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She grew up in the barracks

She grew up with rude East London silly boys.... Its no big deal.. If she doesn't behave, kick her out. She's not the only UK born chic.

How do we help you.? You are the one to live with her for the rest of your life so you need to make a decision. If she is not going to drop the bad habit, then drop her.

Even the bible says it is better to live alone or something like That than to live with a nagging wife. If you don't want to die young drop her

Chiefly:
We've been together for a year plus now and it's a regular occurrence, she's always starting shi* with other guys, other times with other girls then I have to deal with thier men. Whenever we go clubbing, hanging out in a lounge, shopping at the mall, attending weeding ceremonies, infact the last confrontation was right in a cinema hall... it's quite embarrassing. (she seems to only behave at church)..
I've tried to keep her in check and curb her running mouth in these instances but it never works, and whenever she runs her mouth like this at other guys for minutes on end, it’s only ends one way: With her manning up …and expecting me to clobber the other guy for her, ultimately I get into physical confrontations and fights with these guys to diffend her and ultimately my ego.

Most people think It's my inability to control her but step in my shoes and you'll see the only thing I haven't done is hit her (physically), she's too damn stubborn (in this particular area). This is the only issue we have tho, every other thing is quite great. I've always thought she'll change with time but no. No significant improvement whatsoever. Don't know, could it be psychogenic? She was born and raised in the UK tho based in Nigeria now.

NB: *It's an arranged marriage.

So I really need your advice guys (I'd appreciate matured inputs pls from experienced folks).. Cos

Don't need a woman to go around picking fights for me. i gotta find a way to clip this the instant it starts, or figure out a way to stop this bad behavior once and for all...

Edited: Guys forgot to mention - her dad is a Brigadier General
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From a friend.
Lalasticlala let's help a brother.

Have you considered that those fights may be with you one day?

Whatever you take during a relationship/courtship and then marry with, be prepared to live happily with.

As is said, better a failed courtship than marriage.

There are more unforeseen issues you will have to deal with when married or later in the future. Can you handle the cummulative effect of this and the unforeseen?

Have you spoken to her about it?

You said she goes to Church, are you both Christians? Have you prayed for her, and/or with her about it? Does she see it as a problem to be looked into or not?

PS: Love is not blind, thank God you eyes have seen this. But are you understanding what you have seen?

Finally, you can't change anybody, by yourself. Prayer can, but you can't give that a timeline. It may be today, tomorrow or at the point of death.

pocohantas:
LOL. I've been there. My ex was just like that, always picking fights on my behalf. Left alone to himself, he was an easy going guy.

He didn't stop till the day he tried it with a MOPOL. We were on our way to the beach and the man made a remark about my shorts. He retorted. Naso them bundle two of us to police station...

Don't ask me what happened

Pls complete this story e go sweet die

Chiefly:
We've been together for a year plus now and it's a regular occurrence, she's always starting shi* with other guys, other times with other girls then I have to deal with thier men. Whenever we go clubbing, hanging out in a lounge, shopping at the mall, attending weeding ceremonies, infact the last confrontation was right in a cinema hall... it's quite embarrassing. (she seems to only behave at church)..
I've tried to keep her in check and curb her running mouth in these instances but it never works, and whenever she runs her mouth like this at other guys for minutes on end, it’s only ends one way: With her manning up …and expecting me to clobber the other guy for her, ultimately I get into physical confrontations and fights with these guys to diffend her and ultimately my ego.

Most people think It's my inability to control her but step in my shoes and you'll see the only thing I haven't done is hit her (physically), she's too damn stubborn (in this particular area). This is the only issue we have tho, every other thing is quite great. I've always thought she'll change with time but no. No significant improvement whatsoever. Don't know, could it be psychogenic? She was born and raised in the UK tho based in Nigeria now.

NB: *It's an arranged marriage.

So I really need your advice guys (I'd appreciate matured inputs pls from experienced folks).. Cos

Don't need a woman to go around picking fights for me. i gotta find a way to clip this the instant it starts, or figure out a way to stop this bad behavior once and for all...

Edited: Guys forgot to mention - her dad is a Brigadier General
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From a friend.
Lalasticlala let's help a brother.

