreasonable !

just read that last sentence again. Instead of earning his respect you behave unreasonable ale wonder why you're not respected.respect is earned not given

braivheart:
I was just making pun but the joke was lost in the explanation.

Okay sir.

frenzyduchess:
Na true na, that's why most of them go for near death old White women so they don't have to put up the facade for too long before the old lady kicks the bucket, the ones that marry young white women automatically have brain reset and become house husbands and errand men , but when they come back home, they start raising their shoulders and telling anyone who cares to listen that "I am the man" , and I am like "whatever "

the white women are willing to pick all bills. Are you willing to pay 100% bills.also he needs green card.

frenzyduchess:
Sisterly what to do na, some of our men need to learn how to treat us better, me I can give kingly treatment to a man that treats me like a queen too o

how 50k man wan treat 500k woman like queen without becoming homeless and losing his job? You women can be unrealistic

frenzyduchess:
It has gone beyond the slay queen issue o, this has been on for a long time, only say na now our ladies dey speak out when we come dey see the way our brothers dey change treat women nicely when dem enter abroad.
If una want make we change, make una sef change na, ,Make all of us change together, so the family system will be come more healthy for the next generation. Na make things better me sef dey

una ready to pay bills like abroad women?

Jupxter:
This what my parents had. This is what many of us want. If a woman doesn't glow in a marriage, i always say she's been enslaved. We're offering equality, but many of the catch wants more than equality. Hence, why you see many guys/men unhappy about the situation

Me I don't know if I should call it equality although it is the same thing as egalitarianism maybe it is(equality) I just want someone who I can share everything with,who I can trust and he can do same I want mutuality.I won't want a relationship where he is the only one making effort or I am the only one making effort it won't make sense it has to be both of us.I don't know about other ladies but what I want in my relationship are the three things I listed and mutuality simple.I have listening ears and I pray he does as well there would always be a misunderstanding but I pray that the understandings would be more than the misunderstandings and even if we have any(misunderstanding) we arrest the situation before it escalates.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Me I don't know if I should call it equality although it is the same thing as egalitarianism maybe it is(equality) I just want someone who I can share everything with,who I can trust and he can do same I want mutuality.I won't want a relationship where he is the only one making effort or I am the only one making effort it won't make sense it has to be both of us.I don't know about other ladies but what I want in my relationship are the three things I listed and mutuality simple.I have listening ears and I pray he does as well there would always be a misunderstanding but I pray that the understandings would be more than the misunderstandings and even if we have any(misunderstanding) we arrest the situation before it escalates.

This is exactly what we guys want nah. A friendship/partnership/companionship relationship. Horizontal-Horizontal, not boss and the employee relationship. It'slike what i keep saying, the communication lines btw men and women is contamintaed, all these fears is too much toll on our mind..This is wht men want, at least that i know over 80%

Ladyhippolyta88:
Me I don't know if I should call it equality although it is the same thing as egalitarianism maybe it is(equality)

See you don't even know what you want

I just want someone who I can share everything with,who I can trust and he can do same I want mutuality.I won't want a relationship where he is the only one making effort or I am the only one making effort it won't make sense it has to be both of us.

So him saying rent and feeding you while you clean up after him is only you making effort abi .?you women are confused

I don't know about other ladies but what I want in my relationship are the three things I listed and mutuality simple.I have listening ears and I pray he does as well there would always be a misunderstanding but I pray that the understandings would be more than the misunderstandings and even if we have any(misunderstanding) we arrest the situation before it escalates.

mikolo80:
See you don't even know what you want


So him saying rent and feeding you while you clean up after him is only you making effort abi .?you women are confused

Don't you ever in your life quote me again you just told a lady respect is earned but you want a woman to respect you when you didn't earn it are you not confused.And I know what I want I only used another term, you on the other hand is confused.And I am not talking about domesticity since that is where your childish brain is going to.Confused man.

Safiaaa:
Really? Please tell me more, I'm interested.

