Sunymoore:
Invest? Are you fckn kidding me? Seriously?.. The fool that's 'wasted' his money on her can use the same money to upgrade his social status, thereby attracting women of higher class.. Please and please Gs, don't ever make the mistake of training a lady with the hope of marrying her.. Train your brothers and less privileged in the society...

Agreed with u

deebrownneymar:



What do you mean 'liberate'? I think that word is too strong.

isn't that what many term education? And even apart from that it can be freedom from financial dependency as some men don't mind setting up a store for his woman and the likes.

Me i did not see the woman's fault o, we are humans so tastes change as we change in life, the man too should have invested in him self too, cos men too will do this same thing, they will look for a woman that is up to their status in situations like this

For a man to pay my school fees, open a store for me and other because he wants to marry me is weird, at least to me. Except those payments are written in a contract as part dowry or something and I'm under obligation to marry him IF I can't pay it back at a specific time.

As there are instances of girls jilting guys after he has spent millions on her from hawking or something, there are also instances where guys think of the woman as property because he paid her fees.
He cheats and if you talk he'll say, 'shut up, didn't I pay your school fees?'
He doesn't add a dime to house keeping Fe's even though he is already earning a substantial amount of money and any word from your mouth is replied with.. 'All your money is mine, after all I paid the fees'
He abuses you both physically and psychologically because you are bought and paid for property.

If a man starts exhibiting this character 3 weeks to the wedding, I'm out even if he has paid $5,000,000.00 from SS2 to my PHD. I'll pat him back every dine with interest if he wants but I won't marry out of gratitude or pity. I rather hawk pure water for my fees than become enslaved to a rich man looking for a property and not a partner.

I'm actually against treating your man like your new 'Daddy' and keep insisting, I can't do this and that for him I'm not his 'mama'.

Please (this goes for both male and female), if you want to sponsor, do it expecting nothing in return. It is not a loan. It is something you're doing out of 'love'.
And if it is an investment (with you expecting something in return) write out an iron clad contract. It is just business after all.

Invest? Is he or she treasury bills?

I don't invest in people, no one should invest in me.
I only do things out of benevolence and you either fit into the class of people I do such for or nothing for you.

Same way I don't receive if I sense it isn't out of altruism. I have stayed out of trouble this way.

Ooooook.

TwoBottles:
There are exceptional ladies who are worth everything good that a man can give them. I have one of such and I'm ready to go to any length to give her all she needs.

remind to give u "two bottles " when she breaks ur heart.

Divay22:
Lol
I'm not against investing in a lady... But while doing that, try as much as possible to invest in yourself also...
While supporting her, pls support yourself.

Wow, you're sure NOT a 9ja chic, I swear. Keep it up, abeg!

deafeyez:


I was banging this girl and one thing led to another and we stopped communication. After months, she called that she was sick and we reconciled. She told me she wanted to learn hair dressing that she has got some money, that I should pay the rest. I told my friend and he warned me never to do so. He explained how he rented a house for his girl when he was doing IT. After the IT, he left for school. He came one night only to meet a guy with his girl in the room he rented. He had to sleep in a neighbor's room n left the next day.

i have never invested and will never but everybodys story is unique o

my point is, what didnt work for your friend might work for you.

perfect formular can give failed result

mumu formular can give successful result.

To hell with the stupid woman or a girl that will believe or think that someone like me will even try to spend kobo...to talk of investing into a woman who is not my wife.

MrMcJay:
As a man, you should invest in YOURSELF FIRST. That woman you're helping today is still with you because you're in a position to help her. Once she leaves that position, she'll look for other men who can give her what you are unable to give her.

Men and women are wired differently. In matters of looks, money, age, education and class, men date downwards while women date upwards. Having a woman date downwards or sideways is abnormal.

Females only date those above them. They may manage to date those of the same level due to low demand for them but never date lower than them.

For the poor man struggling to take care of his woman so that she'll be well fed and won't look outside, it is the fresh skin of your well-fed woman that would attract the men who would take her away.

Hate me for saying the truth, it's simply evolution at play.

for this comment am following u up bro. what's

Divay22:
Lol
I'm not against investing in a lady... But while doing that, try as much as possible to invest in yourself also...
While supporting her, pls support yourself.

What if "upgrading himself" means discontinuing rendering whatsoever support to the Lady?