She should be dating Anthony Joshua. lol

Chiefly:
I just felt her upbringing might have something to do with the attitude that was why I mentioned it, besides most ladies I know that grew up in the UK always have one attitude problem or the other. #fact. Infact the last gurl I dated myself was also from the UK, she's actually very rude and self centered, she never lives the island (feels she's too fly and stuff for the Mainland)
Can you imagine that? You'll have to agree with me that in this case her being a UK citizen was a determinant factor, no?

Back to the original topic.. The whole relationship is in line with some family arrangements, that makes it much more complicated.

Awon 'only UK babez'

That's why its an arranged marriage now bros, her family don know say no way for her so they found a mugu -you

weeding ceremony? omo i just dy imagine d kind weed wey go dy there

Just tell her "the lord revealed that you should not continue any longer".... (since you said she is cool in church).

For her dad, just form that you haf join bad gang.

Thank me later.

Chiefly:
We've been together for a year plus now and it's a regular occurrence, she's always starting shi* with other guys, other times with other girls then I have to deal with thier men. Whenever we go clubbing, hanging out in a lounge, shopping at the mall, attending weeding ceremonies, infact the last confrontation was right in a cinema hall... it's quite embarrassing. (she seems to only behave at church)..
I've tried to keep her in check and curb her running mouth in these instances but it never works, and whenever she runs her mouth like this at other guys for minutes on end, it’s only ends one way: With her manning up …and expecting me to clobber the other guy for her, ultimately I get into physical confrontations and fights with these guys to diffend her and ultimately my ego.

Most people think It's my inability to control her but step in my shoes and you'll see the only thing I haven't done is hit her (physically), she's too damn stubborn (in this particular area). This is the only issue we have tho, every other thing is quite great. I've always thought she'll change with time but no. No significant improvement whatsoever. Don't know, could it be psychogenic? She was born and raised in the UK tho based in Nigeria now.

NB: *It's an arranged marriage.

So I really need your advice guys (I'd appreciate matured inputs pls from experienced folks).. Cos

Don't need a woman to go around picking fights for me. i gotta find a way to clip this the instant it starts, or figure out a way to stop this bad behavior once and for all...

Edited: Guys forgot to mention - her dad is a Brigadier General
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From a friend.
Lalasticlala let's help a brother.

That's a good motivation to hit the gym

God forbid you end up in a "face-me-I-face-you"

A good start up for a future career in UFC

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OceanmorganTrix:
she is a backup wife in making

like defending him against Fulani herdsmen invasion right, else guy flee for ur life oh, we don't want to come and read "A wife murdered her husband" I warn you .

Chiefly:
We've been together for a year plus now and it's a regular occurrence, she's always starting shi* with other guys, other times with other girls then I have to deal with thier men. Whenever we go clubbing, hanging out in a lounge, shopping at the mall, attending weeding ceremonies, infact the last confrontation was right in a cinema hall... it's quite embarrassing. (she seems to only behave at church)..
I've tried to keep her in check and curb her running mouth in these instances but it never works, and whenever she runs her mouth like this at other guys for minutes on end, it’s only ends one way: With her manning up …and expecting me to clobber the other guy for her, ultimately I get into physical confrontations and fights with these guys to diffend her and ultimately my ego.

Most people think It's my inability to control her but step in my shoes and you'll see the only thing I haven't done is hit her (physically), she's too damn stubborn (in this particular area). This is the only issue we have tho, every other thing is quite great. I've always thought she'll change with time but no. No significant improvement whatsoever. Don't know, could it be psychogenic? She was born and raised in the UK tho based in Nigeria now.

NB: *It's an arranged marriage.

So I really need your advice guys (I'd appreciate matured inputs pls from experienced folks).. Cos

Don't need a woman to go around picking fights for me. i gotta find a way to clip this the instant it starts, or figure out a way to stop this bad behavior once and for all...

Edited: Guys forgot to mention - her dad is a Brigadier General
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From a friend.
Lalasticlala let's help a brother.

get out now before it's too late...
If you continue with the marriage proposal..you signed your early death..