I really don't knw what the o.p is saying ...am so looking for a financially dependent woman abeg ...if you are one plz share my comment ,,,,its a win win for me na..if you are not submissive its not a problem as long as I am not spending on you ..if want massage my ego there a thousand dependent women would lick my feet for just a pair of Gucci shoes ..either way am winning .,,seems you v been meeting the wrong men

Jupxter:
This is exactly what we guys want nah. A friendship/partnership/companionship relationship. Horizontal-Horizontal, not boss and the employee relationship. It'slike what i keep saying, the communication lines btw men and women is contamintaed, all these fears is too much toll on our mind..This is wht men want, at least that i know over 80%

If it is good to know there is nothing communication cannot solve,they should just talk to each other.

Ladyhippolyta88:
If it is good to know there is nothing communication cannot solve,they should just talk to each other.

I see much potential on the forum but ladies communicate in one way, guys in another and the whole gender differences sparks things up and blow them out of proportion...I'm glad we can see we both represent the same ideas...I hope we can have meaningful and peaceful conversations , guys and ladies in future. I leave it oin your hands to moderate intelligent discussions. Me, would have carried my bag and left

Ladyhippolyta88:
Don't you ever in your life quote me again you just told a lady respect is earned

Yes

but you want a woman to respect you when you didn't earn it

Where?
Show me where I demanded respect.

are you not confused.And I know what I want I only used another term, you on the other hand is confused.

You wanted red, you used blue. Yet you're not confused. I see.

And I am not talking about domesticity since that is where your childish brain is going to.Confused man.

you didn't say anything. We all know that it's domesticity you're talking about. Oya prove me wrong. I dare you.
What were you talking about.
Just watch as you turn tail and run

Ladyhippolyta88:
Don't you ever in your life quote me again you just told a lady respect is earned but you want a woman to respect you when you didn't earn it are you not confused.And I know what I want I only used another term, you on the other hand is confused.And I am not talking about domesticity since that is where your childish brain is going to.Confused man.

get off the PUBLIC forum if you don't want to be mentioned

Not even your forum yet you want to be arrogant and intimidating yet wonder why men want nothing to do with you

mikolo80:
get off the PUBLIC forum if you don't want to be mentioned

Not even your forum yet you want to be arrogant and intimidating yet wonder why men want nothing to do with you

Then stop thinking like a baby.It is not your data or phone I am using so you have no right to tell me what to do,and I never said I was looking for a man they are the one's looking for me and when I am ready they are many to pick from(it is no joke).And I am not arrogant I only speak my mind.

Ladyhippolyta88:
That is just society conditioning not necessarily a natural thing.

its natural,if it wasnt, society will not be conditioned that way,what is society? society is made up humans n humans condition society according to their natural inclinations,everything falls into its place,its from our inclinations that we shape society,how come all over the world theres the same conditions in place,if not because thats what n who we are.
society doesnt magically shape itself,its the humans with our natural instincts that shape our society.and since these conditions are generally the same all over the world from time immemorial it is therefore natural

khiaa:
You couldn't handle me, so no.

OMG! Did you just taunt me? I could do a lot more than just handle you.

mikolo80:
Yes


Where?
Show me where I demanded respect.


You wanted red, you used blue. Yet you're not confused. I see.

you didn't say anything. We all know that it's domesticity you're talking about. Oya prove me wrong. I dare you.
What were you talking about.
Just watch as you turn tail and run

You were talking about headship and with your line of thought after quoting what I said about dummies proved it(respect).And I am not talking about domesticity but commitments and I am not a confused person I know what I want with clearly defined goals I hardly go back on my word.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Then stop thinking like a baby.It is not your data or phone I am using so you have no right to tell me what to do,and I never said I was looking for a man they are the one's looking for me and when I am ready they are many to pick from(it is no joke).And I am not arrogant I only speak my mind.

pm your mind is to stop free speech and to throw insult and you don't think that is arrogant. Wow. You're so stupid.
If you have plenty men you will not carry single working lady matter for head

babasolution:
its natural,if it wasnt, society will not be conditioned that way,what is society? society is made up humans n humans condition society according to their natural inclinations,everything falls into its place,its from our inclinations that we shape society,how come all over the world theres the same conditions in place,if not because thats what n who we are.
society doesnt magically shape itself,its the humans with our natural instincts that shape our society.and since these conditions are generally the same all over the world from time immemorial it is therefore natural

It is society clearly simple.And I don't need to argue about it with you.