What stops the Lady from helping the man upgrade instead dumping him?

ladies if anybody want ti sponsor you. collect the money, collect the education. as far as theres no verbal agreement that u must setttle for him. dump him if you dont want him anymore. na one life u get.

everybody is selfish, even the guy investing. its like feeding your chicken from june till december just so u can eat it.

any man that spent or invest his money on any girl/woman is rank with high level of moronic foolishness...spend ur money on bitches at ur own disasterous end.

daryoor:


i have never invested and will never but everybodys story is unique o

my point is, what didnt work for your friend might work for you.

perfect formular can give failed result

mumu formular can give successful result.

Na true talk with your last sentence.
Whenever I don fall from alignment with a girl, I dey know hence I know say anything I do from that time no dey get meaning. Although the girl loved me initially but things went south.
There is only one power to win a woman, to remain mysterious to her.

Follygunners:


Wow, you're sure NOT a 9ja chic, I swear. Keep it up, abeg!

Lol
It's not about where you're from, it's all about character and personality.

Better

Whatever money u put on a woman she believes she pays back with pussy...cooking

If u like drop 1 billion when she wan leave she go ask u weda u no Bleep

Just like d fact u date sm1 doesn't mean u will certainly end up marrying them so it is when u invest in sm1. Its a sacrifice u hv agreed to bare and u shudnt hold dat prtson hostage or captive to ur love or proposal because of dat. If love isn't given freely then it is No More Love. So u still have to let the person decide and be free to choose.

I can only advice know how u invest and invest in genuine or good people cos even if u dont end up 2geda u will hv less regret knowing u atleast helped change a good persons life. However this shudnt be at the expense of urs or ur family member cos charity begins at home.

sirxbit:

I go be first to comment when u finally create thread of trust no woman

make that investment today

Pataricatering:
Same reason why no woman has time for “ potential “ anymore ! Too many women have been backstabbed by the dude with potential that she sacrificed with only to turn Casanova once he blows .

lmao,this is one funny comment. so,if women have no time for potential,what would they have time for? only 5% of men are rich and women are over 50% of our population,how can over 50% of women fit into marrying that 5% ready made? ha ha ha ha. they would turn polygamists abi? ha ha. 1 rich guy for 4 or more women. Nigerian women are indeed dumb with ape mentality. I doubt if they've ever compared this fact with the statistics on ground. if your pubic hair don dey turn grey,even the poorest men no go look your side and you go dey run go church

Nice One Op.
Something of such happened to me last week.
I met a lady recently and I connected her to a Big Business man.
After a while I spoke to the Man recently and I remembered I connected d girl to the Man.
I asked the lady What up with the man I connected her with aspa the Connection any positive.
She replied why you interested in our love life. Iol
I cut her off immediately

rozayx5:
only a foolish man will invest in a lady that is not his sister/daughter or wife



most women have short memories and can dump u at the slightest chance

I actually noticed this too.

Divay22:
Lol
I'm not against investing in a lady... But while doing that, try as much as possible to invest in yourself also...
While supporting her, pls support yourself.

I love you for making an unbiased assertion regardless of the fact that you're a lady.

Never try that with women,only a foolish woman would do that. never ever try it. women are supposed to help men,men must be superior. Try that at your own peril and you're gone. I've heard of such stories as well and i don't think any sensible guy does that anymore. if she wan go school,make she go work if she no get parents

TwoBottles:
There are exceptional ladies who are worth everything good that a man can give them. I have one of such and I'm ready to go to any length to give her all she needs.

that was how 90% of men who where later jilted by their lover felt. Sentiments aside

Divay22:

Lol
It's not about where you're from, it's all about character and personality.

Where you are from will definitely shape you 90% if not 100%. Marry an Black American lady & you'll know she's definitely different from our ladies here. Nobody will tell you.

ifewise:
Nice One Op.
Something of such happened to me last week.
I met a lady recently and I connected her to a Big Business man.
After a while I spoke to the Man recently and I remembered I connected d girl to the Man.
I asked the lady What up with the man I connected her with aspa the Connection any positive.
She replied why you interested in our love life. Iol
I cut her off immediately

na you Bleep up. didnt you know women before then? do everything for a woman and you're a loser. the more stingy you are with money and connection,the more they respect you but connect them,spoil them with money and she go dey fly looking down on you and one guy by the corner wey no do anything go dey Bleep am for corner and she go give am your money join

I wouldn't read the thread...... Is a no, no, no, no, no

thanta:
Some people are worth it and some people aren't.. The real lesson is don't do something for someone cos u want something back.. Do it without expectations.

Yall should stop trying to complicate life.

nobody does anything without expecting something in return. That's natural. Even you