OP, if you are a cool headed guy then you need her hotheadedness as long as she is humble and respects you. But then always try to apply the reins on her wherever possible so she don't offend the wrong nigger especially down south where they don't care wether you are a woman, uk citizen, army general or Buhari himself. The days are evil. I do believe she will outgrow such atittude women like that are naturally generous and caring when in their lighter mood. Just save your neck, she will grow up.

Chiefly:
Umm. Okay, so how were you able to deal with the situation? Are you guys still together? The major problem is that the union is kinda "Family arranged" if you get what I mean.

If may ask you, must you marry her? Will they kill you if you marry her? Let me tell you something. It is not everyone that will get married. But if you insist on marrying the unmarriageable it is your business.

safarigirl:
lol....make she tall say OP was not there for her?

Girls like that, the day you fail to back them up, they will accuse you of everything from conspiring against them to treason. There is no winning

Thank you!! At last, someone that understands.

Chiefly:
We've been together for a year plus now and it's a regular occurrence, she's always starting shi* with other guys, other times with other girls then I have to deal with thier men. Whenever we go clubbing, hanging out in a lounge, shopping at the mall, attending weeding ceremonies, infact the last confrontation was right in a cinema hall... it's quite embarrassing. (she seems to only behave at church)..
I've tried to keep her in check and curb her running mouth in these instances but it never works, and whenever she runs her mouth like this at other guys for minutes on end, it’s only ends one way: With her manning up …and expecting me to clobber the other guy for her, ultimately I get into physical confrontations and fights with these guys to diffend her and ultimately my ego.

Most people think It's my inability to control her but step in my shoes and you'll see the only thing I haven't done is hit her (physically), she's too damn stubborn (in this particular area). This is the only issue we have tho, every other thing is quite great. I've always thought she'll change with time but no. No significant improvement whatsoever. Don't know, could it be psychogenic? She was born and raised in the UK tho based in Nigeria now.

NB: *It's an arranged marriage.

So I really need your advice guys (I'd appreciate matured inputs pls from experienced folks).. Cos

Don't need a woman to go around picking fights for me. i gotta find a way to clip this the instant it starts, or figure out a way to stop this bad behavior once and for all...

Edited: Guys forgot to mention - her dad is a Brigadier General
.
.
From a friend.
Lalasticlala let's help a brother.

Bollywood scene

Chiefly:
We've been together for a year plus now and it's a regular occurrence, she's always starting shi* with other guys, other times with other girls then I have to deal with thier men. Whenever we go clubbing, hanging out in a lounge, shopping at the mall, attending weeding ceremonies, infact the last confrontation was right in a cinema hall... it's quite embarrassing. (she seems to only behave at church)..
I've tried to keep her in check and curb her running mouth in these instances but it never works, and whenever she runs her mouth like this at other guys for minutes on end, it’s only ends one way: With her manning up …and expecting me to clobber the other guy for her, ultimately I get into physical confrontations and fights with these guys to diffend her and ultimately my ego.

Most people think It's my inability to control her but step in my shoes and you'll see the only thing I haven't done is hit her (physically), she's too damn stubborn (in this particular area). This is the only issue we have tho, every other thing is quite great. I've always thought she'll change with time but no. No significant improvement whatsoever. Don't know, could it be psychogenic? She was born and raised in the UK tho based in Nigeria now.

NB: *It's an arranged marriage.

So I really need your advice guys (I'd appreciate matured inputs pls from experienced folks).. Cos

Don't need a woman to go around picking fights for me. i gotta find a way to clip this the instant it starts, or figure out a way to stop this bad behavior once and for all...

Edited: Guys forgot to mention - her dad is a Brigadier General
.
.
From a friend.
Lalasticlala let's help a brother.

Bollywood scene

davinero1:
Hmmm. She just subconsciously feels you are not being macho enough.
so do this.

Have an arrangement with a guy you know but doesn't know her
and then out of the blue, start picking fights with them.
Remember to do it continuosly and you'd definitely see improvements.
She'll be too busy trying to stop you from picking fights and won't have enough time to pick fights herself.

Best of Luck Bro.

Lol. For real. This is a whole new twist.. Sure it won't backfire?

Chiefly:
Umm. Okay, so how were you able to deal with the situation? Are you guys still together? The major problem is that the union is kinda "Family arranged" if you get what I mean.

Forget this whole family arranged thing and the pity party you are getting here. What are your own interests and priorities?
If she didn't have the UK and general's daughter perks, would you be here asking this?
If she was some broke as.s girl with such unruly behaviour, what would be your action? Therein lies your solution.

Life is like a two way street. You cannot eat your cake and still have it.

I dey sell rat poison o and it is very very potent

HeyCorleone:
When I see things like this I just weep.

I think it's inappropriate to bring important things like this to NL. Why? Because the audience here is not specific.

Okay now you posted a problem pertaining your fiancee and you're seeking solution meanwhile over 80% of the people replying your thread are not in a serious relationship. Some are even single. Some can't maintain a good relationship not to talk of getting to the stage you're in, yet they come to give bad advice, and you may unknowingly act by some of them.

Truer words have never been said, just learnt the hard way. Thanks for the input mate.

pocohantas:
1: Narcissism.

2: She loves you much and can't stand anyone annoying you in public. That's why a woman can call her man stupid and feel it's nothing. Let a third party try it and watch her bring White House Down . She always expects you to back her up, because she needs to prove she isn't fighting for someone who gives no fck.

Number 2 sounds utterly stupid

Blackhawk03:
Hahahaha

Babez! She picks fight with others unnecessarily, not because of him. She's just a stubborn goat. Who enjoys show of shame, anyways?

Op, don't stand up for her one day. She picked her fight, let her battle it out with the person. She needs to start taking responsibility for her childish acts, just walk out the moment she starts.

Hahahahaha best advice... @chiefly you need to let her fight her battles a couple of times .. Really u need to walk away

Chiefly:
Yeah. Exactly.

Umm, bro.. Guys are generally insecure this days and with the whole Alpha male controversy, dude thinks he always have to prove a point... What if he walks out and things get out of hand.. He'll still face the consequences eventually.

I like your signature... Amongst all I am only not of military heritage.

dhabrite:
You don enter am...ntorrr

Shebi I warn you no gree, I tell you but you no hear

Frankly speaking, at this age are there still arranged marriages?



God forbid bad thing?

This kind scene, na only for Nollywood movies ah dey see am o, you sure this not some script

It happens... Experienced it second hand...

RUN....

Bad tempered women deserve spinsterhood

Chiefly:
We've been together for a year plus now and it's a regular occurrence, she's always starting shi* with other guys, other times with other girls then I have to deal with thier men. Whenever we go clubbing, hanging out in a lounge, shopping at the mall, attending weeding ceremonies, infact the last confrontation was right in a cinema hall... it's quite embarrassing. (she seems to only behave at church)..
I've tried to keep her in check and curb her running mouth in these instances but it never works, and whenever she runs her mouth like this at other guys for minutes on end, it’s only ends one way: With her manning up …and expecting me to clobber the other guy for her, ultimately I get into physical confrontations and fights with these guys to diffend her and ultimately my ego.

Most people think It's my inability to control her but step in my shoes and you'll see the only thing I haven't done is hit her (physically), she's too damn stubborn (in this particular area). This is the only issue we have tho, every other thing is quite great. I've always thought she'll change with time but no. No significant improvement whatsoever. Don't know, could it be psychogenic? She was born and raised in the UK tho based in Nigeria now.

NB: *It's an arranged marriage.

So I really need your advice guys (I'd appreciate matured inputs pls from experienced folks).. Cos

Don't need a woman to go around picking fights for me. i gotta find a way to clip this the instant it starts, or figure out a way to stop this bad behavior once and for all...

Edited: Guys forgot to mention - her dad is a Brigadier General
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From a friend.
Lalasticlala let's help a brother.

You are electing to marry a hoodrat? A wild, untrained dog?

Kontinu!

Na your wahala.

u totally forgot to add her picture for proper analysis

Obidikejr:
It happens... Experienced it second hand...

An arranged marriage?

To pick a fight before you is lack of respect to your person.
There's need for you to tell her your mind that she's disgracing you and your ego.
A matured and reasonable woman can't pick a fight in the public or run mouth in the public.
My dear brother.... you need to tell her to change her manners or you vote with ypur legs.
Born in Canada.... UK or Nigeria doesn't mean and not a reasons for her mannerless behaviour.
The early you go back to your drawing board the better for you.